Mom is gone.

[RandySF]

Last edited Thu Oct 9, 2014, 11:04 PM - Edit history (1)

Mom is gone. She very quietly shut down and slipped away today. False hope is the cruelest thing life can ever send you. She seemed to have been getting better and I thought we were going to beat this, but she didn't. At the very least my wife and son and I got to say "I love you" on the phone. I'll be the first to admit that I am a coward and I'm glad she left before I got Back East to see her at her worst. My last memory will always be giving her a hug before going to the airport and saying "see you at Christmas". I saw her standing, smiling, hugging her grandson, saying to .me "you're a good father".The woman she always was until just before the end. Soon we'll say my final goodbyes and be the man she always believed I can be. Goodbye mom.

[winter is coming]

1. ...

[Tom_Foolery]

2. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother...

[Tsiyu]

3. RIP RandySF's Beloved Mom

[In_The_Wind]

4. ...

[CurtEastPoint]

5. Peace and good memories to you all and bless Mom.

[herding cats]

6. (((RandySF)))

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[NaturalHigh]

7. I'm very sorry Randy.

My prayers go out to you and your family.

[brer cat]

8. I'm sorry, Randy.

Cherish your memories, they will lift you up.

[LiberalLoner]

9. I am so sorry for your loss.

Just keep breathing, and hold on to the good memories. My Mom visited me in my dreams after she passed on. I hope your Mom will send signs to you, too, for comfort.

[Luminous Animal]

10. I'm so sorry, Randy.

[magical thyme]

11. I am so sorry for your loss...

Your last memory sounds wonderful.

[sheshe2]

12. I am so very sorry Randy.

Tears.

May your mom rest in peace and you and yours heal now.

[dembotoz]

13. ...

[IdaBriggs]

14. So sorry for your loss....

[nc4bo]

15. Their light always seems to shine brightest before they go.....

but the important thing is you got to say goodbye and I love you and she knew........they always know.

(((hugs))) to you and your family RandySF. The peace of your Mother's love will surround you always and she will always be alive in your heart.

[Beaverhausen]

16. I'm sorry. Lost my mom in February

It hurts but having those good memories helps.

[displacedtexan]

17. So sorry.

Losing a parent is much harder than people ever think it's going to be.

Thinking of you.

[BrotherIvan]

18. She was right about you

I am sure what made her the happiest of all was how proud she was of her son. My condolences to you.

[Rex]

19. I'm so sorry.

[WillyT]

20. :( ::::::::::::::::::::::::::

Dammit !!!

[CTyankee]

21. I travelled back and forth form CT to TX when my mother was failing...

it was important to me to try to be with her at her last moment. I pretty much succeeded, being with her at the very end when she fell into a coma and never came out. I had to leave and go to rest, but she passed about an hour after I left. I got a phone call, dressed and came immediately to her side and was able to kiss her before the funeral home came to take her away.

The strange thing I noticed was that she was "not there" when I came to see her (only a few minutes from the hospital). She was a shell of herself. It was odd...I will never forget that moment with her...

[Lifelong Protester]

22. I am so sorry for your loss.

You are the second person I know of that has lost their mom this week.

[babylonsister]

23. My sincerest condolences

Moms are so tough to lose-hugs to you and yours.

[Curmudgeoness]

24. I am so sorry you lost your mother.

Nothing has been harder on me than that, and I know how hard it is.

[840high]

25. So very sorry. Hugs.

[riderinthestorm]

26. Condolences RandySF... I am so so sorry

[Frustratedlady]

27. My sympathy to you and your family in your loss.

Good memories will help you, but I'm a firm believer she is not far away.

[AtomicKitten]

28. very sorry for your loss

k&r

[MineralMan]

29. So sorry.

[whathehell]

30. I'm so sorry for you, Randy

I know how you feel.

[senseandsensibility]

31. I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm glad that your last memory

of her is a positive one. We'll all be gone one day, and the most we can hope for is to inspire positive memories in others. May she rest in peace.

[DonCoquixote]

32. peace and best wishes

I think she will be proud to see what you have become, and what you will become.

[Triana]

33. I'm so sorry Randy.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

34. I'm sorry for your loss.

This is a very, very hard thing. Having good memories makes it a little easier, but still...

[Dont call me Shirley]

35. Grieve well. Love and Peace to your mom, you and your family.

You are very lucky indeed to have had a good mother.

[dixiegrrrrl]

36. I am sorry for your loss, Randy.

[malaise]

37. It's hard to lose a parent

Deepest sympathy. In time, you'll be flooded with the lovely memories

[Iwillnevergiveup]

38. "The woman she always was"

such beautiful words will stay with you forever, Randy. My sincere condolences on the loss of your beloved mother who raised a wonderful son.

[etherealtruth]

39. i am so sorry

[A HERETIC I AM]

40. My condolences.

Wishing you much strength during these difficult days.

[Gore1FL]

41. I'm sorry for your loss. n/t

[LoisB]

42. So very sorry for your loss. I am glad you have a good last memory.

[Sissyk]

43. I'm so sorry, RandySF.

RIP to your mom.

[jwirr]

44. So sorry. Take care.

[rustydog]

45. You have my deepest condolences

I lost my mother 40 years ago. I still miss her to this day. Hang in there.

[Callmecrazy]

46. So sorry

[Half-Century Man]

47. My Condolences.

[panader0]

48. So sorry Randy

[Raven]

49. I will tell you this: I want my children

to remember me vibrant or at least capable of living life. I do not want my children to remember me in pain and in the last death throes. This is what I thought about my own parents but I did not get the gift of having that and my last images of them are not what they should be to give their lives peace or the memories I should have carried away with me. Anyway, none of us knows how we are going to die but I hope my kids see me leave this earth with a good memory.

[LWolf]

50. I'm so sorry.

[Peacetrain]

51. My deepest sympathies Randy..

[Solly Mack]

52. I'm so sorry, RandySF.

[2naSalit]

53. ...

PS. Try not to beat yourself up about not being there or whatever, regrets cause harm over the long term.

[Skidmore]

54. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.

So sorry for your loss.

[LibDemAlways]

55. Sincere condolences. I hope the memories

of good times shared bring comfort and peace.

[navarth]

56. "Lost, like tears in the rain"

The unforgettable ending to Blade Runner.

Such terrible news. So sorry. I haven't the words.

Peace and comfort. May time ease your pain.

Gonna hug my Mom extra close when I see her Sunday.

[No Vested Interest]

57. One of the tougher losses we face - our Mother.

Keep that mind picture of your last time with her - a happy time for both of you.

So sorry.

[Liberalynn]

58. My deepest condolences!

[arthritisR_US]

59. I am so sorry for your loss, she sounds like

a very beautiful lady.

[Jenoch]

60. I'm sorry for your loss.

I lost my mother six years ago. I was at her bedside with my two brothers and father when she died. It's the hardest thing I have ever been through. My sister's death 20 years ago was pretty tough too.

[rug]

61. Those are three of the saddest words in human language.

Hearing them again, all these years later, doesn't change that.

So sorry, Randy.

[Louisiana1976]

62. I'm so sorry to hear of your mom's passing, Randy.

[TBF]

63. My condolences Randy -

I believe she was likely at peace and ready to go. My FIL was like that and talked about "going home". We think he really meant he was ready. Lots of hugs.

[Mike Nelson]

64. Lost mine five years ago...

It's always going to be sad, but they'll be a time when it hurts less and good memories prevail.

[Brigid]

65. I am so sorry for your loss.

[bvf]

66. So sorry, Randy.

Lost my mom almost two years ago. I wish you strength in your mom's memory.

[MrMickeysMom]

67. Hugs to you, RandySF

[Laffy Kat]

68. My deepest sympathy, RandySF.

You sound like a wonderful son.

[raven mad]

69. My heart breaks for you.

[cal04]

70. I'm so sorry for your loss

my thoughts are with you and your family

[Yo_Mama]

71. So sorry. Memories will indeed comfort you.

Make sure you share the memories with your children.

[A Little Weird]

72. I'm so sorry for your loss n/t

[oneshooter]

73. My condolences to you and your family. From me and my family. n/t

[Andy823]

74. My condolences nt

[City Lights]

75. I'm so sorry for your loss, RandySF.

Peace to you and yours.

[greatlaurel]

76. Please accept my sincerest condolences for your loss.

Please be gentle with yourself during your grieving.

[closeupready]

77. What touching words about your beloved mom, and

I send you my sincere condolences.

[slipslidingaway]

78. So very sorry for your loss ...

may the happy memories sustain you in the months ahead.

[Quayblue]

79. condolences to you and your family

[PADemD]

80. So sorry for your loss.

[tomm2thumbs]

81. Sounded like a wonderful woman and mom, full of love for others

How especially wonderful to have had someone so thoughtful and giving to learn and live from in your world.

I'm sure she thought the world of you and was proud as she could be. Our thoughts with you and your family.

[kentuck]

82. I am so terribly sorry to hear of your loss.

Words cannot express.

[MissDeeds]

83. I am so sorry for your loss, RandySF

You have good memories of your last time with your mom. My mother died last Wednesday morning, October 1. We had a difficult relationship, and although I didn't alway like my mom, I always loved her. It's been a tough week...

I'll be thinking of you and sending good vibes your way. Take care.



MissDeeds

[bullwinkle428]

84. Very sorry for you and your family's loss.

[Rhiannon12866]

85. Oh no! I am so sorry!

Whether you're expecting it, or not, it's just the worst. I've been there and I understand. Be kind to yourself and remember that you made her very proud.

[TorchTheWitch]

86. I'm so sorry for your losing your mom

Whatever age one is it still hurts like hell to lose a parent.

[shenmue]

87. Rest in peace

[TheNutcracker]

88. Asking the goddess to comfort you, and protect yours...

[marym625]

89. I'm ssorry

I almost posted to you about "the rally" that happens right before death so often. But I didn't want to bring your hope down. It's a common phenomenon and I watched it happen with many of my relatives.

I am so sorry for your loss.

[hunter]

90. .

[AwakeAtLast]

91. Sincere condolences to you and your family

So, so sorry.

[Ecumenist]

92. Gosh, Randy, I am SO sorry. Please accept my dearest & deepest sympathies...

You & your family will be in my prayers, thoughts and heart. Unfortunately, you're a new member of the club of the motherless and I want you to know that you are in a group of people here in DU who, although we probably wouldn't know you from Adam if we met in the street, care about and love you. God bless you and safe journey to your dear mom.

[littlemissmartypants]

93. A sweet and moving tribute.

[hedgehog]

94. I'm sorry for your loss.

[mazzarro]

95. My sincere condolence - please take heart. n/t

[ColesCountyDem]

96. I'm so sorry for your loss. n/t

[MFM008]

97. loss of a parent

Is harder than I ever thought. Peace to your family , condolences.

[vankuria]

98. So very sorry

I know how hard it is, I lost my mom 3 yrs. ago and not a day goes by that I don't miss her. Sounds like you had a wonderful relationship and she was very proud of you. Her life lives on through you and your son, may her memories always be a blessing.

Take care and live everyday to honor her memory.

[Gothmog]

99. I am sorry for you loss

May she rest in peace

[GoCubsGo]

100. I'm so sorry, Randy.

This seems to be the year for losing our moms.

[JustAnotherGen]

101. I'm sorry

[mfcorey1]

102. Condolences and Peace to you.

[sinkingfeeling]

103. Sorry for the loss of your mother.

[VA_Jill]

104. So sorry for your loss

My mom died a year and a half ago and I still miss her.

[CrispyQ]

105. My sympathies to you and your family on your loss.

[ChisolmTrailDem]

106. Sunday will mark one year since my mom died from a sudden heart attack. You

have my heartfelt thoughts, RandySF. And may your mom rest in eternal peace.

[glinda]

107. I just lost my father and I grieve with you and leave you this:

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=4675953

[kiva]

108. ...

[ladyVet]

109. Randy, so sorry to see this.

I think you already are the man she believed you could be.

[janlyn]

110. No matter how old we are,

When we lose our mums we are suddenly a child again! I lost my mum in 2000. It was hard and I still sometimes miss her so much, but it truly is a comfort when you see your mum in your children and grand children. A piece of our loved ones live on.
I am truly sorry for your loss, I wish I could reach through cyber space to give you a hug, but since I can't these will have to do.

[AgingAmerican]

111. My condolences Randy

There is nothing quite like a mothers love

[roguevalley]

112. I am of the opinion, RandySF, that your sweet mom knew you

wanted to have good memories of her and not this. I think she made sure you didn't have this in your memory because mom's love their children. They love them more than anything. It was an act of love and mercy that you weren't there to deal with this.

Your mom is with you and will let you know. Watch for her signs. No mother would leave their children alone at one of the worst moments of their life. I wish you peace and good memories. Know you are loved and that time is your friend now. -RV

[rhett o rick]

113. I am sorry for you loss.

[cate94]

114. I'm so sorry

[Maraya1969]

115. My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

[calimary]

116. Condolences and hugs to you, RandySF.

Thank you for sharing this journey with us. Moms sure don't last forever, do they.

[Elmer S. E. Dump]

117. Mom's never leave us.

They reside inside of our hearts forever. And so we can love them for the rest of our lives, in good and bad times.

Mom's and Dad's can pass in an instant, but they are never farther away than the distance between your heart to your brain...

I'm gonna miss my mom terribly, too.

Condolences to you, RandySF, and your family.

[graywarrior]

118. Hugs to you, Randy

And love being sent your way.

[Liberal_in_LA]

119. ..

[onethatcares]

120. only the best of thoughts

going out to you.

Keep the good memories,