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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsThe proper punishment for the negligent mother at the Cincinnati Zoo
would be at least a lifetime ban from the zoo.
As for criminal charges, I'll punt on that one, but CPS should investigate.
CincyDem
(6,363 posts)And CPS has already ruled out charges. Hamilton County prosecutor gets a run at it too but he's not going to touch it.
Banning the family from the zoo is antithetical to the zoo's mission of bringing nature and the community together. Punishing the family for this isn't in their persona. I think the assumption that mom was negligent is misplaced. She's not the first mother who's taken her eye off the 4-year old for a minute. She won't be the last. That's doesn't make her a criminal.
Sometimes what is easy to judge in others as bad parenting is just human parenting.
BTW - Zoo point of view is "it happened, lets make sure it doesn't happen again". They're not pointing any fingers.
http://local12.com/news/local/zoo-director-not-pointing-fingers-over-harambe-incident
Silver_Witch
(1,820 posts)Should we grieve or just just say oh hell it was an accident - these things happen.
The only one paying for this is a poor innocent Harambe! No sympathy for him eh?
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)LibDemAlways
(15,139 posts)to prevent a child from slipping into the gorilla habitat in the first place is, IMO, the main cause of this incident. I assume changes will be made. It is terrible that the gorilla paid with its life for what was faulty barrier design coupled with a parent's momentary inattention.
COLGATE4
(14,732 posts)barriers in order to get into the gorilla pen. How many more are necessary?
Gormy Cuss
(30,884 posts)The San Francisco zoo had a tiger leap out of its enclosure to attack 3 adults who had been harassing it. Tiger and one guy died. SF Zoo completely redesigned the big cat enclosure and some other habitats because their existing barrier system was antiquated, just like this barrier at Cincy.
Now there are Plexiglas panels extending up to 6 ft at the outer most barrier fence (a bonus is this cuts the noise stress for the animals) and wider moats.
mahatmakanejeeves
(57,489 posts)I'm quoting myself from Saturday night's LBN thread, Gorilla killed after 3-year-old falls into enclosure at Cincinnati Zoo.
They are required to do so.
I work with ANSI standards. ANSI is the American National Standards Institute. There's an ANSI standard - or several - for every thing out there. How wide are steps? ANSI standard. What's their slope? ANSI standard. How high are doorknobs (or levers)? ANSI standard. How much effort is required to turn them? ANSI standard. Ski lifts? ANSI standard. Everything has an ANSI standard.
I'm sure that zoos are members of standards-setting organizations too. I did some digging this morning and came up with this. These standards deal with the welfare of the enclosed animals. I'll keep looking to see what standards there are to deal with the humans viewing the animals.
Zoological Association of America Animal Care & Enclosure Standards and Related Policies
Scroll down to page 49:
Facilities shall develop, implement, and enforce sufficient risk management practices and policies that include all relevant aspects of the facility.
Facilities meeting any of the following criteria must have, at least, the associated procedure:
1. Owns, houses, or otherwise maintains live specimens (regardless of public viewings)
a. Animal escape procedure
i. Must include means of resolving the escaped animal situation
ii. Include specifics for facilities containing Class I and/or Class II species
b. Other
2. Open to the public (public visit the facility)
a. Accident (animal and non-animal) procedure
b. Incidents involving an animal or animal exhibit (such as, if a person enters an exhibit)
c. Other
3. Subjected to unpredictable or devastating acts of nature (such as tornadoes, hurricanes, flooding, fires, etc.)
a. Appropriate protocol to plan for, exist through, and recuperate after (animal related)
b. Other
4. Employs staff
a. Training manuals and protocols (to include safety requirements)
b. Other
5. Other
a. Trespassers
b. Security
c. Burglary
d. General Safety
e. Other
Sufficient protocols must cover all applicable aspects of the facility. 1. A sufficient protocol shall be properly implemented by following three steps: a. Training: all relevant staff shall be fully trained on the protocol. b. Written: the protocol must be written down and included as part of the required duties of all relevant staff and prominently posted in the relevant area. c. Supervision: the owner or manager must ensure adherence to the protocol through supervision or other appropriate means, to include enforcement.
Whatever written protocol is in place at the Cincinnati Zoo, if it's not currently publicly accessible, it will be FOIA'd pretty soon.
A post elsewhere says there are federal
ETA: Here are the Federal regulations governing the only Federally owned zoo in the country:
CHAPTER VSMITHSONIAN INSTITUTION
PART 520RULES AND REGULATIONS GOVERNING THE BUILDINGS AND GROUNDS OF THE NATIONAL ZOOLOGICAL PARK OF THE SMITHSONIAN INSTITUTION
Response to mahatmakanejeeves (Reply #40)
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CincyDem
(6,363 posts)And I ask that in all seriousness. What would you like to see done that will somehow mitigate the loss of this amazing animal? You ask me about my sympathies, eh. Let me ask you...
How did you feel when you visited the Cincinnati Zoo and saw him for the first time last year walking around his area like he owned the place? Tall, confident, present. What was that like for you?
How did you feel when, after watching for almost an hour, you started to realize that he seemed to be looking directly at you? Could you tell what he was thinking?
How will you feel next time you're at the zoo and you realize that he's not going to be there ? I know how I'll feel so with all due respect, you can stuff your assumptions about my sympathies.
But enough about me, let's get back to the point. What do you want done that will balance the scales and purportedly make this all even ?
Silver_Witch
(1,820 posts)CincyDem
(6,363 posts)...I'll do exactly what you can do with your presumptive attitude about who is and isn't sympathetic. And when we're done, we'll still be wondering if you have a suggestion of what to do or if you just wanted to toss a little chum in the water.
Have a great evening.
momto3
(662 posts)And much more eloquently said than I could have done. I love the Cincy zoo. It holds many great memories for me.
JPnoodleman
(454 posts)The zoo would be sued to death and it would be much worse.
"News at 11, gorilla rips child apart."
YEAH....... I am sure that is the PR the Zoo wants on its back.
Silver_Witch
(1,820 posts)In fact the child was not hurt and was released from the hospital with out much more than a scratch.
Nothing in the videos of the incident indicate the child was in immediate danger.
Tranquilizers would have been sufficient.
And the mother should watch her child....
laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)avebury
(10,952 posts)works for a day care. Given her lapse in judgement regarding her own child at the zoo I would be concerned about leaving my child at any day care the employees her.
bluestateguy
(44,173 posts)Rex
(65,616 posts)Human god =1 Gorilla god = 0
Agreed
CincyDem
(6,363 posts)Unfortunately, indifference in this country isn't a crime. Hell, in some circles it's a point of pride.
She's tone deaf to the global reaction and the broad effect this will have on the entire species. She's myopically focused on her child and her relief.
But that doesn't make her a criminal. It makes her human. Whether it be of their own making or from the actions (inactions) of others, they've just survived a hell of a trauma and it will effect their family forever. So much so, in fact you have to wonder if they'll ever go to the zoo again with our without any action from the zoo.
But seriously...if we tried to punish everyone afflicted with indifference like this...the prisons would be overflowing with republican congressmen and their supporters, eh?
Jim Beard
(2,535 posts)interested in their son.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)It's like the gorilla was a car fire, or an out of control lawnmower or a sinkhole.
But as I said in the thread where everyone trashed me, this is how this type of person thinks. God shed his grace on ME.
CincyDem
(6,363 posts)I'm sure that no other parent experience a lapse in judgement on Saturday. If fact, I'm sure that no day care worker has ever experienced a lapse in judgement with their own child. Good that your child has the opportunity to attend a day care where the employees are on 24-hour surveillance. Must be comforting.
avebury
(10,952 posts)carless with her own child to be looking after a child of mine. Had she admitted to the role that she played in the tragedy and actually appeared to learn from the incident then perhaps she would not be facing so much outrage from so many people. She has shown no remorse that her family caused the death of an endangered animal.
Given the fact that the world human population is well over 7 billion, the life of that endangered gorilla was of far greater value to this planet than the life of a child. Humans are responsible for the anthropcene extinction we are now experiencing and are of a greater threat to the planet then the endangered species we are so busy killing off.
CincyDem
(6,363 posts)On one hand, you care enough about your child's well being that you would not want him/her cared for by an individual who has had a lapse in judgement and shown insufficient remorse. Sounds like you're hyper attentive (in a good way) and seriously concerned about the well being of your child...so much so that you feel comfortable making judgements like this based on a 100 word Facebook post. That's your prerogative.
On the other hand, you think Harambe's life was of far greater value to this planet than the life of a child.
So I have to ask...when you say the "life of a child"...do you include your child in that equation? Or do you mean Issac, this child. Would you, if you could...willingly trade the life of your child for Harambe's if you could be guaranteed that he would live. Or are you simply suggesting that this day care provider trade the life of her child Issac for Harambe's.
See - always easy to point out what one of the other 7 billion of us should do but it's a lot tougher when it comes home to our house.
Enjoy what's left of your Memorial Day weekend.
SickOfTheOnePct
(7,290 posts)avebury
(10,952 posts)for the death of the gorilla because she failed to properly parent her child. Personally I believe that humans do not have the right to destroy other forms of life on the planet. Humans have become a plague to this planet no better than locusts. On James Patterson's book Zoo, I rooted for the animsls.
My child would never end up in a gorilla enclosure. And I would be willing to risk my life to save an animal. With human over population I would not do the same for a human. I turned down a request by a family member to test to see if I was a bone marrow match. I stand my convictions on the issue of himan over population.
CincyDem
(6,363 posts)Sounds like you think an appropriate punishment for what you see as Michelle's improper parenting is that Harambe should be alive and Issac should be dead. She failed in that brief moment and, because of her failure, humans made a decision to destroy another form of life.
Speaking as a representative of the Eighth Plague on Egypt, I respect your opinion and at the same time, I am thankful it isn't the prevailing opinion among the other 6,999,999,999 or so humans.
I'm sure your child would never end up in a gorilla enclosure. Aside from the odds of it being infinitesimally small in the absolute, I suspect actually going to the zoo is a prerequisite and my read is that's not on your list of Saturday outings with the kids. (it's like my mom said, if you want to win the lottery ya gotta buy a ticket) Just a projection and my apologies in advance if I've misread your relationship with the animal kingdom.
I'm sure it must have been difficult to deny a family member's request to consider being a bone marrow match. I understand it's not an easy procedure on either side and I hope they found someone who could in good conscience provide that support. Having had inter family transplants in my family, I understand how it can be a difficult time.
And I also appreciate your willingness to risk your life to save an animal. But that's not really the question here, is it? If you knew, that through some quirk of fate that you had the ability to offer up your child's life for Harambe...would you do it ? It's easy to suggest that Issac should be somewhere on a slab right now because he was doing the normal curious energetic 4 year old thing and it went very bad very fast but...if it were your child...what would you do?
Offering up your own life for your beliefs, an act considered admirable for ages, is one thing but what about offering up your child's life. Because that you want from Michelle so I'm asking you...have you really got what it take to do that.
I don't think so because the fact that you have chosen to bless your life with a child (or children) tells me that your commitment to reducing overpopulation doesn't start at home. And that's ok because it's just human. Welcome to the 7 billion.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)Marengo
(3,477 posts)And, being human, are you plague or locust?
mahatmakanejeeves
(57,489 posts)Last edited Tue May 31, 2016, 11:34 AM - Edit history (1)
....
So your response is to make another one? It's not clear. Because you went on to say:
Yeah, but....
Oh, never mind.
And your family dinners must be a real riot.
Here's the post, so that it can be viewed unedited:
for the death of the gorilla because she failed to properly parent her child. Personally I believe that humans do not have the right to destroy other forms of life on the planet. Humans have become a plague to this planet no better than locusts. On James Patterson's book Zoo, I rooted for the animsls.
My child would never end up in a gorilla enclosure. And I would be willing to risk my life to save an animal. With human over population I would not do the same for a human. I turned down a request by a family member to test to see if I was a bone marrow match. I stand my convictions on the issue of himan over population.
Jim Beard
(2,535 posts)Apparently they have not heard from those there actually taking the pictures and those who had been standing by the family before it happened.
tblue37
(65,408 posts)one of her other kids was upset about leaving, and she was trying to calm her down. It sounds as though she has changed her story to avoid seeming negligent.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)In fact, there were very possibly more than just the 2 things going on at the same time because that's life for parents out with children.
tblue37
(65,408 posts)and I have raised 37 kids (my 2 and 35 others). I often had at any moment 3 infants under one year old, as many as 5 kids under 5--usually around 2 or 3 years old. I had no car, so I had to walk to the store daily for groceries, and since parents were awful about not picking kids up at closing, I often had to walk 4 blocks to the store, including getting across our main street, with all of them, but always with at least several of them.
I took them to parks including ones some distance from home, and to the wading pool, a mile away, and always on foot. I never had a child run off from me or act up or bother other people. Nor did they mess with stuff on the shelves in stores, although the preschoolers were very helpful about getting things for me while we shopped, as long as the items were within their reach. I also never lost a child for even an instant, nor did one ever get hurt in my care.
But I had certain advantages. Most of my daycare kids came to me at two months, or even two weeks (!) of age. Thus I was able to train them the way I trained my own kids, which meant talking to them in a way that made all of them extraordinarily advanced in their language development. Kids understand words and sentences long before their mouths are developed enough to say as much or as clearly as they understand. I will eventually write an OP about that. During kindergarten roundup in our town, the teachers were blown away by the verbal sophistication of my little ones--at first. After the first few kids had gone through roundup, the teachers in the different schools began to recognize my work.
Their verbal skills enabled me to talk to them and explain what we were doing, why I needed them to stay close and behave, and how their cooperation made it possible for me to take them places and do fun things that we wouldn't be able to do without their help. The older kids were my "assistants" and were proud that I counted on them, so they were very focused on helping rather than resisting or defying my directions and requests.
I also never stopped scanning and "counting" when we were out and about, so no kid could disappear for even a few seconds much less several minutes as this little boy had to have done. I did not allow myself to be distracted by anything while we were out. If an adult tried to engage me in conversation, I would politely but firmly say, "Sorry, I can't chat. I have to keep track of all these kids." When out with the kids, my entire attention was on the kids. At home, where I had childproofed to the best of my ability, I could stop scanning and counting, but in the wide world, I was a child monitoring machine.
I don't yell at kids and I don't threaten or hit them, but I also don't let them think that I am not the one in charge. When parents would pick up their kids, the kids who were so cooperative and helpful for me would become rebellious and bratty toward their parents. Partly, I think, the kids were expressing resentment at being left by their parents all day. I know parents have no choice but to work long hours, but the kids cannot help feeling abandoned, especially if, as typically happened, the parent was talking on their phone when they arrived and didn't stop to greet the child and give him/her their undivided attention for even a moment.
The parents also "begged" their kids instead of telling them what needed to be done. Passive aggression--especially foot dragging--is a way that those who feel powerless to assert some degree of power, or at least autonomy. So when Mom says in a weak, begging tone, "Mandy, please go get your shoes so we can go home," two-year-old Mandy can control Mom by simply ignoring her and continuing to play with Missy. Besides, chances were very good that although Mandy/whoever was thrilled to see Mommy, she was less thrilled about going home, where Mommy would be too busy or distracted to pay attention to her, and where she didn't have Missy or any other kids to play with.
Kids will engage you in a power struggle if (1) they think they can get away with it, and (2) they think there is anything to gain from doing so. You can't win a power struggle with a kid, so it is best not to be drawn into one. When I took my Afghan Hound puppy to puppy kindergarten in 1975, the trainer said something that I took to heart, something that guided my child rearing practices AND my teaching practices from then on. She said you should never take your dog off leash outside unless you were sure he would obey your verbal instructions, because if he ran away from you and refused to come back when called, or if he dodged your attempts to catch him, you would have just taught him something you couldn't allow him to know, which was that you really have NO power over him, NO control of his movements or choices.
I guarantee that little Isaiah is *always* defying and disobeying his mother, always looking for an opportunity to do what she has specifically forbidden him to do, and most often specifically *because* she has forbidden it. Before he went into Harambe's habitat, he had been told no when he said he wanted to go there, so he was watching and waiting for the moment when he could get away without being seen, and from witness descriptions, he was moving very fast--he *knew* he was doing wrong and was rushing to complete his defiant act before he could be prevented.
BUT a parent or guardian knows by the time a kid reaches age 3 if that kid is one who must be watched and controlled at all times to be kept out of trouble. (Usually, though NOT ALWAYS, the kid got that way because he wasn't trained right anyway.) If you have such a kid in your care, you keep your eyes on him at all times. I had one of those. He came to my daycare at age 3. His mom was an old friend, and her daughter had grown up in my care from age 2 weeks. (I had closed my daycare for a few years but then started up again to help out another friend.) This little boy had to be watched *constantly*, even at my home where everything was childproofed. But I knew that about him, so I always monitored what he was up to, even when I was preparing food, feeding or changing an infant, or doing anything else. I could see when he was poised to do something forbidden. Even sneaky kids have "tells" when they are that young, so if you are paying attention you can see what they are about to vet into. I would watch as he got ready to do whatever it was, and then, just before he did it, he would glance around to see if Iwas watching, at which point I would look directly at him and say, "Yes, I am watching, and you really do NOT want to try that."
Unlike his experience at home and at his previous sitters' (he'd been thrown out of two home daycares by the time I agreed to take him), he eventually came to believe that I *was* always keeping track of what the was up to, and that I would immediately stop whatever I was doing myself if I had to intervene in his behavior. It took a while, but I eventually got him trained to behave for me.
Before I began sitting for him, he'd had to be rushed to the emergency room 4 times (by age 3!) because of accidents while in his own home or yard. He never got injured while in my care, though he did get one more emergency room worthy injury at his own home at age 4. When that happened, I said to his mother (in a somewhat exasperated tone, I must admit), "You need to stop thinking it is normal for a healthy child to be rushed to the emergency room FIVE TIMES before he is even 5 years old! That only happens when he is not watched and not taught to behave properly!" Like many other kids in my care, he behaved well for me but not for his parents. Partly I think it is because the kiids spent most of their waking hours with me, so their parents were like substitute teachers, and students typically try to get away with as much as they can when they have a substitute teacher. But it was also because their parents didn't pay attention and didn't convince them that they really were in charge and in control at home.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)that. I just wouldn't dream of criticizing or trying to assign blame to anyone because I don't know the situation. Sometimes things happen. In any case, your questioning was natural enough.
My problem is with the shocking excesses of blame some are indulging in. They remind me yet again, that when anyone anywhere can become an instant target for knee-jerk hostility, we really need to be far, far, far more careful who we allow on juries. If a basic personality and ethics screening takes away the right of some who are unfitted to judge others, too bad.
tblue37
(65,408 posts)for online bullying.
Even when I was frustrated by the cluelessness of my daycare parents, I was aware that most had no training or experience and no real knowledge about child development. They didn't grow up helping take care of younger siblings, and usually they didn't have older female relatives around for advice or to turn to when they needed knowledge or physical assistance.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)took our first baby home from the hospital. I couldn't help thinking there was something fundamentally wrong with this picture. Yes, it's our baby and our right, but they're really going to let a pair of kids they know nothing about and who know absolutely nothing about babies walk off with this fragile newborn?
My husband chose that day to quarrel badly with my mother-in-law, so she grabbed the food she'd brought and marched out (I was not happy with him). We had no other relatives female or otherwise to turn to, neither of us had any childcare experience beside some babysitting of older children on my part, and we'd moved to LA for a job due to a recession so no friends, and NO INTERNET to connect with helpful new mom forums. Reading Spock just wasn't adequate to our frantic need. We were living in Hollywood in a mostly childless area of entertainment industry people, so I couldn't even run to a neighbor and bang frantically on the door for help.
So it was us, the baby, a couple pages of instructions, and a bag of giveaways. We got home and stared at him and checked the instructions. The baby was supposed to have a daily bath, so we immediately carefully set everything up according to the instructions and dutifully and clumsily bathed the poor little guy while the other took pictures. He didn't break or get sick, and so we stumbled on. It wasn't long before I was just plopping him on a towel in the sink and playing "splash" with him, but I still think there was something wrong with that whole picture.
And I'm just SO glad that, if nothing else is available, today's new moms can have others on line to turn to and a world of information right at hand.
tblue37
(65,408 posts)early years of motherhood. Let me tell you how I got so "wise" about how to keep track of tiny ones who could get away on their own: because I had my own terrifying "moment" when my son was just 11 months old!
I was someone with absolutely no experience with any child younger than 3 years old, and I had no knowledge except for that gleaned from innumerable books and articles, most of them not really all that useful (nor, I came to learn, particularly accurate).
My son began walking at 8 months (yes, really!), which means he was quite mobile at a truly dangerous age. But he was so in love with walking that he hated to be strapped down in a stroller.
One afternoon I took him to Penney's, which was having a huge sale on everything because it was relocating to another store site. I meant to purchase some baby stuff at a great price. I had my hand on him--literally, I was holding on to the back of his shirt--as I checked out onesies. Suddenly I felt his shirt pull out of my hand. I instantly turned to grab him again, but he wasn't there! It was so crowded because of the big sale that in just one second after pulling out of my grasp--or more like half a second!--my 11-month old son had disappeared among the forest of legs. I raced around calling for help, telling everyone to look for him. I had every adult, including all the store workers, helping me look, all within a couple of seconds of losing him.
About two minutes after I sounded the alarm, a man appeared with my son in his arms, asking, "Is this the child you lost?"
The little monkey had followed another man and his wife OUTSIDE to the parking lot, and the man who now held him had spotted him following behind the other couple. He realized right away that no parents would have a baby so young walking behind them in a parking lot without even looking back to make sure he was with them and that no cars were coming, so he ran out of the store after him and them, calling for them to stop and wait. When he got to them, he said, "Is this your baby?" They, of course, said no and were shocked that a child so young was following behind them when he seemed barely old enough even to be walking.
The thing is, I never let go of my son while looking through those onesies. I felt immediately when his shirt slipped out of my grip, and I instantly turned to grab him again. But in such a crowd, and with him being so small and so fast, he was out the door and into the parking lot within seconds.
From that experience I learned that it takes only a fraction of a second, and that even with my hand on him, he could disappear if I lost my grip even for a second or less. That is why I waited for more information before beginning to think that the mother at the zoo was not being responsible enough.
But the boy was 3, so by that age he should have been a known quantity for her. In the first place, his deliberate defiance and the clear evidence that he was watching for her to be distracted so he could make a break for it, as well as witness descriptions of his haste to do what he had been told not to do (they marveled at how fast he was moving), suggests an ongoing dynamic between the boy and his mother.
As I said in my earlier long post, I had a kid like that in my care for a while. I knew how he got that way, and he continued to get into trouble at his own home, even after I got him trained to behave at my place. But knowing what he was like, I simply never gave him an opportunity to get hurt or cause damage. I watched him carefully because I knew he needed to be watched all the time.
I guarantee little Isaiah's mother knows how he is and that he needs to be watched like a hawk. I chastised my little friend's mother for letting him get seriously hurt and landing in the emergency room so frequently, because he had been raised to behave in dangerous ways and his parents, after having raised him so carelessly, didn't bother to watch him as carefully as he needed to be watched.
You can see in this photo of 3 of her kids that the little boy has rather an attitude, and I bet that if the faces were not blurred out, we would see his face twisted into a defiant scowl:
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As I said, I have known kids like that, and I have seen how they get that way. A lot of American parents raise their kids to be defiant and difficult, though I am sure they are not trying to raise difficult kids. Here is a link to a very good article in the New Yorker about how badly behaved and immature so many American kids are compared to kids in other cultures:
"Spoiled Rotten: Why do kids rule the roost?"
http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2012/07/02/spoiled-rotten
But quite beyond that issue, I have also watched parents ignore their badly behaving kids while they chat or text on their phones, take pictures while turned away from the kids, or simply pretend their kids misbehavior has nothing to do with them.
For example, often when I am behind a mother and toddler in line at the grocery store, the kid will be grabbing candy off the aisle display and mouthing it, but the mother, even though she sees what the kid is doing, simply lets him do it, as though it is not her problem at all. I know many people who work or have worked in such stores, and they all say it is a constant problem, and that they then have to go and collect all the items the kids has slobbered on and dispose of them.
Or I will have to dodge young kids who are running around and dashing in front of my grocery cart, all while the mother ignores them, either because she is examining the endless items on the shelves, or because she is talking or texting on the phone. This happens in clothing stores, too.
The zoo mother initially said she was taking a picture when he disappeared, but then, realizing I suppose that it didn't make her seem careful enough, she changed her story to say another child was getting upset about having to go home, so she was busy trying to calm that one when Isaiah got away from her.
The changed story makes me think the first version was closer to the truth, but I still come back to the fact that regardless of what distracted her, she knew what her son was like, and that he needed to be watched to prevent him from getting into trouble--or if she didn't know, she should have, just as my friend should have known that her son would get himself into dangerous situations and end up in the emergency room if she didn't keep a close eye on him.
By the way, if recent articles are true, the defiant little dude is already demanding to be taken back to the zoo and already saying he wants to go back into the gorilla enclosure. This is not a child who learns from experience that he needs to behave better and obey his parents, just as this is apparently not a parent who learns from experience that her son needs to be watched carefully.
Like many young, inexperienced parents I had a scary, scary experience with my son when he was little--and I wasn't even being careless at the time. I was just unaware of how easy it can be to lose a kid even when you are actually holding onto him if you are not 100% focused on him while in a busy public venue.
But having had that one experience, I learned from it. I never again had anything untoward happen to a child in my care--not my own kids, and not the 35 other kids I helped raise--even though I spent 60 hours a week doing daycare, in addition to the rest of the time I was with just my own kids. Even when I had my hands full with a lot more kids than this woman was dealing with (I have read that she had the little boy plus three others), I didn't stop watching them and paying attention when we were out in the world, because I was far too conscious of how easy it would be to lose one or to let something terrible happen to one if I didn't pay close attention.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)I lost sight of my son in a department store, but there weren't so many people around. He was hiding in the clothes. We're off to visit his little sister and her children this morning. Being her mom was great, but I like grandparenting a lot also. The littler one is already constantly trying to do more, reaching and running for...the horizon. I'll get to hear all her stories and sympathize, but I'm really with him.
Jim Beard
(2,535 posts)I had only one child and he was very easy to raise. I never spanked him because it wasn't necessary. NOW, ...............many years later, that son has two boys. One is like he was and the other one is a sweet smiling angelic DEVIL. We have had to the lift the no spanking rule for him but it still does no good. The lady on one of the news program said she heard the mother and child argueing and she turned to check on the other children and away he went. As the witness, the boy was definitely on a mission.
Shit happens.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)Shit happens.
As for some of the rest, they demonstrate clearly the dangers of jury systems to justice. Downright scary, knowing they've likely all served and will again.
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)edit: aww, I see that you self-deleted the post where you hoped a woman beating a preacher would find a jury willing to nullify..
postatomic
(1,771 posts)Warpy
(111,277 posts)Toddlers can move like lightning. Why was there some defect in the enclosure the kid could manage to get through? Clearly, someone wasn't maintaining something properly or it hadn't been designed properly in the first place.
I think this mother is getting punished by censorious people and it will likely take years for this to blow over completely.
Yes, it was sad the gorilla was killed, but the kid was in danger. Tranquilizer darts take time to work, so deadly force was called for.
This is a tragedy and a clusterfuck of massive proportions. However, getting bogged down in the blame game is not constructive at this point. The zoo needs to fix that enclosure. Maybe the kid needs a harness and leash. Quite possibly the mother needs to turn her cell phone off when she's out with her kid. Who knows? I don't and neither does anyone else here.
killbotfactory
(13,566 posts)It certainly couldn't be a random fluke tragedy, where a toddler bypassed a small wire fence and fell off an embankment the second his mother was distracted. Kids don't do stupid shit in the blink of an eye, and random accidents don't happen. We are all masters of our fate, and so long as we are responsible and not complete fuckups like those who suffer tragedy, nothing bad can happen to us or those around us.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)Why do we have to find someone to attack every time something bad happens.
lame54
(35,294 posts)blame blame blame
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)to decide. And why get excited over it when you know nothing and are out of it?
moriah
(8,311 posts)This blame is all coming from people who can't imagine it could ever happen to them.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)A lot of strong conservatives are very punitive, especially strong social conservatives.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)scapegoat and just be glad the little boy is ok"
moriah
(8,311 posts)Quantess
(27,630 posts)She should also be 86'd from all zoos, permanently, though I doubt that will happen.
lame54
(35,294 posts)i'm sure the incident has shaken up the family pretty badly
GOLGO 13
(1,681 posts)Oh, too late.
philosslayer
(3,076 posts)How very nice of you. Disgusting post.
braddy
(3,585 posts)out that the normal reaction to a mother visiting the zoo and suddenly finding her 3 year old being dragged around by a Gorilla, would be to sue the zoo.
GaYellowDawg
(4,447 posts)The proper punishment would be to make her take classes on the care of the animals. And include a whole lot of shit shoveling in the bargain.