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Golden Corral restaurants may offer all-you-can eat buffets, but are they open to all?
The federal government sued a Westland, Mich. Golden Corral franchise Wednesday for allegedly kicking out a family after noticing a child that suffered from a genetic skin condition. The lawsuit charges that the restaurant's manager violated the Americans with Disabilities Act by denying service to Danielle Duford of Garden City, Mich. and her four daughters. Three of Duford's daughters suffer from epidermolysis bullosa, a condition that makes a person's skin extremely vulnerable to blistering.
According to the suit, manager David Robinson asked Duford what was wrong with one of her children, saying: she has scabs all over, so obviously there is something wrong with her. The document also noted that Robinson asserted the restaurant had a right to ask whats wrong if it concerns our customers and is contagious.
The family was then asked to leave, despite repeated attempts by the mother to educate the restaurant management about the condition and the fact it was not contagious, according to the U.S. Justice Department.
The government is suing to prevent other incidents of discrimination and is seeking compensation for the family, as well as a $55,000 civil penalty.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/21/golden-corral-lawsuit-westland-skin-disorder_n_2733946.html
spanone
(135,846 posts)lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)... I'm not big on cutting restaurateurs who discriminate against the disabled much slack, but I'd be inclined to listen to the business owner about this one.
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)It didn't look contagious, it looked unappetizing and that's what the manager was concerned about.
During WW II my mother worked as a waitress in the restaurant at Penn Station in NYC. (Now long gone) One day during dinner a soldier, escorted by a nurse and another soldier, came in and was seated by the hostess. Slowly you heard the clink of knives and forks being gently placed on plates as those around him saw he had no nose, nor ears, nor eyes, and strange looking lips. (among other disfigurements) My mother, the hostess and another waitress walked quietly up to those tables and encouraged people to please continue eating. She told me people had tears streaming down their faces, but they did resume their meals. No one left the restaurant prematurely and many went up to his table to give him a hug, or pat his shoulder and say thank you.
Americans used to have souls.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)I doubt I'll be able to convince you that I have a soul, but if I was a waiter and this little guy...
was my customer, I wouldn't think it unreasonable for the manager to talk to the parents out of concern for the other customers health... not their comfort.
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)would you continue to insist they leave?
I was not making a personal observation, I wonder why you would take it as such? Only you can determine whether you have a soul
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)Without hearing that conversation, I'm incapable of answering. "Oh, he's fine!" probably wouldn't convince me.
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)made repeated attempts to educate the manager and explain the condition is not contagious.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)simply filed charges without investigating the complaint? Without first confirming that the condition is, indeed, not contagious. They never interviewed the manager? Okay.
liberalhistorian
(20,818 posts)apologists for the police, as well as someone who has openly called child support "male enslavement" and seems to have a thing against women, so what else would you really expect from him?
Response to liberalhistorian (Reply #19)
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Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)ln which you agreed that child support is male enslavement and some women just get pregnant to steal a man's money.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)Or else you are too.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)liberalhistorian
(20,818 posts)Notice how he's suddenly conspicuously silent about this after you posted the link.
BTW, LJJ, sweetie, you DO realize that men share equally in the responsibility for a pregnancy and that if he doesn't want a kid, he shouldn't have sex? Or were you asleep during high school biology classes and do you really think all pregnancies are solely caused just by women? lol
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)trumad
(41,692 posts)Thanks for finding that link---head over to the little boys forum---errr for some reason called the Mens group---and you'll see that being the main theme.
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)I didn't know, until last week, that you could find old stuff like that. I would only head over to the boys forum if I was feeling extremely pugnacious and there was no one on any any other forum willing to accommodate me. What do you think the chances of that happening are?
trumad
(41,692 posts)LOL
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)No thanks...I'd be hard put to decide on a hot celeb...if I don't know you, you ain't hot. How's that for arrogance?
CreekDog
(46,192 posts)and a link where you say women should pay the *same* as men for life insurance.
http://upload.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=2145825
the common thread? you want women to pay more, any way you can rationalize it.
liberalhistorian
(20,818 posts)You have stated this directly on other threads, and you admitted to it and agreed with it, saying "because it is male enslavement" when I called you on it on previous threads. You're just backtracking because you don't like the flak you're rightfully getting for it.
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)I was doing my best to be polite... Child support is male enslavement? My son works for a libertarian (I swear libertarians are all strange) who has said he would cut the jewels off of anyone who doesn't pay child support. Perhaps someone should ask LjJ if he'd like to turn his in?
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)You shouldn't trust every allegation you read.
liberalhistorian
(20,818 posts)as to "it is and some do" on the link pretty much speaks for itself. And I don't go around making up shit about other posters, I actually read and then remember what they've said for reference on future threads.
And I have no clue what your first sentence means. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt, something you don't give most women, that it's not meant to be nasty or risque.
Manifestor_of_Light
(21,046 posts)Because women pay child support too, FYI.
Texas is a community property state and a no-fault divorce state, and women are expected to support the family equally with men, and women have been able to own property in their own names and transfer property in their own names in Texas since 1836, the first year of the Republic of Texas.
Women are equal in TX due to the Spanish law influence, which is much more equal than the English law in New England or the French law in Louisiana.
We don't have alimony. We have separate maintenance.
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)I said libertarians are strange.... I didn't accept it as a legitimate argument (he was using it in defense of a 'pro-life' position) FL divorce law only requires alimony if one party earns considerably more than the other and child support is paid by both in proportion to their earnings.
CreekDog
(46,192 posts)he's posted that so many times on DU that you should have no trouble finding it.
BUT WAIT, THERE'S MORE:
he wants gender discrimination allowed for health insurance because women will get charged more than men.
BUT
he wants gender discrimination outlawed for LIFE INSURANCE, because women will get charged more than men.
and here, he supports discrimination, and wouldn't you know it, --against 3 girls.
frankly, it's not fair to accuse him of anything more than KEEPING SCORE.
treestar
(82,383 posts)(I prefer to think of it as not assuming they are always in the wrong and that they should not have their lives risked lightly) are you saying, in this purely ad hominem post, that the other poster would have a different opinion had it been the father who was with the children?
This is an entirely different issue, however. You are discussing the poster and calling him out on different issues. Not attacking the argument itself.
liberalhistorian
(20,818 posts)he harbors such off-the-wall, negative, mysogynist views on basic issues of fairness and justice such as have been documented above, I consider his judgment suspect on other cases of justice and fairness such as in this OP.
treestar
(82,383 posts)So it's just ad hominem. If you prove the other person a jerk, even if that is possible, it still has no bearing on the issue.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)I don't doubt that the childrens' condition is not contagious. The question is what the parent told the manager and if that explanation should have been trusted.
YMMV.
cthulu2016
(10,960 posts)Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)Squinch
(50,956 posts)mother out of concern for the health of the rest of the diners. (I certainly would have used much more sensitive language than the manager used.)
But in this day and age, where the internet is available to virtually everyone, the manager could have looked up an image of the disorder when the mother told him what it was. (That disorder name isn't something she could just pull out of her hat if she had a yen for a buffet while her kids were sick with the chicken pox.) It would have taken a few seconds, and it could have prevented the whole tempest.
EastKYLiberal
(429 posts)Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)What is sad is that is it a lifelong condition.
grantcart
(53,061 posts)I think it is reasonable for an open buffet restaurant to ask someone who has open sores not to participate in the buffet line, whether or not they are contagious or not, they will be disturbing to the other customers and it isn't possible to educate everyone at the restaurant.
It doesn't say if there was an option of asking the parents to get the food and have the child served without going to the buffet line.
It is a terrible disease and I feel for the child and the family, but some reasonable accomodations might have been possible, not sure what was attempted.
marybourg
(12,633 posts)The business must make the accommodation; not the disabled person.
KamaAina
(78,249 posts)Just as they would have to for someone who was blind, quadriplegic, or otherwise unable to use the buffet line.
grantcart
(53,061 posts)was the issue or whether the parents insisted that the child have the right to get their own food.
It is a small but important detail.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)....a waiter serving you your food at a buffet is in fact a violation of the ADA, because it limits someone from the "Golden Corral experience". This was gone over when someone sued Chipotle because they supposedly couldn't see over the counter.
KamaAina
(78,249 posts)indeed, like zillions of similar counters built across the land since 1990, they should have been built at the proper height in the first place.
But having worked in the field for a full decade, it escapes me how a quadriplegic is supposed to use the serving spoons, or a person who is blind to be able to tell what's what. (This one might be easier, involving swappable plastic name tags with Braille for each dish -- but not everyone who's blind reads Braille.)
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)....if a person with dwarfism comes in to the establishment in a small wheelchair.
And no, I'm not being snarky here, I'm serious.
KamaAina
(78,249 posts)not dwarfs so much as people with osteogenesis imperfecta (brittle bone disease). Several of my very best friends have OI. They use standard-size chairs, sometimes with the seat built up so as to elevate them.
Next!
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)thucythucy
(8,074 posts)This isn't rocket science. It really is long past time we stopped building our buildings, communications, and infrastructure as if everyone on the planet was five feet ten inches, had two good legs and arms, perfect vision and perfect hearing... Almost everyone, if they live long enough, will acquire a significant disability at some point in their lives. Why not start building our society around that fact, instead of around the myth of everyone being forever non-disabled?
LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)No offense, but the average person would be forgiven for being afraid of that condition. It looks like some sort of pox.
It's easy to blame the owner for discrimination, but he may have been genuinely afraid. Would I trust the assurances of the mother? No, not unless I heard it from a medical doctor. If they sat next to me, I'd leave.
Poor kid.
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)to protect people with disabilities from those who are, out of ignorance, superstition, or for whatever other reason "afraid of that condition." That it looks like "the pox" is no reason to deny services to people. Under the ADA, you can only deny services to a person with a disability because that person poses an actual, genuine, meaningful threat to the health and safety of others. Not the perception of a threat, not the fear of a threat, not "Gee he just looked kinda odd to me" kind of threat, not "eewww gross"--nope, it has to be an actual, based in science medical threat of direct and actual harm.
The ADA even requires the Secretary of Health and Human Services to publish a list of such actual threats, in the form of contagious diseases, which is made available specifically to restaurants and other establishments that handle food. That's been happening now for 23 years. For the manager of a restaurant to not be aware of this is like him not being aware of fire codes, health inspection requirements, civil rights provisions, sexual harassment policies. This is stuff any competent manager of a major franchise ought to know.
"If they sat next to me, I'd leave."
That's your decision. It would be cruel, and no doubt hurtful to these children, but hey, if that's what you need to do to assuage your fear of disability, so be it.
"Poor kid" indeed.
There's a slogan in the disability rights movement: "Piss on pity." We don't need for you to feel sorry for us. We need you to respect our rights.
Sorry if I'm coming off a bit harsh here, but this case is really beginning to burn me up.
LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)The manager isn't a doctor. Even if he had knowledge of this genetic disorder, he wouldn't be able to diagnose it. Certain genetic disorders are obvious, like Down Syndrome, but this one is not. Is he also expected to know the difference between a lung deformity caused by a genetic trait and tuberculosis? Only a doctor could distinguish the difference. How could any thinking person equate that to checking the fire exits and sexual harassment? Those don't require a diagnosis, or taking a mother's word that their child isn't contagious.
And who the fuck is this "we"? I'm covered under the ADA because I have a disability, and from my perspective you're coming off pretty ridiculously. It isn't reasonable to expect people to be comfortable with open bloody sores that resemble pox at a buffet. To make out anyone's uncertainty as this "think of the children" guilt crap is buffoonish, not when the disease is a rare disorder that few outside the medical community have ever even heard about. You're comfortable with it because you're not the manager or a customer at this buffet; you have the luxury of sitting behind a computer lecturing people who were in a situation you haven't encountered.
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)are the people who drafted and fought for passage of the ADA, and who expect to be protected under its provisions, no matter how disgusting or frightening others might view our disabilities.
The man manages a restaurant. It's his business to know the laws and regulations that apply. I'm assuming his franchise has an ADA compliance person on staff at the head office to help if he has questions. I'm assuming the franchise does the occasional in-service to keep people posted on the law. If not, they're not very competent--the result being they are now facing civil litigation and a federal suit brought by the US Dept. of Justice.
You have no idea what situations I've encountered. I've eaten, played, lived with people who would look, to your eyes, just as unsettling as the kid in the photo (though usually not so cute). As for the "think of the children guilt crap" there were actual, real live children involved, yes? Kids with feelings, despite how grotesque they might look to you? Children you said you would shun because the sight of them frightened you. That they have a "rare" disorder is beside the point. Albinism is rare as well. So what?
The manager asked the mother about her kids' disability, and she answered, truthfully, as it turned out. There was no danger. Responding out of ignorance, he threw them out anyway. I find that far more dangerous to my well being than a couple of kids with a rare genetic disorder.
It will all be settled in court, unless the franchise decides to settle. I'm very glad the DoJ is taking up this case. This is precisely why we need the ADA.
Shivering Jemmy
(900 posts)The ADA reply to your post was comprehensive enough to demonstrate that. Time to give it up.
undergroundpanther
(11,925 posts)piss on pity.disabled people have rights,and I have had my rights stomped on by ignorant and"concerned" alike.And I get pissed off at it all too.
treestar
(82,383 posts)Like those kids should stay home their entire lives because others are fearful and ignorant.
Scruffy Rumbler
(961 posts)+1000000
CreekDog
(46,192 posts)you don't even know it and you're stinking up this thread with your intolerant posts.
you don't even know the law. holy cow.
davidpdx
(22,000 posts)Whatever he has it is probably very uncomfortable for him. As for the restaurant I wasn't there and don't know what happened, but it seems like something could have been done to minimize the effect for both the family and the customers.
treestar
(82,383 posts)I don't think I'd say anything at all to the manager. I'd wonder what was wrong. Actually it does not look contagious to me. I may be naive, but I'd figure they'd stay home if it was contagious.
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)Of course the restaurant didn't know the family. If they did they could have worked it out.
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)which is no longer contagious when the scabbing begins.
One wonders if all patrons must submit to a physical before entering ... Have you never been in a restaurant in which other patrons were coughing or sneezing? What about on a plane, even worse, with all that stale air being recirculated. You've never had the misfortune of having a co-worker say, "I think I'm coming down with the flu?"
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)That's very contagious.
I wouldn't go eat a buffet meal with someone who thought they were coming down with the flu. I'd go out and get my coworker lunch, or go to some other type of restaurant, but not a buffet restaurant.
But impetigo is truly contagious.
http://kidshealth.org/parent/infections/bacterial_viral/impetigo.html#
A restaurant owner would be truly remiss to allow kids with impetigo to go near a buffet table. And after they left, you'd have to wash everything they touched down with bleach, or expose subsequent diners and the wait staff to the risk of infection. If impetigo sores are being treated and are covered it should be okay as long as the child's hands are clean. (Young kids will scratch.)
Here's the European factsheet on impetigo:
http://www.ecdc.europa.eu/en/healthtopics/impetigo/basic_facts/Pages/factsheet_general_public.aspx
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)The mother is to be considered a liar, the child can't be asked to sit at the table while food is brought to her? If you are indeed so worried about contagious diseases, why would you eat out at all? The things that go on in restaurant kitchens would nauseate you, I'm sure. My cousin had impetigo as a kid...got it at the community pool.
It doesn't matter whether you go to a buffet with a sick co-worker...the sick employee has no business being in the office generously sharing his/her germs.
My middle one looked just like that picture when she had chicken pox....
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)To carry with her. This situation will happen again. The kids' condition is rare whereas unfortunately impetigo is not.
I don't know the details of what happened AFTER the restaurant manager talked to the women. The children were not contagious and not a threat. There was no reason why they could not eat there.
I assume that the government has done a thorough investigation and the whole thing will be covered in the lawsuit.
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)One also hopes she takes her business elsewhere.
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)I just don't blame the manager for asking. I think the restaurant manager had a duty to ask. If someone walks in looking like they have measles (another disease), you wouldn't seat them. You'd take them aside and ask quietly. It's not like restaurants don't have to deal with these problems:
http://www.state.nj.us/health/news/2011/view_articlee343.html?id=3699
Impetigo is so infectious that doctor's offices shouldn't let infected kids sit in the waiting rooms. Like measles. The concern wasn't unreasonable, but the kids have a right to live a normal life.
It could be that the mother was very upset and and the whole thing went wrong. Obviously the manager had to assess her credibility. Some parents do ignore these sorts of problems.
I really feel very sorry for all concerned.
PS: I am reacting to the bit in the article that seems to quote an allegation in the lawsuit that says that the manager said he had a right to ask. If the DOJ is claiming he didn't, I utterly disagree. If the mother thought he didn't and reacted angrily and defensively, that might have made the manager suspicious. But it is also entirely humanly understandable that the mother would react that way! She probably felt very hurt and protective of her children.
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)for assuming she was lying and making her leave. You are fixated on impetigo...is there a reason?
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)As if the poor kid had Ebola. And some who didn't have it, but had something that looked as if it could have been. The parents had to go to a doctor and get it checked out and get a medical letter.
And that's what this does look like. Also it's most commonly seen in young kids, so that would be the natural guess.
Note that the article makes it SEEM like the DOJ lawsuit is alleging that the manager didn't even have the right to ask. Well, we all know how bad reporting can be, so that might be a misrepresentation. But if that is true, I do disagree with the DOJ position. A reasonable compromise should not have forced the family to leave, though.
This is the part that made me wonder:
I think the manager did have the right to ask. That's why I'm wondering.
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)I bet Robinson doesn't exert such concern over his kitchen staff. Have you ever seen a patron refused service because they were ill?
liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)That sounds as bad as making people of a particular skin color carry papers to prove they are citizens. I'm sure you are probably much more likely to get ecoli poisoning from the food a restaurant as you are of getting a contagious disease from a customer. What about people who don't get their children vaccinated? They may be putting the public at risk but you can't see that on their skin, so they are not feared. We shouldn't let fear make us look at people who are different as suspicious or bad.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)I am dismayed by the attitude displayed in some of the posts.
treestar
(82,383 posts)But more as a useful tool for the mother, so she could avoid hassle. Whip the letter out and it would convince the other person there was nothing to fear.
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)CreekDog
(46,192 posts)i mean seriously?
make the disabled carry papers?
is that the most effed up thing i've read here tonight? on a night where effed up things are being posted by the dozen?
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)Nor should they.
But there is a difference between a condition such as this, which mimics an infection, and a highly contagious one, and a disability.
For one thing, this shouldn't be a disability. Nor should public prejudice be allowed to make it one.
But here's the thing - if you took a kid like this to daycare, or a school, they would need a doctor's letter before they were allowed to attend. And that's not discrimination. It's required caution.
Individuals have rights, and it should be the goal of our society to protect those rights. But an infectious TB case can be legally isolated. Certain types of infections (like typhus or hepatitis) will get you banned from some jobs until it is cleared up. The risk to others is too high.
Disabilities do not threaten others, unless the disabled person is doing something that their disability makes unsafe. That's why people with very limited vision are not allowed to drive, for example. There is no country and no place where a kitchen or food preparation worker diagnosed with typhoid fever or a contagious skin infection doesn't cause a descent of the authorities:
http://www.indystar.com/article/20130205/LIFE02/130205032/Purdue-food-worker-diagnosed-typhoid-fever-concerns-others-were-exposed
A restaurant worker would be more aware than the general public of these issues. Here, for example, is a UK summary of laws and regulations affecting food preparation workers:
http://www.foodlaw.rdg.ac.uk/pdf/uk-08033-fitness-to-work-draft.pdf
LEGAL REQUIREMENTS
The law requires that in all food businesses other than those engaged in primary production (e.g. farmers and
growers) and associated operations:
No person suffering from, or being a carrier of a disease likely to be transmitted through food or afflicted,
for example, with infected wounds, skin infections, sores or diarrhoea is to be permitted to handle food or enter
any food-handling area in any capacity if there is an y likelihood of direct or indirect contamination. \\
Any person so affected and employed in a food business and who is likely to come into contact with food is to report immediately the illness or symptoms, and if possible their causes , to their manager or supervisor.
These requirements are mainly about people who handle food, but they also extend to managing the risk from contam
ination from other infected workers and visitors to rooms and areas where open food is stored or handled, e.g.
managers, maintenance contractors, inspectors etc.
Breach of the obligations set out in this paragraph constitutes an offence under Regulation 17 of the Food Hygiene (England) Regulations 2006. [div]
Do you think this is discrimination? By definition, discrimination is unreasonable.
CreekDog
(46,192 posts)just decreeing that things are and aren't disabilities?
in the face of the law, in the face of medical definitions?
you just make crap up and somehow think it's true?
please.
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)Specifically, I was thinking about the rather horrific treatment of HIV infected people early on. Quite rapidly the scientists figured out that it wasn't a threat. But it took an awful lot of education and laws to get those people treated anything close to fairly.
I'm sorry that you perceived it that way - but a human being does have the right to say that something unjust should not happen.
I feel strongly that those kids should have been allowed to eat at that restaurant or any other, and that they shouldn't have been excluded from the buffet either. I also KNOW that most such skin conditions would be an indication of a contagious condition and would warrant different treatment.
liberalhistorian
(20,818 posts)who are disabled in any way just keep themselves locked up at home and not expose themselves to "regular" folks who don't want to be reminded that not everyone is one hundred percent physically and mentally perfect. Maybe parents of children with disabilities should just keep them locked up at home and never venture out so that "regular" folks don't have to be exposed to and deal with them. And, on the rare occasions when they are allowed out, maybe the police should be available just to check and make sure their papers are all in order and they're legit.
Maybe when I was raising my now-grown aspie son, I should have just kept him inside, away from "normal" folk. He would never have learned social interaction skills, but then again, if you're going to be housebound for the benefit of "normal" people, what difference would that make?
Sweet and good gravy, I do NOT believe the bigoted, authoritarian bullshit I'm reading on this thread. That it's on a supposedly "progressive" site such as this is all the more sickening.
Javaman
(62,531 posts)Is Epidermolysis Bullosa Contagious?
No. EB is an inherited genetic disease, not a contagious one. Children are born with EB because of a mistake in one of the genes that make skin protein. EB cannot be transmitted/developed due to exposure.
The information on inheritance is too complex to explain in this format and is covered extensively elsewhere.
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)It's just that it APPEARS like other conditions that are. Also restaurant staff are trained on these types of issues, because of food regulations.
I'm not saying that I think they should have been excluded. My opinion is the opposite. I'm saying that the initial concern that they MIGHT be contagious would not be unreasonable, because it can look like something it is not.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)This child's disease isn't, but you can't tell by looking.
Javaman
(62,531 posts)if anything the child is probably susceptible to infection.
Here:
http://www.debra.org/faq
Is Epidermolysis Bullosa Contagious?
No. EB is an inherited genetic disease, not a contagious one. Children are born with EB because of a mistake in one of the genes that make skin protein. EB cannot be transmitted/developed due to exposure.
The information on inheritance is too complex to explain in this format and is covered extensively elsewhere.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)just the subject line.
I didn't say that the genetic disease is contagious. I said that you can't tell, just by looking at that child's blistering lesions, what that child has or whether it's contagious.
And, as you point out, s/he could also have a secondary infection which could be contagious.
In any case, very few restaurant customers, seeing the rashes on three children, are going to approach the mother to ask if the children are contagious. If they're concerned, they're much more likely just to leave.
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)That's probably what he thought it was, and it is acutely contagious:
http://kidshealth.org/parent/infections/bacterial_viral/impetigo.html
That's one of the things that will get your child pitched from school immediately, because of the acute risk of spreading. It does spread from kid to kid in families.
If it were impetigo, the servers and other diners could have picked it up from almost anything the kids touched. No restaurant owner wants to be shut down by the health department because they have been traced as the source of an epidemic.
I don't know what the solution is. The woman has the perfect right to take her kids out, but I don't feel the restaurant manager was wrong for asking her about it.
oldhippie
(3,249 posts).... no fun at all. Out of school for 2 weeks.
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)They saw it at school and he was whisked away as if he had Ebola. My mother came and took him to the doctor, who gave her ointment and careful instructions, and said my brother could return to school the next day.
He was bounced again. They would not let him back in until the lesion had healed. It was tiny - really just a red spot. It's impossible for a layman to tell the difference between these kids' condition and impetigo.
Just a couple of years ago one of my friends had a child who probably had a small lesion. Same thing happened. The reason they do this is that it spreads through schools like wildfire, so they follow a very strict policy. It is acutely contagious, especially with kids.
I can't blame the restaurant staff for this one, although it might be a good idea to give the woman a doctor's letter explaining the situation so that such things don't keep happening.
I have to admit that if I walked into a buffet-style restaurant and saw these kids near the food, I'd walk back out. I would think it was impetigo, and I wouldn't want to run the risk. If I didn't know about impetigo, I wouldn't worry. But I do, and my guess is that experienced restaurant personnel also do.
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)"but I'd be inclined to listen to the business owner about this one..."
I'd be much more inclined to listen to a doctor about a disorder that looks like a contagious disease. However, I realize many people would also be inclined to listen to a doctor talk about food preparation and patron seating-charts.
Canuckistanian
(42,290 posts)You should not be able to discriminate against anyone solely because of your own ignorance of a situation.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)Restaurant managers have a responsibility to protect their customers from illness. The default setting shouldn't be "Typhoid outbreak? I didn't know for sure".
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)involves restaurant EMPLOYEES having typhoid fever, which management knew about, as well as numerous health code violations leading to possible transmission of the disease (by water or food contaminated with blood or feces, among other things). It's also an old case, and I'd be curious to know how it was resolved.
In any event, I highly doubt restaurant owners are under any legal obligation to diagnose their customers' potential illnesses, or assess their possible degree of contagiousness. It seems to me such an "obligation" would be well nigh impossible to enforce. As long as the food is healthy and the facilities pass health inspection, they're probably covered against any such liability.
On the other hand, under the ADA restaurant owners are prohibited from discriminating against people with disabilities, children included, even if the owner is ignorant of the condition and refuses to be educated. The DoJ is notoriously slow to take on ADA cases (they're usually brought by private plaintiffs) so this says to me the plaintiffs here have a pretty strong case.
Time, and testimony, will tell.
CreekDog
(46,192 posts)why would he know that stuff?
kestrel91316
(51,666 posts)I have a BS in microbiology and a DVM, so I'll be paying very close attention to what you say.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)But I can diagnose that, even over great distances.
When you see a child with lesions, it is generally sensible to suspect chickenpox or impetigo, both of which are contagious.
Epidermolysis bullosa doesn't spring to mind immediately.
kestrel91316
(51,666 posts)If you are REALLY worried, you ask the parents discreetly if chicken pox has been ruled out, and then you take their word for it. And then you either sit down and mind your own business, or you leave of your own free will (but don't expect to get off without paying for your meal).
For all you know the kid's got effin' ACNE or caught ringworm from their kitten. But it's nothing you need to worry about.
Javaman
(62,531 posts)Scruffy Rumbler
(961 posts)pleasant to look at, but it is even harder to live with. After asking what was wrong and learning it was not contagious, the owner at the least should have shut the fuck up. And the most, he should have comped this family's meals.
If this families experience with this disease is anything like my sister's and her daughter's, it was probably a very rare treat to feel able to go out and enjoy a meal. For people with EB, just wearing cloths can be extremely painful. I cannot imagine this mother's life trying to deal with the wounds these three children will have everyday of their lives.
southern_belle
(1,647 posts)there life has been a living hell. This just makes me cry. They are NOT contagious...they are human beings...with real emotions and feelings....people are so cruel!
Scruffy Rumbler
(961 posts)I hear you. My sister (in her 50s) was kind of lucky. Our mother was a nurse and taught my sister how to treat her blisters and dress her wounds from a very young age. Her specialist has told her she is lucky to be her age and still have all her fingers and toes. Her level of the disease consists of external and internal blistering. She is a great singer but after too much singing or talking, her vocal cords blister. She has had them in her lungs in the past.
Her daughter has a slightly less severe level. She blisters externally with no sign as of yet for internal.
It was a long struggle for my sister to get disability. It was not recognized as such until a few years ago. It is impossible to work full time when everyday tasks cause blistering. When just the act of wearing cloths causes enough friction to produce blisters. I remember as children her ordeal with just going to school. Wearing shoes would blister her feet. She would switch to slippers until they were too much. She would then use crutches until her hands and armpits would blister and then she would have to stay home. Our father was rather a stern man and refused to make any considerations for her and this disease.
As a child, she was not treated for the constant pain she was in. And that has had an effect on her.
This is a disease that leads to much isolation for several reasons, the pain, the visual disfiguring from the blisters, the inability to wear shoes...
The best to your cousin and the children.
southern_belle
(1,647 posts)The best to your sister and her daughter
CreekDog
(46,192 posts)Title IIIPublic accommodations (and commercial facilities)
See 42 U.S.C. §§ 1218112189.
Under Title III, no individual may be discriminated against on the basis of disability with regards to the full and equal enjoyment of the goods, services, facilities, or accommodations of any place of public accommodation by any person who owns, leases (or leases to), or operates a place of public accommodation. "Public accommodations" include most places of lodging (such as inns and hotels), recreation, transportation, education, and dining, along with stores, care providers, and places of public displays, among other things.
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why are you so consistently uninformed and against civil rights?
CreekDog
(46,192 posts)you don't even know the law?
yikes.
and given a moment to even advocate for the kid with the disability --nah.
whatever.
Warpy
(111,282 posts)it was wrong of them to ask the family to leave. The bullous (blistering) skin diseases are pretty frightening to look at, even if you know what the cause is, but if the kids were dressed, the effect would have been reduced enough to tolerate.
Skin diseases like that are the worst for trying to function in public. Most are not contagious but they are disfiguring.
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)Would the manager be legally and morally blameless, because "The mother told me it was genetic and not contagious."?
This is a hard one- I can see both sides.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)He's not a doctor. If the mother lied, then the mother is the one responsible for any other infections.
customerserviceguy
(25,183 posts)The mother or the restaurant owner?
Sometimes life hands people a really shitty set of circumstances, where they cannot do things that other people can do, or they have to be prepared to do some serious educating, including bringing letters from doctors. Disabled people with metal in them get screwed over by the TSA all the time, they bring documentation about replacement body parts with them.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)If they decide to go to court, I can't see how they could possibly be found the responsible party - no one on the restaurant should be expected to have any medical training, and thus have no reason to doubt the lying mother.
That being said, it's likely the restaurant would settle for some relatively trivial amount, since that would be cheaper than mounting a defense and winning. Especially since it is unlikely they would be able to collect in their counter-suit.
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)If you think otherwise, I have a bridge I'd love to sell you.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)Claiming that a restaurant should have trained medical staff?
Personal injury attorneys still have to base their claims on something in the law. There's no basis for the manager to doubt the mother.
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)Because a reasonable person doesn't have the ability to distinguish between a genetic disorder and an infectious disease, a reasonable person might believe the children were contagious. In such a case, the manager's letting the children use the self-serve area would be the proximate cause of the other patrons' infection.
Consider a situation that's already been litigated. A bartender cuts off a patron who, to a reasonable person, would appear to be intoxicated. Turns out that the person had a motor dysfunction disease, which was aggravated by their consumption of alcohol. The patron filed a civil claim under the state ADA analog and lost.
If I recall, this was in Washington state, but let me see if I can get the cite.
You're naive if you think that the mother's explanation has any bearing on the liability of the business to the other patrons.
eta: From the federal ADA-
Sec 12182(3),
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)"where such individual poses a direct threat..." Not "is perceived to pose" or "is believed to pose" or "is suspected to pose..." Nor does it say anything about "a reasonable person" determining the threat to exist. The threat has to be based in medical FACT, not the fears-prejudices-ignorance of the person providing the public service.
That language was very carefully drafted. Remember, the ADA was written during the height of the hysteria around AIDS. The authors of the act, some of whom were AIDS activists, wanted the law to protect people who didn't pose an ACTUAL threat, but were instead victims of prejudice, ignorance, and superstition. People used to think cerebral palsy was contagious, spread by drool. Some probably still do. It isn't a question as to whether or not the person holding such a belief is "reasonable"--it's whether the threat exists in actual FACT.
Also from the ADA: "The term 'direct threat' means a significant risk to the health or safety of others that cannot be eliminated by reasonable accommodation."
These children did NOT pose such a threat. Therefore, the manager could not discriminate against them under the provisions of the ADA.
In terms of employment discrimination, for instance, Title I mandates that the Secretary of Health and Human Services publish, each year, a list of infectious or communicable diseases, the risk of which "cannot be eliminated by reasonable accommodation" in which case "a covered entity may refuse to assign or continue to assign such an individual to a job involving food handling." The list is updated annually, and restaurant management is supposed to be cognizant of the list. These children do NOT have a condition listed by HHS. This language is in Title I, remember, the Employment section, the application of which by the courts has tended to be LESS rigorous than Title III, "Public Accommodations and Services Operated by Private Entities." So I'm really not sure where in the law this manager is going to be able to hang his case.
Now, whether or not he'll be able to get a judge to rule that, basically, "Yeah, well, the law is the law, but hey, how was he to know?" will be interesting to see. But I think it will be a serious blow to the disability community if the courts were to rule that, essentially, you can discriminate against someone with a disability as long as you BELIEVE them to be dangerous, as opposed to posing an actual danger based in fact.
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)"Failing to exercise reasonable care" would be the language in the liability suit.
Had the children's disease been contagious and other patrons were made ill, and a suit brought against the restaurant, then those infected would claim that a reasonable person would have denied service. In not doing so, the manager assumed liability for those infected.
The WA case (still looking for the cite, it might be CA under Unruh) demonstrates that a reasonable interpretation of threat to the public (absent compelling evidence that it wasn't in good faith) are acceptable.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)It wasn't, and the manager was provided no reason that it could be. The only information the manager has is what the mother told him. With no medical training, how is the manager supposed to have any reason to doubt her.
Under your interpretation, the manager needs to throw out any patron with a runny nose or a mild cough. You said you were just choking? Well, we can't take that risk. Get out.
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)Absent medical training, how is the manager to know? Who does he trust, the mother or his eyes?
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)It would seem to me that a very good defense in any such case as this would be: the ADA says I can't discriminate against a person with a disability unless there is a definite threat to health and safety, as defined by the law and by the regulations promulgated by the Dept. of Justice and, in this particular instance, the federal Dept. of Health and Human Services. I obeyed the law. That's my defense.
Can a court actually find you liable for damages that might arise in the course of obeying a federal law?
Is the Washington case an ADA related case? I'd be very interested to see the cite.
Just to emphasize, for 23 years now HHS has been publishing a list of communicable diseases, the people who have such conditions restaurateurs are allowed under the ADA to exclude from food preparation and handling (and I think a buffet style restaurant would qualify as "handling" . The list is updated annually. Managers are supposed to be cognizant of this. Most franchises like this also have an ADA compliance person on staff, if they know their business, to deal with just such situations. Not in each location, but certainly at the head office.
It just amazes me that after almost a quarter of a century people who are supposed to know are so oblivious to this act, and disability rights law in general. A few years back I ran into a situation on a college campus where the administration honestly didn't know (or said they didn't know) they were covered under Section 504 of the Rehab. Act. which was passed in 1973! It's been the law for almost forty years! It's like not knowing your local fire code, or, if you manage a restaurant, being oblivious to having to pass a health inspection.
It's particularly weird for me because I remember all the intense lobbying the various restaurant associations did around ADA. THEY were the ones for whom this part of the law was written. You'd think, as a part of being a savvy business person, these folks would get some education.
Anyway, it'll be interesting to see how this case pans out. The DoJ has been notorious among disability rights advocates for its lax enforcement of the ADA, so the fact that they're taking the case on at all would seem to indicate there's something there. But maybe not.
It's late, and my mind is mush.
Best wishes.
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)I don't doubt that a competent PI Attorney could convince a jury that a reasonable person can't tell the difference between impetigo and this genetic disorder.
Heck, get an expert witness, say a doctor who deals with infectious disease, and present him or her with photographs of various diseases and slip in a photo of a person with this disorder, and ask him to pick out which one is the genetic disorder and is therefore not contagious..
After the doctor struggles with it, ask him what are the characteristics visible to casual observation used to differentiate between the two. In closing arguments, make a statement such as, "Would *you*, reasonable folks on the jury, before hearing the doctor's explanation, have the knowledge to tell this difference? "
No, this is a hard case of duty v duty. Duty to protect the public versus duty under the ADA.
I can't find that WA case, but I believe it was the state ADA. If I recall, the person had parkinson's or bell's palsy- something whose effects are aggravated with alcohol consumption. I'll ask a buddy of mine if he can remember the case.
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)would block a case like that from even being argued.
Federal civil rights law trumps local laws, codes, ordinances.
And the federal ADA trumps state disability rights law, unless the state law is more inclusive-has more teeth--than the federal law.
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)I could make a case either way on the motion to dismiss.
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)very hypothetical. As always, the details will matter.
We'll just have to wait and see how this case unfolds. ADA cases, when fully argued, typically take years, especially if there are appeals. So we might be in for a fairly long wait.
In the meantime, best wishes.
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)Best wishes to you as well.
kudzu22
(1,273 posts)If the person was an actual threat and contagious, would the ADA be a defense? The ADA only applies to people who are not a threat, but if everyone got sick then they were an actual threat, and hence the restaurant becomes liable.
It's a no-win situation for the restaurant. You get A) a Federal ADA lawsuit, B) a lawsuit from all the people who got sick, or C) a big loss of business because your customers think you let contagious people eat at the buffet.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)That would be for the reason to ask.
And when the answer was "it's not contagious", under what basis would he call her a liar? In the cite you provide, a reasonable person would know intoxicated people lie. How often do mothers lie about rare genetic diseases in restaurants?
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)and proceed to shoot someone with it, you're saying you would have no liability??
No, you would be liable, regardless of what I did or didn't tell you. You would have failed to exercise reasonable care.
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)which I'm not, your analogy as is doesn't hold in this context.
The law in various states allows people to carry weapons into a restaurant. Some have open carry laws, others have concealed carry. If someone goes into a restaurant with a weapon, and that weapon goes off and injures another patron, you're saying the restaurant can be sued? That the management of a facility open to the public is financially liable to any harm caused by anyone wth a weapon who enters the premises?
Run that by the gungeon and see what kind of response you get.
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)We were discussing whether the mother's statement that the children weren't contagious would be a defense against liability for the manager's actions.
My statement that a gun isn't loaded as I hand it to you does not absolve you of liability if you point it at someone and shoot them.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)It is not reasonable to ask me to get a medical degree in order to diagnose the kids myself to prove or disprove the mother's story.
X_Digger
(18,585 posts).. of whether you think it is loaded, or what I told you.
My telling you that it is not loaded does not absolve you of liability- just as the mother's statement would not absolve the manager, should she lie.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)I'm really not sure how this isn't getting through to you.
The manager has no qualifications to doubt the mother's story. No untrained person does. Thus it is not reasonable to require him to diagnose a medical condition.
For that matter, what contagious disease was it supposed to be? The manager would have to actually know a contagious disease that the kids symptoms resembled. "Something icky" doesn't cut it when you're insisting the manager must overrule the mom.
Finally, do you think the DoJ might have some inkling about what's reasonable and not reasonable in regards to the law? They might have some sort of idea.
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)As such, he has no obligation to just take her word for it. That does not absolve him of liability, should she be lying.
What, you think that liability can magically be waved away by saying, "But so-and-so told me..."??
Exactly. He's not in a position to confirm or deny the mother's statement.
Chicken pox, measles, and impetigo are the ones that immediately come to mind, looking at the picture- both terribly contagious (assuming the sores were still weeping).
Ahh, and finally an appeal to authority. Well if the DoJ thinks so, they must be right, eh?
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)That's my opinion, but also the DOJ's, which is more authoritative.
However I don't think asking constitutes discrimination, and although the article may be misrepresenting the facts, it seems to imply that the DOJ is alleging that asking was improper. But probably not. Probably if we read the complaint the question would be included to establish that ejection from the restaurant was done because of the skin condition.
You can't bar persons with a skin condition from a restaurant just because it makes other diners uneasy. You can ask someone who is ill and may not know that they could spread it to leave. I think the manager was legally okay for asking, but not for asking them to leave.
CreekDog
(46,192 posts)how about reading it before lecturing us based on ignorance of it.
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)Journeyman
(15,036 posts)I can certainly see where his concern came from. True, it was based in ignorance of the condition, but so was his concern for the safety of his customers. I just don't know what to make of a case such as this. Given what's addressed in this news article, if I were on a jury I'd be hard pressed to find the manager at fault for his ill-considered but well-intentioned act. And even when the mother assured him her children were non-contagious, what basis would he have for accepting her opinion over his fear?
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)marybourg
(12,633 posts)and seeing the disease she told him her kids have looks just like they look.
Journeyman
(15,036 posts)you'd have to be a fool to use the internet for medical advice.
For starters, how would you know that what you were told by someone and what you were looking at on the internet were, in fact, the same things. Google this disease, then Google impetigo and tell me the average restaurant manager could tell the difference.
I think I'll stick to my original assertion and repeat that the manager acted according to the dictates of his best judgment. We weren't there and any contrary opinion will need to be decided by people with far more knowledge than we have at present.
Union Scribe
(7,099 posts)His concern over their safety my ass. Does he kick coughing people out of the place? Hell no, they're probably working in his kitchen as he's ejecting this family.
Javaman
(62,531 posts)skin disorder.
the ass of a manager should have quietly spoken to the parents first and found out what was happening with their child. Anyone with a little compassion would have done that.
I really despise people who make blanket statements out of pure ignorance rather than having a little common sense.
SouthernDonkey
(256 posts)in the world for the family. And while the condition itself may be a "disabillity" and in and of itself may not be "contagious", but scabs and open soars are still a source of bacteria and infection and shouldn't be allowed in a restaurant that serves food from steam tables and self service salad bars. Google image the condition. I wouldn't want to eat in an establishment who allowed people with this condition to handle implements at the steam table. I think their being in the restaurant was a health risk to the general public.
kestrel91316
(51,666 posts)restaurant, there would be regulations in place prohibiting people suspected of having impetigo from patronizing them, or at least letting restaurant management make the call.
There isn't, so there aren't.
And now you'r wanting to ban anyone with scabs or sores?? SERIOUSLY????? Now people with acne can't go to restaurants in your ignorant little world???
Give me an effing break. It's not the patrons who spread diseases in restaurants, it's THE STAFF.
Union Scribe
(7,099 posts)They're out too. Can't have the unclean mixing with all these liberal-hearted DUers!
laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)Javaman
(62,531 posts)cheers!
obamanut2012
(26,082 posts)Flaking, peeling skin.
SouthernDonkey
(256 posts)Stop acting like you'd go in and want to eat out of bowl or plate that someone with open scabs and sores had been rubbing there infectous hands around in. Learn a little something about bacteria and germs before you brand someone as ignorant, idiot! Go back and re read my post. When some ones infected child sneezes, snots, coughs, spits or generally plays in the salad bar they are spreading infections.
MineralMan
(146,317 posts)It's a difficult call for the restaurant manager, too. He/she has to balance the rights of some patrons against the sensibilities of his other patrons. Such situations occur more often than many of us realize.
Unfortunately, victims of the disorder often develop infections at the sites of the blistering. That complicates the situation. As one site on the condition says, with regard to treatment:
And there is the source of a real dilemma for the restaurant manager in a buffet-style restaurant. He/she has no way of knowing whether the children had developed bacterial infections due to the children's genetic illness. So, the manager made a call. Was it the wrong call? I don't know. It certainly discriminated against someone with a genetic condition. However, if the children had bacterial infections, as are common with this condition, there is a safety issue, especially in a buffet restaurant.
A bad situation all around.
SoCalDem
(103,856 posts)beforehand, and scoping it out. It's unfortunate, but for people who are just other diners, it's not possible for them to NOT be alarmed.
It sucks to have a child with such a disability, but sometimes hard decisions have to be made and one decision might be to get a sitter for the children..Mom & Dad eat out and stop for a favorite take out meal to bring home to the kids. Young kids probably would not mind that at all..and after having met with the manager, perhaps a "take out" meal from the buffet could have been arranged to keep everyone accommodated in this one specific case.
This type of disability is different from someone in a wheelchair, or other obvious disabilities. You cannot expect strangers to understand, and probably do not want to make a speech everywhere you go, to get an accommodation.
Most restaurants also display a sign that says "We reserve the right to refuse service to anyone"..at least around here they do.
If a food server had this condition, wouldn't the situation be similar? Food servers with oozing scabs would not be allowed to work...and most patrons would not want them anywhere near their food..
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)The manager's other option was to risk a lawsuit on a verbal representation of an interested party.
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)Since when are restaurant owners responsible for diagnosing the medical condition of their customers?
Let's assume the worst. Let's assume the child was indeed contagious, and the mother lied, and someone in the restaurant somehow came down with the same disease. The MOTHER would be liable, not the eatery. And even then, I bet it would be a very difficult case to pursue.
People with AIDS used to be denied public services, people with cerebal palsy who drooled because "who knows if the drool has something contagious in it?" The ADA was expressly written to prevent this sort of ostracizing on the basis of fear and ignorance.
I'll be curious to see how the court case unfolds.
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)Lawsuits can have lots of defendants.
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)the clearer it seems to me that the manager violated the ADA.
The ADA says you can't discriminate against someone based on their disability, and deny them services, unless they pose "a direct threat to the health and safety of others" that "cannot be eliminated through reasonable accommodation." It doesn't say "a perceived threat" or "somebody is worried about a threat" or "maybe there's a threat" or "you think there's a threat"--it has to be an actual, real threat, which in this case it wasn't, because the condition is genetic, not contagious. It doesn't matter what the manager thinks or thought or thinks he thought. That's the law.
You can't successfully sue somebody because they were obeying the law. To give you an obvious example, suppose I ask you to murder someone. You say no, and three days later the guy I wanted you to kill shoots and injures me. I can't go to the court and say, "Your honor, this never would have happened if he'd just murdered the guy like I asked." For someone to prevail, even in my first hypothetical, you'd have to go to a court and say, "Your honor, I'm suing the defendant because he refused to violate federal civil rights law." I don't think there's a court in the land would rule on something like that.
We'll have to see how this case unwinds, but I think the Justice Dept. and this family, from what I've heard, are on pretty solid ground here. We shall see.
CreekDog
(46,192 posts)or maybe you aren't familiar with that law.
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)Yah, right, I guess I missed that in the course of raising a child with a disability.
In order to violate it, you have to know the person is disabled.
CreekDog
(46,192 posts)but you take the side of discrimination.
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)It's going to settle. Practically nothing goes to trial. Whatever the restaurant's insurer decides is going to determine that.
obamanut2012
(26,082 posts)Who else would freak out ignorant people?
Should gay people? I mean, we do freak out some bigots.
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)Believe it or not, having encyclopedic knowledge of every known medical condition is probably not a required qualification to be the owner of a chain restaurant.
People who are not blind, but who have assistance animals, for example, will often have something objective to demonstrate their need for the dog in places where dogs are otherwise not allowed.
It is frequently helpful for deaf people to have something written down which says "I'm deaf" so that people will stop shouting at them.
Occulus
(20,599 posts)Gormy Cuss
(30,884 posts)on any basis covered by law.
obamanut2012
(26,082 posts)CreekDog
(46,192 posts)than to simply cite the law that you obviously haven't heard of.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)I very much doubt so. And despite the presence of a "sneeze guard" on the buffet, you can be fairly sure that the sneezing person touched their face recently.
There's a far greater danger of infection from rhinovirus than a bacterial skin infection. The latter requires the 'victim' of the infection to have an open sore themselves. The former requires the 'victim' to breathe.
MineralMan
(146,317 posts)As I said, it's an unfortunate incident. As for your question, that is one reason I do not eat in buffet restaurants unless I have no choice. I also don't visit salad bars in restaurants. It's my choice to avoid exposure to common viral respiratory illnesses.
I made that choice after watching an eight year old kid put his fingers in a salad dressing container, lick them, then put them in again. That was the end of my visits to salad bars and steam table buffets. It's risky enough eating in restaurants. I don't expose myself to buffets.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)First, they'd have to actually have a skin infection at the time.
Second, they'd have to touch the food or utensils with the infection.
Third, a victim would have to come by with their own open sores - who also wasn't tossed out by management due to his danger of infecting others.
Vs. someone with a cold who will be spraying virus everywhere, even if they cover their mouth and nose when they sneeze.
The "what about getting people sick?" excuse just doesn't fly.
MineralMan
(146,317 posts)I said it was unfortunate, and that the manager of that restaurant had a decision to make that was a lose-lose decision.
I am not in his or her position, and will never be. I did not say it was OK. I said it was a difficult decision that someone was forced to make. I then added some factual information about the condition.
You are reading into my post something that is not there, I'm afraid.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)If it's not ok, how would you not know if it's the wrong call?
ETA: I'm saying the manager was right to ask about it. The manager was wrong to throw them out.
cthulu2016
(10,960 posts)The condition mimics any number of extraordinarily contagious and even potentially deadly diseases.
Someone who appears to be, for instance, suffering the worst cast of chicken pox one has ever seen is not in the same category as a person sneezing.
This condition makes people look like they have an incredibly bad and incredibly infectious disease.
Most conditions that lead to children being covered with pox, blisters, open sores and scabs are serious infectious diseases.
It is indeed unfortunate that a genetic condition mimics such symptoms.
But a restaurant manager does have an obligation to the health of all the patrons that is not easily dismissed. Based on the information in the OP, there is not much about this case, ethically, that is *obvious*
If this case is so easy, would they or should they have been allowed into a public swimming pool, and why?
jeff47
(26,549 posts)And the manager did, which was good.
It was explained to him as a rare genetic disease, and not infectious.
At that point, he should have backed down - there wasn't any risk to the other customers.
He didn't. He threw them out.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)than some forms of blistering rashes.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)So....he's supposed to know that no one in his restaurant is immunocompromised in any way, or suffering from any other condition where a "cold" could turn into a life-threatening infection, thus making it safe for the 'sneezer' to stay
But he's not supposed to know about this genetic condition, even after it was explained to him to be a genetic, and not contagious condition?
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)It often comes as a complete surprise to the sneezer, and it's usually caused by either a cold or something even less serious.
This is a poor example to use as a comparison.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)which was the example I'm talking about.
Only because your justification really doesn't make much sense.
Someone with a runny nose who's sneezing repeatedly is just fine to seat. Potential health risks to other customers be damned.
Someone with a genetic condition must be thrown out due to the potential health risks to other customers, even after it's explained to be a genetic condition.
You're trying to justify the situation using logic that refutes itself.
Union Scribe
(7,099 posts)let their hair be unkempt, cover the lower part of their face and cry out, Unclean! Unclean! As long as they have the disease they remain unclean. They must live alone; they must live outside the camp."
Who knew DUers were so into Old Testament law?
(Sorry, this was actually supposed to go at the bottom of the thread!)
Union Scribe
(7,099 posts)Is it a smoker's hack or the flu, better throw 'em out right? Or is it just the ones that offend your eyes?
uppityperson
(115,677 posts)pneumonia causing in loss of time at work and school (best case) while home sick or die from influenza or influenza aftermath respiratory issues.
kudzu22
(1,273 posts)In retrospect, the correct action would be to seat them in a private room or out of the view of other diners, and appoint someone to wait on them, even though it's a buffet. That in my opinion would be a reasonable accommodation of the disability and the concern of other patrons.
However, you can hardly expect a buffet manager to be able to make that decision on the spot.
cthulu2016
(10,960 posts)If it is a buffet I would have let an unaffected parent fill plates for the kids, but not allow them contact with the buffet.
Vinnie From Indy
(10,820 posts)Cheers!
obamanut2012
(26,082 posts)It would be no different than barring someone who has AIDS from using the buffet.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)I can see the reason for the parents' outrage, but at the same time is the restaurant manager supposed to just accept the parent's word for it when it comes to public health issues?
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)cthulu2016
(10,960 posts)Is a restaurant manager also required to accept a cook's representation of his condition?
If not, why not?
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)would be employed by the restaurant and would indeed have to follow whatever rules/regs, including OSHA would have to say. Much the same way that many employers ask sick employees for medical releases to return to work. Not so with customers. And is he going to ask everyone if they have a contagious disease, or just some?
obamanut2012
(26,082 posts)And, an employee is an EMPLOYEE, and is governed but certain public safety laws hat a patron is not.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)Sarcasm intended.
So, how often do you think the staff at restaurants wash their hands after toileting? Trust me---not many. Have you seen a kitchen in a restaurant-- not many are very clean.
There are many contagious disorders/infections that are "invisible"-- remember Typhoid Mary?
This owner was concerned over how the children looked. That is discrimination. Any other patrons upset, they can leave the restaurant.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)So what if some other restaurants are more lax in their hygiene than they should be?
And, yes, other patrons might very well leave because they won't know if the blistering lesions are contagious. (The manager can't announce that the lesions are genetic to every customer who walks in the place.) You don't think that's a concern of the restaurant?
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)because the mom had already told him that it was not genetic.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)If the manager believes the woman, that doesn't mean he won't be losing other customers.
It's a sad and difficult situation.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)what the other customers believed? Were there even any complaints about this child? If you have a disability, you can't go through your life worrying about what others think. And parents of children with disabilities know this all too well. It is a lesson they teach their children early on. The lesson- you are an individual. You are unique. You have rights just like everyone else. You get to experience the world.
Maybe someday our world will be better at this. That day is not here yet.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)obamanut2012
(26,082 posts)obamanut2012
(26,082 posts)Someone;s ignorance and bigotry does NOT trump the law.
Scruffy Rumbler
(961 posts)It is genetic, not contagious. Just wanted to point that out.
liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)People use to fear black people. People use to fear people who have AIDS. People use to fear all kinds of things. Have you ever seen someone with a mask over their face out in public? I know I have. I don't know what they have. Maybe they have the cold or flu. Maybe they have pneumonia or emphysema. Maybe they have tuberculosis or bird flu. Whatever the case, I don't run from building screaming in fear or insist they leave. I just go about my business and leave them be.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)when you see someone with a mask, it is to protect them from our germs. Usually worn by immunosuppressed individuals.
liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)The majority of them are probably just trying to protect their immune system and avoid our germs.
liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)Union Scribe
(7,099 posts)for having psoriasis on my hand. Goes to show that it's easy to call oneself a liberal, and maybe believe it, but when push comes to shove...
obamanut2012
(26,082 posts)Some people have that those really badly on their face, neck, and hands.
liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)jberryhill
(62,444 posts)It sounds like a lot of DUers are simply looking to condemn anyone over what may be a sincere misunderstanding.
ElboRuum
(4,717 posts)Everyone is either a paragon of virtue or an evil monster. No one ever fucks up or has an accident, there isn't a person alive doesn't know everything there is to know about everything, ergo everything unfortunate that happens as a result must be malicious, callous, or grotesquely negligent.
because you know someone reading this is going to need it.
sadbear
(4,340 posts)how would the manager ever know? This is hardly a situation on which to take a chance.
I think after having it cleared by a medical professional, the family ought be welcomed back, but for the first time, I definitely agree that caution (even extreme caution) was warranted.
obamanut2012
(26,082 posts)sadbear
(4,340 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)Just seems so unlikely. As if the mother would say "I want to take my infected child to a buffet restaurant, where I'm likely to be questioned about it. If I am, I'll just lie and say it is genetic." There are some crazy people out there, but that kind of crazy does not seem likely. If the kid had an infectious disease, most mothers would be at home worrying about the kid and taking care of the kid. Taking the kids to the doctor. Someone coming to the restaurant with a gun and shooting people seems more likely in the comparison of rare events.
OceanEcosystem
(275 posts)I can see any restaurant manager being very worried about the possibility of some contagion outbreak that could carry much greater consequences (think several or more, other customers being infected by some condition and perhaps even more lawsuits from them.)
Plus, as others have mentioned, how could the manager have known that the parents were really telling the truth when they said that the condition was not contagious? It wouldn't have been very practical to call in a doctor from a nearby hospital to verify it.
The restaurant was really stuck in a very difficult dilemma.
Ian David
(69,059 posts)pnwmom
(108,980 posts)safe side -- would it help the manager that he had already checked out the name of the disease on his cell phone?
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)to justify "whites only" signs in southern restaurants during Jim Crow. "I'm not a racist, but I'll lose customers if you force me to serve THEM!"
It used to be routine for people in wheelchairs to be denied entrance into restaurants. Ditto people with AIDS, people who drooled, people who were Deaf or blind, people who had speech disabilities. That's precisely why the ADA was passed in the first place.
We'll see how this case unfolds, but it's important that people understand that prejudice and ignorance, either of the public or of those providing public accommodations, should never be used as a justification for discrimination.
obamanut2012
(26,082 posts)jberryhill
(62,444 posts)sadbear
(4,340 posts)Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)To be honest, a school would not allow those children to attend without a doctor's clearance. Why should a restaurant?
It's not right to discriminate against kids who are not infectious, but it's also not right to run risks with public health (and the health of the staff).
Since the mother has already had her children diagnosed, why did no doctor think of this? It was doomed to happen, surely?
jeff47
(26,549 posts)In what universe would a parent manage to come up with a rare genetic disease to explain away a highly contagious disease so that they can eat at a very crappy buffet restaurant?
sadbear
(4,340 posts)thucythucy
(8,074 posts)"In what universe would a parent manage to come up with a rare genetic disease to explain away a highly contagious disease so that they can eat at a very crappy buffet restaurant?"
Nicely put!
Butterbean
(1,014 posts)The mom and the daughter both have it, they're in our special needs playgroup and mother's group. Yes, the daughter has scabs (the mother may as well, but she might just be better at covering them up), but geez...she doesn't look like she's diseased or infected, at least not to me.
Maybe it's because I'm a special needs mom myself. Maybe it's because I know this family personally and so it affects how I see them. Maybe it's because I'm a nurse. I don't know. Whatever the reason, I really really really find this quite shocking, and would honest to God be shocked if this ever happened to my friend and her child in a public place. I know good and well that she takes her family, including her daughter with all her scabs, out to eat in public places. I never once thought "oh my gosh how disgusting, what a public health risk."
I guess that's just because my reality is different. I'm used to seeing kids with feeding tubes and wheelchairs and other "obvious" differences, and to see them participating in normal, everyday things is sort of an expected thing for me, not an exception to the rule.
I can't judge the situation, I wasn't there, and I didn't see this particular child's skin condition or what it looked like. I don't have any idea how it should have been handled best.
liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)discrimination. It's usually only when we do know someone personally that we can overcome those prejudices.
Pisces
(5,599 posts)restaurant could lose diners who had a loss of appetite. Should the manager get on the loud speaker and make a general
announcement that these people are not contagious?
This is a lose/lose situation for everyone involved.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)because the restaurant owner apparently violated the ADA. The mom educated the manager on the disorder. He still didn't get it. We have a long way to go in this world on how we treat people with disabilities.
Pisces
(5,599 posts)with some people that look like they have chickenpox at best ebola at worst. The other diners must be taken into consideration.
This manager was in a tough spot. Maybe a private room would have sufficed if this was a restaurant that had one.
I am simply stating that regardless of what the ADA manual says, there are still no winners in this situation. The world has
always treated people with disabilities terribly. In days gone past these children would have been left on the hillside for wolves
if they were born with a deformity. I think people go out of their way to treat the disabled as best they can. This situation
is unfortunate and I feel for both parties.
obamanut2012
(26,082 posts)thucythucy
(8,074 posts)about other customers getting worried, offended, disgusted, and walking out, as a reason for denying this family service.
Prejudice, squeamishness, and ignorance are no excuse or justification for discrimination.
The same sort of reasoning ("I might lose customers" was used to justify Jim Crow, and was used historically to deny people with all manner of disability access to public accommodations, including restaurants, public pools, motels and hotels, etc. In fact, there used to be laws in some cities (Chicago, for instance) denying people with particular disabilities the right to be out in public at all. And it wasn't all that long ago that the general public was freaked out just at the sight of someone in a power wheelchair, or someone with a guide cane, or someone using American Sign Language. People who drooled, people who were missing limbs, people with speech disorders were routinely denied service because "you're disgusting to look at and you'll drive my other customers away."
This is precisely why the ADA was written and passed--to put an end to discrimination that came out of superstition, ignorance, fear.
I don't know how this particular case will be resolved, but it's very important, I think, that people understand that just because the sight of a particular disability makes you or others uncomfortable is no reason to discriminate against someone with that particular disability or illness.
The ADA does contain provisions dealing with infectious diseases, so I assume the court will have to decide, on the basis of testimony and the law and established precedent, whether this particular manager violated the law or not. But in general, being "unsightly" (the term often used) is no longer a valid excuse for denying someone the right to a public accommodation.
Best wishes.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)The issue is; "would a reasonable person have suspected that the kids posed a public health risk?"
I don't know what the managers' motivations were, but I think some benefit of the doubt is justified.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)who was educated by the mother should have made a better judgement call. But perhaps I am looking for enlightened persons. Sadly is low supply these days.
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)sympathy for the manager because his other customers, seeing the children, might have walked out.
THAT is the reasoning I'm posting about. As to the manager's own motivations, I have no way of truly knowing.
And as for the substance of this particular case, we'll have to see. The ADA contains specific provisions relating to contagious diseases and the general public. As I recall, the wording was put in at the express request of the restaurant and food industry. I would think any restaurant franchise would have an ADA compliance policy, and would educate its managers about it, just as managers are supposed to be educated about health codes and fire codes and sexual harassment policies and such. It's all part of running a business that serves the general public.
The ADA is 23 years old. It isn't as if these issues haven't been raised before.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)Last edited Fri Feb 22, 2013, 11:45 AM - Edit history (1)
right now he is having a problem getting restaurant and other building managers to put Braille signs on their bathroom doors. To the building managers this is considered low priority. I wonder how many ladies would like my husband just walking into the ladies bathroom. He doesn't want to, but with no Braille on the doors he has to go get someone to show him which door is which.
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)but if you haven't: has your husband contacted either the local chapter of the National Federation of the Blind, or the American Council of the Blind? They might be able to provide some good advice on how to proceed with this.
Also, your state probably has a Commission for the Blind or some such office. You might want to contact them as well and see what they tell you.
Best of luck with this issue. Like I said elsewhere here, it amazes me that almost a quarter of a century on, people are still ignorant--or pretend to be ignorant--of their obligations under federal civil rights law.
Best wishes.
liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)and they have been put on notice that if something is not done in a timely manner he will be contacting someone regarding an ADA violation.
CreekDog
(46,192 posts)does that weigh in on your opinion?
disability doesn't seem to matter in your mind. you don't seem to care about that. but that you don't know it means that your posts here are an embarrassment to you and because they are heartless backed up by ignorance of the law, they are also an embarrassment to DU.
but that girls are involved and you are advocating against them is not a huge surprise.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)for this post. We were just discussing this at our house- I just can't believe some of the comments on DU. This child was not infectious, the manager was informed of this. I agree completely that you cannot "dismiss" someone because of disfigurement. Where will it end.... you have red hair.....your are fat, your BMI must be 40......you only have one leg....you have serious burns on your face....what's up with that tumor......
We all have something that is unique about us. To insinuate that this child cannot ever eat out in public is so backwards, that I can't even find the words for it. I thought we were better than that.
Douglas Carpenter
(20,226 posts)no doubt suffer enough isolation. Should we not be advocates on the side of those who have no voice? No doubt many restaurants in the old south were owned by proprietors who personally had nothing against black people - but simply did not want to lose customers and no doubt they would have. No doubt there were many, many customers who really believed that they could not relax and enjoy their meal if black people were sitting next to them. But all that changed, fortunately. Would it not be a much better world if no one had to experience this kind of degradation regardless of the reason - especially little children?
slackmaster
(60,567 posts)If the federal government really wants to offer something constructive in this situation, how about some mediation instead of going for money? If it wants to prevent future discrimination, how about some education? This is a teachable moment.
I don't feel that the restaurant management did anything morally wrong. Their ignorance of the nature of that particular skin condition is perfectly understandable.
The family certainly could have handled the situation better.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)The mother did educate the manager on the disorder.
How can you assert that this child needs to be hidden away because we (collective we) are uncomfortable? How backwards is that?
slackmaster
(60,567 posts)...simply gone somewhere else to eat when it became clear that the manager wasn't comprehending or believing what the mother was saying.
Nobody has a right to eat in a restaurant, and the restaurant management does have the right to refuse to seat or serve anyone for any reason.
The family is literally making a federal case out of a minor incident.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)So, the parents need to clear all social engagements first, explain that their child has a disorder? Well, let's all those with any disorders do that. To single out this child is indeed discrimination.
Perhaps this family is making a statement. We have a child with a disorder and we are not going to hide him/her away. This child deserves to experience the world, same as any other.
slackmaster
(60,567 posts)...of a rare medical condition.
Why should they take the customer's word that the disease isn't contagious?
You are wrong on many levels
Are you claiming that restaurants don't have a right to refuse service to people?
If they were systematically refusing to seat Asians or LGBT people there would certainly be a case. But an isolated incident involving a child with a scary-looking skin condition? I don't think so.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)And it is not OK to discriminate because something makes you uncomfortable. Scary looking or not. It's not OK.
slackmaster
(60,567 posts)A stranger who hasn't presented medical credentials.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)How are you not getting this? How can you be OK with saying "Lock him away--I don't want to look at him"?
slackmaster
(60,567 posts)I'm not, and your response suggests you aren't interested in a rational discussion.
I think you are just looking for a fight in this thread. I hope you find one.
Butterbean
(1,014 posts)to expect the family to call the restaurant in advance. Just speaking from the position of special needs mom, that's just plain unrealistic and for a reason I can't quite articulate yet (it's the end of the day, my brain isn't working that quickly...sorry), the idea that they should have to do such a thing makes me really cringe.
One of my best girlfriends has a severely developmentally delayed child who can sometimes have public outbursts and do inappropriate things. My girlfriend does try to have a developmental therapist remain with her child when she has to run errands or go out, because it genuinely upsets her child to have to leave "her" space. However, life happens and sometimes there is no DT and my friend has to take her child with her, and predictably, her child erupts and acts out. Should my girlfriend have to call ahead to every place she is going to go to on her errands to warn them about her child? The tantrums can be quite violent, and strangers have approached my friend when her child was mid-tantrum and made very ugly comments to her. Still...this is her life. She can't spend her life walking on eggshells around other people because of her kid's disability, kwim?
I dunno. I'm taking this all too personally, which means I just need to step away, methinks.
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)restaurants do not have the right to refuse to serve people with disabilities just because they're disabled. Just as, since 1964, they have not had the right to refuse service to people because of their race or ethnicity. And I for one am hoping for the day when GLBT people are protected as well.
"A scary looking skin condition" is not a legal reason to exclude a child from being in public, restaurant or not. People who drooled used to be refused service. People who looked like they had AIDS. People who walked or talked funny, because "who knows if it might be contagious?"
That's precisely why the ADA was passed. The family has every right to make this a "federal case" and not just an i"solated" incident. The manager may have violated federal law, and if he did, the family is well within their rights to call him on it.
The ADA was passed 23 years ago. A restaurant manager is required to know about the ADA just as they're required to know about the Civil Rights Act of 1964 and a host of other laws--fire codes, health codes, sexual harassment policies, tax withholding, etc. etc.
Civil rights aren't decided on the basis of whim. "Oh, you have a scary looking problem, sorry, you aren't allowed in." That's why we have laws.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)How'd that work out for Denny's?
slackmaster
(60,567 posts)A single child with a rare skin condition that is unfamiliar to most people probably isn't.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)Certainly the child is protected under federal law.
slackmaster
(60,567 posts)That's where the case is likely to break down.
An ADA suit is a ridiculous over-reaction.
KatyMan
(4,200 posts)that the restaurant manager knows the American with Disabilities Act? I am not sure if that is what you are saying. Because ignorance of the ADA is not an excuse--
Bottom line- he didn't like how the baby looked. Bottom line.
slackmaster
(60,567 posts)...or some other active, contagious infection that would have put the employees and other customers at risk.
I am not willing to pass judgement with such scant information. It will all get worked out in court.
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)Hansen's Disease? Really? Wouldn't the children in that instance have been walking around with bells on? Wow, a family of lepers, out in public! Unclean! Unclean!
In any case, for someone "not willing to pass judgement with such scant information" you certainly seem to have no problem concluding that the family were in the wrong and that the case is "ridiculous" and "an over-reaction."
From where I sit, this seems an entirely appropriate use of the ADA. This is precisely why we have an ADA, why we have courts, and why we need a more informed public.
REP
(21,691 posts)I have personally witnessed a woman drag two young children with her to a restaurant - young children who were obviously miserably ill, and obviously ill with pertussis (whooping cough). There is no other sound like it, and once heard, it's not forgotten. These children, who should have been resting in a warm bed, were instead out and at the right height to cough copiously into the 'grab and go' sandwich and drink case. The manager did pack their food to go and asked them to leave, despite the mother INSISTING it couldn't possibly be pertussis since that wasn't a real disease anymore and they just had colds. All the time while her suffering kids were making that horrible, unmistakable sound and looking about as sick as kids can look.
All food in the case was destroyed; the case washed with bleach, and at least one customer had to be put on prophylactic antibiotics despite getting regular DPT boosters (that was me).
So I'm sympathetic to the manager and the kids.
thucythucy
(8,074 posts)child protective services, and maybe the police. The mother was obviously endangering the health of her children.
REP
(21,691 posts)I'm not sure if the manager did; she may have called Public Health. I'm immunocompromised so I was mostly skedaddling.
Oh, the mgr was pregnant too.
TeeYiYi
(8,028 posts)...and say that if it looks like an infectious disease, such as chicken pox or measles or mumps,... I'm going to treat it like an infectious disease and ask the family to leave the premises, until the child is no longer showing symptoms
If they can show a doctor's order which declares that the child is 'contagion free' I might reconsider.
How could a competent restaurateur be expected to do otherwise?...???
TYY
Purveyor
(29,876 posts)Union Scribe
(7,099 posts)JI7
(89,252 posts)my only concern would be for any pain he feels .
I don't see how it "looks contagious" either. Chicken pox and measles are more uniform if I remember correctly. These lesions are all different.
laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)it didn't look like that at ALL. And anyway, once you are scabbing with chicken pox you are no longer contagious. My one daughter had a severe strep rash once too, and it was nothing like that picture. I'm seriously shocked at this thread.
treestar
(82,383 posts)I would feel bad for that kid but it would never strike me as contagious run for the hills stuff. I'm not a mother even. Maybe to each his own, but just looking at that kid, it does not look contagious to me - I would feel bad for him first, maybe wonder what it was, but running for my life would not come into play.
liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)Apophis
(1,407 posts)CreekDog
(46,192 posts)you fail.
Quantess
(27,630 posts)Mistaken, but understandable. I am not convinced the manager is a mean person or an "asshole" as a lot of DUers are calling him.
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)There are frequently stories about personal conflicts which, at bottom, are simply misunderstandings and mistakes.
There is a huge contingent at DU of the most unflinchingly judgmental unforgiving folks than you will meet at any church picnic. They come here with a fair amount of personal dissatisfactions simply looking for someone to take it out on.
Of course, you see, not only was this manager fully aware of this medical condition and its consequences, but he was raised in a household from an early age to simply hate people who have it - and that's why he asked them to leave. It could NOT possibly be that this manager - no doubt a Stanford valedictorian, as is typical among chain food management - was mistaken, and did not believe the explanation. It's just not possible.
liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)Just like we are all tired of seeing black people, gay people, women, and other minority groups discriminated against. So, sorry if I'm not forgiving enough for you.
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)You assume much, and wrongly.
So, let me understand this.
The manager, prior to this encounter, knew about this condition. Not only did he know about it, but he has always disliked people with this condition, and that is why he asked them to leave.
Is that an accurate statement of what you believe happened here.
Because, and I hope you live by your words, when someone comes up to you on the street and starts cussing you out, I gather you smile and say, "Before I respond, I would like to know whether you have Tourette's Syndrome, or whether you are simply an asshole."
CreekDog
(46,192 posts)and as for how you sound?
the poster is making the point that you sound like someone who doesn't know or care about the rights of the disabled.
which must insult you because as you stated upthread, this is something you deal with in your family.
yet your posts indicate that you are quite hostile to these rights in practice.
i have no doubt that you are a good advocate for your daughter and her disability, i just have a sense, based on your posts, that your advocacy seems to stop at your own family unit and the individual disability you are familiar with.
because you've all but supported the actions even TSA is apologizing for (and you've done this before too), as well as the actions of the restaurant in this story.
in other words, yes, you do write like you have no familiarity with the disabled, nor their rights.
with perhaps just one personal exception that doesn't seem to have affected your thinking elsewhere. sadly.
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)My daughter is very good at getting around.
So good, in fact, that she often leaves her cane behind and doesn't take it with her.
The consequence of that fact is that people do not often immediately know she is blind.
Now, in Pennsylvania, if she walks out into a street and is hit by a car, the way things work out liability-wise is that if she didn't have her cane on her - it's a reflective red and white foldable cane - it is a hell of a lot harder to hold the driver responsible than if she does have her cane with her.
As a practical matter, we do tell her to take the cane when she goes out. It folds up and is not a big deal anyway.
Because she needs it to get around? No.
We have her do that, because it says to people around her "I'm blind, so please don't bump into me." Or, if she does bump into someone or something, it keeps other people from assuming she is just clumsy and beating her up.
Because if you are standing on a sidewalk, and someone comes barging right into you - and she moves damned quick - your first reaction is normally going to be "Hey asshole, watch the fuck where you are going." If that person has a candy-striped cane in their hand, your reaction is going to be quite different.
Yes, she has to acommodate the "disability" of sighted people who do not immediately perceive that she is blind.
But your disgusting habit of condemning others is, I understand, untreatable.
And, if I have time later on, I can tell you about getting through the TSA with her and her girlfriend with MS. Much longer story, but a little understanding goes a long way toward addressing conflicts instead of escalating them.
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2Design
(9,099 posts)they said they were not contagious and a week later I had whatever it was
mwrguy
(3,245 posts)fuck them anyway.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)....uh, fuck this family too then???
Humanist_Activist
(7,670 posts)I hope this franchisee is driven out of business, fucking asshole, as for the rest of you fucking wanna-be Republicans, go pound sand.
Douglas Carpenter
(20,226 posts)liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)People's attitudes on this thread suck. I guess some people just can't learn the lesson of compassion unless they themselves are the one's suffering. Sad state of affairs when democrats can't understand compassion.
Douglas Carpenter
(20,226 posts)has now become instinctive to a lot of people even in ostensibly liberal circles? This is one of two thread I have found within the last 48 hours with utterly twisted, sick and depraved attitudes widely expressed. The other was about how someone may have been fired from their job for expressing at their work place that they had voted for Obama. There were a number of posters who instead of being alarmed at the attack on the right of ordinary people to casually and informally express their opinions in the world where they live and work - there were several posters who thought that people should just shut up and not make waves. In both threads we are seeing people who call themselves liberal or progressive completely willing to differ to power and walk down the road to a dark and sinister future where privilege and power decides right from wrong and there is only room for winners. But all that pontificating aside anyone who does not see the wrongness of excluding the sick and disabled from open participation in society has a perverted sense of fairness It is a good thing that many of the great social advancements of the 20th century have already been established - because I don't think in this current sick society they would be enacted today.
CreekDog
(46,192 posts)and your statement righteous and correct.
and i'm grateful that you posted it because it's a theme among a consistent minority of DUers who justify these types of things at every opportunity.
and worse, some justify it on the basis that they know or are related to someone disabled.
liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)I live with two disabled people and still cannot completely relate to what they go through.
Rex
(65,616 posts)Appearance is more important then reality. It is slowly killing us as a nation.
Scruffy Rumbler
(961 posts)I was working at a hospital in VA/ I walked into the cafeteria one day and the inspirational message of the day? "Remember, if you LOOK GOOD, you are GOOD!" I almost Sh*t myself. A frigin hospital with cancer patients and trauma patients that were hugely disfigured promoting that sick message in a place that was open to the public. It is a message that should not have been displayed at all.
Rex
(65,616 posts)AndyA
(16,993 posts)Patrons are sitting eating their meals and have to tolerate or try to stomach other patrons with dirty feet in flip flops, smelly, sweaty armpit hair sticking out because they're wearing a sleeveless top, dirty, greasy hair that doesn't look like it's been washed in weeks, loud children running around unsupervised causing a disturbance, etc.
You can't do much about a genetic skin disorder other than treat it as recommended by a physician, but you can do something about the other things, yet it's tolerated.
There was a time when people had respect for others, and cared about their appearance enough to clean themselves up before going out in public.
liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)I live in an affluent area where the women always look like they just stepped out of a salon. And for those whom it makes feel good I say go for it. I have never been that kind of person. When I have things to get done, I leave the house and get them done. I don't have time to get ready so that I can impress people I don't know. I know I'm probably getting funny looks for not looking perfect, but you know what I don't care. I have far too many things to get done to worry about what other people think of me.
AndyA
(16,993 posts)When you can smell body odor or dirty hair on the person sitting behind you, it can be nauseating to some. When they sit down when you're mid-meal, it's not a matter of minding your own business, it's more a matter of keeping your food down.
People should be a little more respectful and considerate of others, it would go a long way toward solving some of the problems we have in the world today.
liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)Javaman
(62,531 posts)Next time you see a leper make sure they are wearing a hood and bell, okay?
HockeyMom
(14,337 posts)The first year I lived in Florida, I had blisters all over me and even on my eyelids. I worked in a public school with little children and I didn't want anyway questioning me, or shunning me. I went to doctors, including dermatologists, who ruled out Lupus, Psoriasis, allergies, etc. They called it "contact dermatitis". From my experience in NY, where I only got this to a small degree ONLY in summers, I knew it was "contact" with HEAT. I got them also if I made water too hot in the shower. However, it can get very, very bad if I don't keep COOL, and soak in cool baths of sea salts. None of the meds, from steriods to cortisone, that doctors gave me helped.
I can understand what this family is experiencing. What I have also is definitely NOT contagious.
Javaman
(62,531 posts)That works for my eczema.
I grew up on Long Island and my dad would take to me to the beach all year long to keep it a bay.
Now that I live in Austin, far from the ocean, it has flared up again. I have to periodically take baths with the salts to keep it at bay. Nothing works like the ocean though.
Cheers!