Manners
Those affectations that allude to your concern for the comfort of others before self. They also function as establishing gender and social roles.
Watching Bonobo's interact, it is easy to see the parallels. And to understand that it is ritualized greeting habits, used to allow you to believe you know proper behavior. Almost without fail, ingratiating you to your focus.
Generally, everyone believes they are "polite". And yet, to espouse deprivation, and hardship for all those struggling, seems in hypocritical conflict with manners. How can those that just jettisoned spittle degrading all those assumed below themselves, hope to be taken serious, when they "act" compassionate towards others? Add to this, when interviewing neighbors of mass murderers and sociopaths, they inevitably mention their perfect manners.
Manners can be mangled, as evidenced by this fool edumacating us while standing up for those economically disadvantaged.
Further, religion and particularly politics excuses us from showing manners to some outgroups. Gays, foreigners, single mothers, Feminists, Minorities, unfortunates, all can be stigmatized, to ENFORCE the advantages of polite society. All the while claiming a morally superior stance.
My interest is in asking how beholden are we to acknowledge the etiquette of homophobes, bigots, racists, sexists, xenophobes, or generally anyone who's exclusion of untouchables from polite society is witnessed elsewhere? Should their claims of religious superiority, or overall moral superiority be challenged? Should their hypocrisy be shamed? And under what circumstances?
I find myself running empty on goodwill towards the haters. Nor any desire to engage them in constructive debate. I am not talking about oldline conservatives, but the newfangled neocons, strict constitutionalists and neuvoriche. I feel like socially punishing them. Shaming them in their hypocrisy and inhumanity.
MANNERS are incompatible with calvinist hate. How do we revamp manners to punish those that undercut society? How can we make inhumanity something akin to welfare queens, or deadbeat dads? And why are shitheads allowed to cluck cluck? how do we stigmatize teafreak insistance on individuality, at the expense of the commons, and upward mobility?
