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by Middle-Aged Men.
By Lisa Solod
And yet what Junod wants us to be concerned with is whether men like him want to sleep with women over 40. He's a 55-year-old man who deigns to consider bedding some famous 42-year-old women, but only if they are movie stars and have been doing their pilates. And he clearly feels bad not just about our necks, but about our whole fading beauty. So he's willing to f*ck us one last time before we disappear.
But here's the thing. We don't give a sh*t about Tom Junod. We don't give a sh*t about Rush Limbaugh. We DO give a sh*t about the legislators who are trying mightily to take back what small rights we have won, but we don't care a whit if those legislators like us. Or if they think we are too loud or aggressive or even just downright bitchy.
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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-solod/8-things-middle-aged-women-think-about-far-more-than-whether-theyre-still-fckable-by-middle-aged-men_b_5577804.html?ncid=txtlnkusaolp00000592
MH1
(17,608 posts)Yeesh. Quite a few commenters with male-sounding names demonstrating their misogyny and cluelessness. I guess some of that is deliberate trollery.
Anyway, I recommend hip waders for the comments section on that piece.
Live and Learn
(12,769 posts)become a haven for the RW trolls. Which is exactly why I spend most of my comment reading on DU.
liberalhistorian
(20,819 posts)reading them. And they're public, too! Seems to me that the HP comments section actually used to be a lot better and more respectful when posters were anonymous. Makes no sense to me at all, but that's the way it seems.
The men whining on there is truly disgusting and pathetic. There's no sense of self-awareness or irony. Some are even complaining about the "new female superiority complex" where we gals are demanding "more rights and privileges than men with less responsibility." GAH. The sexist stupid, I can't take it.
alp227
(32,062 posts)which is why those "men" are SO comfortable putting their names and faces next to their trolling.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Paladin
(28,276 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)see if the article is half as fun as the title.
Live and Learn
(12,769 posts)It caught mine too though I was a bit leery of it. Turns out to be a well written article by a woman that was just completely ticked off by the ridiculousness and gall of these GOP idiots.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)glad to hear it ends well. i am just that type of woman.
uppityperson
(115,681 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)now. back to reading. i love. bettyellen and the others kicked me in the ass about this social justice eye opener. she just did.
fuck that. i am all social justice.
someone have an issue with that?
too cute.
cheers betty
Kath1
(4,309 posts)Amen to that on this beautiful Sunday morning!
CBGLuthier
(12,723 posts)at the Senior US Open today and the temp is nearing the high 90s. Tomorrow I too shall be hot when I join her for the final round and it gets to 101. We both went Thursday when it was a mild 92 and came home and drank four glasses of water each.
Oh and apologies for the joke but I have wanted to use it all day and this seemed the place.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)too funny. i can just see, and how perfect this op set it up for you. enjoy the tournie.
CBGLuthier
(12,723 posts)What is funny is she asked for the tickets for Christmas and everyone assumed it was a gift for the both of us but the truth is she wanted to go. She went to a practice round Tuesday with her sister (it was her only day free) and she will be seeing all four rounds. I will only see two but that is OK with me.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)we were having the first professional tour in amarillo, and my mom was assigned t put it together, which was a blast in itself. she gave me hole one to score, one day and i got to be mearas (?) catty the next.
i knew nothing. it was early and cold. i ended yup with the mans gloves and coat. really embarassing in the incompetent. i do not know why the woman put me in that situation. but, he was very very nice.
they never came back to amarillo. i think because the texans would not adapt rules for their originizations progressiveness. or something.
i can see the enjoyment.
enlightenment
(8,830 posts)article, I did a quick search and ran across this very interesting review of it - and a second article in the same issue.
http://gawker.com/esquire-writers-were-willing-to-fuck-early-middle-aged-1602918511
Warpy
(111,359 posts)ran into a lamp post. I have never been beautiful but by gawd, I was cute. I never bothered with Lycra underwear and never wore a speck of makeup. Junod would likely have never noticed me since his requirements are so high.
It's a lot safer out there now that I'm over 50 and have my invisibility cloak on.
Do I miss it? I'd really have to say I don't. Some of it was fun while it lasted but most of it was a pain in the ass.
enlightenment
(8,830 posts)My fellow invisible over-50s and I are contemplating starting the worlds most successful paid assassination squad . . . we're already invisible, so we have a tremendous advantage. It would certainly fund our retirement kitty. Unfortunately, none of use are given to violence, so the actual assassination part would be a problem.
(Have you read the "Miss Melville" mystery series by the late Evelyn E. Smith? Very amusing!)
Edited for extra word
PasadenaTrudy
(3,998 posts)be private investigators!
enlightenment
(8,830 posts)Or spies . . .
nah. Investigators. I don't think spies make enough money to fund our retirements. Now we just need a catchy name - we can go national overnight, considering how many of us there are out there!
Kath1
(4,309 posts)BTW, love your sig line - "Childfree by choice!" Right on.
PasadenaTrudy
(3,998 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Kath1
(4,309 posts)Very cool that we are all having a little fun with this!
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)we are done. not playing this game no mo.
except one in this thread. she seems to still enjoy the constant circle, round and round, of the carousel.
Kath1
(4,309 posts)We're not going back. Fuck that!
calimary
(81,512 posts)crepey necks can be "sexy" too, with all that blowing fabric and slow-motion TV - and it's a commercial for vagina cream so sex isn't painful anymore.
FUCK that. My husband thinks I'm attractive because I have BRAINS. And I'm frankly too busy managing the band and the next TWO rounds of touring they have on tap - to be bothered with some "desire" to be groped and pawed.
ENOUGH. And let's get rid of those stupid Stupid STOOOOPID "she's always been the best thing for you, so it could be a question of blood flow..." WORST COPY SEGUE EVVVVERRRRRRRRRR! For heaven's sake, who writes that shit????
And BTW, may I gently add - to these dudes in Esquire who opine about the poor 40+plus women out there who need a mercy fuck before they shrivel up completely... WHO THE FUCK SAYS WE'D WANT YOU, ANYWAY??????? Methinks somebody's flattering himself just WAY too much...
blueamy66
(6,795 posts)just saying...
Warpy
(111,359 posts)Just saying....
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arikara
(5,562 posts)I never realized how much all the eye-balling and leering bothered me until I got over 50 and it stopped. It was a breath of fresh air. I understand now that there is nobody more invisible than a middle aged woman, this lovely stage lasts until you get old and then you get "cute" again.
pipi_k
(21,020 posts)When I was younger (say up till the age of about 45 or so), yes, I attracted a lot of male attention. It was a pain in the ass, but I did also get a secret ego boost.
Now I'm 61. Overweight. Not so "cute" anymore.
From a distance, that is.
But I've found that some men, when they are within conversation distance, seem to be focused a lot on my eyes, which I feel are my best feature. It's kind of an odd feeling, really.
Where they used to look at other places before, now they're actually looking at...and into...my eyes.
I think I like it.
knitter4democracy
(14,350 posts)I'm not horrific-looking or anything or even plain, but I'm a nerd. Nerdy gals are invisible.
dawg
(10,624 posts)Nerdy women are my only hope. I don't think I could ever be truly happy with a woman who was 100% "normal".
(I just need to make sure I don't pick one with major self-esteem issues next time.)
knitter4democracy
(14,350 posts)Most decent nerdy guys want the cheerleader from their high school fantasies, and normal guys either want to dominate or "settle." That leaves the "nice, nerdy guys," and they are mostly passive-aggressive types who aren't healthy for me to be around. I've pretty much given up on dating.
dawg
(10,624 posts)In fact, I think I probably need to get over that and learn to be more willing to give the "popular" outgoing types more of a chance. I tend to assume that:
1. those women wouldn't be interested in me anyway, and
2. they would bore me to death if they were
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)you heard how knitter sees it. how do you see it from your end?
no single woman? no single woman that???? that you can hook up with?
do you know what i am asking? i am curious.
dawg
(10,624 posts)Most of the ones I know are married, though. Just offhand, I can only think of two singe women that I interact with on a regular basis. Small town blues, I guess.
But that's beside the point. I'm sure, with online dating and such, that I could find women who would be willing to date me. The reasons I'm not doing that right now are internal to me.
I do admit to being a little pessimistic about being able to find the kind of woman I would love to find. There are lots of self-centered, superficial people in the world. I try not to be one of them, but they are definitely out there. And I've already proven how easily I can be fooled.
Likewise, I'm kind of an oddball type of guy for the rural South. A latte-sipping liberal who is also a Christian and possessed of somewhat old-fashioned values. I'm not the tough guy with the Harley Davidson that so many women around here seem to be attracted to. I'm definitely not the "bad boy". I"m the kind of guy your mother tries to set you up with. :p
knitter4democracy
(14,350 posts)Just being a liberal puts me in the minority.
dawg
(10,624 posts)So I know I'm looking for a one in a million kind of woman.
knitter4democracy
(14,350 posts)I have a master's to finish, a new job to find and start, a family to move, kids to raise, and honestly, most guys don't like taking a backseat to any of those on a regular basis (not that I blame them). So, I'm not looking and figure God will bring me the right man in the right time.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)i was kinda wondering how it worked for you, a good man. just look to find someone to connect with.
so what you see a lot of is not being accepted for not being that motorcycle type dude. living in texas, i get what you are saying. i do know that women. interesting. thanks.
this is prize, to me.
in time, dude.
thanks.
I'm 56. Some of it was fun but most of it was a royal pain in the ass! I really enjoy the "invisibility cloak."
Skittles
(153,202 posts)someone who was sent to me at work later admitted he was advised by guys in the group to look for a blonde with nice T&A - I'm 57
Cosmocat
(14,574 posts)Who are all of these men having sex with?
The year 2014 and THIS is the kind of shit we are dealing with?
So much that needs to be addressed, but the media and the country just lap up whatever bullshit the republicans are screaming about at any given time, and they will NOT be punished at the ballot box for it.
volstork
(5,403 posts)and they are pissed about it. The women that are unfortunate enough to be married to them probably don't want to sleep with them, so those frustrated little misogynists have to lash out in any way they can.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)cause they are no longer fools or inexperienced and see thru them, and the youngin' certainly do not want it.
Demeter
(85,373 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)lululu
(301 posts)with no one.
WCLinolVir
(951 posts)Who cares what goes on in their crappy little brains. Glad I do not live in his world. But he is too stupid to see another alternative reality that doesn't put him at the center. Well I hope he evolves at some point in time. Doesn't sound like it will be soon. Will he be committing suicide at 70 when the denial wears off?
maddiemom
(5,106 posts)BuelahWitch
(9,083 posts)They're probably just lonely!
maddiemom
(5,106 posts)Hekate
(90,837 posts)BuelahWitch
(9,083 posts)When I ask them about their interests and they send me emails or IMs of their junk, I knew it was time to give up the ghost.
dawg
(10,624 posts)There are lots of self-centered and twisted people out there. Finding a good, compatible match looks like it's going to be a real challenge for me as well.
arikara
(5,562 posts)Ewww.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)BuelahWitch
(9,083 posts)They just appear.
arikara
(5,562 posts)before you send it back. I seriously do not understand the male gender, and their obsession with their little head. If women ran around taking selfies of their vaginas and emailing them around... I mean really.
Squinch
(51,021 posts)want to do anything other than check for their names on sex-offender lists, but a lot of guys seem to think this is an ice breaker.
3catwoman3
(24,054 posts)...deal breaker.
Squinch
(51,021 posts)awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)N.Y. to Paris
(110 posts)Truth be told, they're all a bunch of cowards....call them on it, get in their faces,
f*ck them, get bitchier! organize and kick their F*ckin ass...you've been under
their thumbs long enough...there are guys out here who KNOW that you gals would
do a far better job than than these paranoid old white men....DO IT!
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)Now we can rate his fuckability too. I give him a 2--with drunk goggles, possibly, but with hurricane scale morning regret.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Live and Learn
(12,769 posts)is he wondering why he came in to that room?
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)Number23
(24,544 posts)Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)because I was just a little judgey about him. I'm pleasantly surprised! But yeah, I pretty much think he's a troll. I've never been happier to be 43 years old.
KamaAina
(78,249 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)LaurenG
(24,841 posts)he truly thinks he's special.
Warpy
(111,359 posts)so it won't be too obvious. He's also got sort of a Dudley Doright thing going on and we all know he's incapable of laughing at himself.
That last, alone, would keep him off my list if we were both 40 years younger.
Such men hang out in college bars and are well known as "those old creepers." They never get lucky but if they've got Viagra on board, they have a wank and later brag about the college kid they fantasized about as though she'd actually let them near her.
Junod should be as rich as Croesus if he expects to attract the kind of trophy babe he feels the world owes him. If he's not, maybe he needs to save up for a Real Doll.
blueamy66
(6,795 posts)I'm 48.
I have not had so much attention in my entire life as I have had in the last 6 months.
Why can't people just shut up?
kath
(10,565 posts)Not.
SoCalDem
(103,856 posts)Guys with big fat juicy wallets have ALWAYS found "love" with some younger, nubile. sexy younger women...but usually not long-lasting love
The guy put his fantasy down on paper and hit "send".. FAIL
underpants
(182,904 posts)That is indeed what he looks like.
littlemissmartypants
(22,822 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)niyad
(113,587 posts)(note to self: LOTS more wine tonight)
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)I love this subthread.
I didn't want to prejudice anyone upfront.
volstork
(5,403 posts)He's probably terrible in bed, anyway-- selfish and cold.
Skittles
(153,202 posts)They all think they are sex gods,preening around like barnyard roosters. Our secret is that WE don't want to f#ck THEM.
Skittles
(153,202 posts)guys saying "would still do".....as if those gals would EVER "do" these loser guys making such observations
As if ANY man is entitled to have sex with any woman he chooses. Actually, come to think of it, that very sense of entitlement is a large part of what drives the general misogyny of modern society.
Maybe in a couple hundred years we will have evolved a wee bit more. Our great granddaughters can only hope, but my guess is that they will still be fighting...
Curmudgeoness
(18,219 posts)but they think older women aren't?
I agree with your assessment of his fuckability.
treestar
(82,383 posts)I never found middle aged men attractive - they were "invisible" to me in that way. Every once in a while one would make an attempt and it would shock me they thought I would be interested.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)But what is really interesting is how much aging middle aged and older men think they are still attractive to younger women, as if younger women would even find them remotely attractive. It's like they haven't looked in the mirror in the past 30 years.
littlemissmartypants
(22,822 posts)historylovr
(1,557 posts)WinkyDink
(51,311 posts)Squinch
(51,021 posts)volstork
(5,403 posts)but he's just a small appliance...
JustAnotherGen
(31,907 posts)Oh my. No. Just no.
I thought we were going to see someone Clooney-esque.
Kath1
(4,309 posts)You should have warned us! Unfuckable, even with desperation and massive beer goggles!
lunatica
(53,410 posts)Looks like a carefully rehearsed selfie. Tousled hair, smirky, self-satisfied smile all carefully contrived to make every woman want him.
This is another reason to delight in being 66 years old now. Ugh!
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)we were in our youth with these men. they are our brothers, friends, boyfriends, husbands.
they lie to themselves so hard bad wanting to grab that long last youth. we get it. we see it, we know, we understand. and it aint gonna happen. as many stories as the men tell themselves, and tell each other to help convince them that really.... really really.... that 16 yr old really has the hots for a 50 yr old man. god just privileged men in that way.
we know the lie they tell themselves that only the women age. sex changes only for the older woman. that the man is not effected by age at all.
it is a whole lot of lying out of fear. and they have the internet to puff each others chest.
the reality, and what is very sad about all this. these men are hearing from other men, that they are all that. youth is still in their grasp. the hot 20 yr old does want them. adn they are not getting it, because it is a lie and not reality.
so they lie on line, and in real life feel like shit and alone
it is a fabricated story too many are living effecting their real life and those in it, so it is not harmless. and it is a time, male suicide escalates.
zazen
(2,978 posts)lunatica
(53,410 posts)they're desperate about their image with the younger women and the message is directed towards other men, not women. The "You're lucky I'll fuck you now because, babe, if you were over 40 I wouldn't even look at you. I'm that great of a catch." isn't about seducing the girls. It's about convincing the men they're studs.
Yup. It's cold sweat desperation and we know it.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)they are doing this for the men, damn straight, to puff that chest to the other men. really, women? meh. not about them at all. it is all about preening to the fellow man.
and i do not use preening lightly.
catrose
(5,073 posts)Not now, not then
lululu
(301 posts)and now we know he's brainless as well.
klook
(12,170 posts)Probably looks in the mirror and thinks he's seeing Ryan Gosling.
abakan
(1,819 posts)Like his head is so big, he has to prop it up with his hand.
cali
(114,904 posts)Live and Learn
(12,769 posts)perfectly. He may of thought he was sticking up for older women but he really doesn't get it.
riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)Money, the future, work, children, safety for women in general, friends, caring for aging parents....
I thought that was pretty spot on. I'm a middle class, over 50 yr old woman and agreed with all of that.
The last paragraphs were also good at qualifying that this was more applicable to middle class women, not those in poverty who had even more pressing worries....
And those are only the worries of the middle-class. Add to those worries poverty, prejudice, and wondering where our next meal might come from. How to pay the bills, who will take care of our kids when we go to work, if we can make that old car last a few more months or year. If we can see a doctor and pay for it.
snip
Unlike men like Junod, we women know full well what is fantasy and what is real. We see it every day when we head out into the world.
cali
(114,904 posts)riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)flamingdem
(39,331 posts)I still had plenty of umpf left in me at that age! I was avoiding creeps like him at the time. I have met too many who think like him. They end up single and some go to "massage" parlours. There are hundreds in the area where I live that offer "happy endings".
Demeter
(85,373 posts)and it's not just our imaginations.
Number23
(24,544 posts)do nothing but reinforce my perception of this stupid man.
This comment made me clap enthusiastically:
David Prete · Northwestern University
Dear Tom,
As a 43 year-old man, I am so glad you wrote this piece. On top of the impertinence of your writing, it shows why no woman of any age will ever fuck you again. And that makes me very happy because the world is a slightly better place now that you can't reproduce again. I hope your sensibilities die with your generation.
Sincerely,
David Prete
Live and Learn
(12,769 posts)1StrongBlackMan
(31,849 posts)I have been a long time Esquire subscriber; but have decided not to renew my subscription. My decision was sealed when a recent edition covered "Bars of Detroit." It highlighted 15 bars, with pictures and describing what made them unique/interesting ... and none of the pictures had a single African-American in them. I mean, Esquire could not find a single interesting Black-patronized bar in a city that is 97% Black?
I, then, flipped through the pages ... from front to back ... there were 3 African-Americans (out of 100+ photos) shown in the entire issue .
My cancellation notice began: "Hey, Esquire ... way to be (skin) tone deaf!" and pointed out my observation.
PasadenaTrudy
(3,998 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)now that... has to be conscious. wow. and thanks for sharing that point.
Number23
(24,544 posts)I am simply BEYOND sick and damned tired of their fixation with all things white. A month or so after Whitney Houston died, they did an expose but guess who made the cover? Marilyn Monroe. They even did an expose in Brazil and damn near everyone in the photos looked like they were from Kansas. Brazil. One of the most racially diverse countries in the WORLD and 85% of the folks in the photos were white. It's just so stupid.
They've even resorted to doing detailed "analyses" on British aristocracy in order to keep their pages lily white. It is beyond annoying, narrow and stupid. And you would think that as much hell as they've caught by being so diametrically opposed to diversity they'd have gotten the message by now.
littlemissmartypants
(22,822 posts)Interesting thread.
BlueJazz
(25,348 posts)It really is all in the mind to some of us. (not that there's anything wrong with that)
Kath1
(4,309 posts)Damn right! I'm 56, very fuckable (yes, I do still have sex and I am not a movie star and I don't do pilates.
I'm slightly overweight, I smoke cigarettes, I'm very pro-choice and very liberal. I'm probably not Tom's kind of woman. Which is excellent because I hate anti-woman right-wing bigots!
HangOnKids
(4,291 posts)Skittles
(153,202 posts)no INDEED
I'm living proof that some younger men are attracted to greying hair, frayed bellbottom jeans, t-shirts, sandals, liberal politics and "who-gives-a-fuck" attitudes!
hfojvt
(37,573 posts)"If we have girls we worry about their safety. We wonder how much to teach them about the ugliness of the world, the cruelty of men and boys. We worry about how to protect them and arm them to protect themselves -- without scaring them to death. If we have boys, we struggle with how to teach them respect and kindness and decency toward their own sex and the opposite one."
Live and Learn
(12,769 posts)If you upset because the author isn't teaching boys about the ugliness of the world and the cruelty of men and boys then I wholeheartedly agree.
mercuryblues
(14,543 posts)is that the author did not list all the positive male traits after this. It is just like the Sunday morning news shows, for every 4 republicans, there is one democrat. That is what the poster expects. for every negative about a male must be accompanied by 4 positives or it is misandry.
But here is the entire passage
Kind of a different meaning than the misandry bullshit spewed.
Skittles
(153,202 posts)myrna minx
(22,772 posts)by Lisa Solod - *that's* the paragraph of *shakes fist* outrage.
alphafemale
(18,497 posts)And leave them winded.
randome
(34,845 posts)The article goes to the opposite extreme. Most women I've known do care whether or not they're sexually attractive. And that doesn't necessarily mean they are kowtowing to what men want.
[hr][font color="blue"][center]All things in moderation, including moderation.[/center][/font][hr]
alphafemale
(18,497 posts)Those guys referenced in the OP are rare and probably get laid more in their dreams than in reality
Kath1
(4,309 posts)That's how we do it!
Sexual freedom is a beautiful thing! I still know how to rock a guy's socks and still do on occasion!
Rapillion
(51 posts)Experience, emotion and equality leads to . . . enrichment.
That's sex you can't find with a bright, shiny toy.
lunatica
(53,410 posts)Yawn...
blueamy66
(6,795 posts)no kids, parents and brother gone, don't care about my old age, have done SO much in my life and have no faceless fears....only 2 things left are my partner and friends/family....
And I'm sorry, but I do care about the way that I look and how I present myself and like men and I do care if I'm still f*ckable. Does that make me shallow? Am I not normal?
I don't like what Junod wrote....he's full of shit and ugly as sin....but Solod's article doesn't work for me.
lululu
(301 posts)"Let's face it: There used to be something tragic about even the most beautiful forty-two-year-old woman, he wrote. With half her life still ahead of her, she was deemed to be at the end of something namely, everything society valued in her, other than her success as a mother."
Other than her success as a mother? Darn, no kids, but MIT degrees, I guess I'm a failure.
Really, his quote above says it all. I'd make remarks about his dragging his hairy arms on the ground, but that would be insulting to gorillas everywhere.
lunatica
(53,410 posts)Giggle!
pink-o
(4,056 posts)I can guarantee that no smart, good-looking middle aged woman wants to sleep with him anyway. Most women (and REAL men) know that f*kability is far more subtle than just how one looks. As for JuNOT: I'd take a short, bald, funny man who respects women over that clown any day. And Pink-o at 60 may be old and sag in places, but she's not hamstrung by all those young girl insecurities an inhibitions anymore. That's the best-kept secret of getting older: we don't give a shit, let's just have fun.
Also, older women control our own destinies, we call the shots and have no trouble unburdening ourselves of troublesome, needy men. That's prolly what frightens JuNOT and his ilk more than anything, so they need to be with a Trilby who idolises them. So especially for this idiot, and all the blokes like him, I present this appropriate ditty. Take it away, Donnalou!
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)adn i see you so seldom. that it is such a treat. my boys got to listen to the son, right along with me. lol.
pink-o
(4,056 posts)I lurk here a lot, especially since many DU'ers express my thoughts very well before I even get to posting them! Also, I wish DU had a mobile app and posting photos and non-You Tube vids was a little easier. I tend to live on Instagram and Twitter these days.
As for the troglodyte mentality that's permeating this country re sexism, racism and massaging medieval religious sensibilities, I don't know whether to laugh or cry. So I'm doing lots of both, I guess!
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)high school.
i started saying
that will be shot down quickly, and paused. well, it has to go thru sc. who knows.
a different world.
Kath1
(4,309 posts)"As for the troglodyte mentality that's permeating this country re sexism, racism and massaging medieval religious sensibilities, I don't know whether to laugh or cry. So I'm doing lots of both, I guess!" A LOT OF US ARE! Cannot be said any better!
GliderGuider
(21,088 posts)And it takes time to develop that capacity to its utmost.
The sexiest women (and men) understand that little secret.
Kath1
(4,309 posts)And men of quality appreciate women of equality!
Benton D Struckcheon
(2,347 posts)and he's saying he might maybe do a 42 year old? As if she'd be automatically interested in him? What color is the sky in his world? Sheesh.
abakan
(1,819 posts)I haven't seen anything I would want in my bed, except my dog, for years... When I have need of a male, I hire one. You know plumbers, electricians, gardeners, ect. ect.
klook
(12,170 posts)I just went to the Esquire web site and scanned Junod's pathetic rumination on "older" women -- who were born when he was in junior high school, at least -- reminds me why that magazine is not on my radar and never has been. It always seemed geared to guys who modeled their concept of masculinity on 1960s advertising.
Here are a couple of other good responses to Junod's embarrassing article:
http://www.mommyish.com/2014/07/11/esquire-praises-42-year-old-women-tom-junod/
http://thehairpin.com/2014/07/42
the_working_poor
(34 posts)That is, at Middle age, yes it's there, but it's NOT in my top 10.
I always assumed it was lower for women than it was for men *shrugs*
I see no point in this article aside from the usual misandry and, honestly, a little misogyny to suggest women are this shallow.
whatever.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)whatevah....
the_working_poor
(34 posts)but whatever.
hate away at men. it's your thing now a days isn't it?
don't worry, I'll stop posting on women's issues, even if I'm actually DEFENDING THE VIEWS POSTED!
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)i hardly know ya.
the_working_poor
(34 posts)I've seen your other replies.
you aren't someone I care to have discourse with.
I will not reply anymore to you.
you may not think so but we are on the same side and want the same things.
be well.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Like we are on the same side. I asked a question not called you insulting names. And again, I am to blame for pulling a part of your post I question, with man hating. Do you see how it does not look nor feel that you are on my side, after being on du for a mere four months, adopting the same slur of a handful of men that readily insult us, and me specifically with man hating.
So, is this post unfair?, too.