My last aunt has passed

[joeybee12]

Now all my uncles and aunts--all my parents brothers and sisters and their spouses--are gone. Kind of weird, being the oldest now.

My aunt had a good long life, although there was a great deal of pain. Two of her four children passed before she did, one son who she was was really close to died of a very aggressive brain tumor. She had been under hospice at home, but needed more care so there were plans on moving to her to a facility tomorrow, but apparently she decided she wanted to be at home and passed during the night. We should have a vote like she did when it's time to leave. I'm sure she's at peace. We will miss her.

[niyad]

1. peace and healing to you and your loved ones.

[shenmue]

2. ...

[bigwillq]

3. I am very sorry.

[pinboy3niner]

4. I'm sorry you lost her

[countryjake]

5. Peace to you, joeybee12.

I know the feeling and it's an odd one.

I'm glad that your Aunt got to die at home.

[Dont call me Shirley]

6. Aunt...

[sheshe2]

7. Peace to you and yours joeyb.

[malaise]

8. Deepest sympathy - it's always surprising how time moves on

When the one aunt we have left goes my oldest sister becomes the family matriarch.

[Curmudgeoness]

9. I know just how it feels to lose the last of a generation.

I just lost the last one from my parents' generation in September. He had taken the option of assisted suicide in Oregon where he lived. He was 91.

It has bothered me often that I did not get more family stories from this generation. Heartbreaking that it is too late. My family was never one to talk much about the past and the what happened when they were young and growing up, but I think that I should have pushed it.

My condolences on your loss. I hope you have lots of memories.

[Lucky Luciano]

10. Sorry to hear that.

My last great aunt (among six sisters) is somehow still kicking at 103.

[msanthrope]

11. I am very sorry. The passing of a generation is a sobering thing. Be well and at peace. nt

[Historic NY]

12. I'm with ya...one uncle left and he doesn't know it.

[femmocrat]

13. I'm very sorry for your loss.

She is at peace now.

[grasswire]

14. I'm sorry.

I anticipate that happening in my family soon. My last two aunts are 92 and 93. I visit them weekly, but this is a reminder to ask all the questions that need asking, now.

My condolences, joeybee.

[Kaleva]

15. Very sorry to hear that and I can relate to how you feel.

[madinmaryland]

16. I'm sorry, joey. So now you are the family Patriarch?

[Jack Rabbit]

17. ()

I have known for some time what it is like to be the only person who lived in a particular house in Stockton. California, in the fifties and sixties who is still alive. It only sucks when I let it suck. All that is left is memories, and they are blessings. That's what get me through every day.

[MissDeeds]

18. I am so sorry joeybee12

I have one remaining aunt...the last link to my mom's family. We aren't close; she's a rabid teabagger who lives about 1,300 miles away, but she was part of my youth. My mom died in October, and I have no parents or grandparents left. Life's passages are so hard.

Sending hugs and good vibes your way.

[H2O Man]

19. Peace to you, Friend.

I'm sorry for your loss.

[calimary]

20. My condolences, joeybee12.

Yep. The torch has passed. It is kind of weird, being the oldest now, for sure! Almost all our family elders are gone, too. Husband's parents, mine. I have an elderly aunt on my father's side who's still alive but she, sadly, is not at all well or able to live independently anymore. They're all fading into history. All our departed elders lived to ripe old ages. I'm glad your aunt was able to die at home, on her own terms. That's probably the final blessing.

[47of74]

21. I'm very sorry for your loss

My paternal Grandma passed on Jan 24th. She was my last Grandparent. She had been in assisted living but had to go up to the hospital because of multiple infections and she had dementia too. Even though she improved a bit during her hospital stay it became apparent that she wouldn't be able to go back to assisted living and needed to go to a nursing home. We decided it was time for hospice care too based on the Doctor's recommendation. She got well enough to go to a nursing home. Two days later on Jan 24th she went to take a nap and passed away in her sleep.

When my paternal Grandpa had to go to the hospital in July 2013 I went to see him on July 12th and they were discussing with him how they were going to have him go over to a nursing home for rehab and hopefully go back to assisted living in a few months. I guess he decided he didn't want that because later that afternoon after I left he went to sleep. He woke up just long enough to tell the Doctor he was dying before going back to sleep and dying the next morning at 4am.

[Jefferson23]

22. That is a significant loss..my condolences, joeybee.

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[TBF]

23. I was wondering where you've been -

so sorry to hear that news. Mine are getting older now too which seems weird because they were in high school when I was born - so I guess I'm getting older too. I do still have one set of grandparents and they are almost 90.

[Freddie]

24. There's only one of the "parents generation" left in my family

One aunt, she's 86 but in great shape physically and mentally. When my Dad (the next-to-last one) died last summer at 92, I was reminded that "we're the old-timers now." Thanks.