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Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:01 AM Dec 2015

Curious as hell...Why do people on DU always hold back what

city they are from.

It's annoying.

You read threads about the weather and someone posts - Hey, it's 100 degrees here. I say where????

Someone posted a website where you can map murders in your area. People write that there were X numbers of murders. But....not mention where they are.

What's up with that? If I am Laura PourMeADrink and I say it's sunny in Boise - would I think - oh....shit...people are going to find me in Boise???

More examples I am not mentioning.

But...must be some high-powered closet Dems here, is all I can figure out.

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Curious as hell...Why do people on DU always hold back what (Original Post) Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 OP
I think most people hold back because they're concerned about being stalked. CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2015 #1
Sounds bad but still strange to me. That person must have given finite Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #8
That's part of the problem with this political climate Tab Dec 2015 #60
Thanks for your thoughtful answer, my dear Tab! CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2015 #61
If you don't know where I'm from...you're not paying attention brooklynite Dec 2015 #2
Brooklyn, Ohio, Brooklin, Onterio? Quixote1818 Dec 2015 #6
If you've read what I post, you'll know... brooklynite Dec 2015 #9
My guess is your name is Chris! Quixote1818 Dec 2015 #14
Brookline MA ??? Just a guess. JonLeibowitz Dec 2015 #7
Brookline is not Brooklyn. Renew Deal Dec 2015 #79
Gee, thanks. Back to middle school geography with me. JonLeibowitz Dec 2015 #86
don't make me read all your threads Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #33
LOL. When I lived in Missouri I used to have to tell people mnhtnbb Dec 2015 #63
Albuquerque. Quixote1818 Dec 2015 #3
Coming to get your Q1818 !- Just looked it up Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #11
The link Quixote1818 Dec 2015 #48
I have been stalked on here... yuiyoshida Dec 2015 #4
right - but he's still not getting where you actually live right?nt Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #13
Hmmm no, but there have been yuiyoshida Dec 2015 #20
girl...you need to resign and re-up Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #26
On DU? yuiyoshida Dec 2015 #34
yikes..great work avoidance tomorrow Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #45
Yikes! frylock Dec 2015 #93
I'm curious too KT2000 Dec 2015 #5
Port Angeles? nt Quixote1818 Dec 2015 #10
stop stalking Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #12
I think I can guess a few things about you Quixote1818 Dec 2015 #19
right. and wrong..Laura is George mass murderer Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #29
Lets just hope that you don't have to change your name to Quixote1818 Dec 2015 #44
Oh wow - gonna have to go through sex change...Bill PourMeADrink Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #68
Sequim KT2000 Dec 2015 #15
Been through there as the Olympic Rainforest is one of my favorate places on the planet. nt Quixote1818 Dec 2015 #22
A story for your travels here KT2000 Dec 2015 #30
hope you saw PBs about machu pichu Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #37
Thanks! Quixote1818 Dec 2015 #58
Hey, my parents just moved up there! Maybe you've met them, a couple petronius Dec 2015 #25
Well - that's hilarious!! KT2000 Dec 2015 #31
Hop on over a county, we are blue here uppityperson Dec 2015 #39
Jefferson County saves us KT2000 Dec 2015 #46
My parents retired there too. lumberjack_jeff Dec 2015 #84
Yes - it really helped KT2000 Dec 2015 #90
Oak Harbor. cherokeeprogressive Dec 2015 #21
Are you kidding? KT2000 Dec 2015 #35
Arrrggh! Thank you for bringing this up! It is one of my biggest pet peeves here! smirkymonkey Dec 2015 #16
Manchester,Tenn. Go Vols Dec 2015 #17
We shall be making our 6th trip to Bonnaroo this June GusBob Dec 2015 #23
If all D's Go Vols Dec 2015 #24
From Wisc, originally, GusBob Dec 2015 #36
Your town is smaller than mine? Go Vols Dec 2015 #41
Yes GusBob Dec 2015 #52
I am headed there Go Vols Dec 2015 #56
I bet you're really in Nampa... cherokeeprogressive Dec 2015 #18
what's Nampa? Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #40
A suburb of Boise. Boy do I feel stupid. cherokeeprogressive Dec 2015 #53
It's dark in Boise IDemo Dec 2015 #27
lol Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #42
Yeah, it can be annoying gratuitous Dec 2015 #28
So you are in Go Vols Dec 2015 #32
there you go ! surely you can't Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #49
lol Go Vols Dec 2015 #50
Glendale Old Codger Dec 2015 #38
After what happened to bravenak? mwrguy Dec 2015 #43
Fear is your enemy Go Vols Dec 2015 #47
Because he's making a list and checking it twice. hunter Dec 2015 #51
Hello from New Haven, CT bigwillq Dec 2015 #54
My mailing address is Paris, MI. longship Dec 2015 #55
Lancaster, California pinboy3niner Dec 2015 #57
Its a fucking desert there Go Vols Dec 2015 #59
I drove out to Lancaster for a concert at a fairgrounds, if I recall correctly. Codeine Dec 2015 #66
I was born in Lancaster and we lived in Palmdale. We left when sufrommich Dec 2015 #71
I could see a problem if you said it's hot as hell here at 123 Main Street, Boston MA....but if you MADem Dec 2015 #62
Says in my profile where I am. hobbit709 Dec 2015 #64
I live in two places. cwydro Dec 2015 #65
If someone has the skilllset to track me based on knowing I'm posting from Riverside, CA Codeine Dec 2015 #67
say again Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #69
I just mean if they can track you via internet postings Codeine Dec 2015 #96
I aint tellin' nobody where I'm from 951-Riverside Dec 2015 #70
I live in Metro Detroit, west side. nt sufrommich Dec 2015 #72
It's 120 here today. Javaman Dec 2015 #73
Ha ha! fleur-de-lisa Dec 2015 #83
More annoying is local news stories treestar Dec 2015 #74
Although, to be honest, when the story is about Georgia the country, kentauros Dec 2015 #77
Some times I see threads related to the "Bay Area", no more specific. lpbk2713 Dec 2015 #81
I don't. It's right on my profile. kentauros Dec 2015 #75
Pretty much everyone knows I'm from Fresno. Le Taz Hot Dec 2015 #76
It's probably fear of people bothering them offline. MineralMan Dec 2015 #78
I don't polish my language here on DU as I do writing something for, say, the local paper. hunter Dec 2015 #87
I live in Darude, Sandstorm snooper2 Dec 2015 #80
Each data point revealed gets closer to outting oneself MohRokTah Dec 2015 #82
It likewise annoys the shit out of me. SheilaT Dec 2015 #85
I'm in Shelbyville. It's near Springfield. The weather's always about average here. Gidney N Cloyd Dec 2015 #88
I'ts been a long time since I was in Shelbyville. MohRokTah Dec 2015 #92
I'm from somewhere on earth. Oneironaut Dec 2015 #89
But folks here who already know me know where I live? Blue_Tires Dec 2015 #91
In a word...trolls. nt arthritisR_US Dec 2015 #94
I posted the map... yuiyoshida Dec 2015 #95
Your Supergirl GIF is fantastic! Codeine Dec 2015 #97
yeah i was like... yuiyoshida Dec 2015 #98
I don't live in the city I'm from. ladyVet Dec 2015 #99
that's the ticket LV...we all should Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #100
Compton Facility Inspector Dec 2015 #101
I've mentioned a few times I reside in Kiev... MattSh Dec 2015 #102
well my maternal grandparents Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2015 #103
No, not a native here, though my wife is... MattSh Dec 2015 #104
Houston, TX ScreamingMeemie Dec 2015 #105
RWNJ's PowerToThePeople Dec 2015 #106

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,699 posts)
1. I think most people hold back because they're concerned about being stalked.
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:10 AM
Dec 2015

Some folks have endured this. Yup, members here have been stalked by outsiders.

I know of one member who got permission from Skinner to change usernames so that the stalkers couldn't follow that person around.

It was intense.

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
8. Sounds bad but still strange to me. That person must have given finite
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:17 AM
Dec 2015

details about location, workplace, real name?

i get it if you do that. But, if I wanted to stalk you...I would have to stalk how every many people in LA, SF, Santa Barbara, etc....

And, say you live in Podunk CA.....there's got to be a bunch of Peggys, right?

Tab

(11,093 posts)
60. That's part of the problem with this political climate
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 01:45 AM
Dec 2015

People are cautious about speaking up. On the bright side, people have an anonymous forum here for speaking up.

For a long time, I was reluctant as well; what was actually most worrisome was that if I had to apply for a job that my views might disqualify me.

In thinking about it, though, I've decided that if those views will disqualify me then I probably don't want to work in that environment anyway. However it might be subject just to the whims of an individual, so for self-preservation I just would not try to be too identifiable. I'm older now and don't care as much, and the stakes are too high to keep my mouth shut.

Hi Peggy!

mnhtnbb

(31,402 posts)
63. LOL. When I lived in Missouri I used to have to tell people
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 07:52 AM
Dec 2015

I was from the REAL Manhattan, not the one in Kansas.

yuiyoshida

(41,861 posts)
4. I have been stalked on here...
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:15 AM
Dec 2015

Need proof? Go to Discussionist, there is some guy obsessed with me, and has a entire thread about me. I never went on there to post stuff.. only recently I went there when someone told me on here, my name was the theme of a thread.

yuiyoshida

(41,861 posts)
20. Hmmm no, but there have been
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:29 AM
Dec 2015

others in the past. I tell people, yeah, I live by Japantown in San Francisco, maybe even four blocks away, but I never say in what direction or give the address... but I have had people try to find me. I know this for a fact cause I have had a friend in a restaurant told me that some guy came in with a photo of me he got off Twitter, and wanted to know if she knew me. She lied and said no, and there are hundreds of Asians living in the neighborhood..how could she know everyone? The guy bought it and left, and she told me.. for a while I slept with my Tanto in my bed, but its not likely anyone would be coming to my front door. I kept it in my backpack just in case. But its been known to happen.. and while I like most people here, there are many I wouldn't trust with my address or phone number.

yuiyoshida

(41,861 posts)
34. On DU?
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:45 AM
Dec 2015

your account is forever, if you want it to be. You can't delete your account, and no I have a few years put in here, i don't want to start over. I live in what I consider a fairly safe city. I am in a good neighborhood, and surrounded by a lot of fellow Asians... I love this part of town, and I will likely never move. I know now, there are a few out there who hate me enough to take pot shots at me on the internet.. but I am not going to sweat it. Nor am I afraid to be here..or afraid to post. Just because someone has posted nasty stuff about me on another website doesn't mean it has to bother me. Their claims are worthless.. and it just shows everyone how much of a loser it takes, to post nasty crap about another person.

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
45. yikes..great work avoidance tomorrow
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:54 AM
Dec 2015

To catch up on that. Seriously...I was just saying quit and re-up on DU if you were concerned about your safety

KT2000

(20,586 posts)
5. I'm curious too
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:15 AM
Dec 2015

Very few if any would know the town where I live so I just said NW Washington. Actually it is across from Victoria, Canada.

Quixote1818

(28,968 posts)
19. I think I can guess a few things about you
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:29 AM
Dec 2015

For one, I know you are to the left of Gandhi and your bartender's name is Laura.

KT2000

(20,586 posts)
30. A story for your travels here
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:42 AM
Dec 2015

The S'Klallam tribe are probably the most awesome tribe in the country IMHO.

The are called The Strong People. This came about when the Salish tribes (including BC tribes) held a celebration with competitions. For one, the strongest men in the tribe were to lift a log and place it on the longhouse. All failed to lift it until it was the S'Klallam's turn. The S'Klallam men rolled the log into the water until it was shoulder high to them, then carried it out on their shoulders to the longhouse. From then on they were called The Strong People but I think they should be called The Smart People.

Anyway - a story to tell your travel companions as you pass through.

petronius

(26,603 posts)
25. Hey, my parents just moved up there! Maybe you've met them, a couple
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:36 AM
Dec 2015

of Republicans from California?


Such a gorgeous place up there...

KT2000

(20,586 posts)
31. Well - that's hilarious!!
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:44 AM
Dec 2015

This country used to be a Democratic stronghold - and then - it changed.

uppityperson

(115,679 posts)
39. Hop on over a county, we are blue here
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:48 AM
Dec 2015

Of course there is the red area, but hey, we're all here because we're not all there.

KT2000

(20,586 posts)
35. Are you kidding?
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:46 AM
Dec 2015

I had you pegged for east coast.

Are you getting the Growlers from Whidbey Navy base? It's an issue here.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
16. Arrrggh! Thank you for bringing this up! It is one of my biggest pet peeves here!
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:26 AM
Dec 2015

Drives me absolutely insane! BTW, I am a native New Yorker who lives in Boston (again)!

I hate it when people talk about "Hey, this is going on here" or "The weather is like this here" and don't give any clue as to their location. It's infuriating!!!

GusBob

(7,286 posts)
36. From Wisc, originally,
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:46 AM
Dec 2015

I come from a small small town and live in a smaller one

to the point of this thread, that's why I keep it secret

At Bonnaroo I can be found at the Coffee County Red Raiders beer tent upwards to 12 times a day.....support your local team lol

Go Vols

(5,902 posts)
56. I am headed there
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 01:13 AM
Dec 2015

Think I will end up in Colo. or Oreg. in a smaller town or outta town a few miles.

gratuitous

(82,849 posts)
28. Yeah, it can be annoying
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:40 AM
Dec 2015

But people around here are often like that when we get as much rain as we have lately.

longship

(40,416 posts)
55. My mailing address is Paris, MI.
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 01:13 AM
Dec 2015

Really! But Paris is about 15 miles from my house, and is in a different county.

So knowing Paris does not help much.

I have posted here that I live in the midst of the Manistee National Forest, but that is not much help either, since it is rather huge.

Yup! Rural west Michigan.

pinboy3niner

(53,339 posts)
57. Lancaster, California
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 01:21 AM
Dec 2015

On the West side, Quartz Hill area near the Palmdale City boundary. Here in the Antelope Valley, they call the San Fernando Valley where I grew up "down below."

Go Vols

(5,902 posts)
59. Its a fucking desert there
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 01:35 AM
Dec 2015

and yet I was called to build a bridge across a road in a flat desert.Military shit is what I was told ...

I did go to the LACR to check out the nostalgia drags.

Edit: Maybe it was RR tracks.

 

Codeine

(25,586 posts)
66. I drove out to Lancaster for a concert at a fairgrounds, if I recall correctly.
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 08:53 AM
Dec 2015

I remember the road we took to get there was a little harrowing; two lanes, no median, constant blind crests, and everyone barreling along at 90.

sufrommich

(22,871 posts)
71. I was born in Lancaster and we lived in Palmdale. We left when
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 10:10 AM
Dec 2015

I was two so I don't remember it.My dad worked for Lockheed at the time.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
62. I could see a problem if you said it's hot as hell here at 123 Main Street, Boston MA....but if you
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 02:51 AM
Dec 2015

said it's hotter than hell in the greater Boston area, I think someone would have to work very hard to dig you up, absent a LOT of other identifying information.

Now, if you were listed in the phone book under P, for PourMeADrink, I'll bet you'd be easy to locate!

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
65. I live in two places.
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 08:52 AM
Dec 2015

One is a city (large), and one is a very small town.

I usually just refer to my state.

 

Codeine

(25,586 posts)
67. If someone has the skilllset to track me based on knowing I'm posting from Riverside, CA
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 08:55 AM
Dec 2015

then they have the skillset necessary to figure that out with me even mentioning it.

 

Codeine

(25,586 posts)
96. I just mean if they can track you via internet postings
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 08:54 PM
Dec 2015

then they can do it whether or not you mention your posting location.

Javaman

(62,534 posts)
73. It's 120 here today.
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 10:13 AM
Dec 2015

Yeah, I live in the states, but the funny thing is we had snow last night, but it gets better, tornados and hurricanes are predicted for this afternoon!

that's okay, I just wait until the fire hail is over and then take shelter in my basement.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
74. More annoying is local news stories
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 10:16 AM
Dec 2015

You can even read the article and not be able to tell what state it is in. The publication title can be like "Central Valley news" and reveal no clue.

kentauros

(29,414 posts)
77. Although, to be honest, when the story is about Georgia the country,
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 10:25 AM
Dec 2015

my first thought is always Georgia the state, even if I should know better from the rest of the headline

lpbk2713

(42,766 posts)
81. Some times I see threads related to the "Bay Area", no more specific.
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 11:24 AM
Dec 2015



The reader could be thousands of miles off. San Francisco Bay or Tampa Bay ... or maybe Chesapeake Bay ... or even Boston Back Bay. The author might give a link but I'm not usually that motivated to do investigative work.

kentauros

(29,414 posts)
75. I don't. It's right on my profile.
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 10:21 AM
Dec 2015

I figure that since I hail from the most hated place on the face of the planet as far as DU is concerned, that I should also give people a head's up so they can determine whether I am worthy of their words/notice

MineralMan

(146,329 posts)
78. It's probably fear of people bothering them offline.
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 10:29 AM
Dec 2015

It's a false fear, though. I and other DUers don't mind putting where we live in our profiles. I've yet to have anyone from DU try to find out who I am or bother me. It's easy to discover who I am, too.

The funny thing is that most people are far less anonymous than they think they are on places like DU.

hunter

(38,326 posts)
87. I don't polish my language here on DU as I do writing something for, say, the local paper.
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 12:41 PM
Dec 2015

If my OCD kicks in while polishing my words it can take me hours to write a simple letter-to-the-editor.

I've got basically three writing modes:

Quick and blunt, "professional" (requiring no parental advisories for "explicit" language), and polite-and-publish.

I think my polite and publish mode writing is ugly until it's been tweaked buy an editor I trust.

My writing could be rated like video games:







https://www.esrb.org/ratings/ratings_guide.aspx

My political discussions with strangers often require I start at the Early Childhood rating level, otherwise I hurt peoples' feelings.

I'm not so bad as my grandma, however, who could say things so vile as to render a sailor in a whorehouse impotent for the rest of his shore leave.

 

MohRokTah

(15,429 posts)
82. Each data point revealed gets closer to outting oneself
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 11:29 AM
Dec 2015

It's why the EU is so stringent on personal data.

If I have your zip code, sex, and date of birth, in most cases your identity can be narrowed down to less than five people.

 

SheilaT

(23,156 posts)
85. It likewise annoys the shit out of me.
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 11:57 AM
Dec 2015

Please give us a hint. If you actually hail from such a small town that you'd be that easy to find, then simply say, "It's hotter than blazes here in central Oklahoma."

I often mention that I'm in Santa Fe, NM, because it can be relevant to what I'm posting.

Sheila is my actual first name, but there are a surprising number of Sheilas here, so I wouldn't be that easy to find. And I've never been stalked, lucky me. If I thought I was in some sort of danger from evil people were looking for me because of my DU presence, I'd take on a new screen name, and perhaps say I live in Albuquerque. Heck, some years back, during DU2 I think, there was a moratorium on being able to change our screen names and (I think) keep post counts, or at least your date of start. I did actually change my screen name once, around that time, and for the first several weeks, so I wouldn't be taken as a rank newcomer, I signed, "SheilaT, who used to be XXX."

 

MohRokTah

(15,429 posts)
92. I'ts been a long time since I was in Shelbyville.
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 03:21 PM
Dec 2015

I wore an onion on my belt, which was the style in those days.

yuiyoshida

(41,861 posts)
95. I posted the map...
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 03:28 PM
Dec 2015
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10027439733

Anyone can access the map and see where shootings took place, what is amazing is that
most everyone so far as found there was a shooting near them, even if it was up to
10 miles away. That's pretty scary when you think about it.
 

Codeine

(25,586 posts)
97. Your Supergirl GIF is fantastic!
Fri Dec 11, 2015, 08:56 PM
Dec 2015

I love how she drew on all her repressed rage in that scene. The actress really sold it.

ladyVet

(1,587 posts)
99. I don't live in the city I'm from.
Sat Dec 12, 2015, 10:49 AM
Dec 2015

Haven't lived in a city for a long time. I'm out in the back of beyond, the wilds of the Great State of North Carolina. I think a few years ago I might have mentioned the county I was in, or other general info, but it's unlikely anyone could track me down from that. And if they do, with less-than-friendly motives, I'd like to remind everyone that I'm a supporter of the Second Amendment. And so are my neighbors.

MattSh

(3,714 posts)
102. I've mentioned a few times I reside in Kiev...
Fri Dec 18, 2015, 11:59 AM
Dec 2015

and a few people basically suggested that I was lying. Because it's not possible for someone to live in a city of 2.8 million, I guess.

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
103. well my maternal grandparents
Sat Dec 19, 2015, 10:10 AM
Dec 2015

Immigrated from there so I am impressed as hell. Are you a native? What is it like there?

MattSh

(3,714 posts)
104. No, not a native here, though my wife is...
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 02:53 PM
Dec 2015

I can't really summarize in a sentence or two, but if you're a foreigner getting paid in just about any foreign currency, you're likely not doing too bad. If you're a local getting paid in the local currency, you're getting screwed. And if you're a pensioner, it's even worse. Two years ago, the typical pension would cover about 48% of your food costs, leaving you 52% for other things. Now, that same pension would cover food needs for only 27-28 days a month, with nothing left over for utilities, medicine, healthcare, etc. My wife's father would like to remain out on his own, but may likely end up with us, especially if the winter gets brutal, since he won't have the means to maintain a separate household. My wife and I both predicted this would end up this way, but who would listen? The prediction is that things will get better next year, but the government has been guilty from the beginning of overestimating and under delivering, and there's no sign that will change any time soon.

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