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Jeff In Milwaukee

(13,992 posts)
Tue Apr 29, 2014, 01:06 PM Apr 2014

So I have this Facebook friend....

If there were some way to compile and publish her posts (without embarrassing her) I would love to do it.

She's a friend from high school -- we're now over fifty.

She worked for an insurance company for years and years after high school (and a little college). About three years ago, she posted on Facebook that her position had been eliminated. She was being laid off, and she wondered if it had anything to do with her age and worried about finding another job. But she never blamed her old employer -- It was like Stockholm Syndrome or maybe she was just hoping they'd change their mind.

Months go by. She's posting on Facebook about how she can't find anything. There were a couple of brief stints, a couple of temp jobs. Through it all she stayed upbeat and positive (she's always been that way) thinking that everything will turn out for the best.

She's now a cashier at Wal-Mart -- and at first she was over-the-moon excited about getting the job.

Now she posts about the harsh treatment from her management. How her fifty-year-old back aches from standing all day. How even though she's rarely been sick in her life, she now has a cold that she can't seem to shake.

It's just incredibly sad. Her posts are a chronicle of someone's life slowly slipping away. Yet she remains optimistic that something better will come along; there's a weird sort of nobility to how she faces this shit sandwich that the universe has left on her plate.

I hope her optimism is rewarded.

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So I have this Facebook friend.... (Original Post) Jeff In Milwaukee Apr 2014 OP
Man, I hope she can find something better. You're a good friend to be supportive of her. CurtEastPoint Apr 2014 #1
There's so little I can do... Jeff In Milwaukee Apr 2014 #2
My youngest daughter was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at 20. ismnotwasm Apr 2014 #3
At this stage all she has is her optimism. Why take that away from her? politicaljunkie41910 Apr 2014 #4
I hear you... Jeff In Milwaukee Apr 2014 #6
continue to be her friend onethatcares Apr 2014 #5

Jeff In Milwaukee

(13,992 posts)
2. There's so little I can do...
Tue Apr 29, 2014, 01:15 PM
Apr 2014

And that's frustrating. We live miles apart from one another - our only contact these days is through Facebook.

And then there are all the others -- thousands, hundreds of thousands, millions -- who are in the same predicament.

ismnotwasm

(41,989 posts)
3. My youngest daughter was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at 20.
Tue Apr 29, 2014, 01:30 PM
Apr 2014

(my husband has it as well)

She actually liked Wallmart when for the short time she lived in Pennsylvania, but transferred to a SAMs club here. (Same company) What. A. Hellhole.

She waited, having very limited options, because of physical limitations but finally was able to move to a nice sports store, with much better benefits, pay and working conditions.

Among other things she told me, if you try to apply for Costco-- a much better company, SAMs club gets punitive. All kinds of drama. (my SIL works for Costco and loves the company and his job)

I wish your friend very well, and there ARE companies out there that don't treat their employees like shit. I realize her age works against her, but tell her not to give up, and to keep an eye out.

politicaljunkie41910

(3,335 posts)
4. At this stage all she has is her optimism. Why take that away from her?
Tue Apr 29, 2014, 01:38 PM
Apr 2014

I also wouldn't try and compile or publish her previous posts. She knows what she has said in the past. If you're a friend, be a friend. Help her to remain optimistic and if you see anything better that she is suited for, let her know and ask your friends to do so as well. That is what a friend would do.

onethatcares

(16,172 posts)
5. continue to be her friend
Tue Apr 29, 2014, 03:13 PM
Apr 2014

she needs as much support as she can get and you are probably a lifeline to her.

I wish her good fortune and the same for you.

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