Ask Amy: Her response is spot on....

[Playinghardball]

[FiveGoodMen]

1. It certainly is!

Would have been fun to watch Betrayed's reaction upon reading this.

[HappyMe]

2. I would say that Betrayed had to

change their underwear right away.

[SheilaT]

3. There's also a lot of disfunction in that family, I suspect.

Forgetting her son's birthday three years in a row? How many other kids does she have? If she has like 18 others, I wouldn't be surprised she'd forget a birthday or two. But if he's an only child or there's only a couple of others, she clearly has been rejecting him for at least the past three years.

Which, of course, has absolutely nothing to do with his being gay.

[okaawhatever]

25. The article never mentioned whether the author was the mother or father. nt

[SheilaT]

29. Ahhh, you are right.

How interesting. I assumed it was the mom writing but perhaps it was the dad. Either way, forgetting your child's birthday three years in a row at that point in the kid's life, strikes me as an indication that there is a lot of dysfunction in the family.

[okaawhatever]

30. Agreed. The reason I commented was because I read the part about the birthday and went back to see

if there was a reference to it being the mother or father. I think I had my prejudices in mind. I guess I still think it's worse for the mom to forget than the dad. Intellectually I know it's the same, but i guess a part of me still was going to assign blame based on gender. Shame on a femanazi like me.

[Xipe Totec]

4. Most excellent response. nt

[Aristus]

5. K&R!

Brilliant!

[Scuba]

6. Amy should have added "and dump the church, it's obviously filled with bigots".

[lumberjack_jeff]

7. .

[progressoid]

23. heh...

[Drale]

8. There was one a few weeks back

in which a guy complained that he found out his new wife had more sexual partners than just her ex-husband and that a friend told him she had lots of sex in college. He said he was uncomfortable with it and that she supposed lied to him. Amy basically told him to suck it up and get over it or end the marriage so the wife could find someone who actually loves her and cares more about her than her past. I thought that was a great one and I bet the guy get pissed off when he read to response.

[Wait Wut]

10. Amy rocks!

My favorite part of the paper.

[Ratty]

20. I saw that one, except it was Dear Abby

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20131115

What a barrel of fun he sounded like as a husband.

[sharp_stick]

9. My wife showed me that

I was hoping that "Feeling Betrayed" was just trolling Ask Amy.

I'm still holding out hope that it's just a prank and not some totally fucked up fundie moron.

[Rex]

13. Same here, I kinda felt that way too.

Someone just trolling Ask Amy.

[sinkingfeeling]

11. Wow, what a wonderful mother! Three cheers to Amy for her response.

[cui bono]

26. As someone else pointed out above, we don't know if it was the mother or the father.

[calimary]

31. Understood, but my first thought was - it was a mother who wrote in.

I would GUESS - and it's just a guess - that women in general are more concerned about being made fun of, or what would the neighbors think, or Dear God, what if our friends find out?!?!?!?!! Doesn't seem as though most men would get that mussed-up about it - especially to the point where they'd feel they have to write in to an advice columnist about it. Further, it's usually moms who remember the birthdays, buy the cards, write in the cards and send 'em or set them out where they can be easily spotted, get the gifts, wrap the presents, arrange the parties or activities, etc. At least in my experience, anyway. We have just the two kids and my husband usually has to double-check with me about exactly when the kids' birthdays are, or what year they were born. Just flies straight over his head sometimes (our anniversary too). And he's one of the most attentive, loving, supportive, and non-judgmental fathers there are.

[Rex]

12. She is a real pro, I could never be that polite

to someone that forgets their child's birthday and then uses it as an excuse to their son's sexual orientation. Beyond disgusting, but I do believe in the power of love and healing and that maybe this parent can heal some evidently long standing wounds left open by the parent. It is never to late to say you are sorry.

[rurallib]

14. what a great answer when someone claim's gays can change

Why don't you change first and show us all how easy it is!

[Jerry442]

17. Well, Catholic priests use prayer to suppress their sexual urges and....uhhhh....

.....Oh, never mind.

[calimary]

32. Definitely. I LOVE that part!

Show him how easy it is to change and be that way for about a year.



Love the "he won't listen to reason" part, too. SHEESH!!!

[rurallib]

33. Be that way for a year? May be even harder to change back

:devil grin hear - who took the smilies?:

[yuiyoshida]

15. Wow...

"Feeling Betrayed" sounded like her son had FLEAS...and she was asking for a way to get rid of them... I have never witnessed such ignorance before.. but Hey, I live in the San Francisco Bay Area, and around here being Gay or Lesbian is no big deal... I am glad I live here.. I wouldn't want to be around such people as those who hang out with "feeling Betrayed"

[cui bono]

27. Or his son. We don't know who wrote that. n/t

[KittyWampus]

16. Great answer but the original letter she responds too is so sad.

[madokie]

18. Yup sure is

[Egnever]

19. Cheese and Rice

"I am afraid they will make fun of me cause my child is gay"

But it's perfectly ok for her to demean the boy ....I swear I hate people sometimes.

And how in the hell do you forget your childs birthday..

i can't begin to imagine how despicable that church group is.

[Iris]

24. the church group sounds like 13th grade

Seriously, how old is this parent?

[ReRe]

21. Fundies need to face it...

... the tide has turned in this country. Their bigotry needs to be slapped down wherever and whenever it raises it's hateful closed-minded head.

[berni_mccoy]

22. K&R for Ask Amy

[BainsBane]

28. My 17 yr old nephew is coming out

He came out to his mother 3 years ago. Thankfully, she is nothing like the parent who wrote to Amy. No one will mistreat or insult her son and expect to remain connected in any way to the family.