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proud2BlibKansan

(96,793 posts)
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 12:35 PM Apr 2013

Gun pulled on woman waiting for mall parking spot

OVERLAND PARK, Kan. —Overland Park police are investigating after a gun was pulled on a woman waiting for a parking space.

Investigators said a woman decided to stop and wait for a person to leave a particular parking space when a man driving a car behind her grew impatient and started honking and yelling obscenities.

Police said it happened about 4:30 p.m. on the food court side of the mall.

Authorities said the woman didn't budge and the man in the car behind her drove up to her side of the vehicle, pulled a gun and started waving it at her, threatening to kill her if she didn't move.



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Gun pulled on woman waiting for mall parking spot (Original Post) proud2BlibKansan Apr 2013 OP
That's a tad of an overreaction. octothorpe Apr 2013 #1
Sometimes those people need to park close. proud2BlibKansan Apr 2013 #13
Yeah, those are valid points... octothorpe Apr 2013 #19
I feel perfectly comfortable judging people who wave guns around in parking lots. n/t pnwmom Apr 2013 #65
Me too. proud2BlibKansan Apr 2013 #94
Yeeeeaaaaaah, I think it's safe to say that clown has no business with a gun. Bake Apr 2013 #146
That's rare, in my experience. It's usu. someone who wants to park close... Honeycombe8 Apr 2013 #140
The guy pulled up next to her to wave the gun, so clearly there was room to get around her Beaverhausen Apr 2013 #48
+1. n/t pnwmom Apr 2013 #69
And then he drove off as she called 911--so, yeah. she *wasn't* blocking him at all! nt tblue37 Apr 2013 #126
That is the question that I had. He could have simply drove around her car. I do that often at bluestate10 Apr 2013 #160
I've had this experience. I stop to wait for someone Beaverhausen Apr 2013 #161
We don't even know why she wanted that spot. Maybe the lot was very crowded. pnwmom Apr 2013 #75
That's me treestar Apr 2013 #87
Just another reason that guns need to be banned sandy78 Apr 2013 #117
+1 Liberal_in_LA Apr 2013 #156
Ironically, this is a pretty good reason for this woman to own a gun. Alva Goldbook Apr 2013 #2
when two people show up to an arguement with a gun mikeysnot Apr 2013 #3
I completely agree that this guy should lose his right to own a gun. Alva Goldbook Apr 2013 #36
And I completely disagree that she was being inconsiderate. proud2BlibKansan Apr 2013 #45
I second that--he was too impatient and way over-reacting. nt raccoon Apr 2013 #100
Properly trained gun owners are "forced" to have more consideration for others? What? uppityperson Apr 2013 #57
What are you saying? That a properly trained gun owner wouldn't wait for a parking spot? pnwmom Apr 2013 #73
LOL proud2BlibKansan Apr 2013 #153
That's ridiculous gollygee Apr 2013 #91
What ...? etherealtruth Apr 2013 #118
Thank you Skinner. "Gun troll." uppityperson Apr 2013 #133
And I would like my alert privileges back! Moses2SandyKoufax Apr 2013 #134
Looks like alerter #1 mis-hit, should've been hide. uppityperson Apr 2013 #136
Really? It looks like a false-equivalency. n/t Moses2SandyKoufax Apr 2013 #137
She doesn't need to own a gun to know you can't use it to get a parking spot. proud2BlibKansan Apr 2013 #5
A number of people wait outside stores to pick up someone coming out. Would he have pulled his gun freshwest Apr 2013 #144
Not sure I follow. AngryOldDem Apr 2013 #8
+1 Buzz Clik Apr 2013 #17
I refer you to post #36 (nt) Alva Goldbook Apr 2013 #37
Sorry -- more tortured reasoning. AngryOldDem Apr 2013 #51
I personally think he wanted the parking spot. NT juajen Apr 2013 #60
It does feel like there's some additional motivation at play besides just 'holding up traffic' Gidney N Cloyd Apr 2013 #68
That's my guess as well. AngryOldDem Apr 2013 #78
For RW gun losers, it's always someone else's fault. baldguy Apr 2013 #99
Yep, I bet you would have shot him center mass. Hoyt Apr 2013 #9
Do you gun nuts ever realize how stupid you sound? Cali_Democrat Apr 2013 #14
No, it's a good reason for the hot-headed man NOT to fucking own a gun. PeaceNikki Apr 2013 #15
I agree. Alva Goldbook Apr 2013 #38
From what I've seen gollygee Apr 2013 #92
This message was self-deleted by its author devilgrrl Apr 2013 #20
"She had the far superior weapon" Cali_Democrat Apr 2013 #96
This message was self-deleted by its author devilgrrl Apr 2013 #98
+1 freshwest Apr 2013 #141
I doubt a gun would have helped at all in this situation... octothorpe Apr 2013 #21
If I didn't read it, I wouldn't billh58 Apr 2013 #28
Bill, this guy BROKE THE LAW. Alva Goldbook Apr 2013 #41
Blame the victim, billh58 Apr 2013 #42
I just blamed the guy who BROKE THE FREAKING LAW. Alva Goldbook Apr 2013 #44
Typical of an NRA billh58 Apr 2013 #46
Or if, she'd dressed appropriately, or smiled, or... I see a pattern here. freshwest Apr 2013 #142
Yet if she weren't so lazy and inconsiderate, he'd not been provoked. Can you read what you wrote? uppityperson Apr 2013 #61
You just blamed the victim, AGAIN. Ikonoklast Apr 2013 #62
"If everyone was polite and courteous while driving we wouldn't have a problem with road rage" uppityperson Apr 2013 #63
This^ Gidney N Cloyd Apr 2013 #66
+1 gollygee Apr 2013 #93
Bye Alva. See ya next time. Hoyt Apr 2013 #159
In a perfect world, everyone would be polite and courteous on the road. raccoon Apr 2013 #101
And you defended him Progressive dog Apr 2013 #135
yes - this makes perfect sense. She should be waving hers in a "who's bigger" contest. yeah. n/t CincyDem Apr 2013 #30
I'm missing the part of your post where you support the premise in the subj line. Gidney N Cloyd Apr 2013 #33
Another gun would have just made it more likely for someone to be shot. Marrah_G Apr 2013 #35
If she had shown a gun, he probably would have shot her in "self defense". appleannie1 Apr 2013 #54
So they could have a shoot out in the parking lot Politicalboi Apr 2013 #55
"But she shouldn't have been holding up traffic just to be lazy" Wow. You have "no doubt" she uppityperson Apr 2013 #58
drive like an asshole and protect yourself with a gun!!! Skittles Apr 2013 #59
The man drove up next to her, which proves she wasn't blocking him. n/t pnwmom Apr 2013 #67
Not unless you want to get involved in a showdown over a parking space. n/t pnwmom Apr 2013 #70
Oh boy… MrScorpio Apr 2013 #74
She Was Holding Up Traffic Just To Be Lazy?????? otohara Apr 2013 #88
Ironically, you're a dumbass who has been PPR'd RetroLounge Apr 2013 #124
Today, I alerted on one of its posts, and the jury voted to leave it 6-0. Moses2SandyKoufax Apr 2013 #128
Dickless had room to pull up alongside and then go around. TheMadMonk Apr 2013 #139
Look the solutionn is less guns not more and there is nothing ironic about it at all. upaloopa Apr 2013 #157
WAAAH. You're not paying any attention to me!! lpbk2713 Apr 2013 #4
Another responsible gun owner. Hoyt Apr 2013 #6
GMTA. nt truebluegreen Apr 2013 #83
Clearly... TeeYiYi Apr 2013 #7
If he had room to drive alongisde... AngryOldDem Apr 2013 #11
Yep. He could have just driven around her. proud2BlibKansan Apr 2013 #16
Asshole Brandishing A Gun otohara Apr 2013 #50
This guy getting his guns confiscated would be a good news story jmowreader Apr 2013 #10
She wasn't blocking the road. proud2BlibKansan Apr 2013 #18
You sound like you have a temper/anger issue also. n-t Logical Apr 2013 #22
He drove around her, proving she wasn't blocking him. n/t pnwmom Apr 2013 #77
Hmmm ... Trajan Apr 2013 #86
if i see someone just stopped Niceguy1 Apr 2013 #132
LOL! Best reply in the thread!! proud2BlibKansan Apr 2013 #154
She wasn't blocking. He drove up beside her to tblue37 Apr 2013 #158
I hate malls. HappyMe Apr 2013 #12
yes, because physical violence for bad behavior is a good idea. n-t Logical Apr 2013 #23
.... HappyMe Apr 2013 #25
I saw 2 women fighting in the grocery store parking lot years ago. proud2BlibKansan Apr 2013 #31
A couple of years ago I saw 2 women HappyMe Apr 2013 #43
Me, too. When I must go to one, MineralMan Apr 2013 #24
Yup. If we absolutely have to go HappyMe Apr 2013 #27
Any day my cranky knee will allow, I do the same as you. Gidney N Cloyd Apr 2013 #39
I hear that. I'm fortunate that I don't have MineralMan Apr 2013 #40
Women are safer from thiefs and perverts when they park up close. juajen Apr 2013 #64
I do the same, because I don't like backing out of tight spots. But... AngryOldDem Apr 2013 #81
I finally ended up with a disabled plate. I put it off as long as I could, and on a good day, I park freshwest Apr 2013 #145
So the man "drove up to her side of the vehicle"... ljm2002 Apr 2013 #26
Even if he had to wait 10 minutes, you don't threaten people's lives. It's a mall, not an ER. PeaceNikki Apr 2013 #29
Exactly etherealtruth Apr 2013 #119
Once upon a time... CincyDem Apr 2013 #32
WWRD lpbk2713 Apr 2013 #47
Toss back a couple Oxy's and blame it on BHO ? CincyDem Apr 2013 #49
+1 nt Tree-Hugger Apr 2013 #104
This is horrifying on so many levels. nt bunnies Apr 2013 #34
I saw this on sons of anarchy Doctor_J Apr 2013 #52
It is against the law to brandish a firearm. Criminals who do so should be prosecuted to the fullest AnotherMcIntosh Apr 2013 #53
But sometimes CCW holders do shit like this. PeaceNikki Apr 2013 #56
Enhance the punishment for all criminals who commit crimes with firearms. AnotherMcIntosh Apr 2013 #76
That's the whole crazy rationale for CCW. AngryOldDem Apr 2013 #85
If only that woman had a gun 99th_Monkey Apr 2013 #71
Another law-abiding, reasonsible, responsible, legal gun owner... 99Forever Apr 2013 #72
Yet another responsible gun owner. truebluegreen Apr 2013 #79
Gun love sigmasix Apr 2013 #80
Having to wait for a parking space is "inconsiderate"? War Horse Apr 2013 #82
There needs to be a way to dispense judgement immediately on the spot. LiberalFighter Apr 2013 #84
The plot thickens treestar Apr 2013 #89
Of course he said that. proud2BlibKansan Apr 2013 #95
I would hope after he pulled the gun she moved and then called 911 still_one Apr 2013 #90
Well, it happened at Oak Park Mall. SheilaT Apr 2013 #97
Gun owners are babies itsrobert Apr 2013 #102
Post removed Post removed Apr 2013 #103
"Piss off!!!"? itsrobert Apr 2013 #105
What right do you have to call ALL gun owners emotionally unstable?? darkangel218 Apr 2013 #107
The First Amendment itsrobert Apr 2013 #108
So you are okay with the first amedment, but not the second?? darkangel218 Apr 2013 #109
I am glad you calmed down itsrobert Apr 2013 #110
Im not your friend. darkangel218 Apr 2013 #111
"Exercise my right" itsrobert Apr 2013 #112
Anyone who gives a damn about their Constitutional rights. darkangel218 Apr 2013 #113
No, I only hear NRA apologist itsrobert Apr 2013 #114
The "right to remain silent"? darkangel218 Apr 2013 #116
Jury results on this post pintobean Apr 2013 #138
I'm sure there are all kinds of hypothetical magical reasons... sendero Apr 2013 #106
So pulling a gun on someone rather than driving around them is ok with you? Is that what you are say uppityperson Apr 2013 #115
Amazing, isn't it? 99Forever Apr 2013 #121
Pulling a gun.. sendero Apr 2013 #147
Since traffic wasn't blocked, not sure what your point is. uppityperson Apr 2013 #150
Did you miss reading the part .... etherealtruth Apr 2013 #120
Even if the gunnut couldn't get around her... 99Forever Apr 2013 #122
Of course it would etherealtruth Apr 2013 #123
Wasn't critisizing your response... 99Forever Apr 2013 #125
I am cantankerous this evening! etherealtruth Apr 2013 #129
Does any of that justify pointing a gun at her???? proud2BlibKansan Apr 2013 #130
Exercising his rights itsrobert Apr 2013 #149
He has the right to intimidate people? proud2BlibKansan Apr 2013 #151
I was not serious on that one itsrobert Apr 2013 #152
OH well then yeah, that explains why he pulled a gun. gollygee Apr 2013 #131
Post removed Post removed Apr 2013 #148
There's nothing in the OP that indicates the parking spot is near the entrance pnwmom Apr 2013 #155
Message auto-removed Name removed Apr 2013 #127
This is a perfect example why many do not need to own guns and especially to have Thinkingabout Apr 2013 #143

octothorpe

(962 posts)
1. That's a tad of an overreaction.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 12:48 PM
Apr 2013

I hope he loses his right to own guns.


Although it is annoying when someone holds everyone up because they don't want to park an extra 25ft away from the entrance. Not saying that's what was going on here, but ughhh.

proud2BlibKansan

(96,793 posts)
13. Sometimes those people need to park close.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:14 PM
Apr 2013

I have a friend in a cast right now with a broken leg. She doesn't have a handicapped sticker - her disability is temporary. But when we go out, I look for the closest spot I can find so she doesn't have to walk far.

My dad had Parkinson's and absolutely refused to get a handicapped sticker. So we looked for close spots when he was in the car.

So I try not to judge people looking for those close spots. I have no idea why they want to park there.

octothorpe

(962 posts)
19. Yeah, those are valid points...
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:18 PM
Apr 2013

Particularly in the situation where someone may have a broken leg or something. I don't pull guns on people or lay my horn down or anything... After all, waiting a minute longer isn't something to go apeshit over. Although, I am guilty of usually assuming people are like my lazy brother who often gets annoyed with me because I don't drive around for 15 minutes to find the perfect parking spot.

Bake

(21,977 posts)
146. Yeeeeaaaaaah, I think it's safe to say that clown has no business with a gun.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 09:05 PM
Apr 2013

And hey, I'm a "gun nut" according to some around here.



Bake

Edited because I can't type worth sh*t tonight ...

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
140. That's rare, in my experience. It's usu. someone who wants to park close...
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 08:25 PM
Apr 2013

and they frankly don't give a shi*t if they hold up a line of cars behind them. I run across that on occasion, and it's very irritating to run across people with no consideration of others. Still, that's part of living in a city, and I try to take it in stride, as do others. Pulling a gun is an overreaction to say the least, besides being a crime.

Today I was behind someone with her turn signal on, waiting and waiting for someone to pull out of a space. I just waited. I didn't have to be anywhere at a certain time. I didn't have to wait toooo long, though, because what happened? When the car pulled out, another car from the OTHER direction, zoomed into the spot before the car in front of me could. It was absolute gall. The thing that happened in that movie, Fried Green Tomatoes. It just makes you downright mad at the in-your-face shit-on-you of it all. I felt for the car in front of me as she honked her horn solidly as she then sped off. I turned to look at the man who got out of the car that had zoomed into the space that wasn't his...and he averted his eyes. Narcissistic AND chicken.

bluestate10

(10,942 posts)
160. That is the question that I had. He could have simply drove around her car. I do that often at
Sun Apr 28, 2013, 10:08 PM
Apr 2013

my favorite grocery store, which is always busy.

Beaverhausen

(24,470 posts)
161. I've had this experience. I stop to wait for someone
Sun Apr 28, 2013, 10:33 PM
Apr 2013

And leave room for others to get around me. But some people still don't get it, they get pissed off, honk their horn and finally go by when I wave them on.


What really sucks is I park on the street at my home. When I pull up to parallel park, with my turn signal on, some people get incensed that they have to go around me. It's so fucked up I don't understand their thinking. I ALWAYS signal that I'm doing it but still some people just can't get so pissed. They honk and gun their engine to get around me. It's nuts.

pnwmom

(108,977 posts)
75. We don't even know why she wanted that spot. Maybe the lot was very crowded.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:31 PM
Apr 2013

I often have to drive around for quite some time at my local mall, and when I finally find a spot, yes, I do wait.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
87. That's me
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:46 PM
Apr 2013

I don't care how far I have to walk, I'd rather park out at the edges then get into these pissing matches.

 

Alva Goldbook

(149 posts)
2. Ironically, this is a pretty good reason for this woman to own a gun.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:01 PM
Apr 2013

As a gun owner who carries concealed, you have to know the gun laws. And I mean backwards and forwards. This guy committed a crime. It's called brandishing. But she shouldn't have been holding up traffic just to be lazy.

Under the law, at least in my home state of Virginia, what the root cause is legally important. If you do something to escalate a situation, the law is not on your side. If, heaven forbid, that I ever have to use my gun for self-defense, I'm much more likely to avoid getting put behind bars if I don't do a single thing to escalate a situation.

This means, always being polite and courteous while you're in public. I never road rage. I always obey the speed limit. I'm always a defensive driver. I always hold doors for other people. I am as polite, courteous, and gentile and soft spoken in public as I possibly can be. This is what keeps the law on my side.

This woman did not deserve having a gun brandished at her. But she should have had more consideration for other people. And I have no doubt she could have used the exercise if she bothered to park at the farthest end of the parking lot. There's plenty of parking there, folks. Who doesn't need a walk these days?

mikeysnot

(4,756 posts)
3. when two people show up to an arguement with a gun
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:07 PM
Apr 2013

it is called a war...

"Ironically, this is a pretty good reason for this woman to own a gun."

NO it is not, shoot out over a "parking spot" is not a reason to carry.

The idiot should lose his right to own any weapon, he has demonstrated that he is mentally unfit to own a weapon.

 

Alva Goldbook

(149 posts)
36. I completely agree that this guy should lose his right to own a gun.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:54 PM
Apr 2013

He needs to be behind bars. He committed a crime.

I'm not suggesting that there should have been a shoot out in a parking lot. And in reality (as opposed to Hollywood movies), there is almost never a shootout between two people. When you're shot at, people tend to run for their lives, even if they have a gun.

Case in point:



I'm not saying that this is what should have happened. I'm simply demonstrating that shootouts are rare, do to the nature of human survival instinct, i.e. the flight or fight syndrome.

My point here is that if this woman had been a properly trained gun owner, then she would have been forced to have more consideration for other people, and this incident wouldn't have happened. I'm not saying that what happened to her was justified, I'm just saying that being a gun owner would have likely prevented this event from ever occurring.

proud2BlibKansan

(96,793 posts)
45. And I completely disagree that she was being inconsiderate.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 02:18 PM
Apr 2013

At most it was a minor inconvenience. Gun guy should have just pulled around her.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
57. Properly trained gun owners are "forced" to have more consideration for others? What?
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:06 PM
Apr 2013

Is that part of Proper Gun Training? Being Forced to have more consideration for others? And way to blame the victim. If only she'd been properly trained in guns she'd've been forced to make sure this jerk had nothing to get upset about?

I mean...what?

pnwmom

(108,977 posts)
73. What are you saying? That a properly trained gun owner wouldn't wait for a parking spot?
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:29 PM
Apr 2013

So they give parking lot training in gun classes?

And gun owners are more polite and patient than other people?

Sorry, but this is ludicrous.

gollygee

(22,336 posts)
91. That's ridiculous
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 04:07 PM
Apr 2013

He was a gun owner and wasn't forced to be considerate. Being a gun owner, trained or not, doesn't and can't make people considerate. People either are considerate or aren't.

Worst argument ever.

etherealtruth

(22,165 posts)
118. What ...?
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 07:11 PM
Apr 2013

"My point here is that if this woman had been a properly trained gun owner, then she would have been forced to have more consideration for other people, and this incident wouldn't have happened. I'm not saying that what happened to her was justified, I'm just saying that being a gun owner would have likely prevented this event from ever occurring. "This was a failed attempt to be funny ...?

Are you suggesting that the proper response to this situation would have been brandishing a gun, in return? This is unbelievable that something like this would even be suggested here.

The answer to gun threats and violence is NOT MORE GUNS.

Moses2SandyKoufax

(1,290 posts)
134. And I would like my alert privileges back!
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 08:08 PM
Apr 2013



At Sat Apr 27, 2013, 06:59 PM you sent an alert on the following post:

Bill, this guy BROKE THE LAW.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=2764151

REASON FOR ALERT:

This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate. (See <a href="http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=aboutus#communitystandards" target="_blank">Community Standards</a>.)

YOUR COMMENTS:

Blaming the victim of road rage.

JURY RESULTS

A randomly-selected Jury of DU members completed their review of this alert at Sat Apr 27, 2013, 07:10 PM, and voted 0-6 to LEAVE IT ALONE.

Juror #1 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: Send all this shit back to the gungeon. It makes GD suck when people can't get along. A pox on everybody's house in this thread.
Juror #2 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: Uhhhhh.... Nope?
Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: No explanation given
Juror #4 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: I am sooooooooooooooo through with these
Juror #5 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: Number 1: This is not road rage, this is parking lot rage.

Number 2: The poster states that the guy with the gun broke the law and should be locked up. What, that's not good enough for you, Mr. Alerter? Should we send him to Gitmo and let a military commission decide his fate?

Number 3: It sounds like the woman AKA "The Victim" was being an idiot too. C'mon, sister, find another spot. Other people have lives to live too.
Juror #6 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: Inappropriate and unnecessary alert

Thank you.

proud2BlibKansan

(96,793 posts)
5. She doesn't need to own a gun to know you can't use it to get a parking spot.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:10 PM
Apr 2013

She doesn't need to own a gun to know it's illegal to point it at someone to intimidate them into doing what you want them to do.

This asshole with the gun could have backed up or gone around her (I've been to this mall. It has a huge parking lot with wide lanes) and he could have parked somewhere else. When I see someone waiting for a spot, I don't pull up behind them; I go to another lane. And I have never once thought it was impolite to wait for a spot. There could be a good reason she wanted that particular spot. My dad was handicapped but refused to get a sticker for his car so we often looked for a nearby spot or just dropped him off at the door when the weather was bad.

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
144. A number of people wait outside stores to pick up someone coming out. Would he have pulled his gun
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 08:40 PM
Apr 2013
on a shuttle bus waiting in the same situation?

No, he never would do that because of the power implied in the size of the vehicle and the number of people involved with shuttle buses - authority figures.

This is typical bullying behavior. He saw a woman alone in the car and decided to indulge his privilege to intimidate her.

It's very disappointing that the police only 'talked to the man' and have not arrested him.

AngryOldDem

(14,061 posts)
8. Not sure I follow.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:11 PM
Apr 2013

You are basically blaming the woman for being "inconsiderate" by making the man behind her wait and grow impatient, and then pull his gun. So SHE should own a gun? Why? So that they can have a good old Shootout at the K Mart Corral?

I'm sorry, but to me there was no call for the man to pull out his gun because he was being made to wait while this woman parked, and it shows just how much society has become so self-centered and impatient that we can't stand any "inconvenience" of any kind.

And how do you know that the woman didn't have some kind of physical condition that would have made it difficult for her to walk any kind of distance? You don't have to have a handicapped sticker on your car to have some kind of infirmity or injury that would make it difficult to walk any distance, and thus make you try to find a spot closer to where you're going. I know. I've been in such a situation.

But I can't justify the man's behavior here. He was the one being selfish and inconsiderate.

AngryOldDem

(14,061 posts)
51. Sorry -- more tortured reasoning.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 02:48 PM
Apr 2013

Basically, what you're saying is, that if the woman were carrying herself, she would assume that everyone else was carrying and that would have made her "more considerate." Made more considerate out of fear. What a way to live. But that is, I guess, the rationale behind concealed carry. You don't know who is packing, so your mind your Ps and Qs.

Again -- what kind of hurry was the man in that he could not stand to wait for the woman to pull into the lot? Or, if he had enough room to pull up alongside, why didn't he just pull around and be on his merry way?

You say the man should lose his right to own a gun -- fair enough. But please stop defending him for his pulling the gun in the first place.


AngryOldDem

(14,061 posts)
78. That's my guess as well.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:35 PM
Apr 2013

And he probably would have waited for it just as the woman did, but I'm sure he wouldn't have seen that as being "inconsiderate." But, if someone did, he had his trusty gun to settle the point.

 

baldguy

(36,649 posts)
99. For RW gun losers, it's always someone else's fault.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 05:49 PM
Apr 2013

No doubt, the RW gun loser in the story thought he was defending himself - that he HAD to defend himself. It's not his fault that the woman was being so inconsiderate.

 

Alva Goldbook

(149 posts)
38. I agree.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:57 PM
Apr 2013

Gun ownership is a serious responsibility. If you're prone to outbursts or have a temper problem, then you shouldn't own a gun.

gollygee

(22,336 posts)
92. From what I've seen
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 04:09 PM
Apr 2013

People prone to outbursts or who have temper problems have a higher than average likelihood of buying guns. They want power and guns are power.

Response to Alva Goldbook (Reply #2)

Response to Cali_Democrat (Reply #96)

octothorpe

(962 posts)
21. I doubt a gun would have helped at all in this situation...
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:24 PM
Apr 2013

Had the guy intended to shoot her, it would have been over before she would have even had a chance to react. I'd even venture to guess that had she had a gun herself, it may have escalated the situation if she pulled it out and pointed it at him.

For me, the only thing this situation demonstrates is that there are people out there with guns who shouldn't have guns. I'm sure even someone who is really pro-gun ownership can agree with this.

billh58

(6,635 posts)
28. If I didn't read it, I wouldn't
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:34 PM
Apr 2013

believe that you actually said: "This woman did not deserve having a gun brandished at her. But she should have had more consideration for other people. And I have no doubt she could have used the exercise if she bothered to park at the farthest end of the parking lot. There's plenty of parking there, folks. Who doesn't need a walk these days?"

You gunners would actually stoop that low to defend an obvious gun nut asshole who should be locked up? Are there no depths to which you will not lower yourselves? This is a prime example of the need for tighter control of who, and who doesn't get to have a fucking gun, and you turn it into a "more guns will solve the problem" fucking argument while defending the gun nut.

 

Alva Goldbook

(149 posts)
41. Bill, this guy BROKE THE LAW.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:59 PM
Apr 2013

he should be behind bars. I'm not defending him. But c'mon, how many people these days are completely inconsiderate of others when they get behind the wheel? If everyone was polite and courteous while driving we wouldn't have a problem with road rage.

billh58

(6,635 posts)
46. Typical of an NRA
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 02:18 PM
Apr 2013

spokesperson: say something (but if the woman had been more considerate) and then deny having said it. Pitiful and sad.

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
142. Or if, she'd dressed appropriately, or smiled, or... I see a pattern here.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 08:31 PM
Apr 2013

The onus is on the aggressor, the out of control gun owner who couldn't wait, nor remember how to drive, or keep his temper in check or his gun in his pants...

Thanks bill for saying it like it is.

Ikonoklast

(23,973 posts)
62. You just blamed the victim, AGAIN.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:16 PM
Apr 2013

You blamed her for another's rage. Do you even read what you post?

I can be as big an inconsiderate asshole as I want to be, it gives NO ONE the right to fucking shoot me.

They don' t hand out death sentences for being rude or clueless...except in Gunner Land.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
63. "If everyone was polite and courteous while driving we wouldn't have a problem with road rage"
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:18 PM
Apr 2013

THAT is what you wrote and what we are calling you on. Even if everyone is polite and courteous, others will still be jerks and assholes.

Rather like "if all women were polite and courteous we wouldn't have a problem with domestic violence". Or "If all women wore burkas we wouldn't have a problem with rape". Or "if all children were polite and courteous we wouldn't have a problem with bullying in schools".

There will always be jerks and saying "if others behaved differently" is what you said and is wrong.

raccoon

(31,110 posts)
101. In a perfect world, everyone would be polite and courteous on the road.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 05:54 PM
Apr 2013

I question your motives here.


Progressive dog

(6,900 posts)
135. And you defended him
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 08:09 PM
Apr 2013

When you put it in writing you it becomes hard to get away with denying it. If you don't stand behind what you said then take it back. If you don't take it back, then defend it.

Just for once I want a gun nut to actually stand behind what he believes.

 

Politicalboi

(15,189 posts)
55. So they could have a shoot out in the parking lot
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 02:57 PM
Apr 2013

Yes Ironically that would be the ideal situation.

And holding up traffic because she is lazy. So let's say she moved on, and the guy then waited for the same spot. Is he now lazy too? The asshole had enough room to go around her, but chose to be an ass instead. This asshole proved he shouldn't own a gun or a car.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
58. "But she shouldn't have been holding up traffic just to be lazy" Wow. You have "no doubt" she
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:07 PM
Apr 2013

could have used the exercise. Double wow.

Assume much?

 

otohara

(24,135 posts)
88. She Was Holding Up Traffic Just To Be Lazy??????
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:47 PM
Apr 2013

How on earth did you jump to that insane conclusion?

Moses2SandyKoufax

(1,290 posts)
128. Today, I alerted on one of its posts, and the jury voted to leave it 6-0.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 07:54 PM
Apr 2013

I wonder if I can get back my alert option.

 

TheMadMonk

(6,187 posts)
139. Dickless had room to pull up alongside and then go around.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 08:17 PM
Apr 2013

Therefore the woman was not impeding traffic.

London to a house-brick Dickless wanted that spot for himself.


"...No doubt she could have used the exercise..."

Why not say what you clearly think? Fat and lazy. Insinuation is not "polite and courteous" Not saying anything at all is "polite and courteous".

When people insist on ennumerating just how bloody wonderful they are, I know they're almost certainly anything but, and you go on to demonstrate just that when you blame the victim for her part in "provoking" Dickless's unconscionable behaviour.


Dressing provocatively is not invitiation to rape.

lpbk2713

(42,757 posts)
4. WAAAH. You're not paying any attention to me!!
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:10 PM
Apr 2013



Tough guy was acting just like a three year old.

Mental evaluations should be required in cases like this.

TeeYiYi

(8,028 posts)
7. Clearly...
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:11 PM
Apr 2013

...he had plenty of room:

”...and the man in the car behind
her drove up to her side of the
vehicle...”

He was just being a dick. I wish people in this thread would stop blaming the woman.

TYY

AngryOldDem

(14,061 posts)
11. If he had room to drive alongisde...
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:14 PM
Apr 2013

...then he had room to pass.

This is one of the reasons why I hate driving anymore. I don't know if I'm going to do something that will piss someone off to the point they want to kill me.

Tell me again why concealed carry is such a great idea?

 

otohara

(24,135 posts)
50. Asshole Brandishing A Gun
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 02:47 PM
Apr 2013

is a tad bit scarier than just wanting to be an asshole.

Christ I would have had a stroke.
I hope he get's his fucking gun taken away.

jmowreader

(50,557 posts)
10. This guy getting his guns confiscated would be a good news story
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:13 PM
Apr 2013

But the people who block the road waiting for parking spaces piss me off too.

I have a patent pending method of fixing these guys when they block the road waiting for my spot...and some of the morans around here will block the road if they see you approaching the car with a bag: I go back in the store.

 

Trajan

(19,089 posts)
86. Hmmm ...
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:45 PM
Apr 2013

If someone sees a driver get into their car as if to leave, then waiting for them nearby, after moving your car out of the way so others can pass you .... It is completely reasonable for a person to do this ....

First car to see that driver is leaving gets the first chance to await their departure and move into the space once it's empty ...

Someone in that position is under no obligation to 'keep going' ... as long as they don't block the roadway (she didn't) then they are perfectly in their rights to stop and await the departing vehicle ...

I respect the line - first come first served ...

Do you respect the line, or are you always first, no matter what ?

Niceguy1

(2,467 posts)
132. if i see someone just stopped
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 08:05 PM
Apr 2013

And waiiting to see if anybody backs out (holding up traffic) I just browse DU until that person gives up and then let the second person have the space.

tblue37

(65,340 posts)
158. She wasn't blocking. He drove up beside her to
Sun Apr 28, 2013, 12:28 AM
Apr 2013

threaten her, then drove away when she called the cops.

Not blocking at all.

HappyMe

(20,277 posts)
12. I hate malls.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:14 PM
Apr 2013

I'm kind of surprised that more people don't get their asses kicked for stupid parking lot behavior.

HappyMe

(20,277 posts)
25. ....
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:32 PM
Apr 2013


I haven't ever seen anybody get their ass kicked in a parking lot, so.... thanks for the unnecessary lesson.

proud2BlibKansan

(96,793 posts)
31. I saw 2 women fighting in the grocery store parking lot years ago.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:42 PM
Apr 2013

They had had a fender bender. Another shopper told me they came inside and asked the store manager to call the police (this was years before cell phones) and the store manager told them the cops wouldn't come because it's private property. So the women went back out to the parking lot, one thing led to another, and by the time I pulled up, they were punching the living shit out of each other. And when the manager called the cops to report the fight, they came.

It seems funny now but it really wasn't at the time.

HappyMe

(20,277 posts)
43. A couple of years ago I saw 2 women
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 02:06 PM
Apr 2013

fighting over an ugly Christmas sweater. They were yelling and both yanking on the sweater. I don't know how it ended. I got the hell out of there, after I laughed and they both gave me a nasty look.

MineralMan

(146,288 posts)
24. Me, too. When I must go to one,
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:28 PM
Apr 2013

I park way out in the boondocks, where I can pull through and drive out, rather than back out. Then I walk to the mall. It's amazing how many spaces there are out 100 yards from the masses of cars. I can walk. I like to walk. It's good for me.

I hate malls, though, so I'm not there often.

MineralMan

(146,288 posts)
40. I hear that. I'm fortunate that I don't have
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:59 PM
Apr 2013

any serious creaky bits yet. At age 67, though, it may be around the corner.

juajen

(8,515 posts)
64. Women are safer from thiefs and perverts when they park up close.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:20 PM
Apr 2013

We have all been taught that in every self defense class that I have taken. I never park in a lonely place. Then, "we're just asking for it" as our menfolk are prone to say.

AngryOldDem

(14,061 posts)
81. I do the same, because I don't like backing out of tight spots. But...
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:38 PM
Apr 2013

...a few years back I had a knee injury that kept me from walking distances. I could get around stores, etc., just fine, but I really appreciated parking closer so I wouldn't have to trek through acres and acres of lot on a bad knee to get where I was going.

What we don't know here is whether that was the case with this woman, and why she was waiting for that particular spot. Regardless, the man had no reason to threaten her with his gun.

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
145. I finally ended up with a disabled plate. I put it off as long as I could, and on a good day, I park
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 08:45 PM
Apr 2013
as far away from store as I can.

But it's nice to know on a bad one I can get closer up. I time my visits to when there are less people at the store.

Years ago the doctors wanted me to get one, but I figured it was like asking to be mugged. At least in the city I lived in then.



ljm2002

(10,751 posts)
26. So the man "drove up to her side of the vehicle"...
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:33 PM
Apr 2013

..."pulled a gun and started waving it at her, threatening to kill her if she didn't move."

I'm confused. If he was able to pull up beside her then why wasn't he able to continue on his way?

Sounds like he was itching to brandish that weapon.

Sounds like he is a loony tune rager and really, really needs to have his weeapon taken away.

As for everyone who is saying she should be more considerate: the article does not say how long she waited. But it does say that as soon as she dialed 911 the man drove on.

CincyDem

(6,355 posts)
32. Once upon a time...
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 01:43 PM
Apr 2013

... it was sufficient to roll down your window and yell "Hey asshole, move your car".

Then we progressed to pulling up along side and giving him/her a dirty look.

Finally, at some point we progressed to hand signals and drove past flipping him/her "the bird".

Today, we've moved up the food chain to brandishing.

Tomorrow, hey - just shoot her because she's costing me 3-4 minutes sitting here. I'm sure there's some extension of the castle doctrine that we could apply here.

Progress.

 

AnotherMcIntosh

(11,064 posts)
53. It is against the law to brandish a firearm. Criminals who do so should be prosecuted to the fullest
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 02:53 PM
Apr 2013

extent of the law.

It is a false equivalency for anyone to equate a criminal brandishing a firearm with firearm-owning Democrats and Independents, and anyone else owning a firearm, for self-defense or to deter the need for self-defense within the home.

Prosecute all criminals.

 

AnotherMcIntosh

(11,064 posts)
76. Enhance the punishment for all criminals who commit crimes with firearms.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:31 PM
Apr 2013

Obaining a CCW license is not a license to break the law.

AngryOldDem

(14,061 posts)
85. That's the whole crazy rationale for CCW.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:43 PM
Apr 2013

It's a Wild West mentality.

You don't know who's carrying, so you're more vigilant of your own behavior. As I said upthread, what a way to live. Good manners at the point of a gun. What you don't know is, especially when driving these days, what will set anyone off. Going 5 miles below the speed limit? Passing someone? Trying to pull into a parking spot?

Guns, rather than making people more safe, make them more reckless and stupid. Combine that with being behind the wheel just makes the problem worse.

 

99th_Monkey

(19,326 posts)
71. If only that woman had a gun
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:28 PM
Apr 2013

she could have "stood her ground".

Maybe she'll see the light now, and go buy a Glock.

99Forever

(14,524 posts)
72. Another law-abiding, reasonsible, responsible, legal gun owner...
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:28 PM
Apr 2013

... exercising his 2nd Amendment Right to terrorize unarmed, peaceful citizens with his Precious.

The NRA should feel quite proud that it makes sure this can happen almost anywhere, at any time.

Yeee haw!

sigmasix

(794 posts)
80. Gun love
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:38 PM
Apr 2013

This cowardly creep sounds like a lot of NRA members that I have met- brandishing a gun to threaten and intimidate others. The NRA has made sure to change gun ownership laws for felons so that pedophiles, wife beaters and murderers are legally heavily armed. What makes anyone believe that gun nuts from the NRA have a problem with thier fellow cowards using guns to threaten and intimidate others? Right wing extremists live for the rush of unlawful gun use and brandishing- The NRA ought to use this guy as thier poster boy to show how gun nuts are being picked-on for attempting to terrorize thier neighbors with thier proudly owned gun collection. Poor little gun nuts are so unfairly treated for thier murderous, violent solutions to every day problems.

LiberalFighter

(50,912 posts)
84. There needs to be a way to dispense judgement immediately on the spot.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:42 PM
Apr 2013

In that circumstance the guy gets zapped to another planet.

still_one

(92,187 posts)
90. I would hope after he pulled the gun she moved and then called 911
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 03:55 PM
Apr 2013

because of she didn't she is very lucky

 

SheilaT

(23,156 posts)
97. Well, it happened at Oak Park Mall.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 05:07 PM
Apr 2013

There's never enough parking there.

Actually, I used to live a mile directly south of that mall, and from the middle of November until after New Year's I learned to reroute my driving patterns to avoid the traffic there.

Given how scarce parking can be there, it's a wonder this sort of nonsense hasn't happened before.

itsrobert

(14,157 posts)
102. Gun owners are babies
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 05:58 PM
Apr 2013

they cry if they can't have their gun to play with and keep as a security blanket. They are emotionally unstable.

Response to itsrobert (Reply #102)

 

darkangel218

(13,985 posts)
107. What right do you have to call ALL gun owners emotionally unstable??
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 06:17 PM
Apr 2013

It's our constitutional right to own guns,and you have no right to insult millions of Americans calling them emotionally unstable.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

 

darkangel218

(13,985 posts)
109. So you are okay with the first amedment, but not the second??
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 06:22 PM
Apr 2013



Hypocrisy at its finest!

Who said is going to shoot you? Have I ever said that or someone else said that? You need to be reported to the Amins for trolling and causing drama, which youre obviously doing.
 

darkangel218

(13,985 posts)
111. Im not your friend.
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 06:30 PM
Apr 2013

I legally own a gun and I don't apreaciate being called emotionally unstable just because I excersise my right. Like I said, I hope the administrators are seeing this. I'm pretty sure labeling people is a TOS violation.

itsrobert

(14,157 posts)
114. No, I only hear NRA apologist
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 06:44 PM
Apr 2013

talk about "exercising my right"

What other rights do you exercise? How about the right to remain silent?

 

darkangel218

(13,985 posts)
116. The "right to remain silent"?
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 06:59 PM
Apr 2013

Just so you know, I have reported you to the Admn.
Labeling other DUrs as having mental problems is against the TOS.


DA.

 

pintobean

(18,101 posts)
138. Jury results on this post
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 08:16 PM
Apr 2013

At Sat Apr 27, 2013, 04:47 PM an alert was sent on the following post:

The "right to remain silent"?
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=2765483

REASON FOR ALERT:

This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate. (See <a href="http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=aboutus#communitystandards" target="_blank">Community Standards</a>.)

ALERTER'S COMMENTS:

Over the top. Already had one pits removed. This one needs to go as well.

You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Sat Apr 27, 2013, 05:05 PM, and the Jury voted 2-4 to LEAVE IT.

Juror #1 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: No explanation given
Juror #2 voted to HIDE IT and said: casting asparagus on individuals that disagree with you is sophism and against the rules here
Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: No explanation given
Juror #4 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: I think the correct play here is to delete this entire sub-thread.
Juror #5 voted to HIDE IT and said: DarkAngel is name calling, and knows she will get a hide. Let her have another one. Check her transparency page. It's a doozy.
Juror #6 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: One of her pits was removed? I'm surprised she can still post.
Robert's being a jerk. Good for DA for not putting up with it.

Thank you very much for participating in our Jury system, and we hope you will be able to participate again in the future.

sendero

(28,552 posts)
106. I'm sure there are all kinds of hypothetical magical reasons...
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 06:15 PM
Apr 2013

.... why folks insist on holding up everything, often for quite a long time, so that they can avoid walking 100 feet. Most of them are about to walk a mile or more to wander the aisles in the store(s) and a very large number of them could use the walk either way.

Yeah I've read the "maybe they are disabled blah blah" I've watched enough of these folks to think that they are mostly selfish assholes who are perfectly willing to inconvenience others for their own convenience.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
115. So pulling a gun on someone rather than driving around them is ok with you? Is that what you are say
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 06:56 PM
Apr 2013

saying?

Someone waiting for a car to pull out is a selfish asshole and the person waiting behind them is justified in threatening them with a gun? Seriously?

99Forever

(14,524 posts)
121. Amazing, isn't it?
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 07:21 PM
Apr 2013

This is the kind of mentality that is a very strong argument as to why under regulated private weapons ownership is a deadly danger to each and every person in this nation.

sendero

(28,552 posts)
147. Pulling a gun..
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 09:16 PM
Apr 2013

.. is never ok for any reason. Nor is blocking traffic for a minute so your dumb lazy ass won't have to walk a few more feet.

etherealtruth

(22,165 posts)
120. Did you miss reading the part ....
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 07:15 PM
Apr 2013

... where he was able to pull beside her in order to brandish the gun ....?

99Forever

(14,524 posts)
122. Even if the gunnut couldn't get around her...
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 07:23 PM
Apr 2013

... brandishing his gun would STILL be completely out of line and illegal.

etherealtruth

(22,165 posts)
123. Of course it would
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 07:31 PM
Apr 2013
Brandishing a gun endangers the public safety period.

My response was a reaction to (what appears to be) attempts to blame the victim here ... I don't care if the woman parked diagonally across the lane and went shopping .... this nut with the gun needs to be prosecuted

Response to gollygee (Reply #131)

pnwmom

(108,977 posts)
155. There's nothing in the OP that indicates the parking spot is near the entrance
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 10:53 PM
Apr 2013

or why the person there is waiting for it.

At my mall it's often difficult to find any parking space, so you wait when you see one opening up.

Response to proud2BlibKansan (Original post)

Thinkingabout

(30,058 posts)
143. This is a perfect example why many do not need to own guns and especially to have
Sat Apr 27, 2013, 08:31 PM
Apr 2013

A permit to carry. If he has a permit it needs to be revoked immediately. For all who shout they need to protect their families, how was he protecting his family in this instant. Just an example of a gun nut out of control.

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