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Forty years ago in Alabama, there's a lot a mamas and daddies that would be thrilled (Original Post) Rustynaerduwell Dec 2017 OP
This may be part of why men in power get away with abuse. Irish_Dem Dec 2017 #1
but even in Alabama they still expect marriage not just a hit. delisen Dec 2017 #7
So the parents think that the older powerful male is going to marry their Irish_Dem Dec 2017 #10
I think one of his accusers said her mother told her she delisen Dec 2017 #15
So he used his power and position, led mothers to believe he was honorable, seeking possible Irish_Dem Dec 2017 #17
I think it was excuse to the public after the women came forward delisen Dec 2017 #18
Gee, re-writing history in terms favorable to himself. Sounds familiar. Irish_Dem Dec 2017 #20
Birds of a feather..... delisen Dec 2017 #22
They are justifying their vote JustAnotherGen Dec 2017 #2
K&R...your dad sounds like a great man! He would have done what my daddy would've done too SummerSnow Dec 2017 #14
Would that voter be thrilled if Moore hit on their 14yo grand-daughter? DetlefK Dec 2017 #3
He's just glad they aren't related HAB911 Dec 2017 #8
El toro poopoo. It's called justification for backing a child molester... Raster Dec 2017 #4
Alabama is truly a different cultural mindset than what most people are used to Calculating Dec 2017 #5
Not sure get the red out Dec 2017 #11
He didn't "court" them. Mariana Dec 2017 #12
"If you're famous, they let you do it." - President Donald Trump DetlefK Dec 2017 #6
Not from me, he'd be getting my boot in his ass! Initech Dec 2017 #9
They need to get their "facts" straight about "back then." yallerdawg Dec 2017 #13
Great Research treestar Dec 2017 #19
Typical rationalization... Wounded Bear Dec 2017 #16
My parents would never have allowed that Ilsa Dec 2017 #21

Irish_Dem

(47,131 posts)
1. This may be part of why men in power get away with abuse.
Mon Dec 11, 2017, 10:22 AM
Dec 2017

Initially women or children and their families are flattered by the attention from a powerful or wealthy man?

Irish_Dem

(47,131 posts)
10. So the parents think that the older powerful male is going to marry their
Mon Dec 11, 2017, 10:33 AM
Dec 2017

young teen?

I am trying to understand the dynamics.

delisen

(6,044 posts)
15. I think one of his accusers said her mother told her she
Mon Dec 11, 2017, 01:37 PM
Dec 2017

would be a lucky girl if Roy Moore was interested in her. (He was, after all the district attorney, a graduate of West Point).

I don't think her mother meant that she would be happy if her daughter had a sexual relationship with Moore, rather the mother would be accepting of courtship and marriage.

I think Moore tried to put his behavior in that light when he said he would always ask the mother's permission-that would signal courtship and his intentions would be considered honorable (meaning leading to marriage).

However we know from the women who have come forward that he'd did not approach the parents, and he was not suggesting a relationship leading to marriage.

Irish_Dem

(47,131 posts)
17. So he used his power and position, led mothers to believe he was honorable, seeking possible
Mon Dec 11, 2017, 01:57 PM
Dec 2017

marriage. This was a lie, part of the con?

delisen

(6,044 posts)
18. I think it was excuse to the public after the women came forward
Mon Dec 11, 2017, 03:05 PM
Dec 2017

He was conning us-the general public in the US and counting on us to think that Alabama in the 1980s was so extremely backward that men first established themselves financially and then went-a-courting to find a young bride- as was done in some circles in Victorian times.
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I haven't heard of any parent coming forward to say that Roy Moore approached them and asked for permission to date their teen aged daughter and that they denied or gave him permission.

I think Roy is a student of history and he was trying to get us to excuse his behavior by placing it in a false historical context,
to blur the truth that he was aggressively pursuing teen aged girls in the 1980s for sex not marriage and hiding his intentions from the parents.

False narrative and a bunch of enablers backing him up.

When I put that together with his shady charity that did not disclose huge payments to him, I think he is another conman-like the Oval Office occupant-who know exactly what he is doing and is making a fortune doing it.


JustAnotherGen

(31,828 posts)
2. They are justifying their vote
Mon Dec 11, 2017, 10:22 AM
Dec 2017

My dad was a Bama man and very very VERY protective - even though I grew up in Western NY. Add in his background as a Green Beret - I was born in 73. He was born Iin 41 - so of that 'era' of parents okay?

If a 30 year old man had molested me at 14 I know my father would have:

Hunted him down on Friday
Shot him on Saturday
And laughed about it and said "hell yeah I did it" on Sunday at Mt. Olivet Baptist Church.

That person is a liar.

A god damned liar!

DetlefK

(16,423 posts)
3. Would that voter be thrilled if Moore hit on their 14yo grand-daughter?
Mon Dec 11, 2017, 10:24 AM
Dec 2017
- "70yo Senator Roy Moore wants to date, kiss and fondle our 14yo grand-daughter? That's fantastic news! A Senator! Grandma, did you hear that? A Senator wants to grope our precious Daisy!"
- "Why, that's awefully nice of him."

Raster

(20,998 posts)
4. El toro poopoo. It's called justification for backing a child molester...
Mon Dec 11, 2017, 10:25 AM
Dec 2017

...oh wait, it is Alabama, after all.

Calculating

(2,955 posts)
5. Alabama is truly a different cultural mindset than what most people are used to
Mon Dec 11, 2017, 10:25 AM
Dec 2017

It's almost like going to some middle eastern country like Afghanistan or something. They would see it as a great honor that their teen daughter was being courted by the village elder.

get the red out

(13,466 posts)
11. Not sure
Mon Dec 11, 2017, 10:36 AM
Dec 2017

Alabama must be even worse than the mountains of Kentucky since I was a teenager there 40 years ago and some guy in his 30's going after young girls would have not been seen as normal or good! I asked my Mom about this the other night and she said she would have killed an older man if he went after me or my sister like that (she may have exaggerated a little, but made her point).

Mariana

(14,858 posts)
12. He didn't "court" them.
Mon Dec 11, 2017, 10:37 AM
Dec 2017

He wasn't meeting girls at church and getting to know them them under their families' supervision, going to the house for Sunday dinner and such. No. He was lurking around the mall, hitting on the girls who worked there. Why did he do that? Because their parents weren't there and wouldn't know what he was up to.

yallerdawg

(16,104 posts)
13. They need to get their "facts" straight about "back then."
Mon Dec 11, 2017, 10:38 AM
Dec 2017
The legal age of consent in Alabama, then and now, is 16. Under Alabama law in 1979, and today, a person who is at least 19 years old who has sexual contact with someone between 12 and 16 years old has committed sexual abuse in the second degree. Sexual contact is defined as touching of sexual or intimate parts. The crime is a misdemeanor punishable by up to one year in jail.

The law then and now also includes a section on enticing a child younger than 16 to enter a home with the purpose of proposing sexual intercourse or fondling of sexual and genital parts. That is a felony punishable by up to 10 years in prison.

In Alabama, the statute of limitations for bringing felony charges involving sexual abuse of a minor in 1979 would have run out three years later, and the time frame for filing a civil complaint would have ended when the alleged victim turned 21, according to Child USA, a nonprofit research and advocacy group at the University of Pennsylvania.

http://www.al.com/news/index.ssf/2017/11/roy_moore_accused_of_sexual_mi.html

Ilsa

(61,695 posts)
21. My parents would never have allowed that
Mon Dec 11, 2017, 03:39 PM
Dec 2017

in the 1970s. I know because I grew up with fundamentalists in the 1970s.

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