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Blue_Adept

(6,402 posts)
Sat Oct 14, 2017, 03:50 PM Oct 2017

Woman repeatedly molests men in public and videos it


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The conversations that must be had with boys about interacting with others must also be had with girls, otherwise you get this being somehow acceptable.

I keep hoping that it's a kind of scripted/plotted thing to showcase what women go through but I think this woman is just not getting what she's doing.
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MineralMan

(146,329 posts)
1. A woman at the Las Vegas airport did that to me once,
Sat Oct 14, 2017, 04:24 PM
Oct 2017

but she asked if she could first. I told her, "Sure." All people have to do is ask before touching.

Afterwards, we had a drink at one of the bars in the airport. She told me that her late father had a full beard like mine, and she had just wanted to touch a beard like his again. It was a nice exchange, really.

Glorfindel

(9,733 posts)
2. You're right, Blue_Adept. Touching without permission is molestation.
Sat Oct 14, 2017, 04:40 PM
Oct 2017

I wonder how she'd like it if a man patted her on the butt and filmed himself doing it? Not acceptable at all.

Lunabell

(6,105 posts)
3. There was a Mindy Kahling commercial on a few years ago
Sat Oct 14, 2017, 04:42 PM
Oct 2017

And in it she molested a guy on the street. Not funny, in my opinion.

MineralMan

(146,329 posts)
5. After having a full beard for almost 50 years, this video isn't surprising.
Sat Oct 14, 2017, 04:43 PM
Oct 2017

A good portion of that time was during periods where beards were not particularly in fashion. Mine has been touched many times by women I didn't know, and more than a few times, a woman has asked if she could kiss me, because she had never kissed a man with a beard. Out of the blue. Someone I had never even met. Alcohol may have played a role, I suspect.

I've always been happy to oblige, as long as I'm asked first. These days, I'm an old fart with a snow white full beard. I've been married for over 25 years to one of the women who asked me if she could kiss me for that reason. I said, "Sure." A few months later we got married.

A guy just never knows.

WhiskeyGrinder

(22,431 posts)
6. I'm assured repeatedly that men would love the kind of attention women say they don't want on the
Sat Oct 14, 2017, 04:45 PM
Oct 2017

street. Huh.

Blue_Adept

(6,402 posts)
7. well yeah, cause those kinds of men don't get any kind of attention at all
Sat Oct 14, 2017, 04:49 PM
Oct 2017

so they imagine that they'd love it.

MineralMan

(146,329 posts)
8. Not true for most men, I'm sure.
Sat Oct 14, 2017, 04:50 PM
Oct 2017

On the other hand, a lot of men will be happy to oblige if asked. I suspect that is different than for women, but I've never been one to do anything without clear and unmistakable consent, so I can't speak for anyone but myself.

unblock

(52,317 posts)
10. The key is whether its welcome or not.
Sat Oct 14, 2017, 05:54 PM
Oct 2017

By far the best and most obvious way to make sure it's welcome is simply to ask.

But it's possible for it to be welcome even when you don't ask, it's just that you're taking a big risk, and if you're wrong, you've done something odious.

Men are more likely than women to find surprise intimate contact like that unobjectionable, and yes they're also less likely to object if they find the woman attractive.

But there's no good argument for not asking.
Just none.

In the video, some men seem fine with it, but some of them clearly recoil.

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