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PoliticAverse

(26,366 posts)
Thu Aug 6, 2015, 12:21 AM Aug 2015

These Five People Are About to Have a Baby Together

The idea of a "nuclear family"—white picket fence, a kid or two, friendly golden retriever—has been under siege for a while now. No longer do stories of step-parents or half-siblings shock us, and children being raised by parents of the same gender (so-called "pink families&quot are becoming increasingly common. Another new, lesser known family structure that has emerged is that of multi-parenting—or raising a child with more than two legal parents. For instance, a lesbian couple and a gay couple bringing up a child together as a single family, but in separate households.

That's more or less the family unit that two couples—Jaco and Sjoerd, and Daantje and Dewi—have decided upon. The four have known each other for ten years, and have been considering the possibility of having a child together for about six. That possibility is going to become a reality this week, when Daantje gives birth.

Both couples are married, but Jaco and Sjoerd's relationship also involves a third person: an Australian named Sean who's been their partner for the last three years. "Three and a half," Sean shouts from the kitchen when he hears me asking Sjoerd how long they have been together. Sean is such a big part of their relationship that he will play an equal role in raising the gang's future son.

"Jaco and I have been married for eight years now. Unfortunately we can't marry Sean as well, otherwise we'd have done it in a heartbeat," says Sjoerd.

Read the rest at: http://www.vice.com/read/a-child-in-the-netherlands-is-going-to-have-five-parents-876

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These Five People Are About to Have a Baby Together (Original Post) PoliticAverse Aug 2015 OP
aka Polyamory Triana Aug 2015 #1
 

Triana

(22,666 posts)
1. aka Polyamory
Thu Aug 6, 2015, 08:13 AM
Aug 2015

It can work for many people. I say if it works for people, they should be able to legally have any family arrangement they want. Laws need to catch up w/ modern family relationships.

To others, it's just emotional abuse - and worse, as with any relationships - abusers can even more easily 'hide out' in a polyamorous situation.

When that happens, more people get hurt than in the usual monogamous arrangement.

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