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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsHave you ever cheated on a former spouse or SO?
Not going to ask about anyone's current relationship because of the transparency in polls now.
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Yes | |
2 (33%) |
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No | |
3 (50%) |
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I have been the "other man" or "other woman" | |
1 (17%) |
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No but I've been cheated on | |
0 (0%) |
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No but I've had on line relationships. Do they count? | |
0 (0%) |
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None of your's or anyone else's business!! | |
0 (0%) |
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0 DU members did not wish to select any of the options provided. | |
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Have you ever cheated on a former spouse or SO? (Original Post)
Kaleva
Nov 2012
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Chan790
(20,176 posts)1. I don't feel represented in any of the options.
I'm poly and most of my relationships have been non-monogamous by agreement.
Kaleva
(36,341 posts)2. Thought about giving an option for those who were in open or poly relationships
But then I thought there wouldn't be any cheating, as I would define it, in such.
Chan790
(20,176 posts)4. There can be, actually.
Any poly relationship is going to have the parameters of the relationship outlined by compact. Some examples of such compacts. (This list is non-exhaustive obviously.)
- We can pursue outside sexual relationships, but only as a pair.
- We can pursue outside sexual relationships, but no intercourse.
- We can pursue outside sexual relationships but not in our {bed, home, community...}
- We can pursue outside sexual relationships, but I want to meet your partners first.
- We can pursue outside casual sex, but I don't want to know anything about your partners and kept completely separate from our home-life and no serious long-term partnerings.
- We can have sex with people other than each other, but only within this small agreed-upon group of (x) couples or (y) people.
- We can pursue outside sexual relationships, but not of the same sexual orientation as our relationship.
Violating such an agreement would be no less of an infidelity or breach of trust.
Kaleva
(36,341 posts)10. Then any of the possible answers in the poll would apply to your situation
If you didn't step outside the agreed upon arrangement you had with others, then you'd answer "No".
cheated on, and have been cheated on, by former spouses/SO's.
That was years ago, though.
In the intervening years I have learned how to verbalize anger, frustration, or resentments instead of acting them out non-verbally.
HopeHoops
(47,675 posts)5. I haven't cheated on my current one either, for the record.
Myrina
(12,296 posts)6. Where's the 'all of the above' option?
Kaleva
(36,341 posts)7. An unsurprising response from a DIY & Home Improvement Group regular!
J/K!!
Myrina
(12,296 posts)8. Um, not a 'regular', but thanks for noticing ...
Kaleva
(36,341 posts)9. Got the idea of how to reply but needed to look at your profile to fill in the blanks.