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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsJust found out my ex called me "ultra-left wing lesbo" on FB.
Well, that is a label I will wear with pride. Yes, I am very left wing but "ultra"? Don't think so.
Much rather be "ultra-left wing lesbo" than Limbaugh-brainwashed RW reactionary creep. Just saw him recently and he was SO nice. Thought that wouldn't get around to me. So stupid.
bravenak
(34,648 posts)He listens to Rush? I'd rather be dead than be a rightwing Rush listening jerk.
Kath1
(4,309 posts)Found about from a mutual friend.
Yeah, I'd rather be dead, to.
Texasgal
(17,047 posts)with PRIDE!!!
And will!
Generic Other
(28,979 posts)Because a woman who doesn't want him must be a lesbian? And a smart ultra-left wing one too? Some guys are as easy to read as a picture book!
Kath1
(4,309 posts)Hadn't even thought of it at the time of our divorce.
But, yes, he hates left-wing women, obviously. Good luck to him.
You're a lesbian (or bi) who married a straight dude and left to be in a lesbian relationship, but he's still bitter.
Why does this sound like a great sitcom?
Sorry, you have my sympathies that your ex turned out to be a homophobic, abusive douche.
Kath1
(4,309 posts)I could us the money, but happiness means a lot to us!
PEACE!
yeoman6987
(14,449 posts)Get on with life. Your days of listening to him are over when you signed the papers.
Kath1
(4,309 posts)But I have gotten on with my life, very happily.
Thank you!
yeoman6987
(14,449 posts)Kath1
(4,309 posts)We're cool.
Blue_In_AK
(46,436 posts)I've got one, too.
Kath1
(4,309 posts)Ex - YES!!!
Blue_In_AK
(46,436 posts)but thankfully our dissolution was much less chaotic than our marriage, and he hasn't bothered me since. I was one of the lucky ones.
Kath1
(4,309 posts)I got full custody because of abuse.
Glad you are rid of him.
Blue_In_AK
(46,436 posts)but she was 16 by the time we split up, so beyond the age when custody would have been an issue. She stayed with me, but I never fought him for child support. I was just glad he was gone without much fuss. I refinanced the house (which was in my name) and gave him some money, so he went away.
Our daughter is 30 now and finally recovering from the anxiety which he caused her. They stay in touch, but she really doesn't like him much. I wish I hadn't stayed with him as long as I did.
Kath1
(4,309 posts)Daughter was 14. Full custody for me because of abuse. She really doesn't want much to do with him.
Of course, I am to blame for turning her against him. Bullshit.
And, yes, she is recovering from the anxiety, also.
villager
(26,001 posts)The sad thing is, all the "ultra left" things we talked/warned about, economically and environmentally, decades ago -- have all come to pass!
Kath1
(4,309 posts)And yes, ultra-left views have proven true!
That would be like -9/-9 on political compass fot org ... erm, that's about what I score.
irisblue
(33,018 posts)what a blessing he is your ex
Divorce can be a beautiful thing!
gratuitous
(82,849 posts)"What other people think of you is none of your business." The gratuitous Addendum is, "Unless you think I'm fabulous. Then you're very perceptive, and very right."
Half-Century Man
(5,279 posts)It's not hard, hell you can just wing it and let spellchecker catch it.
Pure laziness
Kath1
(4,309 posts)Scootaloo
(25,699 posts)Seriously though, good call on the ex-ing.
Kath1
(4,309 posts)Good call? Yes!!!!
Fairgo
(1,571 posts)I'd get the t-shirt if they made one.
Kath1
(4,309 posts)Made me smile!
Jim Lane
(11,175 posts)I'd be proud to be able to say I was friends with an ultra-left-wing lesbo.
I almost never open my Facebook account, though. We'll have to settle for friendship on DU.
Just glad you can relate.
DU friendship is OK.
Kip Humphrey
(4,753 posts)Cha
(297,503 posts)Kath1
(4,309 posts)Glad of I got rid of him.
I am anti-war. I am pro-choice. Views he came to oppose.
And "ultra" is not my style at all.
Peace, sister!
Cha
(297,503 posts)has been for years. It never would have worked out.
Peace, Kath~
Kath1
(4,309 posts)Loser.
This girl has moved on!
Love the graphic!
Peace, sister!
Aristus
(66,436 posts)I'm posting simply to show my support.
Glad you kicked him to the curb...
My life has been so much better since I did!
MrWendel
(1,881 posts)when it comes to his secret porn stash.
You are probably right about that!
DFW
(54,428 posts)I haven't had that particular experience, but I think your attitude is great all the same--and that probably gives an accurate indication of what I think of HIS attitude.
As a straight man who has been happy with the same woman for the last 41 years (we met when we were 22), with two normal well-adjusted daughters, I can't say I have the slightest idea what it's like to be in your shoes, but I can still shout "you go girl!" along with everyone else.
marew
(1,588 posts)When people say stuff like that, it is so very much more about them than it is about you!
About 12 years ago my hubby of 32 years got a girlfriend and dumped me. I heard from her former boyfriend that, since the ex and I were doing well, she believed it was all my ex's doing! LOLOL! In the divorce he asked me to relinquish my half of a small business we owned and he would not go after my "savings." I said simply "where do I sign?" She was someone who wanted to latch onto a "rich" guy- she had no clue what "rich" meant or who was the brains behind the outfit!
Long story short- he has a bankruptcy and several foreclosures on his record- not a penny saved for retirement at age 69. He will never be able to retire! I retired in 2000 and am debt free- been to Europe a couple of times following the footsteps of my favorite composers. Want to go again but have too many critters I love who were already abandoned once- two blind dogs, two three-legged cats. etc. Regularly volunteer for literacy and critter issues.
Remember, there is a need to vilify those they have wronged- human nature at its worst. Has NOTHING to do with you!
Kath1
(4,309 posts)Happiness is the best revenge!
PEACE!
Scuba
(53,475 posts)Kath1
(4,309 posts)I just think he is very vindictive and some of the more RW members of my family were piling on, too.
I don't intend to reply to any of it.
Scuba
(53,475 posts)Thank you!
eridani
(51,907 posts)But the, back in the day, I was one of those longhair dope-smokin Avatar-readin livin-in-the-common-unwashed hippie Marxist preverts myself.
So was I. Stopped for 12 years of marriage. Now I'm back, better than ever!
Skittles
(153,174 posts)TheBlackAdder
(28,211 posts).
What your EX just did was indicate that they are still attached to you, having close affections still!
This is even more comical if they are seeing another person, that means they haven't moved on and aren't really into the new person they are seeing. I like to say, when this happened with my EX, "Why are you still angry at me? Isn't the new guy doing it for you?"
If they are single, they are suffering internally. This is something that will get worse as the holidays approach, and crest around Valentines day or significant anniversaries.
Stay strong and enjoy the hidden compliment they've given you!
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Kath1
(4,309 posts)There is probably a lot of truth in that.
I initially had the gut feeling that he is jealous.
Thank you!
TheBlackAdder
(28,211 posts).
The anger and 'hate' that your EX is carrying is only hurting them internally. It's excess baggage.
Just keep the high road and everyone else will notice the same thing. Kath isn't doing anything wrong, she's moved on, what XXX's problem? She's not denigrating him, why's he constantly trashing her?
Believe me, this is transparent to everyone, including his own family.
After a few years, when a level of sanity spreads though his family, where they aren't buying his storyline, they will befriend you and realize that he's just being jerkish. My EX's family now invites me over for Christmas dinner, and most are now not even speaking to her, when at first the family wagons circled close by her. But, you have to maintain the high road. If you feel compelled to respond, just reply with a classic 'Nice' comment, no punctuation, just those four letters. That says it all. The best thing is, unless kids are involved, is to break off contact from their social media accounts. There is no other reason to keep those strings attached, because that indicates you are still connected to him in some manner.
Good luck!
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Kath1
(4,309 posts)Excellent advice.
Thanks, and I mean it!
Kennah
(14,299 posts)As a cyclist, I already get labelled queer at times. I personally never knew that cycling was dominated by gay men, but I thank them for letting me ride.
On a serious note, block but don't unfriend. They will continue to see your ULL feed on FB.
Kath1
(4,309 posts)We are all in this life together!
La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)the one to slander you and the other to get the news to you. Mark Twain.