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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsThere was a large black man at my front door
I had peeked out my blinds, and it was late in the evening. I lived in an inner-city neighborhood in Oklahoma City, a single white woman. My heart was pounding. I just stood there, not sure what to do. "Jackie," came the deep voice, "it's Mark ______."
Mark. My son's best friend since the 5th grade. He had lived a block behind us. I remember when his Mother died. My son and I brought food to the family. My heart broke for him. He was so young then, so vulnerable. Years had since passed, he had joined the army, and grown a couple of feet, and gained some pounds. And now he was there, at my front door, and I was afraid. I felt so ashamed.
Of course I immediately opened the door, and he stepped into my hug. Mark. He'd moved off to California, had become a journalist. I was so proud of him. Some many years later, he was the best man at my son's wedding.
Truth be told, had he been white, knocking on my door late in the evening, my response probably wouldn't have been any different. But still, it gives me pause.
Trayvon was a baby. A kid.
My heart breaks.
Schema Thing
(10,283 posts)scary!
Tumbulu
(6,292 posts)has reason to pause before opening the door to any stranger.
I live on a farm. If someone that I don't know drives up- I feel frightened. It is just a reaction. It is what I do with that reaction that counts.
I lived in West Africa- working as a Peace Corps Volunteer in Ag ~ 30 years ago. I walked the same way to and from work every day~ 2 miles. All along the way the smallest children (if they saw me) would completely loose it- go into hysterics screaming and wailing. Every day the mom's had to try to calm them down. I was a terrifying sight to them. I looked so very different. We are all human and I think there is some instinctual thing in us that tells us to be afraid of the different. Parents and/or society can either raise us above those instincts or encourage and magnify them.
lillypaddle
(9,581 posts)Thanks for the post.
AverageJoe90
(10,745 posts)Booster
(10,021 posts)feels no shame. My heart breaks also.