Passive aggressive comments. How do you deal

[canetoad]

The ones that say shit like "but you knew that anyway". How do you deal with them and retain your dignity?

[PoliticAverse]

1. You ignore them, but you knew that anyway. n/t

[canetoad]

3. Bwahhhaaahhaaa

You are correct.

[retrowire]

12. onto the ignore list you go!!!!!!111!!! lol jk nt

[vlyons]

2. Were it me

I would ask, "Why do you say that?" Or I might say something like, "I'm disappointed that you would make a passive-agressive statement like that. I thought you were a better person than that."

[whathehell]

4. Yeah..I've heard that

"You can't win with a passive-aggressive", but I think there must be ways...I like your suggestion, which calls them out on it directly, not allowing them to "hide", so to speak.

[elehhhhna]

7. Say "wow" and stare a hole through them

[whathehell]

11. Another good idea..

My only sibling, an older sister, is passive aggressive, and I've always disliked that part of her...Passive aggression always seems so cowardly and sneaky to me.

[True Blue American]

5. The worst

Are those who insist on correcting grammar and typo's.

But they have an inferiority complex.

[PJMcK]

8. The plural of "typo" is "typos"

No need for an apostrophe but you already knew that.

(big wink)

[True Blue American]

10. I am sorry

You have such an inferiority complex! Will keep that is mind when you correct me.

[Ken Burch]

23. PjMck will.

But you knew that already. And aye think you meant to write "Will keep that in mind".

How's that for getting in the spirit of the thread?

(see if you can spot the typos, btw).

[Bernardo de La Paz]

14. Helping a DU member with grammar/spelling is positive and community minded.

Clear writing takes one writer a few extra seconds and saves a few seconds a thousand times over when there are a thousand readers.

Ascribing "an inferiority complex" to a person is a personal attack. What does that say about you?

[canetoad]

16. Not a clue

actually. Your response barely makes sense.

[Bernardo de La Paz]

18. I'm sorry I did not write clearly enough for you. If you want to take it to DU mail, be my guest. nt

[canetoad]

19. Nah, I'll pass thanks. nt

[True Blue American]

22. It may say I hit home.You do know it was a joke following a joke?

I have no objection to being corrected.

[Blue_Adept]

6. "You may want to reflect why you're so easily passive-aggressive"

Put the thought into their head like an earworm.

[raccoon]

9. You can say, "That was a passive aggressive remark."

In the book, TONGUE FU, she calls it "naming the game."

Or, (I really like this one

"What did you hope to gain (or accomplish) by saying that?"

[Buckeye_Democrat]

13. I've replied that way with some people, but they were previously...

... upset at me for supposedly speaking in a condescending tone -- e.g., "Do you think I don't know that?!"

It was information that many people wouldn't know, so my previous "condescension" wasn't intentional either.

Those people had previously displayed ignorance about some work-related topics, so it would've been irresponsible of me to keep my mouth closed as well.

[Vinnie From Indy]

15. I always say in response

I am not going to sit here and listen to you bad mouth the United States of America!

GOOD DAY!

[The Big Ragu]

17. I don't have people like that around me

I don't tolerate what is intolerable. It's better to steer clear of toxic people and just not deal with them.

ON EDIT: when people do that, it is best to call them out on it IMMEDIATELY and shut their ass down.

[tblue37]

20. Passive aggressive behavior is how people act out when they feel they

don't have power or control.

It is a way of trying to assert power by obstruction. That is why three-year-olds drag their heels when you are trying to get them ready to leave the house on time, and why students, even in college, have to be told every darned class period to take out their books or notebooks and their pens or pencils, even though they know they will be needed every time.

[edhopper]

21. "I knew that anyway,

but somehow you still needed to say it."

Or self deprecating; "Well, obviously I didn't"

And then there's; "Too bad we aren't all perfect."