Woman, 89, raped in nursing home by employee. Nursing home says she asked for it.

[Beausoir]

Last edited Sun Feb 23, 2014, 10:00 AM - Edit history (1)

http://www.startribune.com/local/246083571.html

The poor woman. She was also very badly injured and suffered terrible genital lacerations.

Edited to add second link..http://www.startribune.com/local/246633791.html

[pnwmom]

1. What shocked me is his sentence was only 4 and a half years.

I agree they were wrong to send her to the mental health unit -- but where does it say they said she asked for it?

I hope the family wins the lawsuit and gets enough money to let her live like a queen in the time she has left.

[Beausoir]

6. Read below....it will make you ill.

Days later, an administrator at Edgewood Vista appeared to defend the rapist even after his admission to police.

According to court testimony, Marilyn Moore, clinical services director at the home, asked Flesvig, “Did she tell you that this was consensual? Did she tell you that she flirts with this boy mercilessly?”

In a separate conversation with Mary Salisbury, a sexual assault advocate, Moore said she thought the elderly woman “was making it up,” and referred to the woman as a “flirt.”

“I was just shocked that somebody was so blatantly putting the blame on this woman,” Flesvig said. Moore could not be reached for comment Friday.

Mark Kosieradzki, the victim’s attorney, argues that the Health Department failed in its duty as a regulator by not conducting a thorough investigation of Edgewood’s handling of the case.

“Is this a situation where the state doesn’t understand where a woman is harmed if she’s raped?” Kosieradzki asked.

Since the case came to light, sexual assault advocates said they were amazed that the rape survivor persisted with her claims amid the obstacles.

[pnwmom]

7. You're right -- that's sickening.

[Beausoir]

9. Yes.

I was not clear in my OP about the blame that they placed on this poor woman.

[El_Johns]

12. WTF? Insanity.

[cui bono]

17. That's horrible. But is that in a different article?

I didn't see it either.

[Beausoir]

26. Yes.

http://www.startribune.com/local/246633791.html

[BlueMTexpat]

19. Where did you find this information?

I agree that it is horrific, but like others here, did not see it in the link that you posted.

If Ms Moore is not herself fired immediately, she should be. How on earth could one consider an 89-year-old with dementia able to give consent? She is as vulnerable as any child.

Information about Edgewood - a private facility: http://edgewoodseniorliving.com/pages/edgewood_management_group/

From the link:

Edgewood’s Core Values

Honesty and dependability
Accountability
Respect for coworkers, residents and their families
Commitment to serve our residents
Commitment to continuous quality development
Commitment to teamwork

More: http://thechamber.chamberofcommerce.me/thechamber/mem_EMG

And how could she be committed to a mental health wing - without even being physically examined - after she had alleged rape? If there aren't procedures for this kind of event, there should be. EVERYONE involved with this should be held to account.

[roguevalley]

30. you can shake a baby to death in this country and get 3 months.

old and young can't work so their value is less than the able bodied I am coming to think.

[Tx4obama]

2. The photo in the article - he looks like a young Michael Dunn. n/t

[polly7]

3. What a horrible story

Not even 5 years for rape?

That poor woman. I hope she wins her civil lawsuit.

[Beausoir]

4. She was locked up in a psychiatric ward for 72 hours following her horrific rape because nobody

believed her.

[Liberal_in_LA]

11. really sad

[cui bono]

18. And no one told the hospital the guy had already confessed!

So many things gone wrong.

[flvegan]

5. Dead man walking.

I hope he moves to Florida after his sentence passes.

[Beausoir]

8. let's hope he dies.

[JI7]

10. i was looking this up and looks like there is another case of a 64 year old

http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/nyc-crime/kids-rape-victim-manhattanville-health-center-answers-article-1.1620736

[Aerows]

13. Dear Lord

This could be your Great-aunt, your Grandmother, your Family.

That is fucked up. I visited my Grandma when she went into the nursing home every day for this reason. To make sure she was alright. She also usually wanted a Wendy's hamburger, too, and would brag on me when I made the newspaper for academic achievements.

You have to be with your elders, even if they are in a facility, and you have to protect them, visit them and care about them.

[Beausoir]

14. Agreed. The rape statistics are horrible.

My poor mother had to endure 2 months in a facility after she suffered a massive stroke.

[Aerows]

15. Please tell me she wasn't raped

I would never like to think of my Grandmother being raped after all we tried to do showing up every day. It's bad enough.

[Beausoir]

27. No, she was coherent, thank god.

And we were lucky enough to be able to afford moving her home.

[AngryOldDem]

20. And they then locked her up and said she had dementia!

There are no words.

[boston bean]

21. This is absolutely heartbreaking. Makes me sick.

Yet, people here can tell a rape victim she is lying for sympathy or to score cheap points, and be flagged for review and re-instated within hours.

We see all sorts of posts saying women lie about rape, like it's a common.

The whole thing, makes me want to vomit.

Nope, there is no rape culture... keep telling yourself that.

[msanthrope]

24. Can you cite what you are accusing a DUer of? nt

[A Little Weird]

31. I know this question was directed at someone else

But I saw the thread too (at least I hope there's not more than one out there).

This is the thread:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10024535851#post1

At post #16 a woman talks about her experience with sexual assault. If you follow the subthread, you will see what she is referring to. I didn't know about the review/reinstatement. That just makes the whole thing sadder.

[BainsBane]

32. Look at the threads on James Winston, Julian Assange, Dylan Farrow

virtually every time a rape case is raised it comes up.

[msanthrope]

33. You described very specific behavior...please cite who you meant. nt

[BainsBane]

34. I described nothing

You feign ignorance of what is common place. I pointed to examples of subjects in which such discussions occur. You can do a search of threads on those topics if you are interested. If, on the other hand, your purpose is trying to goad someone in posting something that will be hidden by a jury and you don't actually care about the continual arguments accusing rape victims of making false allegations, you won't bother. I've seen enough of your posts to guess how that will go.

[pipoman]

22. Look for the quality of care

at many facilities to diminish as medicaid and Medicare reimbursement to nursing facilities plummets with the influx of baby boomers. I recently interviewed for dining director at a facility who told me that the budget for dining equals less than $4.00 per person per day...i declined.

[CFLDem]

23. ...

[gollygee]

25. Horrifying!

More rape culture.

[Squinch]

29. +1

Sent to a mental facility for reporting it ...

He gets 53 months ...

Administration says she was asking for it ...

[malaise]

28. Someone broke into a home for elderly ladies here last week

and raped a sixty-nine year old woman. Seriously there are depraved people in our midst.