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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsHas anyone here had any experiences on dating sites,
negative ones? Like the guy who had a pic from 20 years ago, and is now 40# heavier and 20 years older? Guilty...
Or the guy who claimed he was a lib 'til he gave me his e-mail addy w/his name, I looked him up
on FB, and he had as a favorite I love Glen Beck? Guilty...
Or the 20 somethings who swear they like older women?
It's been an experience...
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)She went on the site and a few days later they met and have been together since. I have friends who have told me it is not really worth it. I guess it is the luck of the draw. I prefer to go to a bar to meet people, but that is just me.
babylonsister
(171,070 posts)so can't/won't go to a bar alone. Do go with friends when I can, but that's not always happening.
These sites can make you feel fantabulous or like crapola, depending on feedback.
I have made some good friends, but have met some very strange people also.
Fridays Child
(23,998 posts)Those *25 years younger/25 pounds lighter* photos are so common! Do they really think we won't notice how much their appearance has changed when we meet them?
I haven't checked out any of the female profiles but I imagine that plenty of women do the same thing.
babylonsister
(171,070 posts)nah, I'm being a pill tonight, about an aborted 'date'.
alarimer
(16,245 posts)I don't think I'm hideous, so I have no idea why no one ever writes. They check me out.
Around here, I suspect it's because I use words that are too big for them (yes, I am surrounded by right-wing redneck idiots).
And possibly I'm picky. No conservatives, no religious freaks, no "country boys". That leaves very little. But hey, solitude before settling is what I say.
babylonsister
(171,070 posts)omg, am I hitting on you? hahahaha
Coyotl
(15,262 posts)and I'd be discerning about which one I used.
Write a book about it.
babylonsister
(171,070 posts)MADem
(135,425 posts)He became her fourth husband~!
Something must have clicked, though--they've been together for over ten years (longest haul for the two of 'em!) and they still seem content with one another.
I told my friend "If this one doesn't take, you need to just quit."
elleng
(130,964 posts)Starbucks!
babylonsister
(171,070 posts)elleng
(130,964 posts)Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)why is that I am attracted to men who are not attracted to me and the men who are attracted to me are Gross!
ugh. dating sites. don't even get me started.
babylonsister
(171,070 posts)And I'm in the south, so 9X out of 10 they're rethugs. Yea, don't get me started!
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)misery is our men but, I can not do a LDR. no way. too many complications.
I like it when THEY Want TO meet.
They SET UP the meeting.
They CONFIRM the meeting.
They RE-CONFIRM the meeting,
and then ...
They CANCEL -The- MEETING.
seriously. what the fuck.
babylonsister
(171,070 posts)Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)Tobin S.
(10,418 posts)We've been together for over 2 years now. I know of which you speak, though. When I first saw my wife in person it was refreshing to see that she looked like what she did in her pics in her profile. Then to find out she was exactly as she'd been in our conversations over the internet and phone, it was almost too good to be true. But it was true and we clicked.
To be successful on dating sites you have to be honest if you are really looking for something long term- honest about who you are and honest about your appearance. If you aren't, you will always fail.
babylonsister
(171,070 posts)honest people out there. I am totally, but get all kinds of whackadoos who are not. Congrats to you and your wife; nice to know some things work out.
Tobin S.
(10,418 posts)Unfortunately, we get drowned out by all of the yahoos who are just looking to get laid. Have you gone out looking around on the site or do you just wait for the guys to come to you? I know a lot of women just wait for the guys to come to them. I think you increase your chances of finding someone compatible if you actively search and initiate contact, as well.
babylonsister
(171,070 posts)"drowned out by all of the yahoos who are just looking to get laid" That right there is what everyone seems to be looking for... And you're right, I have made some lasting friendships via a dating site, but have met beaucoup yahoos also. And yes, b/c I'm SO shy I do instigate occasionally, but so far to no avail. I have to confess to them I'm outspoken and liberal, some people just don't like that combo.
rug
(82,333 posts)What I'm looking for:
A beautiful young super model. Prefer wealthy to rich. Must be highly educated, prefer a phd but a masters will due with the right person. Must be obediant and willing to be spanked. A willingness to make sacrifices for me. Become a extension of myself. Super good looking. Be a artist. Model the latest lingerie for me between 9-10 pm nightly. Share your many model friends with me sexually. Brunettes only! NO Redheads, leave me alone! Must have a great sense of humor. Must like primitive wilderness camping and monster mud trucks. Must do drugs and drink ALOT! Prefer my women to buy only can beer by the 30 pack. Must have great weed connections. I don't want to deal with parents or sisters. No granny panty owners need apply.(please don't waste my time) Please be between 22-26 only.
About me:
Unemployed. Short and bald. Chubby and pale with small features.(hands feet ears) Dominating, picky and judgemental. Sometimes a little awkward around women. I am a sexually intense person that likes to receive pleasure for hours on end. I currently live downstairs of a older dominating woman so I would like to move in right away and share a bank account. You will have to drive or co-sign for me a new 580 horsepower Camareo.
Please put "SEXYSUPERMODEL" in the title so I can weed out the spam.
Location: Fayetteville
it's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests
Posting ID: 3537628155
babylonsister
(171,070 posts)responses he got? This is honest-to-gawd one of my latest: do you think it's a scam? And to boot, there was a pic of a woman, 6'1, in the profile. Oh, and one of them has a masters degree...
dynasty1260
2/1/2013 12:09:26 PM
Hello, and how are you doing today? Well am just good as usual thing to me , well its amaze me very much to see a very nice profile of you with a very beautiful picture posted on it, tell me is that really you? and if yes , then i don't think a lady like you should get on dating site before having millions of men swept you off your feet, but i think maybe this is a mystery for me , maybe those men out there where you live lost their sight not to see such a perfect and natural beauty in you and i could confess that have never seen such a beauty, its make me feel so much interested in you and i think you've captivate my heart and soul and what next is to get to know each other more better because i feel the connection is stronger now to me and my heart says we have allot in common , well when i see your picture, my heart stop and beat faster ,to get to know each other more better and you can also see my late wife picture before they approve mine here, i will be waiting to hear back from you soon or you can also send me a email here hope to hear back from you soon and please take a good care of youeslf for me there
James
rug
(82,333 posts)Maybe the picture is of his late wife.
Well, what are you waiting for? James is out there, amazed and ready.
babylonsister
(171,070 posts)rug
(82,333 posts)Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)One of my friends did find that the pics were WAY outdated. A guy with longish brown hair would be much older and have white hair, in person, etc.
BUT...she was persistent, and did in fact meet and marry someone. He was a reasonably attractive, good guy. Sadly, she then got a brain tumor and died w/in a year of getting married. And he was there for her at the end. Life is unfair.
babylonsister
(171,070 posts)that's sad. Life can be unfair.
cantbeserious
(13,039 posts)eom