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William769

(55,147 posts)
Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:36 PM Jun 2015

One of our very own DU members made it into the Boston globe!

And I should add for a very good reason! To DonViejo

How same-sex couples got the right to adopt in Massachusetts

PEDRO HERPIN AND RAMON HERNANDEZ estimate they have had close to 20 foster children in their home over the years. They adopted one of those foster children and have two more children, Herpin’s from a relationship when he was a teenager, and have also adopted a grandson. Theirs is a family constellation that is not possible in every state because of laws restricting adoptions by same-sex couples, and one that could not have existed in Massachusetts 30 years ago.

The family moved to Puerto Rico in 2007 to live near Herpin’s parents but came back five years later. The schools weren’t great, their marriage wasn’t recognized, and their status as a gay couple meant being foster parents was out of the question. “It’s a no-no in their eyes over there,” Herpin says. So they returned and settled in Avon. They most recently fostered a transgender teenager, whom they found through the Home for Little Wanderers in Boston, a child welfare agency that provides residential, community-based, and adoption services. “We heard about him and thought it was a good match for us,” Herpin says.

The match was good?—?for a while, though the teen recently left for a group home placement. So Herpin and Hernandez are back on the list of families ready for the next kids they may be able to help.

Public adoption?—?finding legally permanent homes for children in state custody?—?uses different processes than private or international adoption. In Massachusetts, same-sex couples are a significant part of the pool of parents the state draws upon to provide love, guidance, and homes for thousands of children whose families cannot care for them. The state does not track the sexual orientation of foster or adoptive parents, but people who work in the adoption world say that same-sex couples are absolutely part of the mainstream. “I would say there is a pretty universal acceptance of gay and lesbian couples in the adoption community as viable resources to parent our children,” says Lisa Funaro, executive director of Massachusetts Adoption Resource Exchange (MARE), a Boston nonprofit that works to find adoptive families for kids in foster care.


Posted with DonViejo permission.

WTG Don!

http://www.bostonglobe.com/magazine/2015/06/17/how-same-sex-couples-got-right-adopt-massachusetts/ulOm76fNVLApennqpzrVsI/story.html

ETA: so there is no confusion this picture was taken in 1985. But in my mind he's still a hottie! (that's what a heart of gold will do to you).
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One of our very own DU members made it into the Boston globe! (Original Post) William769 Jun 2015 OP
Pedro and Ramon! ^^^ Eleanors38 Jun 2015 #1
That's amazing. Beautiful people. PeaceNikki Jun 2015 #2
Was my pleasure. William769 Jun 2015 #8
Thank you for this beautiful story, my dear William769! CaliforniaPeggy Jun 2015 #3
What a great story! madfloridian Jun 2015 #4
THAT is humbling! Wilms Jun 2015 #5
How very cool. Which guy is DonViejo? panader0 Jun 2015 #6
On the left. William769 Jun 2015 #9
Expanding our basic human rights for the good! yallerdawg Jun 2015 #7
Beautiful! Spazito Jun 2015 #10
Wow! Starry Messenger Jun 2015 #11
I think I've got something in my eye shenmue Jun 2015 #12
Me too! William769 Jun 2015 #13
Happy Father's Day to Don and Dave! greatauntoftriplets Jun 2015 #14
This was the perfect day to post this. William769 Jun 2015 #16
Absolutely! greatauntoftriplets Jun 2015 #17
Perfect for Father's Day. FailureToCommunicate Jun 2015 #15
Happy father's day to you and your loved ones. lovemydog Jun 2015 #18
Always fun to put a face to the name. MoonRiver Jun 2015 #23
Without a doubt THE best brer cat Jun 2015 #19
What a beautiful photo! jen63 Jun 2015 #20
Wonderful! City Lights Jun 2015 #21
Thank you SO much for sharing William769 cal04 Jun 2015 #22
Was happy to. William769 Jun 2015 #28
So cool ! treestar Jun 2015 #24
Yes they have. William769 Jun 2015 #25
Happy Father's Day mcar Jun 2015 #26
Wowsa, Wowsa! SoapBox Jun 2015 #27
Beautiful story! femmocrat Jun 2015 #29
Huge K&R... SidDithers Jun 2015 #30
K&R Solly Mack Jun 2015 #31
The caption for that picture should be in the OP.... Spitfire of ATJ Jun 2015 #32
Don, the Spainish preface denoting nobility. Half-Century Man Jun 2015 #33
Happy Father's Day. .. Liberal Jesus Freak Jun 2015 #34
Happy Father's day to both of you! dixiegrrrrl Jun 2015 #35
WUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNderful!!!! calimary Jun 2015 #36
This is awesome! Thanks for posting. octoberlib Jun 2015 #37
What a lovely family! Iliyah Jun 2015 #38
Very cool. GoneFishin Jun 2015 #39
Thank you for sharing that! Aerows Jun 2015 #40
Sad I can only give this one rec.. mountain grammy Jun 2015 #41
Great story. hifiguy Jun 2015 #42
Excellent! N/t DirkGently Jun 2015 #43
For DonViejo..that is beautiful. Jefferson23 Jun 2015 #44
Happy Fathers Day sheshe2 Jun 2015 #45
It restores a bit of faith in humanity. hifiguy Jun 2015 #46
^^^THIS^^^ sheshe2 Jun 2015 #47
Mahalo William for posting this.. a wonderful history of our Cha Jun 2015 #48
Most Excellent Post !!! WillyT Jun 2015 #49
OMG THEY ARE ADORABLE Skittles Jun 2015 #50
Love this! stevenleser Jun 2015 #51
Moved to tears ismnotwasm Jun 2015 #52
How anyone could deny a stable, loving family Le Taz Hot Jun 2015 #53
K&R Happy Fathers Day! nt raouldukelives Jun 2015 #54
A wonderful read! HPXYZ Jun 2015 #55
DonViejo... lamp_shade Jun 2015 #56
K&R! How wonderful! Rhiannon12866 Jun 2015 #57
Love this! me b zola Jun 2015 #58
((DonViejoFamily)) blm Jun 2015 #59
Just lovely. Yes, there's something in my eye too......... wezl Jun 2015 #60
Way to go. alfredo Jun 2015 #61
wonderful! Kali Jun 2015 #62
Kicking. William769 Jun 2015 #63

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,620 posts)
3. Thank you for this beautiful story, my dear William769!
Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:41 PM
Jun 2015

And thank you to our own DonViejo for permission to post that gorgeous picture!

Seeing these little children getting the loving and nurturing that they must have to become loving, nurturing adults we so desperately need makes my heart very happy...

panader0

(25,816 posts)
6. How very cool. Which guy is DonViejo?
Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:43 PM
Jun 2015

20 foster kids! That is dedication. Good for you DV.
Recommended.

William769

(55,147 posts)
25. Yes they have.
Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:13 PM
Jun 2015

And hopefully this week there will be more to celebrate to add to this joyous occasion.

 

Spitfire of ATJ

(32,723 posts)
32. The caption for that picture should be in the OP....
Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:52 PM
Jun 2015
Don Babets (left) and David Jean are surrounded by neighborhood kids in 1985. After the Globe published a story about the couple becoming foster parents, the state took the children away.


That shows how far we've come since Saint Ronnie of the Sacred Bonzo.

sheshe2

(83,770 posts)
45. Happy Fathers Day
Sun Jun 21, 2015, 07:07 PM
Jun 2015

To Don and Dave. Both have so much love in their hearts that it spilled over to all the children.

Here is to the other same sex couples that open their hearts and homes to the children. Such a beautiful story it makes me want to cry with joy.

Thank you for posting, William.

 

hifiguy

(33,688 posts)
46. It restores a bit of faith in humanity.
Sun Jun 21, 2015, 07:10 PM
Jun 2015

Don and Dave represent our better angels, and do so splendidly.

Cha

(297,237 posts)
48. Mahalo William for posting this.. a wonderful history of our
Sun Jun 21, 2015, 07:13 PM
Jun 2015

friend and his family.. and the history of the how adoption for Gay Families came to be in Massachusetts!

Le Taz Hot

(22,271 posts)
53. How anyone could deny a stable, loving family
Sun Jun 21, 2015, 09:30 PM
Jun 2015

to children who desperately need one simply because of evil, unjustifiable bigotry I'll never understand. Hundreds of thousands of children languish in unloved, unwanted circumstances and there just aren't enough families willing/able/prepared to take in these children. What a nice story. Thank you for posting.

Rhiannon12866

(205,365 posts)
57. K&R! How wonderful!
Mon Jun 22, 2015, 05:53 AM
Jun 2015

We really need a feel good story like this right now and kudos to our own DonViejo!!!

alfredo

(60,071 posts)
61. Way to go.
Mon Jun 22, 2015, 03:59 PM
Jun 2015

I have a friend that has had over 50 foster children. He is now collecting luggage donations, then distributing them to Foster Children. He's a good lefty too.

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