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cali

(114,904 posts)
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:07 PM Mar 2014

I never make pizza without thinking of my mother

I don't think I even had pizza from a pizza place until I was ten or so. She made the dough and rolled it out thin, then sliced mozzarella and put it on top of the dough in the pan. Then she sliced tomatoes and placed them on top of the cheese; added salt pepper, freshly grated parmesan and put it in a hot oven. Something magical happens to those simple ingredients and it's still the best pizza I've ever tasted.

My mother died last week on March 15th.

She was born in 1919. She grew up in France and Italy. She was in Paris when Lindbergh landed. She spoke French and Italian fluently. During World War II she worked as a translator for the OSS. She knew all kinds of interesting people from Aldous Huxley to Thomas Mann.

She was a lifelong democrat who lived most of her life in a republican stronghold. She was active in the League of Women Voters. I remember how thrilled she was when Ella Grasso was elected governor. She was a delegate for Jimmy Carter and a very early supporter.

She loved history and she adored Henry James. She was an amazing cook. Long before most people thought about additives, my mother was an inveterate reader of food product ingredients. I remember begging her for a cake mix. No way would she ever buy one. She was someone who could whip up a Sacher Torte at the drop of a hat.

She was always in motion. Even last summer she went to London at the age of 94.

I never make pizza without thinking of my mother. I suppose I never will.

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I never make pizza without thinking of my mother (Original Post) cali Mar 2014 OP
So sorry for your loss, cali Metatron Mar 2014 #1
My God, cali... Cooley Hurd Mar 2014 #2
I'm so sorry to alsame Mar 2014 #3
Condolences, cali. Your mom sounds like a wonderful person. Whisp Mar 2014 #4
You mother sounds like she was an amazing person. You were so fortunate Siwsan Mar 2014 #5
Message auto-removed Name removed Mar 2014 #6
wow. what to say to someone like you? you have the soul of a worm. cali Mar 2014 #9
My only regret is that the jury was cancelled due to the PPR before I got to vote to hide. stevenleser Mar 2014 #22
thanks, steve. glad that post is gone. cali Mar 2014 #24
Me too. There are few instances where I felt I wanted to hit someone for a post. That one did it. nt stevenleser Mar 2014 #25
that post was horrible steve2470 Mar 2014 #26
Apologies. I was slow at typing. Behind the Aegis Mar 2014 #31
GTFO. Brickbat Mar 2014 #12
That was a horrible post steve2470 Mar 2014 #16
Troll. nt sufrommich Mar 2014 #20
Begone, troll! arcane1 Mar 2014 #21
So sorry to hear that, Cali. Democracyinkind Mar 2014 #7
Sorry about that, Cali. Sending you hugs. closeupready Mar 2014 #8
Oh, Cali, so sorry for the loss of your mom! scarletwoman Mar 2014 #10
I am very sorry Cali Andy823 Mar 2014 #11
I'm so sorry for your loss. polly7 Mar 2014 #15
My condolences, Andy. I'm so sorry about your sister cali Mar 2014 #17
my sincerest condolences for you also nt steve2470 Mar 2014 #19
May all your memories of her be dear ones. Condolences on a life passed too soon... Hekate Mar 2014 #70
so very sorry for your loss. niyad Mar 2014 #80
I'm so sorry, cali. polly7 Mar 2014 #13
I'm so sorry for your loss cali. PotatoChip Mar 2014 #14
my sincerest condolences steve2470 Mar 2014 #18
I'm so sorry for your loss,she sounds wonderful. My sufrommich Mar 2014 #23
She sounds like a great lady! MineralMan Mar 2014 #27
Seems like . . . TomClash Mar 2014 #28
My deepest sympathy, Cali Oilwellian Mar 2014 #29
Please accept my condolences for your loss. greatlaurel Mar 2014 #30
((cali)) LiberalAndProud Mar 2014 #32
I'm very sorry to hear about your mother, cali. laundry_queen Mar 2014 #33
sorry for your loss cali azurnoir Mar 2014 #34
Sounds like brucefan Mar 2014 #35
Heartfelt sympathies to you and your family. Skidmore Mar 2014 #36
(((((((cali)))))))... TeeYiYi Mar 2014 #37
You have some wonderful memories to treasure. joanbarnes Mar 2014 #38
What a lovely woman and wonderful mother Little_Wing Mar 2014 #39
I'm sorry for your loss, cali. City Lights Mar 2014 #40
It is so hard to lose a parent lillypaddle Mar 2014 #41
I'm so sorry for your loss.. one_voice Mar 2014 #42
This message was self-deleted by its author HereSince1628 Mar 2014 #43
I am sorry for your loss ... etherealtruth Mar 2014 #44
Sincerest sympathy, Cali. Hissyspit Mar 2014 #45
I appreciate her work for Jimmy Carter a lot. Things haven't been the same since. jtuck004 Mar 2014 #46
I am so sorry for the loss of your mother... virgdem Mar 2014 #47
Thank you all for your kind words. I appreciate it deeply. cali Mar 2014 #48
A life well lived Botany Mar 2014 #49
I am very sorry for your loss Worried senior Mar 2014 #50
I'm so sorry Cali, but you were so lucky to have her healthy mentally and physically Auntie Bush Mar 2014 #51
I deeply admire you, Auntie. shame on you? Never. cali Mar 2014 #60
I am so sorry for your loss, Cali. Sissyk Mar 2014 #52
Here's to your mom panader0 Mar 2014 #53
I am sorry shenmue Mar 2014 #54
I'm so sorry, cali. Solly Mack Mar 2014 #55
My sincere condolences, cali. LeftofObama Mar 2014 #56
That is the most beautiful tribute you've ever written, I am so sorry to hear about your Mother AuntPatsy Mar 2014 #57
Great memories!! PrestonLocke Mar 2014 #58
I'm so sorry. OnyxCollie Mar 2014 #59
Such a sweet loving tribute, all my sympathies to you, cali. countryjake Mar 2014 #61
My mother never made a pizza TNNurse Mar 2014 #62
You have my condolences, Cali LittleBlue Mar 2014 #63
I'm sorry for your loss, Cali. Your mom sounds like she was awesome indeed. AverageJoe90 Mar 2014 #64
My condolences, cali. MerryBlooms Mar 2014 #65
My condolences, cali. The loss of one's mother is an amazingly big blow. calimary Mar 2014 #66
I'm so sorry for your loss cali. Autumn Mar 2014 #67
What a blessing & comfort to have memories like these of your Mother ... 66 dmhlt Mar 2014 #68
What wonderful memories your mother leaves behind in you Hekate Mar 2014 #69
Sounds like a great woman... awoke_in_2003 Mar 2014 #71
What a beautiful tribute, Paka Mar 2014 #72
((Cali)) irisblue Mar 2014 #73
... Mnemosyne Mar 2014 #74
That is the beautiful post. It mae me cry. Thanks for reminding me what counts. zonkers Mar 2014 #75
I'm so sorry you lost your mother, cali. pacalo Mar 2014 #76
I remember my mother in the kitchen packman Mar 2014 #77
My deepest condolences. 840high Mar 2014 #78
so very sorry for your loss, cali. and thank you for sharing your very remarkable mom with us. niyad Mar 2014 #79
I am so sorry, cali. woo me with science Mar 2014 #81
{{{cali}}} Your mother sounds like an amazing woman. An amazing person. Mine is 89, and may WinkyDink Mar 2014 #82
My sympathy to you and your family and to all who knew and loved your Mom. livetohike Mar 2014 #83
cali, my sincerest condolences to you and yours. babylonsister Mar 2014 #84
So sorry for your loss, cali. SaveOurDemocracy Mar 2014 #85
My heartfelt condolences to you, cali. trusty elf Mar 2014 #86
I am so very sorry to hear about your mother. cordelia Mar 2014 #87
So sorry for your loss! joshcryer Mar 2014 #88
Beautiful tribute Cali. Sorry to hear of your loss... adirondacker Mar 2014 #89
You're right, you never will make pizza again without thinking about your mother tavalon Mar 2014 #90
Sorry to hear that Cali zeemike Mar 2014 #91
My deepest condolences... Moostache Mar 2014 #92
Thanks for sharing her story, Cali. johnnyreb Mar 2014 #93
Hope she has passed gently. BumRushDaShow Mar 2014 #94
You have my deepest sympathy, cali. Enthusiast Mar 2014 #95
I'm sorry for your loss. cate94 Mar 2014 #96
I'm so sorry for your loss Cali. Raine1967 Mar 2014 #97
Wonderful memories. Sorry for you loss. nm rhett o rick Mar 2014 #98
eloquent. thank you for sharing that beautiful tribute. BlancheSplanchnik Mar 2014 #99
What a beautiful tribute! octoberlib Mar 2014 #100
Remarkable and beautiful tribute Iwillnevergiveup Mar 2014 #101
I'm so sorry for your loss, cali. Lars39 Mar 2014 #102
Oh man... Just got around to reading this thread... cui bono Mar 2014 #103
 

Cooley Hurd

(26,877 posts)
2. My God, cali...
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:11 PM
Mar 2014
I am sincerely sorry for your loss, my friend - a loss I've experienced as well. And my wish for a gentle crossing for your mother.
 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
4. Condolences, cali. Your mom sounds like a wonderful person.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:15 PM
Mar 2014

I know what you mean about the pizza. I have the same sort of thing for both my parents - when I do certain things they always pop into my mind to keep me company.

Siwsan

(26,269 posts)
5. You mother sounds like she was an amazing person. You were so fortunate
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:16 PM
Mar 2014

My mother always made home made pizza on Saturday nights. Usually just cheese and pepperoni, but it was tasty. I can't hear the theme song to the Lawrence Welk Show, without thinking about that pizza.

My heartfelt sympathies on the loss of your mother.

Response to cali (Original post)

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
9. wow. what to say to someone like you? you have the soul of a worm.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:23 PM
Mar 2014

and to all worms, I extend a heartfelt apology.

 

stevenleser

(32,886 posts)
22. My only regret is that the jury was cancelled due to the PPR before I got to vote to hide.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:29 PM
Mar 2014

Sorry about the jerk Cali.

 

stevenleser

(32,886 posts)
25. Me too. There are few instances where I felt I wanted to hit someone for a post. That one did it. nt
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:32 PM
Mar 2014

Behind the Aegis

(53,961 posts)
31. Apologies. I was slow at typing.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:35 PM
Mar 2014

My condolences on the loss of your mother. Sounds like she led a really interesting life and it was well-lived.

Democracyinkind

(4,015 posts)
7. So sorry to hear that, Cali.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:21 PM
Mar 2014

It's the only way I ever eat Pizza at home, too. I'll be sure to remember this heartwarming anecdote when making the next one.


scarletwoman

(31,893 posts)
10. Oh, Cali, so sorry for the loss of your mom!
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:24 PM
Mar 2014

She sounds like a remarkable woman. Thank you for sharing her with us in your lovely post.

Condolences.

Andy823

(11,495 posts)
11. I am very sorry Cali
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:25 PM
Mar 2014

My sister passed away on Monday the 17th of March. She was only 61 and I miss her dearly.

polly7

(20,582 posts)
13. I'm so sorry, cali.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:25 PM
Mar 2014

Your mother sounds like an amazing woman, and I can almost taste that pizza. Peace and strength to you and yours.

steve2470

(37,457 posts)
18. my sincerest condolences
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:28 PM
Mar 2014


The pain will gradually ease. I have a jar that my mother used for sugar. I use it for my coffee sugar. She died in 2007 from Alzheimer's.

Your mother sounds like she was very intelligent, interesting and a thoroughly good lady. I'm sure she will be very missed.

sufrommich

(22,871 posts)
23. I'm so sorry for your loss,she sounds wonderful. My
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:30 PM
Mar 2014

Mom is 76 and I don't even like to think of life without her.

Oilwellian

(12,647 posts)
29. My deepest sympathy, Cali
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:33 PM
Mar 2014

She must have been an amazing woman. Thank you for sharing your lovely memories of her.

greatlaurel

(2,004 posts)
30. Please accept my condolences for your loss.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:34 PM
Mar 2014

Thank you for sharing your memories. That was a beautifully written tribute to your mother.

Skidmore

(37,364 posts)
36. Heartfelt sympathies to you and your family.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 02:45 PM
Mar 2014

The loss of a beloved mother is one of the great sorrows of life. May loving memories of her sustain you in your grief.

one_voice

(20,043 posts)
42. I'm so sorry for your loss..
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 03:17 PM
Mar 2014

Your mom sounds like an incredible woman.

It's nice you have such good memories of her. Memories are how we keep those we've lost alive in our hearts.

Response to cali (Original post)

etherealtruth

(22,165 posts)
44. I am sorry for your loss ...
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 03:17 PM
Mar 2014

... but, incredibly happy you were able to have this wonderful woman for your mother

 

jtuck004

(15,882 posts)
46. I appreciate her work for Jimmy Carter a lot. Things haven't been the same since.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 03:36 PM
Mar 2014

It sounds like a great life with amazing experiences. She was one of the lucky ones, it sounds like, and so are you.

We will have some good thoughts for you both, and again the next time I make a pizza crust.

Auntie Bush

(17,528 posts)
51. I'm so sorry Cali, but you were so lucky to have her healthy mentally and physically
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 03:52 PM
Mar 2014

till she was a least 95. I lost my Mother from Alzheimer's ('88-'92). She was 92 when she died. But as far as I'm concerned...she might as well have died
in '88. I was her total caregiver for all those years, but I hate to say it (bless her) having Alzheimer disease makes it easier to lose one's Mother. There I said it...something I've never admitted or expressed before. Shame on me! But I think my Mother would understand. She knows I know she was the best Mother in the whole world and I dearly loved her. Not having to go through that heartache if she had died in her prime was almost worth having the experience of her living with Alzheimer.

Enjoy making and eating your Mother's Pizza and may she RIP.

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
60. I deeply admire you, Auntie. shame on you? Never.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 04:24 PM
Mar 2014

I have an idea about how difficult it is to care for someone with Alzheimer's. A very dear friend of mine took care of her MiL for the last several years of her life. They moved her in with them. It's the hardest thing I can imagine. It took a real toll on my friend.

I don't think I could do it.

You are wonderful.

AuntPatsy

(9,904 posts)
57. That is the most beautiful tribute you've ever written, I am so sorry to hear about your Mother
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 04:15 PM
Mar 2014

She sounds like she was and always will be a wonderful and obviously very interesting person, beautiful way to honor her life....

countryjake

(8,554 posts)
61. Such a sweet loving tribute, all my sympathies to you, cali.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 04:28 PM
Mar 2014

Wishing peace and strength for you and all your family.

 

LittleBlue

(10,362 posts)
63. You have my condolences, Cali
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 04:29 PM
Mar 2014

94 is a long time to live. Sounds like she was having a blast until the end.

RIP

calimary

(81,322 posts)
66. My condolences, cali. The loss of one's mother is an amazingly big blow.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 04:51 PM
Mar 2014

And it's "the gift that keeps on giving," for sure. It stays with you through all kinds of occasions and reasonings and emotions and memories. Mine passed in late 2006. And it STILL takes its toll.

Autumn

(45,108 posts)
67. I'm so sorry for your loss cali.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 04:53 PM
Mar 2014

My Mother died thirty years ago. Not a day goes by that I don't think of her and miss her.

Hekate

(90,714 posts)
69. What wonderful memories your mother leaves behind in you
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 04:59 PM
Mar 2014

May she rest peacefully, and may her name be remembered for a blessing.

 

awoke_in_2003

(34,582 posts)
71. Sounds like a great woman...
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 05:15 PM
Mar 2014

shouldn't be a surpise, though- good parents raise good children. Sorry for your loss. My mom died on Thanksgiving day 1981. I was 13. It will get better. You will learn to look back and remember the good times when you make pizza. It may take a while, but it will happen.

Bacon does it for me. A few weeks before my mom died I played hookie. I think she knew I was faking it, but I didn't do that often. We lived in a small town (Bolivar, OH) and she had to walk to the bank. She asked if I wanted to get breakfast with her, so I went along. At the time we were vegetarian. When we ordered breakfast we got bacon with it. It was like our little secret. I remember the day like it was yesterday. Even though my father has outgrown the vegetarian thing, I never told him about it. He wouldn't be upset or anything, I just won't tell him because it is my one secret moment with my mother.

Paka

(2,760 posts)
72. What a beautiful tribute,
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 05:16 PM
Mar 2014

...to what sounds like a fascinating woman. Thank you for that posting. Sending you warm vibes.



Sadly I had a troubled relationship with my mother who died ten years ago at 97. I have to work hard sometimes to bring back happy memories. Keep making pizza and she will always be with you.
 

zonkers

(5,865 posts)
75. That is the beautiful post. It mae me cry. Thanks for reminding me what counts.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 05:28 PM
Mar 2014

You have my heartfelt condolences. Your mom sure lived a beautiful life intersting life, during interesting times and from what is sounds like, she was rat the epicenter. Also... it sounds like she was a lot of fun!!!! What a wonderful person to have in your life. And I bet she was as proud of you as you are of her. Maybe you can share that pizza recipe.

I was headed to my mom's house for lunch in thirty minutes. She is 80. I sure will value my time with her.

pacalo

(24,721 posts)
76. I'm so sorry you lost your mother, cali.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 07:16 PM
Mar 2014

She sounded like an amazing person to know.

I wish I could have eaten one of her homemade pizzas -- sounds delicious & thin pizza crust is how I like it.

 

packman

(16,296 posts)
77. I remember my mother in the kitchen
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 07:17 PM
Mar 2014

a great cook who would admire a piece of meat calling it beautiful or making cookies for the Christmas seasons. The only time I heard her swear in the kitchen was when she was hobbling around the kitchen at Easter and dropped a ham of her foot that had just been operated on for bunions.
Food is more than just nourishment, it is memories.

niyad

(113,363 posts)
79. so very sorry for your loss, cali. and thank you for sharing your very remarkable mom with us.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 08:15 PM
Mar 2014

may all your memories be joyous ones.

 

WinkyDink

(51,311 posts)
82. {{{cali}}} Your mother sounds like an amazing woman. An amazing person. Mine is 89, and may
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 08:21 PM
Mar 2014

God bless her! In her case, it would be spaghetti sauce and meatballs (but not spaghetti; too thick for her taste!).
And another life-long Democrat.

The women, too, were "The Greatest Generation."

livetohike

(22,147 posts)
83. My sympathy to you and your family and to all who knew and loved your Mom.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 08:36 PM
Mar 2014
May all the good memories you have of your Mom bring you comfort.

cordelia

(2,174 posts)
87. I am so very sorry to hear about your mother.
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 11:14 PM
Mar 2014

She sounds like an amazing woman.

Wishing you the best.

Please take care.

adirondacker

(2,921 posts)
89. Beautiful tribute Cali. Sorry to hear of your loss...
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 11:25 PM
Mar 2014

She did leave behind one kickass daughter though!

Take Care.

tavalon

(27,985 posts)
90. You're right, you never will make pizza again without thinking about your mother
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 11:45 PM
Mar 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm so glad you had her for as long as you did. I only had my mother for eight years. I have snippets of memory that I hold on to for dear life. Speaking of food, she used to make homemade potato chips. I quit long ago when I sliced a goodly piece of finger with a potato slice.

I've often wondered if I would have treasured her so, if we had had a lifetime together. I would like to think your story would be my story. That said, the end of the story, long or short, is so heartbreaking. I doubt the ides of March will ever be a favorite for you but then, you wouldn't be alone in that, at least.

As I said at the beginning, I am so sorry for your loss and it clearly was a huge loss. May your grief pass in time, leaving these kind of memories behind.

zeemike

(18,998 posts)
91. Sorry to hear that Cali
Sat Mar 22, 2014, 11:47 PM
Mar 2014

But it sounds like she had a long and productive life...and it may well have been because she read the labels and cooked from scratch.

I quit eating store bot pizza some years back and started making my own from scrach...and tried making one just like you said your mother did...and was surprised by how good it was.
Simple and good ingredient makes the difference.

Rest in peace mama Cali, you did real good in your life

Moostache

(9,895 posts)
92. My deepest condolences...
Sun Mar 23, 2014, 01:44 AM
Mar 2014

I am glad that you have the vivid memories that will warm your heart in the years ahead, your mother sounds like she was an incredible woman.

johnnyreb

(915 posts)
93. Thanks for sharing her story, Cali.
Sun Mar 23, 2014, 02:25 AM
Mar 2014

My mom is a WWII Navy nurse still kicking at 92. I wish strength and comfort to you, and look forward to your DU posts.

Enthusiast

(50,983 posts)
95. You have my deepest sympathy, cali.
Sun Mar 23, 2014, 09:30 AM
Mar 2014

Your mother was an extraordinary person. You were lucky to have such a mother.

My mother was also extraordinary. She enriched my life in many ways that I did not appreciate until she was gone.

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
99. eloquent. thank you for sharing that beautiful tribute.
Sun Mar 23, 2014, 12:41 PM
Mar 2014

What fortune to have been raised by such an awesome woman! !

((((Thinking of you))))

Iwillnevergiveup

(9,298 posts)
101. Remarkable and beautiful tribute
Sun Mar 23, 2014, 01:16 PM
Mar 2014

to an extraordinary lady. Condolences to you on the loss of your beloved mother. No doubt she passed along many of her wonderful attribute to you.

Lars39

(26,109 posts)
102. I'm so sorry for your loss, cali.
Sun Mar 23, 2014, 01:35 PM
Mar 2014

Now a lot of us will think of your mother also when we make pizza, as a reminder to live life to the fullest.
Absolutely beautiful tribute.

I'm also going to try her recipe, sounds delicious. My avatar is in memory of my dad, who raised bees as a hobby.

{{{{cali}}}}

cui bono

(19,926 posts)
103. Oh man... Just got around to reading this thread...
Sun Mar 23, 2014, 02:05 PM
Mar 2014

so sorry for your loss. Sounds like you have a lot of good memories that will live on inside you.



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