My brother in law who is a right winger told me I was a loser who's sucking off tax payer money
By putting my son with autism in a group home.
My 92 year of Mother with dementia lives in her own home. I have a great network of caregivers who are Fijian who care for her. My mother also has a rental home she and my Dad brought in the 70's that we use to supplement her income. My older sister will be inheriting the home and I will inherit my Mother's main home she resides in. I do everything and have a conservatorship of my Mother's affairs. Today my Mothers sisters were visiting and asked to have a luncheon at my mothers home. I arranged with he caregiver and paid another person to make sure the house was clean and in order. My sister and hubby went to the rental house and complained it was run down and I needed to put money into it. I told my brother in law I needed to conserve the money for my Mother's care and the only money I would spend was to keep the main residence my Mother resided in and if they wanted to upgrade the rental they should pay As my sister is inheriting the house. My BIL inherited at least 5 million from his Mother and I told him my Mothers estate was small compared to his Mother's. He blew up at me and told me I was attacking his mother. It got ugly but I stood my ground and said if they wanted to put money into the rental they should pay. I would do reasonable repairs like cutting down a tree and repairing the sidewalk but I was not going to pay for paint etc. now I have asked my sister numerous times to help me manage this rental house which has fallen on deaf ears. I manage my Mother's bills, the hiring caregivers, care for my son's group home ,still am dealing with the closure of my late bosses business, and handle my own household expenses.
But today my right wing Everyday fox business rich asshole brother in law told me I was a loser who abandoned
My mongoloid idiot son to an institution burdening tax payers and I was the one who was wrong. Now I had apologized to my brother in law for the " supposed" insult to his mother. I never said anything disparaging about his mother but pointed out my mother's money is small compared to his mother's millions. And he lost it. There were a lot of witnesses there. My mother, her 2 sisters, my cousins wife, my sister ( who was horrified but scared at the same time ) and he unloaded with his accusing me I abandoning my son and warehousing him. My husband and I bring our son home every other weekend. It had become difficult to keep our son home. But the words out of my brother in law were so appalling.This man was there the day my son was born. It made me speechless,hearing the cruelty of his statement so inhumane. The rest of the party I did not engage him. He made sounds when I passed him and gave me dirty looks but I decided that that day with my 92 year old mother and her 3 remaining sibling was more important than dealing with a jerk. He and my sister left not long after and after that we all had a good time looking at old pictures. But I feel sadness my sister missed out on looking at the pictures of the woman G.
A pox on our society is extreme right wing media it makes people think about more hateful things than they normally would.
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It seems the only thing they 'get' is when you are an asshole back (most of the time they are shocked, just SHOCKED that a wimpy treehugging liberal has the guts to do that) or if you laugh your ass off at them. I do that more just because it's more satisfying to make them feel like the small minded insignificant people they are. And it doesn't get my blood pressure overly high.
what I would've said to laugh at them would be something like, "you think *I* am wasting taxpayers dollars? hahahahahaha! Boy have they got YOU snowed! Do you know how much money corporations get from the government? They could put the whole population of the US in a group home! They've got you thinking *I'm* the one taking your money and you bought right into it, just like the corporations want you to believe. Hahaha, they're treating you like you're an idiot and you just lap it up like one. Maybe they aren't so wrong after all? hahaha, you are as dumb as they think you are!"
Of course I always say those things in a light hearted 'joking' manner so if they get all 'offended' I just say, "Oh, shucks, I was just joking! I didn't know you were so sensitive! I guess you do have a bleeding heart after all!" 
Can I just say my right wing relatives don't talk politics with me anymore? 
He is the loser. He is full of venom and hate. He is dead and miserable inside. He is a fucking piece of shit asshole. And he is a bully.
Man, I don't even know him but it sure feels good talking about him like this. 
As for you, you seem like a kind and loving person. The best thing to do if you can't cut a person completely out of your life is to ignore their existence as much as possible.
