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Found this via a short Feministing.com post with just a GIF. Everyone's favorite authoritarian anti feminist concern troll Suzanne Venker (niece of anti-feminist icon Phyllis Schlafly) is back on FoxNews.com with a new article "To be happy, we must admit women and men aren't 'equal'", with plenty of false nostalgia of the good ol' days when Women Knew Their Place(TM). (I call it False Nostalgia because Venker was born presumably in the late '60s as she graduated from Boston University in 1990.) Venker attracted considerable buzz in 2011 with her book The Flipside of Feminism (here's a critical article about the book) and has a new book out How to Choose a Husband (And Make Peace With Marriage).
Venker opens her article quoting the minister Norman Vincent Peale: "Change your thoughts, and you change your world," then suggests: "... if women want to be successful in love, they should reject the cultural script theyve been sold and adopt a whole new view of men and marriage."
Laying out her case:
1. Women postpone marriage indefinitely and move in and out of intense romantic relationships, or even live with their boyfriends for years at a time. Eventually, their biological clocks start ticking and many decide they better hurry up and get married to provide a stable home for their yet-to-be-born children. Trouble is, their boyfriends not willing to commit.
2. Marriage becomes a competitive sport. The complementary nature of marriagein which two people work together, as equals, toward the same goal but with an appreciation for the qualities each gender brings to the tablehas been obliterated. Today, husbands and wives are locked in a battle about whom does more on the home front and how theyre going to get everything done. Thats not a marriage. Thats war.
Unless, of course, youre beholden to feminism. In that case, youll believe the above is evidence of discrimination. Youll believe what feminists taught you to believe: that gender is a social construct.
So what Venker is suggesting, TLDR: People are too dumb to break out of their gender-anointed roles.
After a bunch of nonsense about the Titanic, Costa Concordia, "women and children first", Venker concludes:
"Equal, but different?" Gee, where have we heard THAT in history before? Oh that's right.
And "blessed with amazing and unique qualities"? What's the evidence of that, the Bible?
I think Venker is peddling learned helplessness spun into Peale-like Positive Thinking. Any more thoughts?
Cleita
(75,480 posts)However, I know for a fact that women who live in the shadows of their men, whether it be father, husband, brother or even grown-up son are not happy until they discover that happy combination of Xanax and a martini. The rest of us know that we need to be true to ourselves to be happy and our men need to understand that.
niyad
(113,336 posts)woman-hating twaddle we heard from the churches, from "fascinating womanhood", from "total woman", from "the rules" from "the surrendered wife", and from all those testosterone-deficient people scared to death to see women as fully human, fully equal.
I will tell you, just as I had occasion to tell your idiot aunt--you do not speak for us. it always cracked me up that your dear aunt was running around the country telling women to stay home, and tend the home, when she had nannies and housekeepers. a little digging would probably find that you are just as much a hypocrite as she has always been.
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MADem
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(41,989 posts)MADem
(135,425 posts)I had a much more ... robust ... description in mind!
BooScout
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(135,425 posts)She sounds like she's carrying water for the RNC!