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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsToday: Married to this beach walker for 43 years today!
She forbids me from posting her photos anywhere, but I don't think this counts! Don't tell. Still in love.
Metatron
(1,258 posts)justhanginon
(3,290 posts)ADX
(1,622 posts)43 years is a long time; what's the secret?
DemoTex
(25,403 posts)For years, I was an airline pilot and she travelled a lot, so we did not get on each others' nerves at home. Then, in 2008, I started doing the wilderness fire lookout gig. And did that until 2016 (I am taking the 2017 fire season off). So again, separation. Works wonders!
When we both retire, for good, I'm sure we will kill each other.
panader0
(25,816 posts)Congrats on the marriage. And thanks for all of the fine photos.
jpak
(41,759 posts)Last edited Thu Apr 27, 2017, 09:58 PM - Edit history (1)
Works for me...
OnDoutside
(19,972 posts)BlueMTexpat
(15,373 posts)about absence working wonders! My husband I will celebrate 36 years of married life in June. For each of us, it is a second marriage and we already had 28 years cumulative (15 for him; 13 for me) of married life with those spouses. We didn't even meet until those marriages were over and have also remained on good terms with the exes with whom we share children.
We are both very independent. We each had been single parents for a couple years before meeting. But even when we are apart, we are devoted to each other. He is also literally my best friend. Right now, he prefers to live in the US and I prefer to live in Switzerland although we spent the first 22 years of our marriage together, mostly on a daily basis. He just feels more comfortable in an anglophone environment in his silver years. I flourish in linguistic diversity.
We each travel to and spend several months in each other's residence so are able to experience the benefits of both countries and we enjoy traveling to new countries together. We each have many interests and friends on both sides of The Pond, although our children and grandchildren live in various parts of the US. In this way, they are able to visit here and learn about the world outside the US firsthand. In fact, one DIL and our 10-year-old granddaughter will visit this summer, while my husband is also here. With electronic communication like Skype, Google+, Duo, etc., we are all able to remain in touch - on a daily basis, if need be.
Our lifestyle doesn't work for everyone and yes, we are only able to afford it because of good career decisions, hard work, good luck and financial planning on both our parts - even though we are nowhere near the very privileged ones and never even want to be. All grandchildren except for the three youngest have completed or are in the process of completing university educations, in large part with our financial assistance as well as their own hard work. We have set up 529 accounts for the three youngest into which we contribute each month and hope that we will be around to see them as adults.
We have no idea how much longer we will be able to live like this - given our comparatively advanced ages and my real fear that Trump and his ilk could destroy the civilized world as we know it. But we will continue to enjoy life as long and as best as we can.
We wish that ALL could have the same opportunity to live their lives as happily and as fully as possible!
asiliveandbreathe
(8,203 posts)Thank you for the beautiful beach pic..reminds me of Horseneck Beach in Mass.. brings back wonderful memories.....tks again..
babylonsister
(171,092 posts)malaise
(269,170 posts)sheshe2
(83,913 posts)livetohike
(22,163 posts)together .
mcar
(42,375 posts)CaliforniaPeggy
(149,708 posts)Long happy marriages are the exception these days.
May you have many more years together!
DemoTex
(25,403 posts)Just saw the invites to view the stained glass. I'll be checking that out. Loved stained glass.
ismnotwasm
(42,014 posts)Hubby and I just celebrated 24 years!
Lochloosa
(16,068 posts)TexasProgresive
(12,158 posts)Congrats on 43 years. We are 3 months ahead of you two.
DemoTex
(25,403 posts)jrthin
(4,837 posts)nolabear
(41,991 posts)A beach, a good fella...
Tikki
(14,559 posts)Beautiful beach,beautiful beach walker and beautiful sky.
Hugs to you both
The Tikkis
kimbutgar
(21,195 posts)Congrats!
PoliticAverse
(26,366 posts)herding cats
(19,568 posts)That's an amazing milestone to reach. That you're still in love is the reason you've made it this far in your lives together.
May the two of you enjoy many, many more beautiful anniversaries together!
P.S. The love of my life and myself just celebrated our anniversary yesterday. You inspire me as to what our future still holds.
Dem2theMax
(9,654 posts)For starters, DemoTex, I LOVE your photographs. I'm always green with envy, and wanting to be in all the places where you take your fantastic photos.
Then you tell us about 43 years of marriage. That is something to celebrate in today's world. My parents made it just shy of 66 years, and if not for their deaths, they would still be going strong.
My Dad had a business that ended up being a family business. So we all worked there, including my Mom. But they still had time away from each other. Add to that the fact that my Dad was a workaholic. We thought he'd be dead six months after retirement, as he wouldn't know what to do with himself. My Mom thought he'd be following her around all day long.
But he found this silly game where you hit a ball and chase it for hours on end, trying to hit it into a tiny hole many yards down a fairway. And my Mom finally had time to discover the artistic side of herself.
So keep enjoying the years together. And when you truly are living in the same place 24/7, remember this. HOBBIES.
Congratulations on 43, and may many more years filled with love be ahead of you.
DemoTex
(25,403 posts)We are really very close, now. She wants me to travel to Europe. But we have done that. Tonight, I suggested a winter trip to Cuba. She loved that idea!
prayin4rain
(2,065 posts)struggle4progress
(118,350 posts)KT2000
(20,588 posts)Congrats on your anniversary!
luvMIdog
(2,533 posts)shenmue
(38,506 posts)furtheradu
(1,865 posts)All Your photos. Thank YOU! Bless & Best wishes, Y'all! 💖
mnhtnbb
(31,404 posts)What a lovely shot. May you have many more years of splendid togetherness, with the time for each of you to enjoy what you also like to do alone.
archiemo
(493 posts)gademocrat7
(10,670 posts)Hekate
(90,817 posts)AllaN01Bear
(18,422 posts)dae
(3,396 posts)After we were married my mother told her she could finish raising me.
Lyricalinklines
(367 posts)Love your photos!
Thanks for sharing them and your lovely news here!
ashling
(25,771 posts)Melodie and I will make it 37 in a little over a week
SunSeeker
(51,709 posts)BlueMTexpat
(15,373 posts)and congratulations!
Rhiannon12866
(206,034 posts)And I also thank you for the spectacular photos! Sounds like you're doing everything right!
TxDemChem
(1,918 posts)Beautiful picture
TNNurse
(6,929 posts)goes against her wishes. Happy Anniversary, our 38th is in a couple of weeks.
AwakeAtLast
(14,134 posts)Wishing you many more!
NewJeffCT
(56,829 posts)may you two enjoy continued happiness together.
iluvtennis
(19,873 posts)niyad
(113,573 posts)Faux pas
(14,690 posts)proud! Congrats to you and your beloved DemoTex!
underpants
(182,883 posts)Congratulations
sellitman
(11,607 posts)Sand between your toes and the salt air upon your faces.
Moostache
(9,897 posts)DFW
(54,437 posts)In a way, we have a 43rd anniversary too this year. We've "only" been married 35 years, but we met in a cabaret in Berlin 43 years ago, and have been together since about 48 hours after that.
Go ahead and post a photo--just don't tell her. That's what I do with my wife. She looks so much better than I do, it saves people's screens from cracking, which is what happens when it's only me in the photo.
barbtries
(28,811 posts)i'll never tell.
Aristus
(66,462 posts)I'm happy for you both. Many, many more years together...
trof
(54,256 posts)Congratulations to you both.
bench scientist
(1,107 posts)kstewart33
(6,551 posts)That's wonderful!