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lillypaddle

(9,581 posts)
Fri Mar 23, 2012, 05:28 PM Mar 2012

There was a large black man at my front door

I had peeked out my blinds, and it was late in the evening. I lived in an inner-city neighborhood in Oklahoma City, a single white woman. My heart was pounding. I just stood there, not sure what to do. "Jackie," came the deep voice, "it's Mark ______."

Mark. My son's best friend since the 5th grade. He had lived a block behind us. I remember when his Mother died. My son and I brought food to the family. My heart broke for him. He was so young then, so vulnerable. Years had since passed, he had joined the army, and grown a couple of feet, and gained some pounds. And now he was there, at my front door, and I was afraid. I felt so ashamed.

Of course I immediately opened the door, and he stepped into my hug. Mark. He'd moved off to California, had become a journalist. I was so proud of him. Some many years later, he was the best man at my son's wedding.

Truth be told, had he been white, knocking on my door late in the evening, my response probably wouldn't have been any different. But still, it gives me pause.

Trayvon was a baby. A kid.

My heart breaks.



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There was a large black man at my front door (Original Post) lillypaddle Mar 2012 OP
A large republican man darkened my door.... Schema Thing Mar 2012 #1
I think that any single woman Tumbulu Mar 2012 #2
You are right lillypaddle Mar 2012 #3
Touching stuff. =') nt AverageJoe90 Mar 2012 #4
The fact that you felt ashamed speaks volumnes. I can guarantee you Zimmerman Booster Mar 2012 #5
Indeed lillypaddle Mar 2012 #6

Tumbulu

(6,292 posts)
2. I think that any single woman
Fri Mar 23, 2012, 05:38 PM
Mar 2012

has reason to pause before opening the door to any stranger.

I live on a farm. If someone that I don't know drives up- I feel frightened. It is just a reaction. It is what I do with that reaction that counts.

I lived in West Africa- working as a Peace Corps Volunteer in Ag ~ 30 years ago. I walked the same way to and from work every day~ 2 miles. All along the way the smallest children (if they saw me) would completely loose it- go into hysterics screaming and wailing. Every day the mom's had to try to calm them down. I was a terrifying sight to them. I looked so very different. We are all human and I think there is some instinctual thing in us that tells us to be afraid of the different. Parents and/or society can either raise us above those instincts or encourage and magnify them.

Booster

(10,021 posts)
5. The fact that you felt ashamed speaks volumnes. I can guarantee you Zimmerman
Fri Mar 23, 2012, 06:12 PM
Mar 2012

feels no shame. My heart breaks also.

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