We lost. 6 t0 1 and my wife tried to hurt herself

[diabeticman]

she has no hospitalization. her next session isn't until the end of the month

[In_The_Wind]

1. Damn! I'm truly sorry.

Is she ok now?

[Rhinodawg]

2. Obviously I'm late to the conversation. Any link ?

[Ptah]

3. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

1-800-273-TALK (8255)

[elleng]

4. 6-1 on what issue/question?

[NV Whino]

5. Take your pick

There are lots of them.

[elleng]

9. I've heard this was about pets,

NO to visit, NO to keep. Hard to believe, imo, but that's how it went.

[betsuni]

48. Verily, the fields are ripe for harvest.

[justamama83]

6. I've seen you post on this over and over .....

All I can say is FFS get her some help- screw it- pay the hospital/doctor $10 a month if you have to but your wife needs professional intervention and you're not going to get that on an internet message board. If she is hurting herself you need to take action before she escalates even further.

[Texasgal]

7. You need to take your wife

to the hospital. They need to evalute her and get her help. This is getting out of hand at this point. Get in the car right now and go. You cannot wait!

[elleng]

8. I agree.

[cwydro]

11. Was this aboout the pet thing?

You mean your wife tried to kill herself?

I hope that's not the case.

[elleng]

15. Yes, I hear it was about pets,

NO to visit, NO to keep.

[cwydro]

22. I'm thinking there

have got to be other issues here.

[glasshouses]

30. She tried to kill her self because the apartment they rent said no pets allowed?

[bettyellen]

31. it seems deeper than that....

somehow this policy was taken very personally as if the board was after her personally or taunting her somehow.
I know life feels like that sometimes, but it's all just an unfortunate situation. I guess they were hoping for an exemption of something, but did not get it. Poor woman needs some help coping.

[elleng]

32. Not being able to have a cat even visit has caused

or has aggravated her depression, it appears. Their work schedules makes it so that when her husband is working and she's at home, she's home alone, and she has problems with that, from what I recall.

[glasshouses]

34. If possible time to move or have a doctor decide she needs a service animal

[elleng]

36. We've discussed both here,

I think moving isn't feasible (or wasn't,) and I don't know status of any medically needed service animal, which appeals to me. Will pass it on.

[glasshouses]

38. '

http://www.canines4hope.com/psychiatric-service-dogs-training-south-florida.htm

[elleng]

39. Thanks.

[octoberlib]

42. Cats can also be registered as service animals

btw. My friend registered her cat last year.

[elleng]

43. I figured they could.

Hope the OP is dealing with it. Seems like a good idea.

[HereSince1628]

12. I don't mean to work too hard to find things to build on in that, but

She wasn't hospitalized, which suggests it wasn't life threatening and the drive to hurt herself is over or at least no longer deemed immediate.

and

there is a "next" session...which implies there has been previous contact with a therapist, so there is some opportunity to build on previous experience.


I don't doubt it's been very difficult, you probably know many communities have both professional support and peer-led support for care-givers and family of persons who engage in it. Regional/county mental health depts. and county or state chapters of National Association for Mental Illness can help with locating appropriate affordable help for care-givers and family.

[DeadLetterOffice]

13. I have to pile on here - get her to an ER.

You cannot imagine the pain you will feel if she succeeds in doing herself major harm or killing herself. The lack of insurance HAS to be irrelevant right now. Get her to an ER with psyche evaluation abilities. IMMEDIATELY. Do not minimize it, do not think for a minute that this is just 'one of those things,' do not pretend to yourself that it's going to get better on its own. GET HER TO AN ER.

- brought to you by your friendly neighborhood clinical social worker who's also a suicide survivor

[elleng]

16. Thanks for this.

I'm sure he'll appreciate the professional understanding and advice.

[Throd]

14. Get her help. I thought my brother-in-law was being a drama queen until the day he hanged himself.

[benz380]

17. Mine too.

I helped my B I L as much as I could to the point I thought he was faking mental illness. Then I got a call he had shot himself in the head.

[Sheldon Cooper]

18. I believe you are in Washington County.

Washington Health System Hospital has a 30-bed behavioral health unit. Go there immediately and see about an admission. The phone number is [phone].

Insurance Coverage

Behavioral Health Services treatment is covered by most insurance which include Highmark, UPMC Health Plan, Medicaid and Medicare. In cases when there is no insurance or concerns related to insurance coverage our Social Services department is available to answer questions and assist with this process.

http://www.washingtonhospital.org/services/behavioral_health/

[riderinthestorm]

19. Get her to the hospital STAT!

Then you need to do some serious evaluation of your situation and moving.

Do you want to stay in a place you "love" that's killing your wife? Really?

[appalachiablue]

20. I agree. Please get your wife professional help immediately, for her sake and yours.

And after that look into how you are living and what can be changed for the better.

[riderinthestorm]

21. Yes. clearly a pet is a deal breaker for her (animals really are wondrous therapy)

If diabeticman won't sneak a cat in and he truly wants his wife to be ok then its time to move.

[appalachiablue]

24. Absolutely, time to plan moving. But for now medical help is critical. I wonder if he's taking in

any of this and acting to get her help. When able I hope he lets us know how things are with them.

Like other posters who have experienced suicide, my husband age 27 had a call from his sister in law to get to his older brothers house. When he arrived the doors were locked; he forced in to find his brother had taken his life with a gunshot. The brother was a gentle religious man, a beloved music teacher who years earlier had suffered a heart attack and sunk into depression over time
The brother and his wife had tried but could not reach his doctor who was actually on the golf course at the time. The funeral and aftermath of strained relations between family members who blamed the widow for not informing them how things were went on for years. Everyone suffers, signs like this must be taken seriously.

[cwydro]

26. Yeah,

something more than pet issues here. I think.

Sounds like a horrible place to live though.

[glasshouses]

35. My dogs are all the family I have

[Avalux]

23. It's not clear if you're saying she wasn't hospitalized, or can't be because of no ins.

Regardless - it's imperative that she gets help immediately. Take her to an ER.

There is clearly more going on here than not being able to have a cat in your home, and the underlying issue needs to be addressed. It may be that you will never be able to have a cat in your home as long as you live in your condo. If you are unable to move anytime soon, then you and your wife will need come to terms with this. You cannot continue to live your lives this way. Get some help.

[appalachiablue]

25. The seriousness of the situation cannot be overemphazied. I hope he is getting her help and lets

us know how things are going. Praying for them and wishing for the best.

[bettyellen]

27. get her some help now dude, and work on finding a new place to live ASAP for fuck's sake

she is miserable there, and she needs help or she will be miserable the next place.
work on fixing both issues now- no excuses.

[cwydro]

29. ...

[stage left]

28. Does your wife have a psychiatrist or a therapist?

If she does, call them and tell them what's going on with her. They won't tell you much but you can tell them plenty. If not, get her to an ER. NAMI, the national alliance for mental illness, mentioned upthread, is a good group. They have support groups for both caregivers and the mentally ill that I highly reccomend. I've been going to one since October and I've learned a lot.

[elleng]

33. He's said she has seen a therapist,

but on a stretched out schedule, so not due for next appointment in a while. I agree he should contact them now.

[stage left]

40. Yes, he should,elleng.

I just had to contact the intake therapist at our Mental Health Clinic because my daughter, who is suffering from Clinical depression, was having suicidal thoughts and told me she needed help. She saw a psychiatrist that day even though she had only just been put on the program at this clinic. So, even if you don't think it's that serious being wrong can be tragic.

[elleng]

41. I've asked him to see to this,

haven't heard back, hoping they're attending to it today.

Best wishes to you and your daughter, stage left.

Thanks.

[benz380]

37. The OP hasn't posted since original post. Hopefully he got her some help. nt

[Kaleva]

44. There's a lot more at play here then just the pet issue.

Someone who is deemed to be a threat to their own well being can be admitted even if they don't have insurance. As others have already said, you ought to take her to the nearest ER immediately.

In the long run, IMHO, I think that not just your wife but thr both of you could benefit from seeing a counselor or psychiatrist.

[greatlaurel]

45. Oh diabeticman, I am so sorry for your difficulties. Please take care of yourself.

You cannot help your wife if you are not well. A pet can make such a difference. I sincerely hope you can somehow find a place where you can have a pet soon.

Let your wife know that she has a lot of people very concerned for her. Depression is a serious illness that has physical causes that are still not known.

Please be gentle with yourself and let us know how things are going.

[Texasgal]

46. Kick!

DM...please check in? Did you take your spouse to the ER? Some of us are concerned. Please check in.

[elleng]

47. Folks, diabeticman has posted again.

There is some hopeful action. Here it is, in case you miss it: http://www.democraticunderground.com/10026227753#post1