Predators...

[SoCalDem]

My friend who was planning to retire in April, is now going to be raising 3 kids 14 yr old boy...12 yr old girl and a 6 yr old girl..

Her son (their father) is 36 yrs old and has been leeching off her forever (that's another story) and lives with her too.. She is also a caretaker for her 75 yr old brother who has the beginnings of dementia.

She works her ass off, and I worry about her every day. She can barely afford to support them all..(son has never held a job for more than a few months, and treats her horribly..

Son & his wife divorced years ago, and Mom (of the kids) hooked up with a guy she met online, and thought he was wonderful.

When my friend told me about him, I warned her about men who seem overly interested in women with kids, and asked her to talk to her former daughter in law.. They moved out of state and the kids come to Calif every summer to be with their Dad and her..

Last week, as they were preparing to go home. the 12 year old broke down and told her that Mom's boyfriend had been molesting her for two years, and then the younger one admitted that he had gone after her as well..

Needless to say, they are never going back. Their Mom ran off to Nebraska because she has "health issues" and cannot care for them .

They are in a flurry of discussions with detectives in two states, and counselors...and everything they own was left in the boyfriend's house..

If you know anyone who is a single Mom, please counsel them , and make them aware of creeps like this guy..

I worry about the kids ( I have been where they are, and that's why my spidey-senses tingled when she told me three years ago), but I worry about my friend the most.. Her health is not the greatest ,but she will move heaven & earth to raise those kids..

Her son's main concern seems to be about how he can make money on the whole ordeal..

[MLAA]

1. I will send her love and energy!

Can she keep the kids and kick out the son? Was just thinking...since he isn't helping to financially support his kids, if he weren't in the picture at all....I wonder if your friend could get financial assistance from the state?

[Control-Z]

2. Is there a better place to have this discussion?

I've never figured that out - the difference between a forum and a group, what shows up on the Latest Threads page, what goes into search engines for all the world to see.

While I know this deserves as many eyes and ideas as possible, it is the kind of topic that could use a "safe space", so to speak. This, of course, is just my opinion, and a selfish one at that. I have something I've needed so badly to discuss but can't do it out here in the open. It could hurt people who are dear to me. It relates in ways to your topic. Predators.

[SoCalDem]

3. Many of us here have had discussions like this before.. I guess if no names are used

there is some safety.. You can pm me anytime..