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xor

(1,204 posts)
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 07:28 PM Jan 2017

I had a rather useless and unproductive attempt at a conversation with some conservative/trump

supporters. It wasn't even trying to make any sort of politicalized statement. I'd say it was even more of an academic discussion attempt. We were talking about the shooting in FL and terrorism came into the conversation. All I said was that terrorism is difficult for me to define and I was curious how they define it. Basically bringing up the Dylan Roof thing and how he was obviously mentally ill, but he also was influenced by racist ideologies and all that stuff. Then asking how that compares to say a self-radicalized jihadist with a history of mental illness read material from jihadist sources and posed with an ISIS flag etc, and then went out and commit some sort of acts of violence. That really seemed to have set them off and they just start babbling about nonsense totally unrelated to the conversation (saying how I always have to argue, mostly) They weren't too fond of me saying it's a bit early to make some assumptions about it being Islamic terrorist, and there is nothing to support that all yet.

I don't even know how to deal with these sort of people. I also see this on the left at times too, but not to the same extent. I'd also say when it comes from the left I might find it annoying, but I'm never 'fearful' of what is being said. If that makes any sense.

Why is it so difficult for a good portion of this country to have calm and rational discussions about difficult topics? People ignore the nuances and use broad brush strokes of black & white paint. Forget breaking things down and attempting to understand or think for ourselves. Let others tell us how to think and what we should preach to others. It's not like we actually have to be able to understand and defend our positions, because we don't listen to other's criticism anyway. We just talk AT people until they shut up.


*I suppose it's always possible I'm the difficult one and I just don't realize it.

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I had a rather useless and unproductive attempt at a conversation with some conservative/trump (Original Post) xor Jan 2017 OP
I would define Terrorism as MicaelS Jan 2017 #1
I bet you didn't get upset when you read the question, right? xor Jan 2017 #7
Of course we could discuss it without meltdown. MicaelS Jan 2017 #11
And under this definition Dylan Roof should have been declared a terrorist. alphafemale Jan 2017 #18
Agreed. n/t MicaelS Jan 2017 #19
I live in this State Senate district. Gut wrenching. alphafemale Jan 2017 #28
Its simple. Bible bangin and RW media, underpinning Grey Lemercier Jan 2017 #2
I really like your tagline photos! Ligyron Jan 2017 #22
Thanks! Grey Lemercier Jan 2017 #25
That one's a keeper. Ligyron Jan 2017 #31
Because they are psychologically unbalanced. pangaia Jan 2017 #3
Yeah, pure emotional thinking. xor Jan 2017 #8
That is also true. pangaia Jan 2017 #15
I read here a couple of days ago that conservatives subscribe to the premise that we are born bad. hedda_foil Jan 2017 #32
The vast majority of people only act emotionally. AngryAmish Jan 2017 #20
If children aren't allowed to vote, why do repukes dominate the polls? meow2u3 Jan 2017 #29
Trump is a racist, sexist xenophobe. MADem Jan 2017 #4
I fully understand that sentiment. xor Jan 2017 #12
You have more patience than I. MADem Jan 2017 #13
could also be masochism on my part xor Jan 2017 #17
Like trying to teach a pig to sing Phoenix61 Jan 2017 #5
Oh jeez shenmue Jan 2017 #27
The right wing (and apparently Russia) figured out how to trigger lizard brains. yardwork Jan 2017 #6
I'm constantly seeing those fake news stories still xor Jan 2017 #14
It's the Evangelical Christian Trump supporters who are most incomprehensible to me. hunter Jan 2017 #9
I haven't dealt with any God Wants Trump to President people yet xor Jan 2017 #16
I've encountered the "God anoints all Republicans" crowd for decades now Generic Brad Jan 2017 #30
Conservatives I know absolutely refuse to discuss any idea milestogo Jan 2017 #10
Large numbers of people lack critical thinking skills and cannot discern shades of gray. LonePirate Jan 2017 #21
Good start, Xor! There are articles and books about how Hortensis Jan 2017 #23
They live in their own collective alternate reality Cosmocat Jan 2017 #24
This Guy Tried to Section 8 Himself! ProfessorGAC Jan 2017 #26

MicaelS

(8,747 posts)
1. I would define Terrorism as
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 07:38 PM
Jan 2017

An act with political intent. Otherwise you will have every mutiple victim attack being defined as terrorism.

xor

(1,204 posts)
7. I bet you didn't get upset when you read the question, right?
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 07:50 PM
Jan 2017

Now with that we could easily go into a discussion about would it matter if the person in question suffered from mental illness and how political intent would be recognized. I've seen you post on here and I have a feeling you and I could have this discussion without either of us melting down. It just baffles me how so many are incapable of that. They take personal offense to anything that doesn't line up with exactly how they are told to think, or think others should think.

MicaelS

(8,747 posts)
11. Of course we could discuss it without meltdown.
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 07:56 PM
Jan 2017

We might disagree on some points, but would probably agree on many points. As to the rest you are challenging their worldview, and thus themselves, and they just can't handle that.

 

alphafemale

(18,497 posts)
18. And under this definition Dylan Roof should have been declared a terrorist.
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 08:27 PM
Jan 2017

His intent was to start a race war.

 

alphafemale

(18,497 posts)
28. I live in this State Senate district. Gut wrenching.
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 09:19 PM
Jan 2017

About an hour and a half away but that was my State Senator and I work with people that knew the victims personally.

And in THAT church. Of all places.

 

Grey Lemercier

(1,429 posts)
2. Its simple. Bible bangin and RW media, underpinning
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 07:39 PM
Jan 2017

greed, racism, homophobia, misogyny, and a hyper violent culture.

They are brainwashed from birth in an insanely holistic, sophisticated, scientific fashion. There is basically no hope they can escape from their iron-clad brainwashing. When they do encounter truth thats exposes the onrushing trainwteck that will befall the nation and themselves, they will simply retreat into normalcy bias.

pangaia

(24,324 posts)
3. Because they are psychologically unbalanced.
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 07:40 PM
Jan 2017

They are 'thinking' with their emotions.

It is like driving a car, having an oncoming truck suddenly cross the center line and head right at you.
THIS is the time for the emotions to take over first, as the emotions are the fastest to react. FEAR strikes!! The body, the next fastest acting 'center,' if you will, quickly turns the wheel, or whatever.
If the driver uses his brain first, he is dead because the brain is the slowest..

Certain functions should use the brain, other functions the emotions, or feelings, and yet others the body... as well as varying combinations. Classical musician must learn to use all three in a perfectly complimentary manner. (This is one reason you very rarely find classical musicians killing people, although I am sure it does happen; rarely prone to violence, etc.)

Your trump/conservative folks have never learned to use these three centers correctly. They are psychological children.

xor

(1,204 posts)
8. Yeah, pure emotional thinking.
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 07:53 PM
Jan 2017

But it seems at the same time a lot of them have no emotional empathy for others who are not "them"

hedda_foil

(16,375 posts)
32. I read here a couple of days ago that conservatives subscribe to the premise that we are born bad.
Sat Jan 7, 2017, 01:55 AM
Jan 2017

In that framework. the job of parents is to force the child into submission so that they will become good adults ... often requiring the kid to be "born again" by submitting to Christ. It's an elaboration on the "strict father" principle. In this scenario, children or adults who do not fit their strict standards are simply being spoiled into laziness and other forms of bad behavior. For them, the only way to discourage this kind of bad behavior is heavy punishment.

Liberals, on the other hand, believe kids are born good and need nurturing to encourage them to achieve t on their good impulses toward kindness, generosity and empathy.

It's an entirely different world view, with strong religious implications. We think they're stupid and mean. They think we're naive at best.

 

AngryAmish

(25,704 posts)
20. The vast majority of people only act emotionally.
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 08:43 PM
Jan 2017

Of those people that do not tend to have various degrees of autism or are LessWrong types (and that Venn diagram has a lot of middle).

Intelligent people make up their minds emotionally and come up with good reasons after the fact.

Less intelligent people make up their minds emotionally and come up with less good reasons after the fact.

You and your intellect were created by evolution. Knowing the truth does not pass your genes on. Having a working model of reality that maximizes the likelihood that your children reproduce a lot does. R or k.

meow2u3

(24,764 posts)
29. If children aren't allowed to vote, why do repukes dominate the polls?
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 09:22 PM
Jan 2017

They're psychological children. They act like children, acting emotionally instead of using their heads, so they should be treated like children (hint, hint).

MADem

(135,425 posts)
4. Trump is a racist, sexist xenophobe.
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 07:43 PM
Jan 2017

Anyone who voted for him tolerated this POV, and thus, THEY are racist, sexist, xenophobes--there's no parsing.

Anyone who voted for Trump is on my shit list for this reason. I don't tolerate people who hold those views. My "understanding" stops at that line. If that's being "intolerant" because I don't put up with hate, well, there it is.

Fuck 'em.

xor

(1,204 posts)
12. I fully understand that sentiment.
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 07:58 PM
Jan 2017

I often times disengage right away when I see there is no possible insight I could gain from such people. Although, I like to see how things tick and what makes people draw certain conclusions. Like the specifics "facts" (or what they view as facts) and the conclusion they draw from those. Sometimes I can break those down and prove them incorrect or point out the flawed logic. Sadly that seems to be becoming more and more futile these days.

Phoenix61

(17,006 posts)
5. Like trying to teach a pig to sing
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 07:43 PM
Jan 2017

I tried the same thing. Several weeks ago I tried to talk to someone about Russia hacking the DNC. After he told me he couldn't wait for that n****r to get out of the White House, that the DNC was not hacked, he called me stupid. Really? Can't wait to see him again.

yardwork

(61,622 posts)
6. The right wing (and apparently Russia) figured out how to trigger lizard brains.
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 07:47 PM
Jan 2017

It sounds like the people you talked with were overcome with emotions - mostly fear and anger. That's why they kept reverting to emotional accusations and couldn't focus on rational elements of the conversation.

Some people are more susceptible than others to emotional triggers. Hate radio, internet sites, Fox News - they are designed to rile people up, trigger emotional responses. Then those people are easily influenced and controlled. Half the country seems to be affected.

xor

(1,204 posts)
14. I'm constantly seeing those fake news stories still
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 08:11 PM
Jan 2017

I find it scary how easily they can be manipulated because they are hearing what they want to hear.


And no matter how much they proven to be wrong, the same people seem to fall back into the same trap. I pointed this out to someone facebook the other day. I'm like, dude, you posted a BS article from that site the other day and you admitted it was BS after it was debunked. Why are you posting another BS article from the same site without doing any sort of research first? I didn't get a response to that.

hunter

(38,313 posts)
9. It's the Evangelical Christian Trump supporters who are most incomprehensible to me.
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 07:54 PM
Jan 2017

God wants Trump to be President??? Are you kidding me???

In what universe does that make any sense?

If Trump was living in Biblical times he'd be one of the hucksters in the Temple market and Jesus would be tipping over his tables.

"And Jesus went into the temple of God, and cast out all them that sold and bought in the temple, and overthrew the tables of the moneychangers, and the seats of them that sold doves, And said unto them, It is written, My house shall be called the house of prayer; but ye have made it a den of thieves."


BTW, good name. xor is my favorite logic gate and computer programming instruction.



Don't ask me why, it's like having a favorite number.

xor

(1,204 posts)
16. I haven't dealt with any God Wants Trump to President people yet
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 08:18 PM
Jan 2017

Although I tend to avoid highly religious people in general. Well, at least highly religious people who make it known they are to everyone that they extremely religious.

But yeah, I don't understand how anyone can claim to believe in the "good parts" of the bible and also support Trump.


heh thanks for the name compliment XNOR should I say complement? I like to keep things geeky.

Generic Brad

(14,275 posts)
30. I've encountered the "God anoints all Republicans" crowd for decades now
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 09:35 PM
Jan 2017

I've been called a baby killer by family members because I admitted to voting for Democrats.

You cannot rationalize with the irrational. Either you accept that you are a pariah to them and have to constantly put up with being told you are going to incinerate in hell for eternity every time you see them or you muster the strength to walk away and never look back.

Those people do exist. They are not mythical. And when they are family their harassment can get to the point where you have to escape. Consider yourself fortunate.

milestogo

(16,829 posts)
10. Conservatives I know absolutely refuse to discuss any idea
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 07:55 PM
Jan 2017

that contradicts what they believe.. its like you are making a personal attack when you say something they just don't want to hear. I think only a drastic change in life circumstances can get through to these people, because rational discussion never will.

LonePirate

(13,424 posts)
21. Large numbers of people lack critical thinking skills and cannot discern shades of gray.
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 08:46 PM
Jan 2017

You can see the effects which propaganda like Fox News have on them. They are simply unequipped for life in this complex world of ours.

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
23. Good start, Xor! There are articles and books about how
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 08:55 PM
Jan 2017

to talk to today's conservatives. The only technique I remember, though, is to explain briefly to them why you yourself feel a certain way about an issue ("because we can extend healthcare to everyone, to me it is a moral duty, and a sensible practical one as well&quot , without asking them to explain their positions. If they try, smile and nod and accept.

Of course they're sensitive to being in this position, though. Most simply cannot explain themselves. Their gut conservative feelings are very real, but, surprisingly to me it turns out that before the 1950s there was NO SUCH THING as a conservative political ideology. (Very unlike liberalism's intellectual foundation which formed generally speaking during the Enlightenment and formed the basis for the establishment of our nation.) Intellectuals like Bill Buckley tried to give the right more than just a gut resistance to change and/or "other" to rally around, but around the 1970s cynical extremist manipulators out to change America went to work destroying the brief culture of traditional conservativism that had formed and started turning conservatives into attack dogs against the left.

No surprise researchers are finding most trumpsters have no coherent or consistent ideology. One decade they're superpatriots, another they're working for Russia against the U.S.--whatever their leaders call for. Therefore, any situation that requires them to consider why they are defending a certain position today is likely to upset them. And it's incredibly bad now, no matter how much excited enthusiasm they display. In order to support Trump, they had to abandon intellect, their lifelong moral codes and standards of appropriate behavior, and even the precepts of their religion.

So, until you find more complex techniques to copy, maybe next time just slip a little important information the Daily Caller is hiding from them into the discussion and a brief, cheery explanation the basis of your own position and help them move on to something more comfortable for them before they harden up their resistance.

There need to be many next times. We have a big job to do.

Cosmocat

(14,564 posts)
24. They live in their own collective alternate reality
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 08:56 PM
Jan 2017

and quite frankly, most of them know it, but they like their meanspirited, angry world so much better than reality they don't care.

It is like the movie Inception, they like it so much in their dream world they just have chosen to stay in it.

ProfessorGAC

(65,049 posts)
26. This Guy Tried to Section 8 Himself!
Fri Jan 6, 2017, 09:01 PM
Jan 2017

As a civilian!!!!
They ignored it
Why?
RREAGAN defunded mental health support 30+ years ago
I BLAME REAGAN!
Well, that will spin their shrunken heads!

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