I'm telling you, from personal experience, you're seriously damaging your kids when publicly shaming them this severely.
That is what is loony in this matter.
http://www.esextherapy.com/dissertations/Sarah%20E%20Kyle%20Identification%20and%20Treatment%20of%20Sexual%20Shame%20Development%20of%20a%20Measurement%20Tool%20and%20Group%20Therapy%20Protocol.pdf
...Sexuality. In the United States, sexuality is rarely discussed, even between
therapists and clients. Conversations about sexuality are frequently precluded by
religious and cultural prohibitions. Despite attempts by educators and mental health
practitioners to bring this topic to the forefront, “the erotic still arouses acute moral
anxiety and confusion. This is not because sex is intrinsically ‘naughty,’ but because it is
a focus for powerful feelings” (Weeks, 1989, p.18).
...
Sexual shame. This cultural ambivalence, particularly acute in North America, is
likely at the root of sexual shame. Humans are naturally inquisitive about sexuality, but
in our culture they are taught at a young age that it is forbidden. Normal sexual
exploration and curiosity are pathologized by parents, religious leaders, and other
authority figures. This creates an excited tension around the taboo, which is often met
with disapproval, thereby activating sexual shame. Other factors have been shown to
contribute to sexual shame, including childhood sexual abuse, growing up in an
extremely religious environment, looking at pornography, engaging in same-sex sexual
activity, sexual assault, non-consensual sexual activity, and promiscuity (Hastings, 1998;
Lichtenberg, 2007; Weeks, 1989).
...
Sexuality is a taboo topic that begets physical and emotional vulnerability,
making it particularly disposed to shame. Shame stemming from sexual thoughts or
experiences is linked to a range of psychological symptoms, and can be crippling for the
individual client (Hastings, 1998; Morrison, 1998). Additionally, within a relationship,
sexual shame can provoke other-directed anger, hostility, and even aggression (Tangney, 2007).
It often inhibits empathic responses, as well as sexual activity between partners.
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Shame has been shown to precipitate feeling
inferior, defective, unworthy, incompetent, weak, unlovable, despairing, and feeling like
a failure (Morrison, 1998). Additionally, shame has been shown to have negative
immunological effects on its sufferers, causing proinflammatory cytokine activity, which
reduces ability to fight infection (Dickerson, Kemeny, Aziz, Kim, & Fahey, 2004).
Research also demonstrated that shame is powerfully detrimental to students’ ability to
learn, and is an impediment to their academic performance (Bond, 2009; Johnson, 2012;
Thompson, Altman, & Davidson, 2004). Shame has been linked to inhibited creativity
because it impedes the brain from the presentation of new or unusual ideas (Womack,
1999). Shame has been clinically linked with the formation and maintenance of various
forms of psychopathology, including depression, anxiety, stress, eating disorders, sub-
clinical sociopathy, low self esteem, paranoid ideation, suicidality, self-injury, and
compulsive behaviors (Cirhinlioglu & Guvenc, 2011; Harder, Cutler, & Rockart, 1992;
Pinto-Gouveia & Matos, 2011; Rizvi, 2004; Tangney & Dearing, 2003; Tangney,
Wagner, & Gramzow, 1992 ). Empirical data indicated that people experiencing shame
tended to be more angry and distressed than those who were less shame-prone (Tangney
& Dearing, 2003). This anger was thought to be initially directed inward toward the self,
but when it became too distasteful it quickly shifted outward and became other-directed,
which led to relational conflict or aggressive behavior (Retzinger, 1985). Extreme shame
was shown to lead to violence, ethnic conflict, international strife, and even genocide
(Tangney, 2007).
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Sexual Shame
Defining sexual shame. Although sexuality is regularly addressed in magazines
and even shown on prime-time television, it is still difficult for most people to discuss
comfortably because of the reluctance and stigma that are attached to the subject on a
cultural level (Hastings, 1998). Additionally, individuals are often introduced to sexual
shame at a young age via avenues such as sexual secrecy, sexual abuse, exposure to
pornography, religious shaming, being dressed to hide the body, or being shamed for
masturbation or promiscuity (Hastings, 1998). In North America, parental discomfort in
discussing such topics as menstruation, genitals, erections, or nocturnal emissions
conveys to the child at a young age that these things are shameful (Hastings, 1998).
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