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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI don't know why, but I have this yearning to tell you here: My husband died Friday night
I know you all aren't my best friends, but I've been here since 2001 and I feel like I know a lot of you.
LOL, some of you know me because I locked your LBN threads in the past.
My hubby had cancer of the throat caused by the HPV virus. I need for everyone who has kids or knows children the appropriate age to get that immunization shot!
Although we had insurance ( Obamacare!) we were still sucked dry financially. Between the deductibles for two years and other expenses we had to pull money out of our meager IRA. Oh, and Robert was out of work for a year.
Cancer does that. I hope I go fast so my children aren't burdened with what I've gone through.
If anyone wants to put in a dime, my two girls started a fund for me.
https://www.youcaring.com/nancybrown-1009256
This was taken one week before he died. He put up his collar to hide the discolored radiation burns and lump.
femmedem
(8,206 posts)He has a kind face, and I wish you could have had more years--decades--together.
Dorian Gray
(13,499 posts)And thank you for sharing with us.
I love that he was smiling until the end. Couldn't have been easy, but there is joy there.
hlthe2b
(102,343 posts)My first cousin, who is like a sister to me, just lost her husband after a four year ordeal with metastatic renal cancer. She is in a very similar situation and still better off than many facing this because they had insurance.
I hope that you are heartened by an outpouring of support...
janterry
(4,429 posts)What a nice picture; he looked like a very kind man.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)We may be just virtual friends but friends nonetheless. I hope you have the support of friends and family.
Metatron
(1,258 posts)I am so sorry for your loss.
hamsterjill
(15,223 posts)Lost my oldest sister to it in early October.
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace and comfort.
zanana1
(6,125 posts)I lost my husband exactly one month ago. It was sudden, but just because you know it's coming doesn't make it any easier. I'm sorry I can't give today, but in a few weeks I might be in a position to contribute. You are grieving and you have financial problems; it can't be easy. Do anything you have to do to make yourself feel just a little better.
RestoreAmerica2020
(3,438 posts)...wait a few weeks to help Nancy. What a trying time for the both you and Nancy. Paz
luvtheGWN
(1,336 posts)Welcome to a club no one wants to join. My darling passed away in September, and I'm still at the stage of thinking he's just away on a trip, or staying a few nights in hospital, and he'll be home soon......I'm reading a book "Widow to Widow" by Genevieve Davis Ginsburg, M.S. It's been a great help and perhaps it might also assist you.
Living north of the border, I've encountered none of the medical expenses you have experienced. From diagnostic tests, to hospital stays, to visiting nurses, all were paid for through our universal healthcare system. I can only wish that your elected federal officials might one day (soon) institute the same for you.
Kentonio
(4,377 posts)BumRushDaShow
(129,386 posts)He is at peace now.
Dennis Donovan
(18,770 posts)livetohike
(22,157 posts)and all who knew and loved Robert. May only the good memories fill your heart and bring you comfort and peace
Solly Mack
(90,780 posts)Callalily
(14,893 posts)I hope that the memory of your spouse brings you comfort and peace.
RestoreAmerica2020
(3,438 posts)of yourself. Paz.
no_hypocrisy
(46,163 posts)I hope your memories give you comfort.
Thank you for sharing.
TxDemChem
(1,918 posts)FSogol
(45,524 posts)Hortensis
(58,785 posts)I'm so sorry, OKNancy. Hope your little fund at least helps list some of that burden off.
malaise
(269,157 posts)babylonsister
(171,079 posts)OKNancy. Thank you for sharing. And I am glad you have your two girls to comfort you.
lillypaddle
(9,581 posts)for you, him, your family. Sounds as though you have been through hell. Sincere condolences, Nancy.
yardwork
(61,700 posts)cate94
(2,813 posts)JI7
(89,262 posts)i remember reading a post from you not too long ago mentioning your husband's illness.
i will help out a bit later today.
Freedomofspeech
(4,227 posts)So sorry for your loss.
barbtries
(28,810 posts)Tanuki
(14,920 posts)this ordeal. May you be surronded by love and light and I hope you will find all the support you need at this time when your heart is aching. Your DU friends are here for you at every hour.
mascarax
(1,528 posts)To you and your family.
japple
(9,838 posts)time of sorrow and may the love you have for each other ease the pain of grief.
Laf.La.Dem.
(2,944 posts)Cary
(11,746 posts)Thank you for your thread. I have not seen much empathy here of late and that has bummed me out. You have a nice showing of support here and it's good, in my opinion, to see you tapping into it. I hope it gives you comfort.
Adrahil
(13,340 posts)I'm so very, very sorry.
OKNancy
(41,832 posts)It hasn't been too long since I first posted. I am overwhelmed with your kindness.
samnsara
(17,634 posts)..Please know we are all here for you...anytime..ok? and please take care of yourself. (((hugs)))
sarah FAILIN
(2,857 posts)That is a tough cancer to have. My father in law was refusing treatment his 2nd time having it when they said he had to lose his speech, but he gave in. My condolences for you and your daughters.
Vinca
(50,302 posts)orangecrush
(19,611 posts)Peace and light to you in this time of sorrow.
TexasTowelie
(112,387 posts)GoCubsGo
(32,086 posts)brer cat
(24,596 posts)7wo7rees
(5,128 posts)Hugs and healing being sent your way. Take care.
Tom_Foolery
(4,691 posts)spanone
(135,862 posts)rock
(13,218 posts)mamas
(76 posts)Ligyron
(7,639 posts)I'll kick in a few $$ and let us know if there's anything else we can do for you.
JackInGreen
(2,975 posts)I cannot imagine your loss I'm so sorry.
First time I've logged in in a year...I'm so sorry.
The Blue Flower
(5,444 posts)I'm so sorry you all had to go through this, and very sorry for your loss.
flakey_foont
(3,339 posts)Deepest condolences
mfcorey1
(11,001 posts)democrank
(11,100 posts)May he rest in peace and may you find comfort in your memories.
Demsrule86
(68,643 posts)Hubs just went back to work and we have to move to the new area...but I have bookmarked this for when my (suddenly seems unimportant ) stuff is over.
DFW
(54,436 posts)A few dimes on the way
OKNancy
(41,832 posts)My heart is full.
Maeve
(42,287 posts)And I understand how illness can suck dry your finances, even with insurance. Just getting the bills from my surgery last month and there goes the savings account...
May you find comfort in your family and friends at this difficult time.
Arkansas Granny
(31,525 posts)ETA: I spoke to my son and dil about the HPV shots for their children few weeks ago. They have already discussed it with their pediatrician.
xmas74
(29,675 posts)My daughter's pediatrician wouldn't start hers until after her first menstrual cycle. She was angry about the shots but the doctor was straightforward,telling her what was prevented.
Soreness at the site for a day was all we had. I'm glad it's done.
mcar
(42,372 posts)spooky3
(34,468 posts)With a good spirit, despite the terrible ordeal.
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)IUPACify
(19 posts)My sympathies for your family's loss.
tavernier
(12,396 posts)My hubby died 5 months ago.
Be prepared to wake up every day wondering if it was all a dream. I still do, but now it is about every other or third day.
If you are familiar with hurricane bands, this is the best way I can describe it: grief comes in bands like the winds and rain of a hurricane, with no warning and sometimes no trigger. You could be sitting in a dentists chair or at a kids party singing happy birthday to a ten year old, and suddenly the grief and tears overwhelm you. Then, again, suddenly over. As the months go by, the time between bands lengthens. I may now go four or five days tear free.
Stay busy busy busy. I also read audio books to keep my mind busy.
Hope some or any of this helps.
Freddie
(9,273 posts)I am so incredibly blessed to still have my husband and grateful every day. His brother died a year ago, age 55, suddenly of a heart attack. His wife, who we love dearly, describes her grief in the same way. It helps her to talk about him, what he would have done or liked. Their dad just died at 85; he could never get over losing his youngest child.
octoberlib
(14,971 posts)bobbieinok
(12,858 posts)Achilleaze
(15,543 posts)Tom Rinaldo
(22,913 posts)Words can't touch the magnitude of this loss, yet words are what we reach for to affirm that even now, especially now, when your husband and love of so many years has departed, that you are not alone Nancy. We all express our differences inside this political community that is DU, but there is so much more that unites us as a community. We read each other's posts for years, in a sense we do really know each other. Sharing your loss with us in this time of deepest sorrow makes us all a part of your extended family. And we really are. I'm so sorry for this Nancy. I hope your connection here with all of us brings you a little more strength to get through these days of intense mourning.
JPPaverage
(510 posts)He was a very nice looking man. And there's no doubt that he was married to a nice lady. May he Rest in Peace. That damned cancer. Let's hope we can make inroads toward a cure soon.
longship
(40,416 posts)sl8
(13,871 posts)a kennedy
(29,700 posts)Cancer sucks.
yallerdawg
(16,104 posts)Deepest sympathies, Nancy.
Beyond this vale of tears we find peace.
And Nancy - maybe not 'best friends' but surely some of your biggest fans.
muntrv
(14,505 posts)Scarsdale
(9,426 posts)It is always a shock when we lose someone, even when it is to be expected. Hope never dies, we keep it alive, especially with loved ones. Stay strong.
boston bean
(36,223 posts)RKP5637
(67,112 posts)I'm saddened to hear this.
efhmc
(14,731 posts)I am sorry that you are left without him. My hopes for healing for your sad spirit.
greatauntoftriplets
(175,749 posts)KMOD sends her regards and is very sad for your loss.
AirmensMom
(14,648 posts)panader0
(25,816 posts)He looks like a fine man.
GallopingGhost
(2,404 posts)I lost my mom to cancer. It's the worst.
I just followed the link. Hold on tight to your happy memories.
MuseRider
(34,115 posts)I am so sorry to see this.
My condolences and wishes for you to find peace soon.
bronxiteforever
(9,287 posts)VaBchTgerLily
(231 posts)and thank you for sharing-this is a common virus that many would not even know that they have, and so important that people are aware of preventative measures now available! I got both my son and daughter the vaccine series as soon as they were old enough.
DesertRat
(27,995 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)I will be happy to contribute to this fund with my best wishes for you and yours who are in such grief now.
Your friend, CTyankee
MineralMan
(146,325 posts)Beyond that, I have no words that are adequate.
DownriverDem
(6,231 posts)Oh Nancy, I am so sorry you had to go through such a fight with cancer. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. So sorry.
salin
(48,955 posts)So sorry for your profound loss. May your kids, friends and family give you the support/comfort to help you through the waves of grief and mourning.
DonCoquixote
(13,616 posts)My mother has been fighting cancer for a year, and while so far (cross fingers) we have been luckier than most, I can still feel the reaper breathe down my neck.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)Several cancer deaths in my family and it is terrible. All the best to you as you move on.
You have the memories.
KatyaR
(3,445 posts)Please don't feel bad about sharing here. We're a (slightly) dysfunctional family, but we're here for you.
annabanana
(52,791 posts)Many of us (myself included) have brought our sorrows to this community. I grieve with you as you grieved with me when my husband passed away 3 1/2 years ago. I know you have been steered to our bereavement forum, where there is a home for the pain. I am so sorry you are enduring this. He looks like a wonderful person.
My heart goes out to you.
Ann
On edit: I reviewed your above replies and see there was no link to the bereavement forum, so here:
https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1234
You can PM me ANY time
Permanut
(5,628 posts)why you posted here. This is the most caring group on the planet; we hurt for you, and for all who suffer. Take care.
Sanity Claws
(21,852 posts)I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
May he rest in peace.
May your wonderful memories of your husband sustain you and bring you peace.
bigtree
(86,005 posts)...thank you for the information about HPV.
Peace to you and your family.
KY_EnviroGuy
(14,494 posts)Cherish the good memories every day.
ismnotwasm
(41,999 posts)jrthin
(4,837 posts)CountAllVotes
(20,878 posts)Very sad to read abt. the loss of your dear husband.
I agree with you, when it is looking like your time is coming, GO!
I have lost two members of my immediate family (which was small to begin with) to cancer back to back.
Mother in 2002 and a sibling in 2004 (only 40 years old), so yes I do know your pain and please know that you are never alone!
I am sorry to read you are wiped out financially. That is just another aspect of your story that really bothers me. This is so unacceptable and I am glad you shared it with us.
Healing vibes for you OKNancy!
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)What a kind face. Peace and love to your family. xo
Denis 11
(280 posts)You will be in my prayers.
Frustratedlady
(16,254 posts)That must have been a very difficult time to go through for all of you. He looks like a gentle soul and I'm sure you miss him dearly.
May the good memories help you through the grieving process.
SummerSnow
(12,608 posts)CaptainTruth
(6,600 posts)You have my sincere condolences, & I wish you peace.
NRaleighLiberal
(60,018 posts)PatrickforO
(14,586 posts)In the picture it looks like he was a good guy.
TEB
(12,872 posts)So sorry for you
plcdude
(5,310 posts)sorry for your loss. I am just up the road from you at the other university if you need help.
yellerpup
(12,253 posts)I can't imagine....
OregonBlue
(7,754 posts)all the time but don't realize how many people are affected until it happens to someone you know. So I agree. Yes, Yes, Yes, make sure your children get those inoculations. It's a horrible disease and way to go. Take care of yourself and check back with us to let us know how you are doing.
Phentex
(16,334 posts)I remember you from moderator days and you did a great job. My heart goes out to you and your family.
onecaliberal
(32,888 posts)fishwax
(29,149 posts)irisblue
(33,020 posts)Omaha Steve
(99,703 posts)Marta & I are in.
OS
cilla4progress
(24,760 posts)He's an elegant-looking man! A
KitSileya
(4,035 posts)You have my sincerest condolances.
Lifelong Protester
(8,421 posts)Marthe48
(17,015 posts)My husband passed away in January, of esophageal cancer. I miss him every day. I'm sorry for your loss. I hope your family and your memories help you while you get through this.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,829 posts)BainsBane
(53,056 posts)murielm99
(30,755 posts)MontanaMama
(23,337 posts)on your profound loss OKNancy. Cancer is a menace and it pales in comparison to the financial destruction that comes with it. Rest in peace, Robert.
Bengus81
(6,932 posts)How many times have I read or been told this same scenario? You play by the rules,you work your BUTT off for decades,you HAVE insurance and you end up BROKE over a long drawn out medical situation that you have no control over and at a time when your working days are pretty much past.
This is a NATIONAL disgrace in the United States of America.
I'll chip in some money to your fund me site and mention DU,hope others will too.
Greybnk48
(10,172 posts)Your husband looks like he was trying to be a trooper. I'm sorry for your loss.
Skidmore
(37,364 posts)of your husband. How it must hurt to lose him. Much love and comforting thoughts to you and your daughters.
The_jackalope
(1,660 posts)I know a bit about what it's like, as I lost my wife to ovarian cancer just over two months ago.
Please be kind to yourself, and take things slowly. You have some very hard times ahead. You might consider checking into the End of Life Issues board here on DU. I did during my wife's illness, and they are an enormously empathetic and supportive group.
GoneOffShore
(17,340 posts)And don't feel strange about posting.
You've been here since 2001 and you have made friends and acquaintances who care, even if we've never met IRL.
sheshe2
(83,875 posts)Robert looks like a very kind man, may he rest in peace. My heart goes out to you and your family...it is especially hard around the holidays. We lost both my dad and brother in law four years ago this month. Share the sweet memories over this Thanksgiving, we did and it helped.
kcr
(15,318 posts)It's harder to get to know DUers because it doesn't seem as close-knit as it used to, but I remember modding with you back in the day. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss ((hugs)). I
gopiscrap
(23,763 posts)I had cancer three times and it suck me dry financially also-I pray for peace for you and good memories of your husband
denvine
(802 posts)It's such a disgrace that not only did you have to deal with your husband having this awful disease but you also have to deal with the financial implications. My heart goes out to you!
Hugin
(33,189 posts)May those of us who can, learn from the wisdom it conveys.
Please, take care of yourself.
Fla Dem
(23,736 posts)Losing a loved one is the most difficult pain one can endure in a lifetime. May you and your girls find a road to peace through happy memories and small joys in life.
Tess49
(1,580 posts)Consider putting your link on FB. Many of our friends, classmates, may be able to help you out.
snowybirdie
(5,233 posts)rest in peace. So sorry.
pandr32
(11,605 posts)Losing a spouse is a terrible loss. I am so glad you have your girls to support you and they have you. Very nice picture of your husband.
VermontKevin
(1,473 posts)Aristus
(66,446 posts)You must be in a lot of pain right now. I'm sorry, OKNancy. Thank you for trusting us with your heart.
Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)CrispyQ
(36,502 posts)ailsagirl
(22,899 posts)carburyme
(146 posts)I am awfully sorry . Hoping that we here at DU provide a tiny bit of comfort for your big loss. My hugs and heart to you..
blogslut
(38,010 posts)Maraya1969
(22,495 posts)awesomerwb1
(4,268 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)He looks like such a gentle, caring person. A very kind face. Please accept my condolences for your loss.
wildeyed
(11,243 posts)So sorry for your loss and for the financial burden it put on your family. It's hard enough dealing with a serious illness without having to worry about how to pay the rent on top of it all
intheozone
(1,103 posts)of him and your time together bring you comfort and some peace.
TygrBright
(20,763 posts)...and that's a connection, and it matters.
So thank you, for sharing this painful part of your life with us. It is an honor that you allow us to know your life and your sorrow.
The picture of Robert shows a very special person.
Your loss must feel simply devastating, even though you were prepared for it over the years of struggle with his illness. The shape of your life changes so profoundly as that last breath goes...
Holding you, and your whole family, in my heart. May his memory be a blessing, and time bring you some solace in your grief.
We're here. All of us, and each of us. Don't hesitate to reach out in the deep, lonely hours. It's one of the few advantages of an online community like this, that there's almost always someone here.
lovingly,
Bright
librechik
(30,676 posts)I have nothing but fond memories of you on this forum. Thanks for sharing the sad news. Condolences to you and yours.
dbackjon
(6,578 posts)nini
(16,672 posts)trocar
(243 posts)BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)😪💔
cyberswede
(26,117 posts)uppityperson
(115,678 posts)Skittles
(153,185 posts)I am so sorry OKNancy
Kahuna7
(2,531 posts)My heart goes out to you. You have my most sincere condolences.
davsand
(13,421 posts)The empressof all
(29,098 posts)I hope you are doing all you can to take good care of yourself at this time. If you ever need a listening ear even if it's months from now feel free to PM me. These kinds of losses take time...but time sometimes is not enough.
BadGimp
(4,017 posts)oasis
(49,401 posts)mvd
(65,180 posts)We've known each other on DU a long time. I am glad you posted this here - we are here for you. If you want to PM me, don't hesitate. My thoughts and condolences go out to you and your family.
Texin
(2,597 posts)Tumbulu
(6,292 posts)CousinIT
(9,256 posts)I swear our damn healthcare system is BARBARIC.
NOBODY should have to suffer through something like this worrying about money.
He was a fine-looking guy and I know you miss him like Hell.
I'm so sorry.
lunamagica
(9,967 posts)so much together. I'm so sorry for your loss.
ProfessorGAC
(65,159 posts)You do your best to care of yourself!
question everything
(47,522 posts)What a hard road you have been through. Hope you have many memories to cherish.
(Yes, I will help, you have always been a decent friend here).
dewsgirl
(14,961 posts)MelissaB
(16,420 posts)Fuck cancer. It takes so many we love.
Sending positive thoughts your way.
sprinkleeninow
(20,254 posts)My prayer: 'A peace that passes understanding come and rest within you.' 🕯
flying_wahini
(6,641 posts)Very sorry.
herding cats
(19,567 posts)peacebuzzard
(5,181 posts)For your loss. I wish you peace at this moment.
You have my deep sympathies.
applegrove
(118,767 posts)dae
(3,396 posts)diva77
(7,652 posts)SoCalDem
(103,856 posts)We are like a family, and sharing the loss helps.. I hope your daughters are close by to help you through the arduous task ahead.. You are never truly "prepared" for such a loss..
OKNancy
(41,832 posts)I bookmarked this thread and will come back to it over and over I'm sure.
Thanks also to those who contributed to the youcare fund. It is really going to help!
Hekate
(90,779 posts)Thank you for letting us, your friends, know.
Your love has gone where all hurts are healed -- may his name be remembered as a blessing to you and your family.
lordsummerisle
(4,651 posts)Ken Burch
(50,254 posts)So sorry it had to happen in your life, and It's beautiful that you would use this moment to speak up for HPV immunization.
Luneybin3804
(1 post)I am so sorry for your loss. Cancer is a horrible thing. My husband had thoat cancer from agent orange and it took his ability to speak. Im praying for you and your girls
adigal
(7,581 posts)Sending you light and blessing. Peace.
BigmanPigman
(51,626 posts)What a pleasant looking husband. I know the pain and loss...it is unbelievably difficult to just go from one day to the next. It always seems to happen during Thanksgiving and Christmas in my family which makes it even more difficult.
sueh
(1,826 posts)RoadRunner
(4,495 posts)Hey OKNancy:
I did some thread locking back in the day myself, as well as more than my share of nukes. More relevant, I also suffered from throat cancer like your husband. I fully understand him concealing his throat, the radiation treatment tore mine up so much that I wouldnt go outside. Even my dog shunned me. I survived, its been ten years, but I shouldnt have and Ive always wondered why. Im so very sorry to hear that you husband didnt. I cant help much with your grief and profound loss but I can send a few dollars for the fundraiser, and hope others do the same.
WinstonSmith4740
(3,056 posts)We argue amongst ourselves sometimes, but when it's time to come together, we do. This is the first place I turned when I lost my husband to cancer over 7 years ago. We're here for you when you need to talk, cry, or just rant about how unfair the damn universe can be sometimes. Trust me on this one. For a while ( I still do it from time to time), you'll look at people that are absolutely abhorrent, and think, "My husband died from cancer, while that (your epithet here) is still walking around." Right now, it's the only purpose Trump serves for me.
Take care of yourself, Nancy. Let yourself mourn. Feel what you're feeling. Don't "choke back the tears" because you think it might make someone uncomfortable...let them go. Your friends will understand, and fuck everybody else. It gets better.
Stinky The Clown
(67,818 posts)Dark n Stormy Knight
(9,771 posts)I send you my heartfelt condolences.
I am unnaturally close to my husband and, though I don't pray, I hope I die before him. I don't expect either of us to go for many years, but you never know what may come to pass.
Stuart G
(38,439 posts)Brentar
(4 posts)It warmed my heart to see your post on in the Greatest Thread. This is Lee Ann He looks at peace in that photo. I hope his passing was comfortable for him.
obamanut2012
(26,111 posts)Wands up for him.
WePurrsevere
(24,259 posts)The Wielding Truth
(11,415 posts)GaryCnf
(1,399 posts)Lefta Dissenter
(6,622 posts)I just don't know what to say except that I am so sorry for your heartbreak and your loss.
aikoaiko
(34,183 posts)emmadoggy
(2,142 posts)Wishing you comfort and peace, and may your husband rest easy now.
I'm also terribly sorry for all the financial pain this has caused you. It is beyond wrong that it works that way in this country.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)Corey_Baker08
(2,157 posts)ucrdem
(15,512 posts)My heart goes out to a dear DU friend. Thanks for letting us know! Peace to your family and to Robert's spirit.
calimary
(81,441 posts)Thank you for sharing this with us all. Let all these strong, broad, sturdy pairs of shoulders help buoy you up. You don't grieve alone. Don't forget what our own Skittles once said about this place (which I always found to be helpful and comforting): "Somebody's always here."
Rhiannon12866
(205,917 posts)He looks like a very nice guy - handsome, too. I also lost my Dad to throat cancer and I send you sympathy and support.
Raine
(30,540 posts)keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
orleans
(34,073 posts)i'm sorry for what the both of you had to go through
this is a lovely picture you've posted of him.
SergeStorms
(19,204 posts)Although I knew neither you, or your loving husband personally, we're all part of a family here at DU.
I believe John Donne said it best; Any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee.
We're all part of a greater whole, Nancy. My deepest sympathy for your and your family's loss.
Chemisse
(30,816 posts)And thank-you for sharing.
mnhtnbb
(31,402 posts)A friend died from esophageal cancer almost three years ago. He was a wonderfully kind soul, the type of person
who brought people together. Made music. Ran a farm with a music building on it where concerts were hosted.
He hadn't been retired from his day job as a social worker 3 months when they discovered the cancer.
There is no rhyme or reason to why so many of these good people are struck down by horrible disease--and then
screwed over by the messed up "health care" system in this country--and horrible, awful, scum bags walk
around until they're 90 something whatever. It just isn't fair.
Please take care of yourself. As others have said, there is always someone here at DU to listen.
That's a lovely picture of your husband.
VOX
(22,976 posts)So terribly sorry to hear this. Please hang on tightly.
TuxedoKat
(3,818 posts)for the loss of your beloved husband Robert. What a handsome guy he was. Will contribute today. Please post this in the lounge as well so more people can see it. (((HUGS)))
kentuck
(111,110 posts)I am sorry to hear of your loss.
LeftInTX
(25,526 posts)My daughter (27 yo) has HPV virus.
We wished we would have had her vaccinated.
Lisa0825
(14,487 posts)question everything
(47,522 posts)OKNancy
(41,832 posts)Cremation bill was 2900.00, so that is almost covered.
Such a relief
mokawanis
(4,451 posts)marlakay
(11,484 posts)Wish you peace. Medical insurance is awful.
cpamomfromtexas
(1,247 posts)LiberalLoner
(9,762 posts)salin
(48,955 posts)heart breaks for how many times your world has been turned upside down in the past several years.
I wanted to keep your post current. I often only read DU early am/and late pm - and some days when life is crazy, not at all. Want to make sure those who might have missed this, have a chance to see/read/respond.
xmas74
(29,675 posts)She was in her late twenties. It was caused by HPV, which was spread to her by her husband. He was asymptomatic and had it before they met. They had no insurance so she put off yearly paps, figuring she'd be ok since she'd had tubal ligation.
Gardasil was new on the market when she passed. She made me promise to have my very young daughter vaccinated as soon as she was old enough. She was 32 when she left us and I kept my promise. My kid finished her series when she was 12.
I'm so sorry for your loss and I wanted you to know that there are others who've been affected by this disease. I'm a strong supporter of that vaccine and I'll tell her story to anyone who'll listen, hoping to convince them to vaccinate.
phylny
(8,385 posts)One of my doctors once told me that almost all adults have HPV. I had our three daughters vaccinated by the advice of their doctor. I hope you find peace with your family.
OKNancy
(41,832 posts)who donated by email. Some of you donated anonymously, so I hope you see this and know that I thank you so much.
The amount wasn't the goal, but that is fine. It was almost exactly the cost of the cremation and the fees.
I hope to get back to posting more at DU soon.
Big hugs to my DU family.