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The Tsarnaevs and me
I saw the suspects' mother for facials. She was hard-working but her political leanings made me nervous
BY ALYSSA LINDLEY KILZER
This piece originally appeared on the author's tumblr.
I started getting facials from Zubeidat Tsarnaeva (pronounced Zu-bey-da) six years ago when I was 17 at a spa in the Boston area. She soon after left the spa and contacted my mom to have us start coming to her house, at 410 Norfolk St., right on the line of Cambridge and Somerville. All throughout my senior year of high school and four years of college I went to her house about three times a year. The last time I went to the house was in December and January of 2011/2012.
The first few years the third-floor apartment was often crowded with her two sons, now identified as the alleged Boston Bombers, and her two daughters, one of whom was around my age. It was definitely not a glamorous place to get a facial, as the spa was set up in her living room, and during these years the family expanded. The staircase was crowded with their shoes, the house filled with noises of arguing, cooking, etc. She would often apologize for this. Her daughters and Dzhokhar, the younger son, always struck me as perfectly nice and normal kids about my age. As far as I knew the daughters also attended Rindge (the local public high school) along with their brother. She gave a damn good facial, often working on my skin for two or three hours, and this is why my sister, mom and I continued to go back to her home for years.
During this time first one of Zubeidats daughters, and then the other, were set up in arranged marriages, and started having kids. This was something I found slightly disturbing, as one was just my age (18-19) and didnt seem to be happily married. Within two years I heard that she had been beaten badly and eventually filed for divorce, which was at first against her mothers wishes. Later Zubeidat said that she had accepted the divorce because it was an unhappy marriage. Her daughter then moved back into the house with her child. Her younger son, Dzhokhar, was often in the room or the room next door looking after his nephew while I was getting my facial. There were usually issues with parking on her crowded Cambridge Street. Sometimes she would have Dzhokhar go down to the street to put the visitor-parking pass into my car window (Yes, I gave him my car keys). Once he moved my car, which made me nervous, as the street was so crowded and parking spots so small. Dzhokhar was always friendly to me and seemed easy going. In 2010-11, there was a day when Dzhokhar wasnt home, so Zubeidat took the parking pass out to the street for me. I noticed that she first put on a hijab before going outside. She had never worn a hijab while working at the spa previously, or inside the house, and I was really surprised.
Between 2008 and 2012 I got to know her pretty well. During those 2-3 hours I spent a lot of time asking her about her personal life, background and her family. (Im a writer and tend to ask people exhaustive questions about their personal lives, especially as interesting a character as this.) The hijab shouldnt have surprised me so much, because she had become increasingly religious while I was in college. She often mentioned Allah, and the lessons of the Koran. Allah will reward him, she said once about my brother, when I told her that my brother and mom were close, and that I thought my brother would take care of my mom later in life. She started to refuse to see boys that had gone through puberty, as she had consulted a religious figure and he had told her it was sacrilegious. She was often fasting. She told me that she had cried for days when her oldest son, Tamerlan, told her that he wanted to move out, going against her cultures tradition of the son staying in the house with the mother until marriage. She started saying things like, Dont worry, there arent men in the house today, when I asked if I could use the bathroom, which I thought was kind of funny at the time, since I didnt mind if there were men in the apartment or not.
In my last year of college I was getting a facial from her, and asking her about why she had originally come to the United States with her family about eight or ten years previously. She told me that she and her husband had been lawyers and political activists in Russia. They had fled the country after something that her husband did. Her daughter had recently been divorced at this time, and her daughters ex-husband had taken their child to Russia, refusing to return him. Finally the child was returned. When my mom asked Zubeidat how they had gotten the child back, she told her that my [Zubeidats] husband is crazy and everyone knew it. When he threatened the daughters ex-husbands family, they returned the child. During this facial session she started quoting a conspiracy theory, telling me that she thought 9-11 was purposefully created by the American government to make America hate Muslims. Its real, she said, My son knows all about it. You can read on the internet. I have to say I felt kind of scared and vulnerable when she said this, as I am distinctly American, and was lying practically naked in her living room.
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The Tsarnaevs and me (Original Post)
DonViejo
Apr 2013
OP
I've read there's a Piers Morgan interview with her online, too, though I haven't seen it myself. nt
proverbialwisdom
Apr 2013
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TwilightGardener
(46,416 posts)1. I read that earlier on TDB, and took away two things:
The younger kid was probably normal and well-assimilated until recently, when his whole family started going all crazy-Islam. And two: I can't figure out why you need to be almost naked for a facial. I've never gotten one, but I figured a facial involved...the face.
dballance
(5,756 posts)3. I Was Wondering about "Almost Naked" Too.
I've never had a facial either. I could see putting on a smock to protect one's shirt or blouse or top. But that did confuse me too.
JackN415
(924 posts)2. Good writing. Thanks for finding it...
The writer is a few years older than my daughter, and I can imagine my daughter would write similar things.
We need more 1st hand witness writers like her, rather than those "so-called" reporters who put nuances (if not outright distortion) on questionable testimonies of interviewees, some of whom yearn for their 15 seconds of fame.
proverbialwisdom
(4,959 posts)4. Check out what Sibel Edmonds has to say, too. nt
proverbialwisdom
(4,959 posts)5. I've read there's a Piers Morgan interview with her online, too, though I haven't seen it myself. nt