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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI never make pizza without thinking of my mother
I don't think I even had pizza from a pizza place until I was ten or so. She made the dough and rolled it out thin, then sliced mozzarella and put it on top of the dough in the pan. Then she sliced tomatoes and placed them on top of the cheese; added salt pepper, freshly grated parmesan and put it in a hot oven. Something magical happens to those simple ingredients and it's still the best pizza I've ever tasted.
My mother died last week on March 15th.
She was born in 1919. She grew up in France and Italy. She was in Paris when Lindbergh landed. She spoke French and Italian fluently. During World War II she worked as a translator for the OSS. She knew all kinds of interesting people from Aldous Huxley to Thomas Mann.
She was a lifelong democrat who lived most of her life in a republican stronghold. She was active in the League of Women Voters. I remember how thrilled she was when Ella Grasso was elected governor. She was a delegate for Jimmy Carter and a very early supporter.
She loved history and she adored Henry James. She was an amazing cook. Long before most people thought about additives, my mother was an inveterate reader of food product ingredients. I remember begging her for a cake mix. No way would she ever buy one. She was someone who could whip up a Sacher Torte at the drop of a hat.
She was always in motion. Even last summer she went to London at the age of 94.
I never make pizza without thinking of my mother. I suppose I never will.
Metatron
(1,258 posts)Cooley Hurd
(26,877 posts)alsame
(7,784 posts)hear this.
She sounds like an amazing woman. May she rest in peace.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)I know what you mean about the pizza. I have the same sort of thing for both my parents - when I do certain things they always pop into my mind to keep me company.
Siwsan
(26,269 posts)My mother always made home made pizza on Saturday nights. Usually just cheese and pepperoni, but it was tasty. I can't hear the theme song to the Lawrence Welk Show, without thinking about that pizza.
My heartfelt sympathies on the loss of your mother.
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cali
(114,904 posts)and to all worms, I extend a heartfelt apology.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)Sorry about the jerk Cali.
cali
(114,904 posts)stevenleser
(32,886 posts)steve2470
(37,457 posts)Talk about pissing on your mother's grave. Beyond the pale.
Behind the Aegis
(53,961 posts)My condolences on the loss of your mother. Sounds like she led a really interesting life and it was well-lived.
Brickbat
(19,339 posts)steve2470
(37,457 posts)If you don't like cali, you should have stayed quiet. Horrible.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)arcane1
(38,613 posts)Democracyinkind
(4,015 posts)It's the only way I ever eat Pizza at home, too. I'll be sure to remember this heartwarming anecdote when making the next one.
closeupready
(29,503 posts)scarletwoman
(31,893 posts)She sounds like a remarkable woman. Thank you for sharing her with us in your lovely post.
Condolences.
Andy823
(11,495 posts)My sister passed away on Monday the 17th of March. She was only 61 and I miss her dearly.
polly7
(20,582 posts)cali
(114,904 posts)steve2470
(37,457 posts)Hekate
(90,714 posts)niyad
(113,363 posts)polly7
(20,582 posts)Your mother sounds like an amazing woman, and I can almost taste that pizza. Peace and strength to you and yours.
PotatoChip
(3,186 posts)Your mother sounds like she was an amazing woman.
steve2470
(37,457 posts)The pain will gradually ease. I have a jar that my mother used for sugar. I use it for my coffee sugar. She died in 2007 from Alzheimer's.
Your mother sounds like she was very intelligent, interesting and a thoroughly good lady. I'm sure she will be very missed.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)Mom is 76 and I don't even like to think of life without her.
MineralMan
(146,317 posts)TomClash
(11,344 posts)A very interesting woman lived a very long life.
God bless her. RIP.
Oilwellian
(12,647 posts)She must have been an amazing woman. Thank you for sharing your lovely memories of her.
greatlaurel
(2,004 posts)Thank you for sharing your memories. That was a beautifully written tribute to your mother.
LiberalAndProud
(12,799 posts)laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)Sending hugs and healing thoughts your way.
azurnoir
(45,850 posts)your Mom sounds like an amazing woman
brucefan
(1,549 posts)She lived a long and fulfilled life.My condolences.
Skidmore
(37,364 posts)The loss of a beloved mother is one of the great sorrows of life. May loving memories of her sustain you in your grief.
TeeYiYi
(8,028 posts)TYY
joanbarnes
(1,722 posts)Little_Wing
(417 posts)So sorry for your loss, cali.
City Lights
(25,171 posts)Sounds like she was a wonderful, inspiring woman.
lillypaddle
(9,581 posts)Hold your warm memories close, and may they bring you peace.
one_voice
(20,043 posts)Your mom sounds like an incredible woman.
It's nice you have such good memories of her. Memories are how we keep those we've lost alive in our hearts.
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etherealtruth
(22,165 posts)... but, incredibly happy you were able to have this wonderful woman for your mother
Hissyspit
(45,788 posts)jtuck004
(15,882 posts)It sounds like a great life with amazing experiences. She was one of the lucky ones, it sounds like, and so are you.
We will have some good thoughts for you both, and again the next time I make a pizza crust.
virgdem
(2,126 posts)A very accomplished life well lived.
cali
(114,904 posts)Botany
(70,518 posts)The right time is any time that one is still so lucky as to have.
Henry James
Worried senior
(1,328 posts)It sounds like you have some wonderful memories to carry you through.
Auntie Bush
(17,528 posts)till she was a least 95. I lost my Mother from Alzheimer's ('88-'92). She was 92 when she died. But as far as I'm concerned...she might as well have died
in '88. I was her total caregiver for all those years, but I hate to say it (bless her) having Alzheimer disease makes it easier to lose one's Mother. There I said it...something I've never admitted or expressed before. Shame on me! But I think my Mother would understand. She knows I know she was the best Mother in the whole world and I dearly loved her. Not having to go through that heartache if she had died in her prime was almost worth having the experience of her living with Alzheimer.
Enjoy making and eating your Mother's Pizza and may she RIP.
cali
(114,904 posts)I have an idea about how difficult it is to care for someone with Alzheimer's. A very dear friend of mine took care of her MiL for the last several years of her life. They moved her in with them. It's the hardest thing I can imagine. It took a real toll on my friend.
I don't think I could do it.
You are wonderful.
Sissyk
(12,665 posts)panader0
(25,816 posts)She sounds like a very interesting woman. You were lucky.
shenmue
(38,506 posts)Solly Mack
(90,773 posts)Sounds like your Mom was someone wonderful to know.
LeftofObama
(4,243 posts)Peace to her and the rest of your family!
AuntPatsy
(9,904 posts)She sounds like she was and always will be a wonderful and obviously very interesting person, beautiful way to honor her life....
PrestonLocke
(217 posts)Thank you for sharing!
OnyxCollie
(9,958 posts)countryjake
(8,554 posts)Wishing peace and strength for you and all your family.
TNNurse
(6,927 posts)She knew only English, but their politics matched well.
LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)94 is a long time to live. Sounds like she was having a blast until the end.
RIP
AverageJoe90
(10,745 posts)May she R.I.P.
MerryBlooms
(11,770 posts)calimary
(81,322 posts)And it's "the gift that keeps on giving," for sure. It stays with you through all kinds of occasions and reasonings and emotions and memories. Mine passed in late 2006. And it STILL takes its toll.
Autumn
(45,108 posts)My Mother died thirty years ago. Not a day goes by that I don't think of her and miss her.
66 dmhlt
(1,941 posts)Hekate
(90,714 posts)May she rest peacefully, and may her name be remembered for a blessing.
awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)shouldn't be a surpise, though- good parents raise good children. Sorry for your loss. My mom died on Thanksgiving day 1981. I was 13. It will get better. You will learn to look back and remember the good times when you make pizza. It may take a while, but it will happen.
Bacon does it for me. A few weeks before my mom died I played hookie. I think she knew I was faking it, but I didn't do that often. We lived in a small town (Bolivar, OH) and she had to walk to the bank. She asked if I wanted to get breakfast with her, so I went along. At the time we were vegetarian. When we ordered breakfast we got bacon with it. It was like our little secret. I remember the day like it was yesterday. Even though my father has outgrown the vegetarian thing, I never told him about it. He wouldn't be upset or anything, I just won't tell him because it is my one secret moment with my mother.
Paka
(2,760 posts)...to what sounds like a fascinating woman. Thank you for that posting. Sending you warm vibes.
Sadly I had a troubled relationship with my mother who died ten years ago at 97. I have to work hard sometimes to bring back happy memories. Keep making pizza and she will always be with you.
irisblue
(32,982 posts)I am so very sorry, Cali.
zonkers
(5,865 posts)You have my heartfelt condolences. Your mom sure lived a beautiful life intersting life, during interesting times and from what is sounds like, she was rat the epicenter. Also... it sounds like she was a lot of fun!!!! What a wonderful person to have in your life. And I bet she was as proud of you as you are of her. Maybe you can share that pizza recipe.
I was headed to my mom's house for lunch in thirty minutes. She is 80. I sure will value my time with her.
pacalo
(24,721 posts)She sounded like an amazing person to know.
I wish I could have eaten one of her homemade pizzas -- sounds delicious & thin pizza crust is how I like it.
packman
(16,296 posts)a great cook who would admire a piece of meat calling it beautiful or making cookies for the Christmas seasons. The only time I heard her swear in the kitchen was when she was hobbling around the kitchen at Easter and dropped a ham of her foot that had just been operated on for bunions.
Food is more than just nourishment, it is memories.
840high
(17,196 posts)niyad
(113,363 posts)may all your memories be joyous ones.
woo me with science
(32,139 posts)What a beautiful post in her memory.
My heart to yours.
WinkyDink
(51,311 posts)God bless her! In her case, it would be spaghetti sauce and meatballs (but not spaghetti; too thick for her taste!).
And another life-long Democrat.
The women, too, were "The Greatest Generation."
livetohike
(22,147 posts)babylonsister
(171,073 posts)SaveOurDemocracy
(4,400 posts)trusty elf
(7,394 posts)Your mother must have been a wonderful person.
cordelia
(2,174 posts)She sounds like an amazing woman.
Wishing you the best.
Please take care.
joshcryer
(62,276 posts)adirondacker
(2,921 posts)She did leave behind one kickass daughter though!
Take Care.
tavalon
(27,985 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm so glad you had her for as long as you did. I only had my mother for eight years. I have snippets of memory that I hold on to for dear life. Speaking of food, she used to make homemade potato chips. I quit long ago when I sliced a goodly piece of finger with a potato slice.
I've often wondered if I would have treasured her so, if we had had a lifetime together. I would like to think your story would be my story. That said, the end of the story, long or short, is so heartbreaking. I doubt the ides of March will ever be a favorite for you but then, you wouldn't be alone in that, at least.
As I said at the beginning, I am so sorry for your loss and it clearly was a huge loss. May your grief pass in time, leaving these kind of memories behind.
zeemike
(18,998 posts)But it sounds like she had a long and productive life...and it may well have been because she read the labels and cooked from scratch.
I quit eating store bot pizza some years back and started making my own from scrach...and tried making one just like you said your mother did...and was surprised by how good it was.
Simple and good ingredient makes the difference.
Rest in peace mama Cali, you did real good in your life
Moostache
(9,895 posts)I am glad that you have the vivid memories that will warm your heart in the years ahead, your mother sounds like she was an incredible woman.
johnnyreb
(915 posts)My mom is a WWII Navy nurse still kicking at 92. I wish strength and comfort to you, and look forward to your DU posts.
BumRushDaShow
(129,118 posts)Enthusiast
(50,983 posts)Your mother was an extraordinary person. You were lucky to have such a mother.
My mother was also extraordinary. She enriched my life in many ways that I did not appreciate until she was gone.
cate94
(2,811 posts)Your mom sounds amazing. May she rest in peace.
Raine1967
(11,589 posts)You mom sounds like an amazing woman.
rhett o rick
(55,981 posts)BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)What fortune to have been raised by such an awesome woman! !
((((Thinking of you))))
octoberlib
(14,971 posts)I'm sorry for your loss , Cali.
Iwillnevergiveup
(9,298 posts)to an extraordinary lady. Condolences to you on the loss of your beloved mother. No doubt she passed along many of her wonderful attribute to you.
Lars39
(26,109 posts)Now a lot of us will think of your mother also when we make pizza, as a reminder to live life to the fullest.
Absolutely beautiful tribute.
I'm also going to try her recipe, sounds delicious. My avatar is in memory of my dad, who raised bees as a hobby.
{{{{cali}}}}
cui bono
(19,926 posts)so sorry for your loss. Sounds like you have a lot of good memories that will live on inside you.