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Today: Married to this beach walker for 43 years today! (Original Post) DemoTex Apr 2017 OP
Congratulations! Metatron Apr 2017 #1
Congrats and best wishes to you both. justhanginon Apr 2017 #2
Sincere congratulations! ADX Apr 2017 #3
HA! Great question. DemoTex Apr 2017 #8
And I thought it was separate bathrooms! panader0 Apr 2017 #11
Absence makes the heart grow fonder jpak Apr 2017 #19
Rather than Absinthe makes the arse to wander... ;-) OnDoutside Apr 2017 #53
LOL - you may be right BlueMTexpat Apr 2017 #43
Congrats to both of you - asiliveandbreathe Apr 2017 #4
Congrats to you both! And I love the picture. nt babylonsister Apr 2017 #5
Congrats malaise Apr 2017 #6
Sweet. sheshe2 Apr 2017 #7
Happy Anniversary! Wishing you many more years livetohike Apr 2017 #9
Mazel tov! mcar Apr 2017 #10
Congrats to you both, my dear DemoTex! CaliforniaPeggy Apr 2017 #12
Thanks Peg! DemoTex Apr 2017 #32
Congratulations ismnotwasm Apr 2017 #13
... Lochloosa Apr 2017 #52
Lovely picture as usual TexasProgresive Apr 2017 #14
Well, keep on keepin' on! DemoTex Apr 2017 #33
Congratulations!!! nt jrthin Apr 2017 #15
She's a lucky woman. nolabear Apr 2017 #16
Congratulations, you two.... Tikki Apr 2017 #17
Soul mates are a wonderful gift. kimbutgar Apr 2017 #18
Congratulations, and nice picture. n/t PoliticAverse Apr 2017 #20
Congratulations to the both of you! herding cats Apr 2017 #21
I rarely post, but this OP made me log in. :-) Dem2theMax Apr 2017 #22
Thanks, Dem2theMax DemoTex Apr 2017 #26
Congratulations! :) nt prayin4rain Apr 2017 #23
Omigosh! She makes the sea and sky look so beautiful! struggle4progress Apr 2017 #24
Beautiful picture! KT2000 Apr 2017 #25
May you have many more together :) luvMIdog Apr 2017 #27
Mazel tov shenmue Apr 2017 #28
Todah! DemoTex Apr 2017 #29
Beauti FULL!! Her, You, the Love Story, this photo. . furtheradu Apr 2017 #30
Happy Anniversary! mnhtnbb Apr 2017 #31
Congratulations! Many happy returns of the gorgeous day in your photo !! archiemo Apr 2017 #34
Happy Anniversary gademocrat7 Apr 2017 #35
What a photo and what an anniversary. Many happy returns of the day, DemoTex. Hekate Apr 2017 #36
congrats AllaN01Bear Apr 2017 #37
Congrats! My wife and I made 45 years this past January. dae Apr 2017 #38
Congratulations! Wishing you ever expanding happiness! Lyricalinklines Apr 2017 #39
Congratulations! ashling Apr 2017 #40
Lovely! Where is this beach? SunSeeker Apr 2017 #41
Beautiful photo BlueMTexpat Apr 2017 #42
Congratulations! Rhiannon12866 Apr 2017 #44
Happy anniversary TxDemChem Apr 2017 #45
I do not think that this lovely photo TNNurse Apr 2017 #46
Happy Anniversary! AwakeAtLast Apr 2017 #47
Happy Anniversary NewJeffCT Apr 2017 #48
Yes, congratulations!! iluvtennis Apr 2017 #49
awwwwww. congrats and wishing you many more happy years. niyad Apr 2017 #50
You two should be so Faux pas Apr 2017 #51
Well, God bless her underpants Apr 2017 #54
May you always have sellitman Apr 2017 #55
congrats and many more to come! (n/t) Moostache Apr 2017 #56
Way to go Mr. & Mrs. DemoTex! DFW Apr 2017 #57
Mazeltov! barbtries Apr 2017 #58
Congratulations, DemoTex! Aristus Apr 2017 #59
I'd recognize her anywhere. trof Apr 2017 #60
Congratulations, may you have many more happy happy years! bench scientist Apr 2017 #61
Wow. 43 years and counting! kstewart33 Apr 2017 #62

DemoTex

(25,403 posts)
8. HA! Great question.
Thu Apr 27, 2017, 08:49 PM
Apr 2017

For years, I was an airline pilot and she travelled a lot, so we did not get on each others' nerves at home. Then, in 2008, I started doing the wilderness fire lookout gig. And did that until 2016 (I am taking the 2017 fire season off). So again, separation. Works wonders!
When we both retire, for good, I'm sure we will kill each other.

panader0

(25,816 posts)
11. And I thought it was separate bathrooms!
Thu Apr 27, 2017, 08:56 PM
Apr 2017

Congrats on the marriage. And thanks for all of the fine photos.

BlueMTexpat

(15,373 posts)
43. LOL - you may be right
Fri Apr 28, 2017, 04:07 AM
Apr 2017

about absence working wonders! My husband I will celebrate 36 years of married life in June. For each of us, it is a second marriage and we already had 28 years cumulative (15 for him; 13 for me) of married life with those spouses. We didn't even meet until those marriages were over and have also remained on good terms with the exes with whom we share children.

We are both very independent. We each had been single parents for a couple years before meeting. But even when we are apart, we are devoted to each other. He is also literally my best friend. Right now, he prefers to live in the US and I prefer to live in Switzerland although we spent the first 22 years of our marriage together, mostly on a daily basis. He just feels more comfortable in an anglophone environment in his silver years. I flourish in linguistic diversity.

We each travel to and spend several months in each other's residence so are able to experience the benefits of both countries and we enjoy traveling to new countries together. We each have many interests and friends on both sides of The Pond, although our children and grandchildren live in various parts of the US. In this way, they are able to visit here and learn about the world outside the US firsthand. In fact, one DIL and our 10-year-old granddaughter will visit this summer, while my husband is also here. With electronic communication like Skype, Google+, Duo, etc., we are all able to remain in touch - on a daily basis, if need be.

Our lifestyle doesn't work for everyone and yes, we are only able to afford it because of good career decisions, hard work, good luck and financial planning on both our parts - even though we are nowhere near the very privileged ones and never even want to be. All grandchildren except for the three youngest have completed or are in the process of completing university educations, in large part with our financial assistance as well as their own hard work. We have set up 529 accounts for the three youngest into which we contribute each month and hope that we will be around to see them as adults.

We have no idea how much longer we will be able to live like this - given our comparatively advanced ages and my real fear that Trump and his ilk could destroy the civilized world as we know it. But we will continue to enjoy life as long and as best as we can.

We wish that ALL could have the same opportunity to live their lives as happily and as fully as possible!

asiliveandbreathe

(8,203 posts)
4. Congrats to both of you -
Thu Apr 27, 2017, 08:37 PM
Apr 2017

Thank you for the beautiful beach pic..reminds me of Horseneck Beach in Mass.. brings back wonderful memories.....tks again..

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,708 posts)
12. Congrats to you both, my dear DemoTex!
Thu Apr 27, 2017, 08:56 PM
Apr 2017

Long happy marriages are the exception these days.

May you have many more years together!

DemoTex

(25,403 posts)
32. Thanks Peg!
Thu Apr 27, 2017, 10:26 PM
Apr 2017

Just saw the invites to view the stained glass. I'll be checking that out. Loved stained glass.

Tikki

(14,559 posts)
17. Congratulations, you two....
Thu Apr 27, 2017, 09:15 PM
Apr 2017

Beautiful beach,beautiful beach walker and beautiful sky.

Hugs to you both

The Tikkis

herding cats

(19,568 posts)
21. Congratulations to the both of you!
Thu Apr 27, 2017, 09:31 PM
Apr 2017

That's an amazing milestone to reach. That you're still in love is the reason you've made it this far in your lives together.

May the two of you enjoy many, many more beautiful anniversaries together!

P.S. The love of my life and myself just celebrated our anniversary yesterday. You inspire me as to what our future still holds.

Dem2theMax

(9,654 posts)
22. I rarely post, but this OP made me log in. :-)
Thu Apr 27, 2017, 09:33 PM
Apr 2017

For starters, DemoTex, I LOVE your photographs. I'm always green with envy, and wanting to be in all the places where you take your fantastic photos.

Then you tell us about 43 years of marriage. That is something to celebrate in today's world. My parents made it just shy of 66 years, and if not for their deaths, they would still be going strong.

My Dad had a business that ended up being a family business. So we all worked there, including my Mom. But they still had time away from each other. Add to that the fact that my Dad was a workaholic. We thought he'd be dead six months after retirement, as he wouldn't know what to do with himself. My Mom thought he'd be following her around all day long.
But he found this silly game where you hit a ball and chase it for hours on end, trying to hit it into a tiny hole many yards down a fairway. And my Mom finally had time to discover the artistic side of herself.

So keep enjoying the years together. And when you truly are living in the same place 24/7, remember this. HOBBIES.

Congratulations on 43, and may many more years filled with love be ahead of you.

DemoTex

(25,403 posts)
26. Thanks, Dem2theMax
Thu Apr 27, 2017, 09:52 PM
Apr 2017

We are really very close, now. She wants me to travel to Europe. But we have done that. Tonight, I suggested a winter trip to Cuba. She loved that idea!

furtheradu

(1,865 posts)
30. Beauti FULL!! Her, You, the Love Story, this photo. .
Thu Apr 27, 2017, 10:03 PM
Apr 2017

All Your photos. Thank YOU! Bless & Best wishes, Y'all! 💖

mnhtnbb

(31,404 posts)
31. Happy Anniversary!
Thu Apr 27, 2017, 10:12 PM
Apr 2017

What a lovely shot. May you have many more years of splendid togetherness, with the time for each of you to enjoy what you also like to do alone.

dae

(3,396 posts)
38. Congrats! My wife and I made 45 years this past January.
Thu Apr 27, 2017, 11:51 PM
Apr 2017

After we were married my mother told her she could finish raising me.

Lyricalinklines

(367 posts)
39. Congratulations! Wishing you ever expanding happiness!
Fri Apr 28, 2017, 12:51 AM
Apr 2017

Love your photos!

Thanks for sharing them and your lovely news here!

Rhiannon12866

(206,034 posts)
44. Congratulations!
Fri Apr 28, 2017, 04:41 AM
Apr 2017

And I also thank you for the spectacular photos! Sounds like you're doing everything right!


TNNurse

(6,929 posts)
46. I do not think that this lovely photo
Fri Apr 28, 2017, 07:50 AM
Apr 2017

goes against her wishes. Happy Anniversary, our 38th is in a couple of weeks.

DFW

(54,437 posts)
57. Way to go Mr. & Mrs. DemoTex!
Fri Apr 28, 2017, 02:48 PM
Apr 2017

In a way, we have a 43rd anniversary too this year. We've "only" been married 35 years, but we met in a cabaret in Berlin 43 years ago, and have been together since about 48 hours after that.

Go ahead and post a photo--just don't tell her. That's what I do with my wife. She looks so much better than I do, it saves people's screens from cracking, which is what happens when it's only me in the photo.

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