'I don't understand women.' 'What is it that women want?'
I have a solution for both of these questions, and it's way simple:
For the first question, if you don't understand what a woman says, ask her to repeat what she said or to expand on what she said. If there's a language barrier, find a translator. But everyone should be able to understand what an individual woman says about just about anything, it seems to me. Each woman has a unique viewpoint and world view. Ask an individual woman, and she will probably help you understand those things from her own point of view. You'll have to listen, of course, to understand.
For the second question, it seems very unlikely that any two women want precisely the same things. Again, by inquiring about what an individual woman wants, you will probably get an answer from that particular woman, and can react accordingly. I can't imagine that anyone could predict what a particular woman wants, based on anything but a direct question to that woman or a long term relationship with that woman. When she tells you, you can listen closely to discover the answer.
As it turns out, the same set of things applies to men in equal measure. There is no men's point of view or set of desires. Each man has his own unique set of those things, just as women do.
Men and women are people. They are individual people. They are unique in themselves. If you're curious about a person's beliefs, desires, or opinions, just ask that person. It's a very simple thing to do. Or, if the person is stating their point of view, beliefs, and desires publicly, you can just listen to those.
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But the real question of the day....is he ogling here?
Mel's crazy if he's not and if he isn't, then he's DU Ultrafeminist's idea of what the perfect male is.
....Dear Lord...I forgot what I saying...
ok I might have to watch that movie and...ogle
6-9 months. But will try the Yoga too, since it concentrates on suppleness. I can't wait to be able to walk more! Using a walker right now. Proud, just to be able to get to the bathroom.
that there is tiny payoff in spending that time really getting to know other fellow humans. Things like deep, meaningful relationships, friends you can count on to have your back when you need them ... you know, little things like that.
I'm not.
I saw a training video many years ago that held a lesson on Communication between 2 people that has stuck with me and that I always pass along to my new hires:
Anytime you have one person talking to another, there are 6 things that are happening -
1. There is what the talker MEANS to say.
2. There is what the talker actually SAYS.
3. There is what the talker THINKS they said.
4. There is what the listener actually HEARD.
5. There is what the listener THINKS they heard.
6. There is what the listener thinks the talker actually MEANT.
None of these things are ever the same. If you've ever played the game "grape vine" (some people call it "telephone"
or had an argument with your SO you know that this is true.
Add some generalizations in and you have a complete clusterfuck of no communication.
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Yup. I'm a woman and sometimes I don't understand others of my gender.
Now that I think about it men are a bit baffling too.
