How do you compliment women's looks on dating websites?

[Rizen]

I'm autistic and not good at talking to people. I've been on dating websites for a year and a half and can't even get someone to have a conversation with me. First of all, should I compliment someone's appearance in the first message? If so how do I do it without sounding like a creep or someone who wants a hookup? I've tried saying you look beautiful and never gotten a response.

[treestar]

1. Don't tell them

Talk about other things and get to know them. They already know, or might think you are insincere if they are insecure. Show them you are interested in them and not their looks.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

2. Don't mention looks in the first message because it does come across as creepy.

Ask about her interests, what she likes to do for fun, etc. Most women are creeped out by guys who focus on their looks, even if it's well-intended.

[LuckyCharms]

4. What are you wearing?

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

5. Oh, yeah, that does it every time.

[LuckyCharms]

6. No seriously

What are you wearing?

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

9. If you really want to know,

my incredibly hot, sexy, ten-year-old sweat pants and my three sizes too large sweatshirt. Guys get hot just thinking about my outfit.

[LuckyCharms]

11. I'm wearing a pair of sweatpants with the ass blown out of 'em.

[LuckyCharms]

3. Something like this

Hello, my name is Rizen. Your photo caught my eye, I think you are very attractive. Would you like to chat to get to know each other?

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

7. Even that is a tad creepy.

"You have a nice smile" might work, though.

[LuckyCharms]

8. You look different when you're not sleeping.

Would that one work?

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

10. You really have this down.

Was that you I saw in my crawl space the other night?

[LuckyCharms]

12. Another good one is...

"What's that thing in your right nostril? PLEASE RESPOND!"

[lindysalsagal]

13. Honestly,

Dating sites are viscious and destructive for just about everyone, let alone someone on the spectrum.

I'd suggest you mention your autism in your profile, because you're probably going to be happier with someone who is already pre-disposed to be understanding.

What I can tell you is the women will figure out immediately that you relate to people differently, and so asking to solve one simple question won't make a difference.

Being honest from the start is your only hope to meet someone right for you, and may save you from lots of disappointment.

And, ironically, that is advise everyone on these sites should follow, but seldom do.