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Since I don't know you... who else thinks that sex has become too much work?
This discussion thread was locked as off-topic by Emile (a host of the General Discussion forum).
Haha.
I don't like it any more. My S.O. doesn't seem to mind.
I'm getting up there. In age, I mean. I'm pretty physically fit, though.
Trying to remember at what age I turned the corner... 58, maybe?
I actually feel FREE!
Am I alone in this?
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Comfortable positions are hard to find.
Easier to just think about it and remember the good old days instead. 
Elderly residents at a care home in southern Sweden - some aged as old as 90 - are being given 'pleasure baskets' filled with lubricants, dildos, penis pumps and penis rings to spice up their sex life, AFP's Camille Bas-Wohlert reports.
https://www.thelocal.se/20230210/swedish-home-helps-aged-residents-spice-up-their-sex-lives/
Liselott Klang, head of the Lindgården retirement home, has been working for a year on helping elderly residents enjoy sexual fulfilment. Photo: Sergei Gapon/AFP
“It’s a good book!” 97-year-old Nils exclaims, skimming through a brochure on sexual relations and desires among seniors, in the common room at his retirement home in Sweden. Here, at the Lindgården facility in the southern village of Broby, the 56 residents aged 65 and above can now avail of a recently added programme on how to lead a healthy sex life.
There are no sex toys or pornography lining the tidy halls. But when a new person moves in, they’re immediately offered an informal discussion on intimacy and desire. “The counsellor has a conversation with the client and asks him or her some of the questions we’ve established about sexual health,” Lindgården director Liselott Klang, 54, told AFP.
She started the project a year ago, initially as a way of allowing her employees to discuss the topic without embarrassment. “Previously, employees didn’t feel comfortable when they saw a resident masturbating in public, or really couldn’t understand why someone needed help booking a hotel room,” Klang explained.
To make the seniors feel more comfortable, the establishment has put together a “pleasure basket” with creams and sex toys the residents can buy. The basket contains, among other things, a “Please do not disturb” sign, various creams and lubricants, dildos, penis pumps and penis rings. Emilie Nilsson, a 39-year-old care assistant, admits she was originally apprehensive. “It was a bit scary at first,” she said. “But the more you work on it, the more you understand that it’s not just about sex. It’s about closeness, and that everyone needs a hug. So now it’s all very natural.”
‘It’s about intimacy’.......
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https://www.thelocal.se/20230210/swedish-home-helps-aged-residents-spice-up-their-sex-lives/
Liselott Klang, head of the Lindgården retirement home, has been working for a year on helping elderly residents enjoy sexual fulfilment. Photo: Sergei Gapon/AFP
“It’s a good book!” 97-year-old Nils exclaims, skimming through a brochure on sexual relations and desires among seniors, in the common room at his retirement home in Sweden. Here, at the Lindgården facility in the southern village of Broby, the 56 residents aged 65 and above can now avail of a recently added programme on how to lead a healthy sex life.
There are no sex toys or pornography lining the tidy halls. But when a new person moves in, they’re immediately offered an informal discussion on intimacy and desire. “The counsellor has a conversation with the client and asks him or her some of the questions we’ve established about sexual health,” Lindgården director Liselott Klang, 54, told AFP.
She started the project a year ago, initially as a way of allowing her employees to discuss the topic without embarrassment. “Previously, employees didn’t feel comfortable when they saw a resident masturbating in public, or really couldn’t understand why someone needed help booking a hotel room,” Klang explained.
To make the seniors feel more comfortable, the establishment has put together a “pleasure basket” with creams and sex toys the residents can buy. The basket contains, among other things, a “Please do not disturb” sign, various creams and lubricants, dildos, penis pumps and penis rings. Emilie Nilsson, a 39-year-old care assistant, admits she was originally apprehensive. “It was a bit scary at first,” she said. “But the more you work on it, the more you understand that it’s not just about sex. It’s about closeness, and that everyone needs a hug. So now it’s all very natural.”
‘It’s about intimacy’.......
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Make sure it's a picture book. 
Not work!
Sex Among Residents in Nursing Homes Increasing - VeryWell
Link: https://www.verywellhealth.com/sex-in-nursing-homes-197767
Polls: https://www.healthyagingpoll.org/
Looks like I have something to look forward to.
Sex among residents in nursing homes and other long-term care facilities is still a taboo subject. Yet it happens. A lot!
About 40% of people between ages 65 and 80 are sexually active, according to a survey from the National Poll on Healthy Aging, sponsored by AARP and the University of Michigan.
For older people with dementia living in residential aged care facilities (RACFs), the issue becomes more complex. Staff often struggle to balance residents' rights with their duty of care, and negative attitudes towards older people's sexuality can lead to residents' sexual expression being overlooked, ignored, or even discouraged. In particular, questions as to whether residents with dementia are able to consent to sexual activity or physically intimate relationships pose a challenge to RACF staff, and current legislation does little to assist them.
About 40% of people between ages 65 and 80 are sexually active, according to a survey from the National Poll on Healthy Aging, sponsored by AARP and the University of Michigan.
For older people with dementia living in residential aged care facilities (RACFs), the issue becomes more complex. Staff often struggle to balance residents' rights with their duty of care, and negative attitudes towards older people's sexuality can lead to residents' sexual expression being overlooked, ignored, or even discouraged. In particular, questions as to whether residents with dementia are able to consent to sexual activity or physically intimate relationships pose a challenge to RACF staff, and current legislation does little to assist them.
Link: https://www.verywellhealth.com/sex-in-nursing-homes-197767
Polls: https://www.healthyagingpoll.org/
Looks like I have something to look forward to.
