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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsMy husband died today
Back when covid started he was set to begin a new cancer trial. It did not happen so for his safety he continued on an oral chemo at home. I have no doubt that this shortened his life. I am not stupid nor am I kidding myself he lived a very long time beyond his projected life span and I am grateful for it. I also know that Covid was not helpful. Video appointments are not optimal when dealing with cancer but going in would have been worse. Because he had cancer in his lungs we needed to protect him. We did the best we could.
I am sure there are many like us who lost precious time because of the unaccounted for ramifications of covid.
CentralMass
(15,265 posts)cate94
(2,816 posts)SoCalDavidS
(9,998 posts)Glad you could be together in the final months.
skylucy
(3,743 posts)Pepsidog
(6,254 posts)pandr32
(11,630 posts)KT2000
(20,590 posts)Covid has made medical care and safety even more difficult. Peace to you.
Desert grandma
(804 posts)I hope you have friends or family near by that will offer support to you. (( hugs)) from your friends here at DU.
sunflowerseed
(278 posts)Karadeniz
(22,587 posts)In some places, a different protocol was put into effect due to covid. My deepest sympathy on your loss.
sprinkleeninow
(20,267 posts)"Blessed be his eternal memory."
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SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)UpInArms
(51,285 posts)somaticexperiencing
(315 posts)My heart goes out to you and hoping that memories and friends and families and support from all sides make these times a little easier.
progressoid
(49,999 posts)She was waiting for approval for an experimental treatment but covid put the brakes on that.
Tender hopper
(60 posts)When times are bad , remember that it will get better and the biting grief will turn into warm remembrance with time.
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virgdem
(2,128 posts)NNadir
(33,567 posts)True Blue American
(17,994 posts)You and your family. May you share the Happy times together!
RestoreAmerica2020
(3,439 posts)Paz.
Celerity
(43,584 posts)Steven Maurer
(476 posts)Please take care of yourself the way that your husband would want you to.
Snackshack
(2,541 posts)barbtries
(28,811 posts)that takes untold tolls upon so many. I am so sorry for your loss.
jmbar2
(4,910 posts)I'm glad that you could reach out to your DU family. We are here when you need to talk. Peace be unto you and your family.
Solly Mack
(90,790 posts)renate
(13,776 posts)What a terrible, shattering loss. There are no words.
Duncanpup
(12,919 posts)LiberalLoner
(9,762 posts)I hope and pray you will be surrounded by loved ones during this time who will support you through this period of grieving. 🙏
GPV
(72,381 posts)zanana1
(6,135 posts)Let people do for you for awhile. You've been through so much. Give yourself time to grieve and recover. That's what I did.
underpants
(182,942 posts)Im very sorry to hear this.
murielm99
(30,776 posts)janterry
(4,429 posts)snowybirdie
(5,241 posts)A difficult time. Keep his memory close and be at peace.
brer cat
(24,624 posts)Scrivener7
(51,026 posts)badhair77
(4,222 posts)I am very sorry for your loss but grateful you had some extra time, although its never enough. I wish you peace.
mnhtnbb
(31,408 posts)There's never enough time with loved ones.
Damn COVID. Damn Cancer. And damn COVID again.
Be good to yourself. You are going to need your strength to deal with all the paperwork and bureaucracy surrounding death in the next few months. Please remember there is always someone here at DU and there are quite a few of us widows--and widowers--too. Sometimes it helps to talk with someone who's been through it.
YoshidaYui
(41,867 posts)area51
(11,927 posts)malaise
(269,212 posts)Stuart G
(38,449 posts)JudyM
(29,293 posts)You were both valiant. Wishing you peaceful moments during this time of sorrow. 🙏
Ocelot II
(115,892 posts)Maraya1969
(22,507 posts)BComplex
(8,072 posts)dickthegrouch
(3,184 posts)Mad_Dem_X
(9,572 posts)mia
(8,363 posts)May loving memories carry you through this difficult time.
Tikki
(14,560 posts)Tikki
Nululu
(842 posts)Laffy Kat
(16,388 posts)Nevilledog
(51,218 posts)Niagara
(7,688 posts)Harker
(14,051 posts)He will live on in the hearts of those who love him.
sinkingfeeling
(51,479 posts)Delphinus
(11,842 posts)iemanja
(53,075 posts)My heart goes out to you.
MLAA
(17,339 posts)IbogaProject
(2,845 posts)And I am doubly angry this wasn't contained early on as the former administration thought letting the blue states have it bad would be something to run a successful campaign with.
3catwoman3
(24,058 posts)...a very sturdy and resilient person. I hope you have people you can lean on so you don't have to be strong all the time.
AKwannabe
(5,682 posts)WVreaper
(623 posts)Dwell on your good memories. Death of a loved one always hurts, whether it be a death that can be somewhat anticipated, or a sudden event. End result is still the same.
When you wake up tomorrow morning, think about all the good times and good memories and smile.
Tree Lady
(11,508 posts)Sending a hug 🫂
tavernier
(12,409 posts)Im presently out on a boat in the ocean where we spent many of our happiest days, and I can feel him next to me now, even four years later.
These early days will be difficult. Stay strong.
sarge43
(28,946 posts)I lost my husband earlier this year. The DU kindness and messages of comfort and support meant so very much. You're not alone. Lean on us.
Time will bring peace, but will never erase your loving memories.
beaglelover
(3,496 posts)Mazeltov Cocktail
(569 posts)BlueNProud
(1,048 posts)sdfernando
(4,947 posts)I'm grateful he had your love and support throughout this ordeal.
Its so terrible what COVID and TFG have wrought on this country and on you and your family personally.
yardwork
(61,715 posts)ancianita
(36,152 posts)markie
(22,758 posts)Blue Owl
(50,526 posts)onecaliberal
(32,916 posts)I'm sure you did the very best you could possibly do.
Beacool
(30,253 posts)My deepest condolences to you and your family. This has been such a tough time for the world. COVID has brought so much pain directly and indirectly You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
bucolic_frolic
(43,357 posts)You are so brave to face it all with him. The time surrounding a loved one's passing was the most jumbled, distorted time of my life. Be kind to yourself, get some rest. You did all you could.
Tom Yossarian Joad
(19,231 posts)Generic Brad
(14,276 posts)We are all here for you.
OldBaldy1701E
(5,173 posts)SalmonChantedEvening
(31,953 posts)PatrickforB
(14,593 posts)May he dwell in eternal rest surrounded by perpetual light, and may you be genuinely comforted in your grief.
luvtheGWN
(1,336 posts)I can truly appreciate your deep sense of loss. My husband had lymphoma and, while I knew the end was probably near, he was actually fortunate to die of a sudden massive stroke, in the middle of the night in his own bed. I was numb (some would call it shock) and my darling nieces (like daughters to us) helped me through.
Let others help YOU! Collect your favourite photos of your husband and put them in every room of your house. He will always be with you and you will treasure the memories those photos evoke.
With my sincere sympathy.