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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsDoes anyone have no interest in celebrating and going out New Years Eve ?
i don't feel like getting dressed up and going out . i just want to be inside at home or maybe with a few friends where i can just relax and sit around eat junk food and not care about anything too much.
i don't even care if i don't notice when midnight happens and we get into the new year.
i feel like i'm always turning down people but i don't care too much anymore.
on edit let me add that this isn't because i feel sad or anything. i'm just not a party person and prefer to avoid huge crowds. for me i find things more enjoyable alone or in small groups and just hanging around.
w8liftinglady
(23,278 posts)PM Me if you want some.
bananas
(27,509 posts)DesertFlower
(11,649 posts)ago -- celebrating is the last thing i want to do.
etherealtruth
(22,165 posts)Tonight must be very hard for you and I am so sorry for your loss.
DesertFlower
(11,649 posts)almost 42 years.
etherealtruth
(22,165 posts)42 years is a long time ... I am sure that it does not feel long enough, though.
Wishes for peace and contentment in the new year.
DesertFlower
(11,649 posts)handmade34
(22,757 posts)consider yourself hugged tonight
DesertFlower
(11,649 posts)DonRedwood
(4,359 posts)ladym55
(2,577 posts)peacebird
(14,195 posts)Your name reminds me of a business trip - I went to the desert, was driving to the base and noticed cactus in bloom(!). So beautiful! I said to myself, I will stop on the way back to the hotel to admire them!
Well, little did I know that cactus flowers lives are a very brief and by my trip back to the hotel they were gone.
Live in the moment, that was a lesson of that day. I struggle with that lesson still.
DesertFlower
(11,649 posts)i love the desert.
the first time we came to phoenix was on a business trip (my husband's). that was in '84. we fell in love with it and moved here in '89.
peacebird
(14,195 posts)DesertFlower
(11,649 posts)big -- probably 10-12 feet tall so i can't tell. the desert does have a distinct smell when it rains. it's from the creosote bushes. hubby used to spray water from the hose into the desert just to get the smell. i (it's hard to get used to not saying "we" live on 2-1/2 acres. only landscaped a small amount and left the rest natural. when the cactus flowers die they dry out and fall off in pieces -- kind of messy for a while but the birds and bunnies eat them.
i've heard that a cactus does not grow arms until it's about 80 years old. one of ours have 5 arms. it could be hundreds of years old.
SammyWinstonJack
(44,130 posts)lucca18
(1,244 posts)I hope the New Year brings you comfort and happiness.
Raine
(30,540 posts)snappyturtle
(14,656 posts)juajen
(8,515 posts)DesertFlower
(11,649 posts)i don't go out unless i have to. i have some health problems too -- IBS, CFS/ME, osteoarthritis and herniated discs. john was taking care of me -- doing most of the errands.
since he got sick i've been getting panic attacks.
BTW. he died from a brain tumor -- no warning -- came home from work and had a seizure -- 3 months later he was gone. at least he didn't suffer.
fell free to PM me if you want.
riverbendviewgal
(4,253 posts)My younger son died at 26 from a brain tumour. He had seizures for the first time at 25 and was operated 3 days later. His dad was diagnosed with non Hodgkin's 2 months later. He died at 54 years old. 18 months after our son. It is important to talk about them for us.
one_voice
(20,043 posts)all I can do is say how sorry I am. I can't even begin to comprehend how hard that must have been and still is. My brother lost his 16 year old son, it will be 2 years in Feb. He had a seizure in school and died. Turned out it was a heart defect, that caused the seizure. I see what he's going through, it's like he dies a little more each day.
To lose your son and husband so close together ....
I hope the new year brings you some peace and comfort.
riverbendviewgal
(4,253 posts)And I am keeping on. It is not the same and I just have to accept it.
DesertFlower
(11,649 posts)politicasista
(14,128 posts)Odin2005
(53,521 posts)Cleita
(75,480 posts)Dems to Win
(2,161 posts)I wish you much peace and joy in the coming year.
badhair77
(4,220 posts)I'm glad you're here with us tonight. Warm vibes going your way.
riverbendviewgal
(4,253 posts)I know holidays are hard. It is very soon too for you.
My husband and younger son died 18 months apart in 1999 and. 2001. It still is hard but the chasms get a little smaller as time goes by
. The holidays are still hard but each one I get through.
Remember you will get through this.
countryjake
(8,554 posts)Booster
(10,021 posts)so I answered it shaking a noise maker and yelling HAPPY NEW YEAR. It was my mother who said "Well, happy new year to you too." Then she said "your brother died". My brother was my best friend and I loved him so. Every year since, and I know it's been a very long time, I make it a point to go to bed before midnight; I can't stand to watch that ball fall. I never really liked New Year's Eve anyway with people going out and forcing themselves to have fun so going to bed is the best thing for me. Like you, celebrating is the lasty thing I want to do.
RKP5637
(67,112 posts)Lifelong Protester
(8,421 posts)I am sorry for your loss, and know somewhat your feeling as I recall the NYE right after my mom died...and I did NOT feel like celebrating, either. She was killed in a car accident on Labor Day Weekend in 1990.
Takes a long time, but soon the good memories crowd in, and make the sad ones 'scooch over a bit.
LisaLynne
(14,554 posts)Just not into it this year.
NoOneMan
(4,795 posts)Man, people are so clueless with their ethnocentric approach to our predicted and deliverd extinction
RoccoR5955
(12,471 posts)They forgot to take into account the Leap Year. The world actually ends tonight!
peacebird
(14,195 posts)we had my sons friends over for a newyears eve party, he was a senior in High School and NO WAY were we NOT actively supervising them... LOL! We wandered down to the basement party frequently. ; )
Kaleva
(36,342 posts)I'll be glad to see this year end; it has been a nightmare. The only thing the New Year means to me (this time) is that 2013 is the year I will lose my father to Stage IV lung cancer (sorry to be a downer).
Bake
SammyWinstonJack
(44,130 posts)Bake
(21,977 posts)Needed that.
Bake
Wishing you much strength for you and your family.
riverbendviewgal
(4,253 posts)politicasista
(14,128 posts)Last edited Mon Dec 31, 2012, 09:34 PM - Edit history (1)
It's cold and rainy out. Craving for some Apple Cider now tho.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)The roads are more dangerous than any other night of the year, imo. And it feels so forced.
And I don't want to have to stay somewhere until midnight just because it's expected.
I have never felt that I really missed anything the next day.
Have a great evening, though!
Lifelong Protester
(8,421 posts)the older one gets, I feel, the less one is interested in the whole 'scene'. We visited Chicago for three days, coming home yesterday, specifically to miss all the hoopala of New Year's Eve.
We will have some nice cheeses and crackers, some champagne, some sorbet. And HOPE we make it up until midnight, but sometimes that is tough!
I like the idea of a 'clean slate', I guess.
So, joining you in staying in, Happy New Year!
quinnox
(20,600 posts)some friends and I are going to be playing board games until midnight.
Sherman A1
(38,958 posts)Which ones?
DollarBillHines
(1,922 posts)Here in Wine Country, every night is a party.
Tonight, a bunch of local acoustic musicians will gather at our house and play as long as we can sit upright.
Great Bourbon, fine wine, good friends and music.
Come on over.
DBH
ellaydubya
(354 posts)Wish I could join in! We replied within a minute of each other- what's up with that!! Have a wonderful night and play a tune for me! Sure miss that!
Jim Warren
(2,736 posts)from Bukowski about new year's
amateur drunks run their cheerful
cars into each other and
the ambulances sing to each
other outside.
RKP5637
(67,112 posts)ellaydubya
(354 posts)I love being at home, safe and sound, eating my own food and drinking my own drink, listening to my music of choice, in my pajamas- nothing better than that!!! Happy New Year to all of us!!! Celebrate in the way that makes you happy!!
FSogol
(45,526 posts)Drunk drivers everywhere, increased police presence, over inflated prices, restaurants filled to capacity, etc.
I completely agree with you, but Mrs. FSogol is dragging me out to a restaurant with some friends.
nolabear
(41,991 posts)Actually I often opt for quiet NYE but not because I hate it, just because the holidays are tiring and I don't mind being contemplative. But hubby is in hospital with cardiac issues (we have cause to hope he's all right) and all we want is to be cut loose before midnight.
Celebrate every turn of the year, kids.
countryjake
(8,554 posts)Hugs to you and wishing health for your family in this coming year.
arcane1
(38,613 posts)I even had a ride offered, by newly-married friends I haven't seen in a while. Too sleepless from working this morning, it's been a pretty non-social year for various reasons, and it feels right to chill at home tonight and avoid the yahoos. If I'm awake or asleep at midnight, it doesn't matter either way
handmade34
(22,757 posts)...snowing out with slippery roads / just got back to my lonely hotel room near Kansas City (pulled in last night after driving through the wicked storm that went through Pennsylvania) I am more than happy to stay in and do paperwork
although....
Raine
(30,540 posts)knowing the new year will go even faster with most likely the same results.
Response to Raine (Reply #25)
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SammyWinstonJack
(44,130 posts)Staying in, watching netflix and hanging with my furkids.
Stonepounder
(4,033 posts)We are doing exactly the same. Netflix is on now, although we'll switch over about 11:30 and watch the ball drop. The dogs are all curled up on the couch snoozing. I couldn't imagine anything worse than being on times Square tonight. Being in a crowd that big would give me the screaming heebie-jeebies!
Blue_In_AK
(46,436 posts)Anchorage always has a big "fire and ice" party in our Town Square on New Year's Eve which is pretty fun, and there are fireworks at 8 p.m. Good photo ops for my new fisheye lens.
Kalidurga
(14,177 posts)Sometimes I watch the ball drop, but rarely.
I don't see the point really.
also it's cold in January if you are in a northern state and except for the two years I spent in Tennessee my NYE were always in a cold place either Minnesota or Michigan.
It's kind of expensive, I am usually broke.
It's cold did I mention that?
Roads are dangerous.
Meh drunks, I can think of better ways to spend my time than watching people drink or getting do drunk myself I can't remember what happened anyway.
I don't like junk food all that much, even less now.
So, I will be at home reading or playing video games.
fadedrose
(10,044 posts)Happy New Year
I will be home and glad of it. Gone are the days of glitter clothes and long earrings and a fancy hairdo, and of course, enough drinks to make me think I'm a good singer.
Siwsan
(26,289 posts)I fully plan to sleep this year out, unless the neighbor kids bought fireworks.
TwilightGardener
(46,416 posts)Just slummin' at the house with the family tonight, rent a movie, toast the new year. Same as pretty much every year.
rainbow4321
(9,974 posts)So I could have 3 days off during Xmas with my family. I wouldn't be doing anything tonight anyway so it's not a big deal. Plus now my 21 yr old daughter can celebrate the night at home with some friends and I don't have to worry about her being out driving. And if they do decide to go out, we live within walking distance of their favorite bar.
tinymontgomery
(2,584 posts)My wife and I will spend the evening like we did the last few years, watching the tube. Stay up till mid-night then hit the bed about 5 minutes later.
iwillalwayswonderwhy
(2,603 posts)My husband is English, and December 31 is his birthday. We walk down to a British pub at the end of our road. They celebrate New Year at 7 pm, (midnight in England). We toast the New Year, I get a few tables involved in singing happy birthday to my husband, and we are home by 8 pm. We've been doing this for five years and it's perfect. A quick party and home before the crazies are even dressed.
narnian60
(3,510 posts)mercuryblues
(14,537 posts)for a week that I was going to set the clocks ahead about 8pm to midnight and toast then. We haven't been able to stay up till midnight for many years. Without even thinking, I opened the champaign to toast the new year, looked at the time and it was 8pm. I mainly did it because our older kids were going out for the night.
We toasted to surving the raptures and the end of the world.
GoCubsGo
(32,088 posts)Just another day to me. Plus, I don't dare want to be out on the road on Amateur Night.
snappyturtle
(14,656 posts)feel like a lone poop! I've had many fun New Year Eves but it's not that interesting to me anymore.
My Sugar (cat furbaby) and I will toast in 2013 if we manage to stay awake. She with some catnip and an adult beverage for me. Hope I can find a good old movie to watch and I'll be more than content. Happy New Year to All!
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)tanyev
(42,610 posts)LaydeeBug
(10,291 posts)RoccoR5955
(12,471 posts)I will celebrate at home. Otherwise, I would end up in the pokey with a DWI! Not to mention, I deplore crowds.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)new years eve party.
not big on crowds. and i may not want to stay out until 12. and meh.... not a big deal. i am all comfy.
discntnt_irny_srcsm
(18,482 posts)...but thanks for asking.
HNY (Happy New Year)
plethoro
(594 posts)celebrate holidays much any more either. We are on the treadmill of life--next stop has got to be better than this one.
kwassa
(23,340 posts)and it is damn cold outside. Why go anywhere, and deal with the hassle and expense?
what's the point of this holiday exactly?
Dirty Socialist
(3,252 posts)Just a night in with my family.
Maybe they will have caviar at tomorrow's party again. Fantastic!
Cal Carpenter
(4,959 posts)I've had new year's eves like that, where I just stayed home and didn't give a shit. I used to have a job that was really busy this time of year and for me, new year's day was one of the only 2 days our office was closed each year.So some years it was just another night, with a day off the next day so I could sleep in, knowing that I would be slammed at work for another week or two.
Tonight I am going out to a party because I feel like it (just sipping a scotch now and my SO and I are headed out). I have a cocooning tendency and some good friends are having a party, it will be very laid back, and I am looking forward to getting out of the house.
But I don't think there is anything wrong with just sitting at home on NYE. As long as you are happy with what you are doing, it doesn't matter. The calendar thing is sorta arbitrary anyway
panAmerican
(1,206 posts)He has fibrosarcoma on his left hind leg, and we didnt even think he would make it till Christmas. Church service would have been nice tonight, but God knows our hearts are in the right place.
We are most grateful this year for the birth of our newest nephew this year, the lives of our friends and family, and for the life of this cat - no party can top any of those.
DemoTex
(25,403 posts)Lights out in about 30 minutes.
Berserker
(3,419 posts)I sure could use one of mitts binders full of women.
handmade34
(22,757 posts)AsahinaKimi
(20,776 posts)My parents are in Osaka Japan, celebrating the new year with my uncles family. I am pretty much on line most of the night. I will check out websites, go visit with friends on line, and just hang out having some fairly decent Thai food. I love Thai ice tea, its my treat for tonight.
Dirty Socialist
(3,252 posts)I was there 6 years ago when i visited the bay area. My favorite Oriental restaurant. Yum!
AsahinaKimi
(20,776 posts)Jitra thai Cuisine!
CottonBear
(21,596 posts)We've had dinner and I'm about to put my little one to bed. I'll go to bed early because the the little one gets up early every day!
Happy New Year to all of my fellow DUers!
BeHereNow
(17,162 posts)Digging being home, cuddling with my fur people and watching
the world go by.
BHN
ailsagirl
(22,899 posts)I never have gone out NYE. And I try to be asleep before midnight.
Odin2005
(53,521 posts)xxxsdesdexxx
(213 posts)New Years is just another day just like all the other days. Big deal.... So the Earth went around the Sun one more time. So what? I don't see the point of celebrating this.
JeffHead
(1,186 posts)I gotta case of beer and a bottle of Captain Morgan and Mountain Dew and I'm staying home. Drink til midnight, Yell Happy New Year, kiss my wife and pass out at 12:15. Woo Hoo!
Brother Buzz
(36,463 posts)That's my opinion
Cleita
(75,480 posts)Yes, I have a cold and no interest in celebrating. However, I saw a beat up old car drive into the parking lot as I was leaving. It was full of young men, whooping it up and playing loud music. I thought that can't be good on a night before a holiday especially this early. Am I being prejudiced? Or is it a sampling of what this night is going to be like for those who do venture out of the door tonight.
WorseBeforeBetter
(11,441 posts)Mounds of tissues and zinc lozenge wrappers everywhere... this cold/flu hit hard. Feel better!
Normally, I'd attend First Night in Alexandria, VA or Raleigh, NC, but drunks on the road is always a concern.
Cleita
(75,480 posts)I'm watching the "show" on capitol hill. I guess that's my New Years.
WorseBeforeBetter
(11,441 posts)Bed is gonna win out soon, though; we'll see what "good" news awaits in the a.m.
Arctic Dave
(13,812 posts)Usually stayed at home and had friends over. Hot tub and wine while looking at the stars and fireworks.
This year I'm working so I will enjoy the meal they have prepared for us.
countryjake
(8,554 posts)we have never gone out for any parties in our almost twenty yrs together and before that, I've always preferred being home, too. We have had friends come to stay before, but I've insisted that it be for a sleep-over, since this county's roads are simply not a safe drive when the drunks are out.
Around here, we can't miss when midnight happens cause everyone on this road pulls out the mortars and boomers and the noise will be freaking all of our critters for hours into the night. It'll be like the Fourth of July in a few hours (I truly do not like that). And my man will be snoring long before the fireworks begin, so I'll be the one who has to go out to calm everyone down, once things start hoppin'.
Hoppy New Year!
I dont mean to be a DebbieDowner but I used to feel POSITIVE about each New Year. I think 911 changed alot of our collective attitudes including celebrating New Years Eve.
Dems to Win
(2,161 posts)Everything I need or want is here, anyway. No big deal.
IDemo
(16,926 posts)I have Rachel Maddow on the Kindle, my two dogs at my feet, and won't be going anywhere.
ProfessionalLeftist
(4,982 posts)I'm content to stay at home and be safe and comfortable.
librarylu
(503 posts)I watched the tribute to Marvin Hamlisch on Live From Lincoln Center and just enjoyed being snuggly in bed instead of out there fighting traffic trying to get home.
high density
(13,397 posts)It seems many ideas around "going out" are about getting shitfaced because people don't want to drink alone. If there was some decent concert going on I might check it out, but then again I'd be surrounded by shitfaced people which is suboptimal.
reteachinwi
(579 posts)love_katz
(2,584 posts)And I join you in hoping.
ailsagirl
(22,899 posts)(who penned the poem that was later set to music), "Auld Lang Syne" is, to me, a very sad song that I try to avoid hearing. Too many old memories.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)and after the younger one goes to bed, we watch movies with the older one. Napoleon Dynamite is on atm.
riverbendviewgal
(4,253 posts)I am watching TV and laughing my head off watching CBC shows. All satire comedy Xmas and new years eve specials. Even our politicians can appear and joke about our Canada on these shows.
I find doing this more enjoyable than going out among strangers getting drunk and paying big bucks.
It is cold here too minus 14C and snowing..
I can get out the Asti Spumati and enjoy the nite.
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERY ONE.
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)on my day off, so I don't want to have a hangover or anything. I'm waking up early and doing something with friends.
I like to watch the Times Square ball drop, but I often fall to sleep before it does. It's strange getting older!
GreenStormCloud
(12,072 posts)ileus
(15,396 posts)I don't get to go to work tomorrow, so I'll get up and work around the place instead.
I'll go in early wed to make up for the 8 that I lost tomorrow.
New Years...what to hell do I want that day as a Holiday for?
Mz Pip
(27,453 posts)Haven't gone out in years. Too much traffic, too many drunks on the road.
Will probably watch a movie and fall asleep reading a book.
catbyte
(34,447 posts)And I don't really celebrate it.
Sarah Ibarruri
(21,043 posts)AAO
(3,300 posts)I just stay home with lots of champagne now.
femmocrat
(28,394 posts)Hubby already went to bed LOL... told him I'd see him "next year". I'll try to stay up to see the ball drop.
We were saying earlier that we are relieved that we no longer have to wait for teenagers to come home safely on this night. Those were scary years.
Happy New Year's Eve, DU!
RC
(25,592 posts)It's been snowing mostly all day, with temps a little above freezing. It is now below freezing.
Street crews will be out all night, plowing and spreading salt.
Lithos
(26,404 posts)A few good beers, a few good movies and surfing.
For nights like this, I leave going out to the amateurs.
I already have heard several rounds of ambulances tonight and it's barely 9:20 here. Rainy, slick roads and alcohol do not make a good combination.
L-
ismnotwasm
(42,008 posts)I have a 12 hour shift tomorrow and I don't like crowds. My husband has informed me I'm getting my annual New Years kiss though-- we've never missed a year in 21 years and he's so cute about it.
Luminous Animal
(27,310 posts)when she was little (and could tell time) my husband and I would reset the clocks back 3 hours to trick into thinking that 9:00 was midnight. We'd watch the ball fall down in NYC on TV (we live in San Francisco) and run out into the streets yelling Happy New Year perplexing a hell of a lot of people walking by.
I've always been of a mind that you spend New Years Eve only with people that you want to hang out with through the following year. I have a good group of friends and I am going to go to a small party hosted by one of them - most of the same people that came to my house for Thanksgiving. Everyone will bring food and drink and it is a comfortable place with cozy couches, one of which I am apt to take a little nap. My daughter, who is 22 now, might show up, but if she doesn't, she'll call me at midnight because she always does so that the three of us can share ringing in the new year.
Lydia Leftcoast
(48,217 posts)The closest I came to celebrating New Year's was the year I lived in Japan, where it's the biggest holiday of the year by far.
Otherwise, I consider New Year's Day to be the most boring day of the year.
riverwalker
(8,694 posts)looks like her eyes, cheek and lips were done......badly.
Auntie Bush
(17,528 posts)But miss my husband of 48 years. Lost him 4 years ago.
Happy New Year to everyone out there.
Stardust
(3,894 posts)Night amplifies their loss.
Here's hoping that the new year is better for all, especially my DU family members who are hurting tonight.
TexasBushwhacker
(20,214 posts)Plus it's raining cats and dogs here, so that means drunks on WET roads.
Hawaiianlight
(63 posts)Drunks on the road, over-crowded bars and restaurants, inflated drink prices, so you can stand in a crowd smelling of alcohol counting down the same meaningless thing every year. I personally would rather be forced listen to Mitch McConnell give a lecture on deficit reduction. Just as boring and irritating but at least I can go to bed at a reasonable hour.
RKP5637
(67,112 posts)Speck Tater
(10,618 posts)I feel no need to make noise to scare away the evil spirits.
As it has been for many years ... Movie on Netflix ... Good wine ... Cheese ... Fire in fireplace. No need to join the crazies on the icy roads.
Euphoria
(448 posts)We went to a party, walked in and then both of us decided to turn around, take a walk through town, return back home and enjoy the evening with family. We're now watching The Lord of the Rings trilogy.
Best to all on this thread.
csziggy
(34,137 posts)I've never had a desire to be out on the roads with all the drunks. I don't drink, don't like crowds, don't like noisy parties, and so forth. So the typical New Year party really has nothing I'd like to do.
Today I particularly don't feel like dealing with stuff. I woke up this morning to my husband's computer UPS alarm blaring upstairs. I still don't feel confident coming down stairs so I didn't go up to shut it off. It wasn't very audible in my library, so that was OK but it was ear piercing in the rest of the house.
Since dark the morons in the neighborhood have been setting off fireworks and the grunge band down the hill is murdering some music. Even the deputy who responded to a noise call months ago thought the music sucked so it's not just that their music is not to my taste. Normally at 10 I would have called in a noise complaint, but as long as the fireworks are going off, it makes no difference.
So the headache that started with the UPS alarm is developing nicely.
Claybrains
(132 posts)I thought we would just chill, but I already hear celebratory gunshots outside in our cookie cutter neighborhood. Some how I'm not surprised.
Stardust
(3,894 posts)I love that show so much!!! Don't git bit!
woodsprite
(11,924 posts)I've gotten better as I've gotten older, but as a kid. I used
to cry every New Year's eve. The best one I ever had was
When I was pregnant with our daughter. NYE 1992, the first
Time I felt her move.
We did finger foods tonight for a late dinner, played a game
and watched a movie. The kids are in the living room waiting
For the ball to fall. Hubby and I are on our computers.
Thats about as exciting as it gets for us. I figure that smart
People stay off the roads.