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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region Forums“Daddy’s going to kill her,” I said to my sister. “We have to do something.” (Yamma Brown, age 5)
My Father Was James Brown. I Watched Him Beat My Mother. And Then I Found Myself With Someone Like Dad.
The beatings always begin the same way, with the same terrible sounds. My parents are in their bedroom, behind closed doors. First comes the boom of my fathers voice. Dee Dee! Goddamn it, Dee Dee! Then I hear what sounds like thunder rolling through the house. Thats Mom hitting the wall. I wait for her to scream, but she doesnt. She whimpers. She must have learned long ago that screaming incites him.
I swear that during those fights, I could feel the whole house shake with my fathers crazy rage. Whenever hed start, my sister Deanna and I would run for cover, usually in a closet or under our beds, and cry quietly into our cupped hands. I shook a lot as a kid. My hands. My face. My knees. A 5-year-old with tremors. As my grandma used to say, Aint that just the saddest thing? Sometimes the fights lasted only minutes. Sometimes longer. The monster would appear, wreaking havoc on our lives, and then the rumbling would stop and wed hear our mothers muffled cries. After that, the house would go completely quiet. The sound of the silence was the worst because thats when Deanna and I would wonder if our mother were alive or dead and if we would be next.
(snip)
After a while, I did what my mom did and acted as if the beatings hadnt happened. Id pretend the Browns were just like everyone else, a happily married couple with their two great kids.
(snip)
I ran to the front door and peered outside. My mother was dressed in her blue and white robe. Her legs were splayed wide open and my father was straddling her, pummeling her with clenched fists. Doosh. Thud. Doosh. Thud. Blood spurted from my mothers face. She started thrashing around, kicking her legs, holding up her arms to ward off the punches and trying to break free, trying to save herself. I froze in place, but then something inside of me took over and I knew I had to do something. I felt no fear, only rage. I ran outside, screaming, Leave her alone! Stop punching Mommy! He didnt even turn around. He just kept punching. The next thing I knew I was on his back, trying to pull him off of my mom. Sweat was dripping off his face and his eyes were glazed and wild. When he first looked at me, it was as if I was looking into the eyes of a strangerand a mad one at that. Stop! I screamed. Leave Mommy alone! My father looked stunned. It was as if hed awakened from a bad dream. His head dropped and his shoulders slumped. I looked down at my mom. Her eyes were purple and her face was bloody. She didnt look back at me.
(snip)
Years later I read a quote by Stephen King that summed up what it was like living with the abuse: People outside such relationships will sometimes ask, How could you let such a business go on for so many years? Didnt you see the elephant in the living room? And its so hard for anyone living in a more normal situation to understand the answer that comes closest to the truth; Im sorry, but it was there when I moved in. I didnt know it was an elephant; I thought it was part of the furniture.
More at Link: http://www.slate.com/blogs/browbeat/2014/09/17/cold_sweat_my_father_james_brown_and_me_excerpt_james_brown_s_daughter_yamma.html
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“Daddy’s going to kill her,” I said to my sister. “We have to do something.” (Yamma Brown, age 5) (Original Post)
IdaBriggs
Sep 2014
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IdaBriggs
(10,559 posts)2. I do not know if I can ever think of James Brown the same way again.
I thought his music was wonderful.
Now, it will always be punctuated by "Doosh. Thud." in my head.
libodem
(19,288 posts)5. Seriously
I had to cry about this. It left me in tears. I was a battered wife but not like this. Other women in the shelter had much worse physical abuse. Much of mine was psychological and emotional abuse. Those scars last forever.
I so admire women with the courage to share. It's one of those things where you wonder if people will just think she didn't know when to shut up. I'd pop her too. Nobody likes her here anyway.
Triana
(22,666 posts)3. I've lost respect for James Brown now.
Just forget it.
questionseverything
(9,657 posts)4. there is a federal judge, mark fuller doing this crap NOW
he has life and death power over people but we can stop him, if we call on reps from the house to impeach him
http://www.bradblog.com/?p=10811
IdaBriggs
(10,559 posts)6. Kick.