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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMa (Little Star) passed away today at 5:08 pm eastern.
She loved DU.
She passed at my home that we shared for many years, with her four daughters comforting her.
Hardest thing I ever had to do, but the most necessary.
She was one hell of a strong woman. My best friend, my rock. The smartest, the most common sense, one hell of an intuition, full of life, strongest, loving women one would ever be privileged, to know.
She is no longer suffering, but I am going to miss her more than I could possibly express.
Rest In Peace Ma.
DarthDem
(5,255 posts)May she rest in peace.
Ohiogal
(32,000 posts)Peace to all of you
KT2000
(20,577 posts)It's hard to lose your mom. Peace to you. And RIP Little Star.
Ms. Toad
(34,073 posts)The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,705 posts)malaise
(269,004 posts)3catwoman3
(23,993 posts)...to one another.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)kimbutgar
(21,153 posts)hlthe2b
(102,279 posts)I know what that "hole in the heart" feels like, but I'm forever amazed now that I can see so much of my late Mom in myself and in my sister. She is definitely still with us in that respect. And I can much more readily remember a funny or happy story now after time has passed, rather than the pain of loss. May that happen for you and your sisters too and may your mother RIP.
Solly Mack
(90,767 posts)ucrdem
(15,512 posts)We got your back boston bean.
uppityperson
(115,677 posts)Shaddox
(384 posts)dewsgirl
(14,961 posts)ismnotwasm
(41,984 posts)sheshe2
(83,771 posts)I am so glad you and your sisters were there in the end to hold her hand and give her all the love in your hearts.
I know you are hurting. I want to say I loved Little Star, she made DU a better place'
How I wonder what you are.
Up above the world so high,
Like a diamond in the sky.Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are.
When the blazing sun is gone,
When he nothing shines upon,
Then you show your little light,
Twinkle, twinkle, all the night.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
Love and hugs to you and yours.
She will still be shining brightly above the world so high.
Sweet dreams, Little Star.
Squinch
(50,949 posts)2naSalit
(86,629 posts)I am glad you were able to be together for that. Many will not be able to with the virus. Virus or not, my mom will be going soon and I hope it's after the isolating s over but I'm thinking it will be sooner. Called her today to try and chat, she was lucid today so I made sure to tell her I love her, I never know if it's the last time we will ever speak.
Do take care of yourself.
ornotna
(10,801 posts)RIP Little Star
FM123
(10,053 posts)femmedem
(8,203 posts)What a beautiful description of her. May she rest in peace, and may your grief ease in time, knowing you did all you could for her and that she knew she was loved.
applegrove
(118,659 posts)vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Cha
(297,240 posts)LuckyCharms
(17,440 posts)underpants
(182,807 posts)Quackers
(2,256 posts)denbot
(9,899 posts)Peace to you and yours.
live love laugh
(13,111 posts)Me.
(35,454 posts)aikoaiko
(34,170 posts)tavernier
(12,388 posts)I well remember.
revmclaren
(2,523 posts)Zoonart
(11,866 posts)Love never dies.
MLAA
(17,294 posts)samnsara
(17,622 posts)dflprincess
(28,078 posts)Peace to you and your family.
crickets
(25,980 posts)Demsrule86
(68,576 posts)jmbar2
(4,887 posts)Your posts about her here on DU showed how much she was loved and honored. I wish you peace as you learn to live with this big hole in your heart.
oasis
(49,387 posts)babylonsister
(171,066 posts)You did with your family.
milestogo
(16,829 posts)Lost my mom 2 years ago, and I miss her every day.
pdxflyboy
(675 posts)I lost my Mom on 4/9/88 at 7:25 am. My consoling hugs go out to you. You you will never forget that date and time. Peace to you.(
cayugafalls
(5,641 posts)She will be in my prayers this evening.
Hekate
(90,690 posts)cate94
(2,811 posts)May she RIP.
emmaverybo
(8,144 posts)Pachamama
(16,887 posts)I have been following your updates this last week and I am so sorry to hear she has passed...
I remember your mom on DU since way back...
Big hug to you
CousinIT
(9,245 posts)Peace and strength be with you at this difficult time.
gademocrat7
(10,658 posts)Take care.
kentuck
(111,097 posts)It was our loss, too. Peace to Little Star.
JohnnyLib2
(11,212 posts)And much admiration for your devotion and care giving.
Docreed2003
(16,860 posts)My deepest condolences during the awful time. My thoughts are with you and yours!
StevieM
(10,500 posts)May she rest in peace.
still_one
(92,192 posts)helpisontheway
(5,008 posts)mokawanis
(4,441 posts)mercuryblues
(14,532 posts)mahina
(17,659 posts)Love to you and Little Star.
How do we survive these moments?
Danmel
(4,915 posts)May sweet memories of your beloved mom always bring you comfort.
musicman65
(524 posts)However music heals
Crabby Appleton
(5,231 posts)R I P
Karadeniz
(22,521 posts)tblue37
(65,367 posts)MaryMagdaline
(6,855 posts)mcar
(42,333 posts)and I am so sorry for your loss.
demtenjeep
(31,997 posts)George II
(67,782 posts)Control-Z
(15,682 posts)I wish you comfort and peace.
BigmanPigman
(51,593 posts)and I am still in shock and dealing with it. He used to say to me when I was little, "Where are you, little star...here I am". I hope you deal with your loss better than me.
FailureToCommunicate
(14,014 posts)Little Star
herding cats
(19,564 posts)My heart is with all of you who loved her dearly.
IADEMO2004
(5,554 posts)irisblue
(32,975 posts)CountMyVote4Reality
(209 posts)So sorry for your loss.
NoRoadUntravelled
(2,626 posts)May you and your sisters know peace and comfort as you go through this sad time.
barbtries
(28,795 posts)iluvtennis
(19,861 posts)OhioChick
(23,218 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)My condolences to you and your family.
TheBlackAdder
(28,201 posts).
It's nice to hear that all of your sisters were with her and you in her final moments.
Take solace in being there with your mother and helping her though her final years, as it sounds as though she had medical problems.
Caring for one's parents is a very draining task that often goes unmentioned, more so than raising children, but it really is a spectacular accomplishment and one that you will look back upon with great pride. It also speaks worlds of your selfishness and devotion to family.
I wish I could say that the pain goes away, but over time it more like buries itself, waiting to surface again and again.
.
berni_mccoy
(23,018 posts)Silver Gaia
(4,544 posts)Your mother is and has been missed here.
May peace be with you and your loved ones.
mzmolly
(50,992 posts)your loss.
blogslut
(38,000 posts)...and joy in the future.
RestoreAmerica2020
(3,435 posts)peggysue2
(10,829 posts)Condolences to you and your family
Kali
(55,008 posts)dalton99a
(81,510 posts)R.I.P. Little Star
pazzyanne
(6,556 posts)scarletwoman
(31,893 posts)LostOne4Ever
(9,288 posts)My mother passed away just a little under 3 months ago and Im still feeling numb. But the world keeps on moving and all loving mothers would want their children to keep on living as best as we can.
May you find all the solace you need from your friends and/or family in this trying time.
niyad
(113,315 posts)I know that words are not adequate now, but know that your DU family is here for yup.
Rest gently, Little Star.
murielm99
(30,741 posts)backtoblue
(11,343 posts)peacebuzzard
(5,173 posts)Little Star so bright, on the wings of angels.
I am so sorry for your sad loss.
joost5
(421 posts)TygrBright
(20,760 posts)And that gift will endure.
May the pain of loss bear you to the transcendence of loving memory.
respectfully,
Bright
Harker
(14,018 posts)Maraya1969
(22,480 posts)InAbLuEsTaTe
(24,122 posts)Midnight Writer
(21,767 posts)LisaM
(27,812 posts)Take care.
Greybnk48
(10,168 posts)You've been a good daughter and a good friend to your mom. My deepest sympathies for your loss.
EllieBC
(3,014 posts)Im so sorry.
nolabear
(41,963 posts)Bettie
(16,109 posts)I wish you peace in the coming days.
StarryNite
(9,445 posts)NBachers
(17,110 posts)Bless you all for helping Little Star cross
radical noodle
(8,000 posts)I'm so sorry. Always know your DU family is here when you need us.
Duppers
(28,120 posts)"The deeper the love, the deeper the grief."
Your mom, Little Star, deserves her martyr status.
Coventina
(27,120 posts)Trueblue Texan
(2,430 posts)...and sending you loving thoughts that your appreciative memories of such an amazing woman will hold you up and help you in your pain and sadness.
Withywindle
(9,988 posts)I am so so sorry for your loss.
William769
(55,147 posts)Demonaut
(8,917 posts)Fla Dem
(23,673 posts)Peace to you and all your family, Remember the good times.
Gothmog
(145,264 posts)LittleGirl
(8,287 posts)orleans
(34,051 posts)"Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened.
Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you,
and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near,
just round the corner.
All is well.
Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!"
("This poem is often read at funerals. The author, Henry Scott-Holland (1847 - 1918), a priest at St. Paul's Cathedral of London, did not intend it as a poem, it was actually delivered as part of a sermon in 1910. The sermon, titled, "Death the King of Terrors" was preached while the body of King Edward VII was lying in state at Westminster."
and this:
"Your Mother is always with you.
She's the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street.
She's the smell of certain foods you remember, flowers you pick and
perfume that she wore.
She's the cool hand on your brow when you're not feeling well.
She's your breath in the air on a cold winter's day.
She is the sound of the rain that lulls you to sleep, the colors of a
rainbow.
She is Christmas morning.
Your Mother lives inside your laughter.
She's crystallized in every teardrop.
A mother shows every emotion .......... happiness, sadness, fear,
jealousy, love, hate, anger, helplessness, excitement, joy,
sorrow... and all the while, hoping and praying you will only know the good
feelings in life. She's the place you came from, your first home, and she's
the map you follow with every step you take.
She's your first love; your first friend, even your first enemy, but
nothing on earth can separate you. Not time, not space...not
even death!"
-author unknown
Meowmee
(5,164 posts)7wo7rees
(5,128 posts)jdadd
(1,314 posts)DFW
(54,387 posts)It's never easy. Never.
Raine
(30,540 posts)Sounds like she was a very special person, you're lucky to have had her for your mother. 💞
Demovictory9
(32,456 posts)Granny M
(1,395 posts)So very sorry. Sending you love and peace in this time of sorrow. RIP, Little Star.
GoneOffShore
(17,339 posts)SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)BlueMTexpat
(15,369 posts)All my condolences!
She was very fortunate to have such loving children and to have spent her last hours with them.
littlemissmartypants
(22,656 posts)I hope you find comfort in the memories she left behind. ❤
seaglass
(8,171 posts)tishaLA
(14,176 posts)Thoughts go out to you and your family.
raccoon
(31,111 posts)N_E_1 for Tennis
(9,727 posts)Hortensis
(58,785 posts)I'm glad you have each other, Boston.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)I'm glad you have each other, Boston.
sarge43
(28,941 posts)EarthFirst
(2,900 posts)klook
(12,155 posts)I lost mine last year. But you'll never lose her love.
So sorry for your loss.
Response to boston bean (Original post)
klook This message was self-deleted by its author.
octoberlib
(14,971 posts)Losing a parent is especially hard.
KY_EnviroGuy
(14,491 posts)Moms are with us forever in our hearts each day.
Mine is still, after all these years and at 72 now I walk with her often for solitude and repose.
RIP, Little Star.......
BooScout
(10,406 posts)Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)LiberalLoner
(9,761 posts)😭🙏
R B Garr
(16,954 posts)Sorry to hear this news.
MineralMan
(146,312 posts)blm
(113,061 posts)((boston bean))
npk
(3,660 posts)Anon-C
(3,430 posts)stillcool
(32,626 posts)don't know of many women that have had the kind of relationship with their mother, that you obviously have. I'm sorry for your loss, but I thank you for expressing what love is.
bluestarone
(16,943 posts)sinkingfeeling
(51,457 posts)Leith
(7,809 posts)It's rough. Very rough. Some day, once you get through the worst of it, you will be able to think of her and smile. I haven't reached that stage yet.
dawn5651
(604 posts)volstork
(5,401 posts)spanone
(135,838 posts)raccoon
(31,111 posts)Stuart G
(38,427 posts)Andy823
(11,495 posts)I am sorry for your loss.
lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)RIP Little Star.
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)brer cat
(24,565 posts)GentryDixon
(2,951 posts)TuxedoKat
(3,818 posts)for the loss of your beloved mother.
edbermac
(15,939 posts)NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)...
Soph0571
(9,685 posts)SalmonChantedEvening
(31,951 posts)Sending love and light your way.
lapucelle
(18,265 posts)wendyb-NC
(3,327 posts)Please know you are all in my prayers. May your, Ma, Little Star R.I.P.
warmfeet
(3,321 posts)My heartfelt condolences.
Love helps us all. Keep it.
DonaldsRump
(7,715 posts)Peacetrain
(22,877 posts)Phentex
(16,334 posts)Sending you a virtual hug. I hope you feel the DU love.
Marrah_Goodman
(1,586 posts)ProfessorGAC
(65,044 posts)My wife & I have lost both lost both parents, so we get it.
Take care.
VOX
(22,976 posts)I know how difficult this time is for you. Know that you are connected and much loved here.
Go safely, and be well
Throckmorton
(3,579 posts)A passing is hard, and in these times it is extra trying. I am sorry for your pain, may it soon pass.
Love, Throckmorton
Renew Deal
(81,859 posts)Please stay strong.
Permanut
(5,608 posts)heartbreaking. I hope she knew what you just said about her.
yardwork
(61,621 posts)Stinky The Clown
(67,799 posts)calimary
(81,267 posts)Such a sorrowful time. And then this on top of everything else.
Im so sorry. Let DU keep a vigil with you. For her.