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http://gallagherwitt.tumblr.com/post/133986448001/male-privilege-a-basket-of-tamponsAt some point, my friend had occasion to use the bathroom. When he went into the bathroom, he was disgusted to see that the hostess had left a basket of feminine hygiene products on the counter for guests to use if needed.
Later, when my friend told me about it, he wrinkled his nose and said, Why would she do that? Guys dont want to see that!
When I suggested that she was just making them available in case a woman needed them, he insisted that they could be left in the cabinet or under the counter. Out of sight, anyway.
I wish Id had, at the time, the ability to articulate what I can now.
hedgehog
(36,286 posts)packman
(16,296 posts)Just saying, for the men to use . Would a woman be offended if she walked into that bathroom?
hedgehog
(36,286 posts)the Pill is no protection from STDs.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)There were times in my life where I liked to have one with me.
packman
(16,296 posts)and you put a condom in it and then as time passed:
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NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)is an irresponsible manner in which to hold one anyway. Just one more reason I took care of myself in that area instead of trusting a guy to properly do so. Far too many young men think that is a good way to carry them.
packman
(16,296 posts)And that condom in the wallet probably expired , like, years ago.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)Thanks. And yes, a ring on the wallet is concerning. lol.
RoccoR5955
(12,471 posts)It got used in due time. And I needed more than one, so I kept a box of them in my backpack.
libdem4life
(13,877 posts)Most women I know would howl in laughter...that's a picture that's hard to get out of your head.
On second thought, some might run in terror or at least check under the stalls first?
Just messin' with you ... gender stuff is fascinating.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)libdem4life
(13,877 posts)jeff47
(26,549 posts)w0nderer
(1,937 posts)Sweden and Denmark at least
it wasn't unusual to have free condom handouts in a huge bowl or brandy snifter (think soccer ball big)
in bars and nightclubs
actually Roskilde festivalen (rock festival in denmark) used to run a 'rock and roll on' (roll...on..) with a badge/pin and a 5 pack of condoms handed out free
as for tampons in the bathroom? why not, there for the ladies, or the men if they get a nosebleed (or anything else) useful things tampons
libdem4life
(13,877 posts)Oh I remember, it was the Puritans who came over here. Yes, a little bit of something for whatever floats your boat, as they say.
w0nderer
(1,937 posts)to vote yet!
but
yeah...old OZ saying
europe exported religious freaks to the US, criminals to Australia, Australia got the better deal
somewhat
libdem4life
(13,877 posts)w0nderer
(1,937 posts)so god and goddesses, or more like "kinsmen'
Happy holidays
may the little people ease burdens at work if you believe in them
and if not, may you shoulder it well
saturnsring
(1,832 posts)lunatica
(53,410 posts)Probably more than men do.
But tampons are not for safe sex, etc. condoms are for a biological function common in women of a certain age group.
If I walked in a saw a basket of tampons my first thought would be that I sure don't need them anymore and I sure don't miss them!
pnwmom
(108,995 posts)So they're not comparable.
MineralMan
(146,331 posts)Eight bedrooms. It ran as a sort of communal living deal. On the coffee table in the main living room was a fishbowl full of condoms. Tampons in the bathrooms? Of course. It was a fun place to live, for sure. 1970-72.
w0nderer
(1,937 posts)i love your anecdotes
niyad
(113,576 posts)too bad that the hostess did not provide a fainting couch for him.
"put them in a cabinet or under the counter"?? out of sight? nobody is going to go snooping through cabinets, etc. when a guest in someone's home. what a jerk he is.
libdem4life
(13,877 posts)and how it's often used way, way out of context and as a pejorative. Women's parts and their necessities are best left unmentioned by the other gender.
I have the deepest of respect for men and the real gender burdens they bear, as well. Heck, the love of my life is now a man. I raised him and taught him to respect everything female...even PMS.
niyad
(113,576 posts)Dont call me Shirley
(10,998 posts)libdem4life
(13,877 posts)w0nderer
(1,937 posts)2 for my med kit, 2 for my survival kit and 2 for my on person in case my date miscalculated i'm cooly considerate kit?
sheeh ye'd think some of these people never were asked by their gf's go down and pick up tampons or sanitary pads or what ever
sure hun, you feel bad? ok...so midol and which brand and model pad? *writes down* got ya... 10 minutes babe <<--what's wrong that?
niyad
(113,576 posts)snooper2
(30,151 posts)LOL
sarge43
(28,945 posts)Far handier and neater than cotton balls
central scrutinizer
(11,662 posts)for rolling papers. We used them when we were out of Zig-Zags.
niyad
(113,576 posts)the whole article is a most excellent read.
saturnsring
(1,832 posts)LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)No doubt, the myopic and dogmatic will certainly hope the story is not true... as it doesn't validate many particular, out-dated biases. Much better for them to wish it away...
niyad
(113,576 posts)Bonx
(2,075 posts)B2G
(9,766 posts)TygrBright
(20,767 posts)The conclusion of the article illustrates nicely:
"Its part of the same thought process that measures a womans value through her bra size and her willingness to have sex with himthat everything about us is displayed or hidden based on how men perceive them or what he wants to get from us...
...Its the line of thinking where a man blames anything other than cheerful sexual consent on the woman being a bitch, being a lesbian, ornaturallybeing on her period. Everything we do, from our facial expressions to our use of hygiene products, are filtered the lens of how it looks to a man.
Its the line of thinking where a small gesture from one woman to another, an assurance that someone else understands and will help her without question or judgment, a gesture which could save a womans evening from being ruined, is trumped by a mans desire to see an untainted landscape of pretty, smiling women with visible cleavage and vaginas that never bleed."
Privilege is also encapsulated in the mindset of "The way I see the world is the normal/default/correct way to see the world and any challenge to how I see the world is unreasonable."
helpfully,
Bright
niyad
(113,576 posts)idiocy.
PersonNumber503602
(1,134 posts)As as guy I'd be annoyed if someone said something that stupid to me. I can only speak for myself, but I don't think many guys find the sight of tampons disgusting. I can only imagine the horrors such a person would experience when going to the supermarket.
I don't really see privilege though. Had they actually been hidden away or difficult to access, then I think there'd be a solid point about privilege. Here we just have an idiot who thinks his illogical thoughts should be respected.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)and as such, is part of a much bigger picture constantly filled with that sort of illogical behavior.
niyad
(113,576 posts)valerief
(53,235 posts)What an asshole.
Dont call me Shirley
(10,998 posts)phylny
(8,389 posts)valerief
(53,235 posts)3catwoman3
(24,051 posts)...cretin would have been had he had to see a woman with blood-stained clothing because mother nature came calling unexpectedly and no supplies had been available.
Excellent article.
jalan48
(13,886 posts)hifiguy
(33,688 posts)B2G
(9,766 posts)to be written that men are privileged bafoons who are totally insensitive to women and their biology, thus whipping up more righteous outrage between the sexes.
Men vs women, blacks vs whites, conservatives vs liberals...
Pick a side or get off the field dammit!
Turbineguy
(37,369 posts)they use them to plug bullet holes. In modern America, one must be open to all eventualities.
Victor_c3
(3,557 posts)They gave them to us when I was in Iraq for that reason.
The person on the receiving was less than enthusiastic about it though. However they were probable pissed off that we had shot them already so we had nothing to lose.
Taking a step back, it was funny when I think about the incident and me my medic fumbling around with the tampon and applicator while we were trying to put it the hole in the kids back.
hifiguy
(33,688 posts)Victor_c3
(3,557 posts)I have never understood the revulsion other guys display towards menstruation. It's a part of female biology. It's not anymore disgusting that sneezing, peeing, or any other bodily function.
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)This guy reminds me of the hysterical and overly-emotional reactions to "Woman freely bleeds running London Marathon without tampon"
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10027063006
Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)Might help, since he's full of shit.
But that's me.
alarimer
(16,245 posts)I get the same BS from my boyfriend at the store.
saturnsring
(1,832 posts)phylny
(8,389 posts)When the oldest asked him to buy tampons at the grocery store for the first time, he was about to make a joke like he was horrified and I stopped him in his tracks. "Three daughters - you don't want to make them think men aren't grown up enough to handle menstruating women." He never said a word after that and bought what they needed when he was grocery shopping.
olddots
(10,237 posts)men are from Hunger .
KamaAina
(78,249 posts)Gormy Cuss
(30,884 posts)Kids, sure. But adults? This is a bouncy.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Although come to think of it, a plate of big joints isn't a bad idea for your party guests, either.
Jim Lane
(11,175 posts)I was running other errands that would take me right past the drugstore, so the woman asked me to pick up tampons for her. No problem. What would this guy have done, told her she'd have to make a totally unnecessary extra trip just so he didn't have to risk touching a package of tampons and thereby lowering his testosterone level?
Skittles
(153,193 posts)told me that a wife and three teen-age daughters had cured him to his aversion to buying feminine hygiene products
2theleft
(1,136 posts)He will buy anything on the grocery list. I usually handled that stuff, but his 16 year old daughter needed them and I was out of town for work....Frantic text to me while in a meeting "K started her period, no stuff. I'm at store. WTF are the wings for? Why would you want your panties to fly when you are on your period?? I don't have to buy that kind, do I?" Worst part was not being able to laugh in that meeting I was in.
I laughed and laughed about that one. Still have it saved on my phone 2 years later and show all the women in the family.
Jim Lane
(11,175 posts)Although hazy on the details, I knew that there were different kinds, different brands, etc., and I have a low tolerance for ambiguity. My only problem in buying the tampons was having to make any kind of decision. Their intended recipient had to tell me EXACTLY what she wanted, and, yes, I nerdily wrote it down.
If you've been showing your boyfriend's text around for two years and he's still with you, I'd say he's a keeper.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)Liberal_in_LA
(44,397 posts)betsuni
(25,629 posts)He'd spend hours batting tampons around the apartment, completely absorbed in play, ecstatic. Even when my sister put the box of tampons on the highest shelf or in a closet, that cat sooner or later always found a way to get at them. Once after a first date she invited the young man back to her place, and as they sat on the sofa talking and watching the cat play, she realized with horror what the cat was playing with. Eventually the young man noticed too. I don't remember if there was a second date.
niyad
(113,576 posts)clubs about having sex with a menstruating woman, eh?
dilby
(2,273 posts)They are all wrapped up like little fudge pops, now if she left some used ones in a trash receptacle next to the toilet, I would have been like girl should have thrown those out before the guest arrived.