Are you a bully and don't even know it?
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The first time I was called a bully, I was 8 years old and had just coerced my Girl Scout troop into forgoing sleepaway camp for an overnight in my own backyard. I didnt really like being away from home, and put my fear to work convincing nine third graders that my parents house, tucked into five acres of heavily wooded New Jersey mountaintop was in fact, a more natural experience than any well-oiled summer camp ever could be. I dont care if youve never been to Connecticut, I told them, That camp is stupid and youre stupid for wanting to go.
Case closed.
By the age of 13 I had become a skilled tyrant, an emotional manipulator of my peers. I was never a physical fighter, but I was certainly well-versed at getting what I wanted by any means necessary. I was no monster, but lets just say I was responsible for a meltdown or two in a girls bathroom. My mother, if shes reading this, is nodding her head in agreement. Now that Im older and (nominally) less self-absorbed, I rarely feel compelled to criticize friends and colleagues for their decisions, but if Im being 100 percent honest I cant say that my bossy streak has ever completely left my system.
So when a ForbesWoman reader told me about a new e-book she was working on that would help me to look at my behavior in an objective way, I was intrigued.
Try watching yourself over the coming weeks, says Henriette Eiby Christensen, a Danish FW reader and the author of several titles on behavior including her newest "110 Ways To Detect A Bad Relationship." Watch how people react when you speak to them, especially when you are upset with them. Look in their eyes. Do they look scared?