My mother-in-law might ruin our apartment move.

[diabeticman]

We showed the new apartment to my mother-in-law last night. She couldn't find anything major to complain about just that it was dirty!

That was all she had to say was how dirty it was.


Today she informs us that she called code enforcement to complain about the dirty apartment claiming that landlord had no right to have shown us the apartment being so dirty.


My wife is completely humiliated and started crying. I want to deck the woman in the face -- I won't-- but I am so angry!

This woman won't be happy until she has us living in the apartment beside her in not in the same apartment as her.

[AverageJoe90]

1. TBH, I might not have been so polite......n/t

[slackmaster]

2. There's an inexpensive solution to that problem

[janlyn]

3. ah duct tape, the wonder tool!! n/t

[Politicalboi]

4. A hard 17 and your

Mother in law are things you should never hit. LOL!

[1StrongBlackMan]

8. Cute n/t

[msongs]

5. you + wife get your own place, the MIL gets her own place. end of problem nt

[Mariana]

11. No, it's not.

MIL is going behind their backs trying to sabotage their plans. She can do that even if they're living in separate places. She may be MORE likely to do it if they're living in separate places.

[diabeticman]

13. We already do live in seperate places.

[1StrongBlackMan]

6. I'm so sorry ...

Time to move across country ... in the dead of night. Call her when you get there.

[silverweb]

10. +1000

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[Habibi]

14. No, no, don't call her!

She'll have your number traced and be on your doorstep within hours.

[1StrongBlackMan]

16. You're not married, huh?

Imagine how you would react if you and your spouse left ... and your spouse would allow you to call your mother.

I see a much more miserable life than having her know where we are.

[Habibi]

28. Fair enough.

Let's just say that there are some folks who happen to be both psycho and MILs (and FILs, and siblings, and kids, and exes), and, just trust me on this, if you want to get away from them, you don't want them to know where you are.

Glad you have great, non-psycho in-laws.

[1StrongBlackMan]

29. True Dat. n/t

[elleng]

7. Do your best to reassure your wife,

and point out that it is your life after all. And if lucky, code enforcement will inform m-i-l that there is NO PROBLEM.

Best of luck.

[Mariana]

9. It's time to cut her out of your lives, at least for awhile.

When she's actively trying to sabotage your plans, it's time. I hope your wife understands that.

[Lars39]

12. She *said* she called codes...she probably didn't.

I think she'd be excluded from any other details of anything for a long time.

[elfin]

15. Find another and don't tell her

Sounds like a controlling b}#%, and also fearful of not being in close enough quarters to impact your marriage and feel secure that you are close enough to take care of her if needed.

Not good. Family!! Hard to negotiate all the pitfalls of said relationships.

Empathizing here- had mom in law problems as well. They subsided healthily once we moved farther away, with random visits to assuage concerns on her part. Also paid a neighbor of hers to check in and run occasional errands. Not a lot of $, but so worth it.

I emphasize RANDOM, in that a promise of regularity brings much friction if not abided to. Said relative will park by their door, awaiting the promised time and will place endless calls asking where you are.

[cbrer]

17. Some insensitive types would say to GROW SOME BALLS nt

[MrMickeysMom]

19. That was MIL, which means...

SHE would have to grow a "set".

[cbrer]

22. Not that I would say such a thing...

But an insensitive type would point out that it wasn't meant biologically.

[MrMickeysMom]

30. Well... you know what a wise woman once said...

"Balls", said the Queen... "If I had TWO, I'd be King!"

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[Marrah_G]

18. Word of advice, next time do not show her

She sounds like a control freak.

[Panasonic]

20. Tell your MIL mind her own business and she is *NOT* welcome to your apartment.

You and your SO should meet in a neutral place for lunch, dinner, and whatnot.

Oh, and if that woman wants to hire a maid service to thoroughly clean the apartment before moving in, tell her you'll accept the service, but she has to pay for it.

[nenagh]

21. My daughter and I looked at condominiums in Toronto and I shall never forget it..

Everyplace we looked at, the condos were very clean and spruced up..

Then we got to a place..some walls were orange, there was a drum set in the diningroom and a broken down couch in the living room. I'm sure the place hadn't been really cleaned in years... though there were no actual dirty dishes in the sink...

The toilet seat was hanging by a thread.. The baseboards..who knew? The floors, cupboards..yikes...

I fell in love with the place immediately and my daughter lived there, after some clean up..very happily.

I always think that the advantage of a place that is less than pristine..is that the price is often better...

A lovely MotherInLaw, would don rubber gloves and bring all the cleaning gear to help in the transformation...

Dry the tears..... It is such an easy fix.... Good luck...

[Mariana]

23. What's not so easy to fix

is the MIL trying to kill the deal by calling the city on the landlord. Even if the landlord is not in violation and the rental goes on as planned, the relationship between the landlord and the OP may be affected.

[nenagh]

27. True... The MIL ..a truely difficult person...

who feels entitled to be destructive...

[MrSlayer]

24. Why did you invite her at all?

Sounds like she's a completely unpleasant person. I don't see why you would bother with her for any reason.

[dembotoz]

25. do be careful sounds like hell for you wife

take care and support her

[Sedona]

26. I'm so sorry to say...

I don't give your marriage much chance to last long with a MIL like that.