You should probably consult spouse if you plan to run for elected office

[DisgustipatedinCA]

And if you opt not to consult with your spouse, you probably shouldn't also be conducting an extramarital affair. This could get fun.


Attorney seeking Sonoma County office suspends campaign after wife's complaint

Don Edgar has suspended his fledgling campaign for Sonoma County Clerk-Recorder-Assessor after his wife took to Facebook to vent over not being consulted about his decision to run for the office.
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But not long after, Edgar's wife, Lori Williams Edgar, went onto the campaign's page on the ubiquitous social media site to express her surprise and dismay that her husband was kicking off his campaign for the office.

“Don, This is NOT the honorable thing to DO!” Williams Edgar wrote in early October. “You shared Nothing with Your Wife or Family about this Campaign! Absolutely nothing. ... only yesterday a friend brought this to my attention!!??”

The post goes on to question Edgar's relationship with state Sen. Noreen Evans, D-Santa Rosa, who has endorsed Edgar. “Also, what is your relationship with Noreen Evans????? Your (sic) a Married Man?! What's Going On? You revealed nothing to US!!??!” Williams Edgar wrote, signing the post “Lori (your spouse).”

http://www.pressdemocrat.com/article/20131023/articles/131029828?title=Facebook-rant-leads-to-campaign-limbo?title=Wife%27s-Facebook-rant-leads-to-campaign-limbo-for-wanna-be-assessor

[Marie Marie]

1. Giggle, Snicker, Snort...

Hell hath no fury... - right ladies? Don't screw around with (or ON) us.

[Link Speed]

2. This is getting a lot of play out here

I know Noreen and Dear Old Don certainly doesn't seem to be her type.

[Xithras]

3. What a horrible wife.

I can get why she would be irritated at not being informed, but airing it in public like this is just an attempt at shaming. People who do this type of thing to their spouses generally deserve the divorces they are eventually served with.

[DisgustipatedinCA]

4. I don't know anything about this story beyond what I've posted.

But if you'll allow guesswork, it kind of sounds like she's about ready to not be with this guy anymore. This may have been a last straw-type thing for her.

[Xithras]

5. I think it's obvious that it's a fairly poor marriage.

Between the fact that he didn't talk to her about it, and the fact that she chose to shame him in public rather than asking, indicate that this isn't the greatest of marriages. Since the guy is a lawyer, I think the next part of the story is fairly predictable.

[quakerboy]

7. Didnt he take it public first?

How exactly does she deal with it privately, if he doesn't talk to her privately about it?

[Xithras]

9. When my wife gets mad at me...

...I generally hear about it when we're both at home. You know, the way normal couples have communicated for thousands of years? Occasionally, if it can't wait, she'll use this newfangled device called the "telephone" to call me and "talk".

To publicly blast your spouse on Facebook, in front of the entire world (not to mention all your friends, family, and potential constituents) is pretty scuzzy thing to do.

[tabasco]

10. I think it was the right thing to do

and the scuzzy motherfucker is the one breaking his marriage vow while running for public office.

[Xithras]

11. Just to be clear...

...there's no evidence whatsoever that he broke his marriage vow. A Democratic state Assemblywoman endorsed his candidacy and the wife smeared her husband and the Assemblywoman by suggesting that he must have slept with her to get it. Everyone who knows her is saying flat out that the accusation is slander...she is simply the Assemblywoman representing the district that he's running for another seat in, so she endorsed him as a fellow Democrat. It was an incredibly sexist and offensive comment on the wifes part.

[quakerboy]

13. If You do something public to provoke it, it seems appropriate.

I can see three takes on this.

1) yeah. its annoying as hell, and private life should be private life. could be considered scuzzy.

2) in the modern generation, this probably wouldn't even be controversial. these darn kids nowadays live on their devices and social media, and her taking the complaint public seems almost normal based on some of what I see and read on my facebook.

3) He started it. Its not like this was a private issue, as if he forgot to get out chicken to thaw for dinner. He made a public scene, and she added to it. If I forget to wash the dishes.. that conversation can happen at home later, or after the guests leave. But if I were so daft as to go out in public and volunteer that my wife will take someone to a Zoo and then a Nickleback concert, I guarantee that the discussion will go happen very quickly, and publicly.

Who knows what went between the two of them prior to this event. I will grant you that it sure doesn't sound like a healthy relationship was to be found, even prior to this event. But that doesn't necessarily make her a bad person for reacting in this way. Who knows what incidents precede it, on either side.

[tabasco]

14. How often do you make a public announcement that you are running for political office

without consulting your wife?

This guy is a douchebag with bad judgment, even if he's not a philanderer.

[Scuba]

6. You'd think Republicans would have learned ....

http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2011/03/13/wi-repub-lives-outside-district-with-mistress-says-wife/

[DisgustipatedinCA]

8. Unfortunately, I believe these are Democrats

But it's Sonoma County, so there aren't too terribly many Republicans around.

[BKH70041]

12. Yeah, probably one of those things you wanna mention over dinner

or something.