Relationship problems relating to politics.

[LeftTurnOnly]

I am a very liberal Democrat and my girlfriend for over a year is a conservative. At first I didn't think much of the issue, but her positions are beginning to my irritate me immensely, she's getting farther and farther right. My beliefs are very important to me, I'm employed by the Democratic Party even, but her politics are troubling me, and I have a hard time seeing myself in a long term relationship with a conservative. Am I too shallow minded? Is it bad to think like that? Thank you for your time.

[dawg]

1. Just tell her that you are the "man" in the relationship and that she should "submit".

See how conservative she is then.

[Populist_Prole]

4. Good one!

A simple "litmus test".

[dawg]

2. But on the serious side ...

For me, it would depend on why she was a conservative. If she truly lacked empathy for those less fortunate than herself, it would be a deal breaker for me. Kindness is one of the key qualities I want to find in a woman. Without that, I can't imagine committing myself to sharing a life with someone.

[lunatica]

3. Only you can answer that

[LNM]

5. I don't think you're shallow minded.

You say your beliefs are important to you and she has different beliefs. I really don't see this situation being any different than people with strong, but differing religious beliefs. My parents always cancelled out each other's vote and they got along. I'd have a harder time with it and so would my children. Politics have become very polarized in the last 10 years.

[LeftTurnOnly]

6. But am I wrong in considering ending the relationship?

She can be very rude when it comes to politics. Her main issue is abortion, being Catholic (like I) how ever she is quite the fiscal conservative as well. The differing views affect other parts of our lives: We have different opinions on parenting, on money, on theology as well.

[HopeHoops]

7. Two questions: 1) How old are you two?; 2) How long have you been together?

[pscot]

8. Democrats are easier to love

better looking too, on average.