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Related: Culture Forums, Support Forums"serious" topic in Lounge won't lead to Demerit? ---- Forgiveness.
So, I hold grudges, no wiggle room there. Reason/justification/rationalization: Uh, justice? Recent studies say our fellow animals sense when treatment is *UNFAIR* compared to their/our fellows.
Anyway, so this eve I brought up an ancient gripe with a confrere, who said, something like, I know I know you won't let it go!
And I said, something like, I only bring it up every decade or so because when something is not acknowledged (validated) it keeps on being there.
I added in a possibly passive-aggressive aside because this person is a semi-evangelical, "It's in the Bible." Haha. (Remember "Dr Laura" who was a thorn in our Lib side, who was (first?) an Orthodox Jew then a Fundamentalist "Christian"?) She said the Bible said that Forgiveness is not automatic, that it goes by stages: Acknowledgment, repentance, asking for forgiveness - which might or might not be granted.
So, in my life's circle, for better and worse, are some very "religious" folk who PRAY a lot - whether of the mainstream denominations (Catholic) or the evangelical (Pentacostals). I'm a sort of Secular Humanist or agnostic or who knows what. Lucky, ain't I?!1
So they pray a lot. My old sister goes to Catholic Mass every damned day. And one of my Pentacostals prays on the KNEES (I don't know how often).
***** At this point in this entry I'm not sure where this is going, was set off by *something*!1
***** ON EDIT, oh yes, I remember: To me, "apologies" are WORTHLESS. In social services training, perpetrators are known to go by a pattern: Slow build-up of anger, then emotional/verbal abuse, then the explosion of physical abuse, then collapse into APOLOGY plus abject weeping; with the victim accepting the "apology" and:: The whole cycle BEGINS AGAIN.
(Uh... )
Kali
(55,009 posts)I just say I'll take whatever help I can get.
(is that what set you off?)
UTUSN
(70,696 posts)blessing me and I don't want blessings. After all these years, I can't get used to flames, I guess that's what set me off.
* They won't stop, (internet rule, last word wins?).
* They ignore "rational" replies to their "arguments".
* They personally slur, slander, attack.
* They repeat repeat repeat.
* Here on a like-partisan minded site, they prefer to attack fellow members instead of wingnuts.
* They mob, swarm, self-satisfy with their spiteful pals.
* They are vengeful and somehow attract 10K rubberneckers.
******Yea, *that's* what set me off!1
Kali
(55,009 posts)is Southern for FU.
UTUSN
(70,696 posts)you have been here longer than me, and you are one of the good guys. pretty sure I know what flame war you speak of and I wouldn't worry about it. language is constantly evolving and at the same time people are in a hurry to find things to get offended over - but that is also how change happens so it is a dynamic that keeps people awake and paying attention.
UTUSN
(70,696 posts)that other people are going through way tough shit all over, including some of our fellow DUers (u no who u are!) not to mention whole populations and the planet.
we can do more than one thing at a time. sometimes we need to lick superficial wounds before we bound out to hug the world.
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UTUSN
(70,696 posts)zanana1
(6,121 posts)I don't know a damn thing about the bible.