so, if you don't believe in Santa you get
underwear>
Was I wrong to get my wife some woo woo underwear for our 49th Christmas together? 
WOO WOO!
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I can totally relate because I have my own version of your ex and try hard to make Christmas wonderful and fun for the whole family. He just doesn't get it and usually picks a fight with me, one of the kids, or all of us. My "gift" from him is usually something practical for the house so I'm replying in kind this year. He's getting an automatic gate opener. He's been too cheap to buy one and we are all tired of getting wet when we have to get out of the car to open and close the gate.
His gift is from all of us and I paid for it from our bank account.
Mine was all smiles during the celebration parts of the holidays, but did virtually nothing to help out. I saw him briefly yesterday when he dropped off a couple of my prized ornaments that got mixed in with the rest, and he was NOT in a good mood. I asked him if he had holiday plans and he said no, and kind of started choking up. I'm wondering if his girlfriend, the co-cheater, is maybe also getting sick of his antics. 
He has all of the romance of a rock.
He has to learn that he is responsible for his own happiness--not you.
May you and yours have a wonderful day and a happy new year, too!
I hope you find that missing romance!
Honestly, I'm not really in the market for romance at this point of my life. My last husband, prior to this ex, was my match. If there's really such thing as a soul mate, he was it. I know we sometimes have a tendency to romanticize and embellish situations after they're gone, but we really were good together. I think my mistake was allowing myself to get into a relationship too soon after his death. It was about two years, and I still didn't have my head on straight.
Financially I took a huge hit getting a divorce, but I never did care much about "stuff", so that's okay. I didn't realize how unhappy I really was in this last marriage. I just want to enjoy *me* at this point.
I hope your day is good, in spite of the Mr. Grumpypants you're married to. 
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your loved one. My second marriage happened far too soon as well. If I had given more time to adjust and get on my feet I never would be where I am, but it's not all bad. He may be cheap and a "Grumpypants" but he does care for me in his own way. Small blessings, maybe, but something.
All the best to you and your wonderful attitude! 
Paz
Ps this is for the funny ha ha made me smile b/c back in the day grandma would give underwear..she grew up in the depression so that was considered a luxury, I get it now, when you older one becomes more pratical when your a kid, a slingshot or silly putty from the 5 and dime store would have been fun.
My Dad would always talk about the underwear and orange that he got for Christmas (yep, the Depression - and he was one of 12 kids)...............
Victoria Secret - AKA "Woo Woo" underwear - is a gift that a husband gives to his wife that is really a gift to himself!
Hell yeah!!!! and it's the gift that keeps on giving. 
I'm surprised at some of the remarks the sales people make when I'm shopping for them.
they can make this grown man blush....................
is a Lutheran priest/minister - and he wears the "collar" - just like Roman Catholic priests.
He IS married.
One day he was in Victoria's Secret seeking a "present" for his wife.
Suddenly he was getting scolded by a little "Italian Grandma" - saying "What do you think you're doing here? This is not a place for you!" and she proceeded to chase him out of the store!
I got her 5 $1.00 scratch off lottery tickets that turned out to be losers, But hey, the Woo-Woos are nice............
Cereally, we're going on a cruise in February centered around our anniversary. That's our present to us, we, ourselves et al.
Carnival just has to get our boat back together.
