opinions please, my fellow DUers

[Danmel]

If you were taking 2 weeks of vacation & a co-worker asked "are you going anywhere?" would you think thst was an overly personal & intrusive question or normal conversation?

In this instance the people have been co-workers for 6 years & four people work in the office.

[hlthe2b]

1. NO... It seems an obvious question... which you can surely not directly answer if you chose...

Are you upset someone showed interest in you and what is generally something that everyone looks forward to?

[Danmel]

2. no, i asked a coworker

I thought it was a pretty normal thing to ask. She did not. Cant figure it out.

[bluedigger]

5. People are weird.

Perfectly normal question.

[AngryOldDem]

10. Then let it go.

I should have read the whole thread before responding later down.

I'm a pretty insular person at work myself, because the people for the most part have made me that way, and it's the only way I get through the day, and plus, I'm just a private-kind of person. That said, when I'm asked about my weekend etc. (which hardly ever happens) I'm noncommital and give a vague answer that satisfies the question. I don't take offense. But some people might. You just never know. You obviously meant well, so just leave it at that, but keep it in mind the next time you want to ask her something.

[LeftishBrit]

12. Strange. Maybe there's something going on in her life that is worrying her...

and she may misinterpret ordinary questions as something to do with this problem. Not your fault, anyway.

[LeftofObama]

3. I don't find it intrusive at all.

You can always say you haven't decided yet and leave it at that.

[elleng]

4. VERY normal;

would NOT be normal to NOT ask, imo.

[Callalily]

6. If colleagues asked you about

your upcoming vacation and you were offended, i think you to be overly sensitive.

Now, I am a very private person, and every Monday morning people ask me "how was your weekend, what did you do?" No, I do not care to answer/share with many these people, so I give my stock answer, "weekend was great, had a great time."

You have to decide what you are comfortable sharing and with whom, and answer accordingly.

[Honeycombe8]

7. Not at all. Who wants co-workers who don't give a sh*t about you?

That's a normal conversational question.

You can always respond, "None of your business." Then you won't be bothered with much communication from your co-workers in the future. If that's the way you want to live.

[Populist_Prole]

8. IMO, It depends on how well you know them, not how long you've known them.

There is a difference. A workplace is a good example. In mine, I see 20+ per day, known many for 20+ years and even though we get along fine they are basically just work acquaintances, not from my smaller list of "core" workers I'm closer to. The latter group I have no problem if they asked me that question, though I myself wouldn't ask it. If one the former group asks, I'll be cool but polite since I know they're just trying to be friendly, but inside I'm thinking it's forward and nosy.

Then I've run accross coworkers that are almost too friendly. Pretty much all are relative newbies. They're eager to be become "one of the gang", almost too eager. As most of us have known each other for 20 years or more, what we know about each other was learned slowly over the years in conversations. People will reveal their inner selves in their own sweet time. The overly friendly newbies seem to want to make up their short time there by pushing too hard. Pumping almost. I often feel like I'm being "interviewed" by them: "Ssoo...where ya from?" "You have family here?" "Are you married?" "Do you have kids?" "What do you like to do?" ( hobbies and such ) I don't like that. Some seem offended by my not asking them the same, as if I'm being aloof or unfriendly: I just wanted to be polite by not appearing nosy.

[AngryOldDem]

9. Be glad they're interested enough to ask.

Given how long you've been working with them, do you have a reason to think they're being overly personal and intrusive?

[LeftishBrit]

11. No -that would be a standard question; just being friendly IMO

[bigwillq]

13. Normal convo (nt)

[In_The_Wind]

14. Just normal friendly conversation.

[lastlib]

15. if it feels that way way to you, just say "Yes, I am," and let it go at that.

You're not under any obligation to give them information that intrudes on your space.

You can always take the Mark Sanford approach and say you're hiking the Appalachian Trail!

[840high]

16. Normal.

[LWolf]

17. No.

That's the usual topic of conversation.

[HappyMe]

18. I think it's just

part of normal conversation.