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CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:31 AM Jun 2019

My friend is still upset from the last election debate where HRC let Trump stalk her from

behind as she was speaking. "She shudda turned around and said "WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? SIT DOWN!"

He's replaying all this stuff in his mind (a good Dem, he was a shop steward for his plumbers' union). I said I don't think ANY female Dem candidate would allow that now!

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My friend is still upset from the last election debate where HRC let Trump stalk her from (Original Post) CTyankee Jun 2019 OP
I was pissed malaise Jun 2019 #1
Frankly, the moderators should have shut Bettie Jun 2019 #2
Yes indeed. They let it happen. dameatball Jun 2019 #7
Yes, they should have. They let him octoberlib Jun 2019 #8
This. n/t demmiblue Jun 2019 #12
+1 they could have told him to go back to his space treestar Jun 2019 #24
+1 dalton99a Jun 2019 #34
He wasn't nearly as close as the camera view suggested. Hortensis Jun 2019 #50
No, it isn;t -- it is just another time when ryles are too good for him obamanut2012 Jun 2019 #116
You know, Obama's still around, writing, talking. Hortensis Jun 2019 #122
Hillary should have turned, glared at him & said loudly, stop stalking me U pervert, trueblue2007 Jun 2019 #64
That kind of reaction would only draw accusations of paranoia and man-hating. GoCubsGo Jun 2019 #72
Or... wryter2000 Jun 2019 #108
The moderators should have stopped Trump from seating Kathleen Willey, Juanita Broaddrick sop Jun 2019 #69
This. I couldn't believe everyone pretended nothing was going on here. BlancheSplanchnik Jun 2019 #74
OMG - look how teeny his hands are! Talitha Jun 2019 #117
👏🏾👍🏾😆 BlancheSplanchnik Jun 2019 #121
And they should have cut his mic when it wasn't his turn to speak. Talitha Jun 2019 #118
Armchair quarterbacks. Demit Jun 2019 #3
EXACTLY! EffieBlack Jun 2019 #16
I thought they were letting the world see what creepy fool he is. greatauntoftriplets Jun 2019 #40
Agree. Agree. Agree. Hortensis Jun 2019 #49
I don't think she made a mistake Bettie Jun 2019 #80
This. nt Tipperary Jun 2019 #84
It was disturbing to see loyalsister Jun 2019 #111
She handled it with aplomb. She would have been a good president. Demit Jun 2019 #123
She should have turned around and clocked him in the face. gordianot Jun 2019 #4
This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Jun 2019 #5
I'm not a violent person but I wanted to slap octoberlib Jun 2019 #6
It didn't bother me at the time, but it seems it did hurt Clinton. marylandblue Jun 2019 #9
"feminist rant"? irisblue Jun 2019 #43
Sometimes rants are good ✊ marylandblue Jun 2019 #46
Note what happened to Kamala Harris recently fallrey Jun 2019 #62
Interesting question as to whether a woman can respond effectively. marylandblue Jun 2019 #68
Women have to find mercuryblues Jun 2019 #78
IMO, the line is not imaginary, it's just very, very narrow and hard to see. marylandblue Jun 2019 #83
What? Tipperary Jun 2019 #86
Not sure what you think it sounds like. marylandblue Jun 2019 #96
That doesn't comport with reality. Caliman73 Jun 2019 #70
This is nothing but the truth. StarfishSaver Jun 2019 #73
Yes, you are correct, that almost certainly would have happened. marylandblue Jun 2019 #98
The future of our country lies in the hands of competent women. Caliman73 Jun 2019 #124
In an interview later Hillary said she was very aware of what he was doing lunatica Jun 2019 #10
Not from a position of weakness but from strength. I think my friend was saying that she should CTyankee Jun 2019 #21
Yes, but she didn't at the time. lunatica Jun 2019 #35
Trump knrw what he was doing. His supporters got the message. irisblue Jun 2019 #45
John McCain did the same Scarsdale Jun 2019 #63
Do you really think he would have complied? EleanorR Jun 2019 #81
Maybe she could have just said she would stop til he got seated. I think the moderator would CTyankee Jun 2019 #82
The she would have been criticized for being overly sensitive EleanorR Jun 2019 #85
Ah, but here's a retort to that: CTyankee Jun 2019 #88
Then people would have said he rattled her EleanorR Jun 2019 #90
Some people, yes. I, myself, wasn't disturbed by her ignoring him. I was furious with him, tho. CTyankee Jun 2019 #92
Your friend has no standing to tell Hillary Clinton what she "should" or should not do. cwydro Jun 2019 #120
And she had to make a choice treestar Jun 2019 #22
Yep, I agree Metatron Jun 2019 #66
If you mean me, I most certainly am not judging her. marylandblue Jun 2019 #104
I was agreeing with you treestar Jun 2019 #106
Ok, thank you. I know it's a sensitive topic, so I'm trying to mindful of that. marylandblue Jun 2019 #107
I'm still bothered by the fact that HE stalked HER. demmiblue Jun 2019 #11
Great point EffieBlack Jun 2019 #17
This! mcar Jun 2019 #31
I don't think he was. He was angrier at Trump and wanted him put down hard. CTyankee Jun 2019 #55
Or just giving him a quick glance Zambero Jun 2019 #13
It must be nice to be so certain what someone else should do in a specific moment EffieBlack Jun 2019 #18
No one can ever claim to be certain Zambero Jun 2019 #29
You think she would have carried Michigan, Pennsylvania and Wisconsin if she had turned and told him EffieBlack Jun 2019 #42
And if she'd done that, she'd have been criticized for letting him rattle her, throw her off EffieBlack Jun 2019 #14
"Clinton attacks Trump for walking behind her. Too sensitive to be Prez?" mcar Jun 2019 #33
She would have been called "bossy" Takket Jun 2019 #39
trump should have turned a lot of voters off, but white wingers loved it. Still hard to accept. Hoyt Jun 2019 #15
She lost with her own demographic Zambero Jun 2019 #30
That is very victim-blaming treestar Jun 2019 #19
I don't think he was saying that at all. If anything, he was saying that Trump should have been CTyankee Jun 2019 #25
She should have kneed him in the nads pecosbob Jun 2019 #20
Or, "Donald, are you having trouble finding your chair? It's over there....there you go." tanyev Jun 2019 #23
I agree; it was the moderator's fault. LuvNewcastle Jun 2019 #26
The moderator should have simply asked him, "Why are you stalking Mrs. Clinton, sir?" sop Jun 2019 #67
I thought it made him look like a complete psycho. smirkymonkey Jun 2019 #58
I remember that, and it still pisses me off. She made the decision at the time to ignore... TreasonousBastard Jun 2019 #27
He's a bully and the traditional way to handle a bully mnhtnbb Jun 2019 #54
And What Should She Have Done? Me. Jun 2019 #28
Yeah, I hear ya... prolly wuda won Hillary the election if she had read tRump the riot act for that! InAbLuEsTaTe Jun 2019 #32
Or not. EffieBlack Jun 2019 #44
she would have been described as a shrill angry out of control woman treestar Jun 2019 #53
But at least she'd be described today as the President of the United States cuz that's what she'd be InAbLuEsTaTe Jun 2019 #112
You really think if she had said something, she'd have won Wisconsin, Pennsylvania and Michigan? StarfishSaver Jun 2019 #119
Russia would TOTALLY have backed off, and the GOP got rid of the data ehrnst Jun 2019 #125
I was totally pissed. redstatebluegirl Jun 2019 #36
I still think, if we're gonna play the "shoulda" game... JHB Jun 2019 #37
The fact is she stayed cool and persisted in her goal. delisen Jun 2019 #38
I expect this thread to go as well a the recent Anita Hill/Joe Biden thread. SMC22307 Jun 2019 #41
No shit. Tipperary Jun 2019 #87
As others have already pointed out Hav Jun 2019 #47
Agreed fallrey Jun 2019 #61
*ALLOW*? WTeverlovin'F???? Baltimike Jun 2019 #48
I'm still pissed about it, myself. Paladin Jun 2019 #51
"If only she hadn't been wearing that short skirt, been on that dark street, gone to his room ..." StarfishSaver Jun 2019 #52
Oh, cmon! That's not the same thing and you know it! CTyankee Jun 2019 #56
Yep, sounds like your "friend " is blaming Hillary. Tipperary Jun 2019 #89
Well, since he voted for her I am assuming he feels she is qualified to be president. CTyankee Jun 2019 #91
Voting's important but not everything StarfishSaver Jun 2019 #94
well, we were just indulging in a conversational bash of Trump, something I often do with several CTyankee Jun 2019 #95
It's great they're supporters of our women candidates StarfishSaver Jun 2019 #97
If any of them falter, I will be there to remind them of what you say. CTyankee Jun 2019 #99
Awesome! StarfishSaver Jun 2019 #100
Watching some clips of Republican debates, Trump uses male dominance as a tool cally Jun 2019 #57
I remember that 2016 Town Hall Debate Niagara Jun 2019 #59
How about this? greymattermom Jun 2019 #60
Tell your friend she did fine MustLoveBeagles Jun 2019 #65
Why would anyone stillcool Jun 2019 #71
I can guarantee you he has issues with women and I'll bet there's a lot about his mother... llmart Jun 2019 #75
I've always suspected he hates his mother for not protecting him from his father StarfishSaver Jun 2019 #76
I agree. cwydro Jun 2019 #101
+1 MrsCoffee Jun 2019 #109
In the 2000 debate, Gore invaded Bush's personal space. Drunken Irishman Jun 2019 #77
Damned if she did and damned if she didn't, but I blame the moderators for not telling him... Hekate Jun 2019 #79
Same here - I was up screaming at the mods to do something!! Runningdawg Jun 2019 #102
I agree, Runningdawg. Totally Tunsie Jun 2019 #113
I know, the moderators. Do they have ear devices during something like this? sprinkleeninow Jun 2019 #115
I don't blame Hillary marlakay Jun 2019 #93
I think you friend might need to spend some time thinking about what women face everyday. cwydro Jun 2019 #103
The first time is hard but once you smack a perv, it becomes a reflex. Runningdawg Jun 2019 #105
She should've had an MP3 of The Police singing Don't Stand So Close To Me, & played it into the mic NBachers Jun 2019 #110
We were sponsors for babies baptized in the Orthodox Church. sprinkleeninow Jun 2019 #114
If she had done that, the media would have KILLED her over it NewJeffCT Jun 2019 #126
I'd have loved that - but honestly - she was damned if she did and DAMNED if she didn't. Maru Kitteh Jun 2019 #127
FFS Proud Liberal Dem Jun 2019 #128

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
50. He wasn't nearly as close as the camera view suggested.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 12:44 PM
Jun 2019

Imo, all this noise over that is overreaction. In other words, silly.

As for those grabbing this chance as always to blame Hillary, or just as bad to cast her as a passive victim, as if she didn't do superbly on that stage, imo silly is too nice a word.

obamanut2012

(26,154 posts)
116. No, it isn;t -- it is just another time when ryles are too good for him
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 06:58 PM
Jun 2019

It is not "overreaction" -- what you are saying is UNDERREACTION.

trueblue2007

(17,240 posts)
64. Hillary should have turned, glared at him & said loudly, stop stalking me U pervert,
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 01:32 PM
Jun 2019

get away from me !


If he got weird .... rude or violent, should have slapped him across the face.

GoCubsGo

(32,095 posts)
72. That kind of reaction would only draw accusations of paranoia and man-hating.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 02:33 PM
Jun 2019

He would have loved it if he had provoked that kind of reaction from her. Better that she blew him off and ignored him. He hates being ignored. I would prefer that she just glanced back, rolled her eyes, and shook her head in disgust, while continuing on with her point.

sop

(10,274 posts)
69. The moderators should have stopped Trump from seating Kathleen Willey, Juanita Broaddrick
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 02:20 PM
Jun 2019

and Kathy Shelton in the front rows at the presidential debate. He wanted to bring Jennifer Flowers, but she backed out. Trump is a total sleazeball.

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
74. This. I couldn't believe everyone pretended nothing was going on here.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 02:47 PM
Jun 2019

Same for the disgusting chair-humping. I could jump through plate glass doors when I think of that. And the cartoonish “badass” squinting. And the stalking. Grrrr

 

Demit

(11,238 posts)
3. Armchair quarterbacks.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:36 AM
Jun 2019

She made a decision in the moment to ignore him. It wasn't a bad decision—he wanted the attention. She deprived him of a reaction.

I love how people know what they wudda done, lol.

greatauntoftriplets

(175,753 posts)
40. I thought they were letting the world see what creepy fool he is.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 11:44 AM
Jun 2019

And I loved the way that Hillary ignored him like a pesky mosquito.

loyalsister

(13,390 posts)
111. It was disturbing to see
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 06:16 PM
Jun 2019

And most of us would not know how to respond to something so incomprehensible. I'm sure the situation was far outside of anything she was prepared for.

To fault her for not responding seems like victim blaming.

gordianot

(15,246 posts)
4. She should have turned around and clocked him in the face.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:37 AM
Jun 2019

But that is hindsight. I seem to remember stories about Bill with a suspicious bruise.

Response to CTyankee (Original post)

marylandblue

(12,344 posts)
9. It didn't bother me at the time, but it seems it did hurt Clinton.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:41 AM
Jun 2019

No, I don't think any female candidate will let it go this time. Nor would they let go of that "nasty woman" comment.

Especially not Warren, who I can see shifting into a feminist rant that drives the audience wild.

fallrey

(36 posts)
62. Note what happened to Kamala Harris recently
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 01:20 PM
Jun 2019

There is no good response to a potentially threatening male being given access to a female politician when she is speaking publicly. The two situations (Harris, Clinton) were very different, but what upset me and angered me so much is that nothing either did would erase the visual of an out of order and potentially threatening male demonstrating attempted dominance. Fantasies aside, there is no win in either case. Both should have been prevented by the organizers of the events.

marylandblue

(12,344 posts)
68. Interesting question as to whether a woman can respond effectively.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 02:13 PM
Jun 2019

It's admittedly difficult. I think there needs to be perfect balance between indignation and calm.

Even the most patriarchical societies have occasionally produced powerful women. Queen Elizabeth I is the best known example, but she's not alone. They must have had extraordinary talents to keep men off balance.

If anyone today can do it, Warren can.

mercuryblues

(14,547 posts)
78. Women have to find
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 03:02 PM
Jun 2019

the imaginary, narrow line during a campaign and stick to it, so as not to offend anyone. Men get to stalk women on stage, call for chants of lock her up, called them nasty woman, insult their appearance, and more.

marylandblue

(12,344 posts)
83. IMO, the line is not imaginary, it's just very, very narrow and hard to see.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 04:19 PM
Jun 2019

I think Warren may have found it.

"I'm running for President because that's what girls, do."
I think that's a brilliant line.

McConnell said, "Yet, she persisted."
She made him trip over his own privilege.

I don't know what she would do in Hillary's situation and I don't know if it will work. But I'm guessing she has a plan for that.

 

Tipperary

(6,930 posts)
86. What?
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 04:27 PM
Jun 2019

“Interesting question as to whether a woman can respond effectively.”

Did you mean that to sound like it does???

marylandblue

(12,344 posts)
96. Not sure what you think it sounds like.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 04:56 PM
Jun 2019

But in politics, women are always too tough or too weak, too warm or too cold, and so on. Too ambitious or not ambitious enough. Too thinking or too feeling. It happened to Hillary. Lots of women have commented on this problem in their own lives.

I think a handful of women in politics find a balance point that work for them and use it to gain and keep power. Like Nancy Pelosi. Not that she doesn't get criticized for this or that, but she does pretty well overall. It isn't easy, so I have to admire that.

I think Warren may have found the right mix for herself. They are trying to do it to her right now, but so far, they have not succeeded.

Caliman73

(11,744 posts)
70. That doesn't comport with reality.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 02:23 PM
Jun 2019

The reality is that had Hillary Clinton turned around and "shifted into a feminist rant" as you say Warren would do, then it would have been treated in the press as Clinton becoming "emotional" and "loosing control"

That is the nature of Male Privilege and patriarchy. Whatever Clinton chose to do she would have received criticism. Women not standing up for themselves proves they are weak. Women standing up for themselves proves they are crazy and aggressive.

marylandblue

(12,344 posts)
98. Yes, you are correct, that almost certainly would have happened.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 05:02 PM
Jun 2019

But I think a handful of women get around it, in spite of it all. Warren seems to me to be one of those women. But what do I know? She sounds good to me. That's all I can really say.

Caliman73

(11,744 posts)
124. The future of our country lies in the hands of competent women.
Mon Jun 17, 2019, 12:34 AM
Jun 2019

Us men have not done well in many areas and continue making the same mistakes despite ever more dire consequences. I think that the way we get out of this is to accept the very different view points of truly progressive and left leaning women.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
10. In an interview later Hillary said she was very aware of what he was doing
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:42 AM
Jun 2019

As a woman Who is the same age as Hillary I can tell you that we learned decades ago not to show fear. She was ignoring him very deliberately. To acknowledge that she was in any way nervous would make him win. It is also political suicide to look weak or to appear to cower. Any politician, man or woman, would come across as being a coward. It was a choice she made, knowing that if she reacted to him she would come out the loser. And he would have used it to verbally attack her even more.

I get it and would have done the same thing.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
21. Not from a position of weakness but from strength. I think my friend was saying that she should
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:54 AM
Jun 2019

have TOLD him in no uncertain terms that he had to go SIT DOWN!

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
35. Yes, but she didn't at the time.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 11:22 AM
Jun 2019

Any woman, all women would second guess themselves. Men probably would too. It was a very strange thing that he did, and awkward and baffling. I know it confused everyone that watched it.

Scarsdale

(9,426 posts)
63. John McCain did the same
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 01:29 PM
Jun 2019

thing to President Obama. He kept wandering back and forth in camera range while the President was speaking. He looked like an idiot.

EleanorR

(2,395 posts)
81. Do you really think he would have complied?
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 03:09 PM
Jun 2019

I don't.

I agree that it was a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation for her.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
82. Maybe she could have just said she would stop til he got seated. I think the moderator would
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 03:56 PM
Jun 2019

have had to step in at that point.

EleanorR

(2,395 posts)
85. The she would have been criticized for being overly sensitive
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 04:25 PM
Jun 2019

And needing the moderator to step in and save her.

The story here should be, trump reduced to distraction and intimidation tactics because he can't debate the issues intelligently.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
88. Ah, but here's a retort to that:
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 04:29 PM
Jun 2019

"I see from your behavior, Mr. Trump, that you can't debate the issues here tonight, you prefer to wander around behind me on the stage. That's too bad. Most folks here came to hear what you had to say and you are disappointing them."

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
120. Your friend has no standing to tell Hillary Clinton what she "should" or should not do.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 08:14 PM
Jun 2019

Please.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
22. And she had to make a choice
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:55 AM
Jun 2019

He didn't have to make any such choice. Or, he made only the choice to do something stupid/wrong. Instead of judging him for that, we have those judging her for how she handled it!

marylandblue

(12,344 posts)
104. If you mean me, I most certainly am not judging her.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 05:22 PM
Jun 2019

I'm admiring Warren and a talent she seems to have. At least she seems that way to me. She's already done difficult things. I think she is being underestimated and she is really full of surprises. If I'm right, it will be fun to watch, at least for me. YMMV.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
106. I was agreeing with you
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 05:25 PM
Jun 2019

Hillary's choice was to ignore him, and it was a good choice and it there are a few here judging Hillary's handling of it more than they are judging Orange Donny for creating that need to make the choice.

marylandblue

(12,344 posts)
107. Ok, thank you. I know it's a sensitive topic, so I'm trying to mindful of that.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 05:34 PM
Jun 2019

Warren is my second choice, and I really think she could win. I have confidence in her abilities. She's already come back from being written off, which I thought was impossible. I'd hate for misogyny to take down another strong woman.

demmiblue

(36,899 posts)
11. I'm still bothered by the fact that HE stalked HER.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:42 AM
Jun 2019

I thought that she handled the situation well.

And I also would have cheered if she had confronted him.

 

EffieBlack

(14,249 posts)
17. Great point
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:51 AM
Jun 2019

As usual, the discussion is about how she handled being harassed and stalked, not the fact that that man harassed and stalked her.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
55. I don't think he was. He was angrier at Trump and wanted him put down hard.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 01:00 PM
Jun 2019

He's never had a harsh word for her. I think he realizes this is "monday morning quarterbacking."

Zambero

(8,974 posts)
13. Or just giving him a quick glance
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:44 AM
Jun 2019

shrugging and motioning in dismissive fashion, and resuming her debate point. Sometimes a bit of effective body language carries the day. I hate to admit this, but during that 2000 debate when Al Gore ventured in close to Bush while staring at him directly, Bush just gave him a quick jerking nod and went about his business. That split second made Gore look like a complete fool, and any merit of actual debate points became secondary. In a very close election, foolishness can become a fatal miscalculation.

 

EffieBlack

(14,249 posts)
18. It must be nice to be so certain what someone else should do in a specific moment
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:52 AM
Jun 2019

From the comfort of our Keyboard with three years hindsight

Zambero

(8,974 posts)
29. No one can ever claim to be certain
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 11:10 AM
Jun 2019

We all love our comfy keyboards and the right to free speech, don't we? But final results tend to speak for themselves, as do the many circumstances that lead up to them. Different actions will contribute to different outcomes. In a real-time debate situation, there is no do-over, although many a candidate would have wished for just that. And as always, life and history are burgeoning with "what ifs".

 

EffieBlack

(14,249 posts)
42. You think she would have carried Michigan, Pennsylvania and Wisconsin if she had turned and told him
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 11:58 AM
Jun 2019

to back off?

And if she had done that and still didn’t win the election, people would be saying if only she had kept her cool she would’ve won.

 

EffieBlack

(14,249 posts)
14. And if she'd done that, she'd have been criticized for letting him rattle her, throw her off
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:47 AM
Jun 2019

her game, getting inside her head, etc. No matter what choice she made, it would have been the wrong one for some people.

This is the quandary that women and minorities consistently find ourselves in when having to deal with micro-aggressions like this. We have to make split-second decisions about how to address them while still doing whatever we’re trying to do in that moment, Knowing that no matter what we do, it will deemed wrong by someone.

Hillary Clinton had to make an instant calculation on how to respond to him - while continuing to give an intelligent answer to a tough question. She knew that no matter what she did, she’d be attacked for it. If she confronted him, she faced criticism for being distracted, hostile, and overreacting, among other things. If she didn’t, she be attacked for “letting him get away with it.” She chose to do the latter, and stay focused, not get distracted by the bully lurking behind her, and answer the question she was given

She had to choose between two not perfect solutions. She made her choice, a perfectly reasonable one. And true to form, nearly 3 years later, people who weren’t in her shoes are questioning it.

Takket

(21,640 posts)
39. She would have been called "bossy"
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 11:39 AM
Jun 2019

Touchy.

Pushy.

Agitated.

Distracted.

Any other word to imply that she came unraveled in a tense situation

If she loses her shit because someone walks near her, how is she going to handle Putin?

So she refuses to take his bait and does her job instead, and she became weak, dominated, afraid.

When everyone is determined to find a way for you to lose, there is nothing you can do to win.

 

Hoyt

(54,770 posts)
15. trump should have turned a lot of voters off, but white wingers loved it. Still hard to accept.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:48 AM
Jun 2019

What's amazing is that so many women voted for the lying, misogynist, racist cad.

I get why ignorant white wing men went for that junk, but would have thought women would rebel against that behavior.

Zambero

(8,974 posts)
30. She lost with her own demographic
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 11:15 AM
Jun 2019

White women actually favored Trump, a proven vile misogynist if there ever was one. I still find that to be incredulous, as much so as the horrific election result itself.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
19. That is very victim-blaming
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:53 AM
Jun 2019

The Orange Bloviator did something wrong to someone. So the victim is said to have "let" him do that.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
25. I don't think he was saying that at all. If anything, he was saying that Trump should have been
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:57 AM
Jun 2019

ordered out of her space. He supported and voted for HRC and is a strong Dem.

tanyev

(42,634 posts)
23. Or, "Donald, are you having trouble finding your chair? It's over there....there you go."
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:56 AM
Jun 2019

One of the books I read recently mentioned that he planned in advance to do that because he thought it would look dominating. I thought it made him look like a crazy loon who couldn't find his slippers. But I blame the debate moderator. HRC had a lot running through her mind just then and if ‘Ignore it’ was her first instinct, I can’t fault her for that.

LuvNewcastle

(16,860 posts)
26. I agree; it was the moderator's fault.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 11:07 AM
Jun 2019

He was 'moving on her like a bitch.' He's a predator, and the debate moderator has a responsibility to keep the debate from becoming physical.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
58. I thought it made him look like a complete psycho.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 01:05 PM
Jun 2019

He looked frightening and dangerous. Any sane person should have seen that move as evidence of his unfitness for office. She was not responsible for his behavior in any way, shape or form.

TreasonousBastard

(43,049 posts)
27. I remember that, and it still pisses me off. She made the decision at the time to ignore...
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 11:09 AM
Jun 2019

him, and looking back it may not have been the right one. I wanted to knee the TV in the groin.

But, that's history, and we are looking to next year. I agree-- can't imagine any of the women now running putting up with that. At the very least, practice debates would deal with it.

If it's true that she threw books at her staff, can you imagine what Klobuchar might do to him? Warren? Harris, the prosecutor who looked murderers in the eye?

We don't know if he would try that with any of the men, but imagine Mayor Pete slowly turning around and pointing to the other lectern.

Part of me hopes he does try it again with whoever gets the nod. I vaguely remember one time back in '16 when someone called him on his bullshit and he ran off the stage. He is, after all, a coward.

mnhtnbb

(31,408 posts)
54. He's a bully and the traditional way to handle a bully
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 12:55 PM
Jun 2019

is to punch him in the face. She would have had to do it verbally, of course, but I'll wager ALL the women candidates will be prepared to slap him silly (verbally) if he tries it again.

It really bothered me at the time that the moderator didn't tell him to go back to his seat.

InAbLuEsTaTe

(24,123 posts)
32. Yeah, I hear ya... prolly wuda won Hillary the election if she had read tRump the riot act for that!
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 11:17 AM
Jun 2019

Bernie & Elizabeth 2020!!!
Welcome to the revolution!!!

treestar

(82,383 posts)
53. she would have been described as a shrill angry out of control woman
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 12:52 PM
Jun 2019

without a word about what the Orange Toxin was doing wrong.

InAbLuEsTaTe

(24,123 posts)
112. But at least she'd be described today as the President of the United States cuz that's what she'd be
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 06:27 PM
Jun 2019

Bernie & Elizabeth 2020!!!
Welcome to the revolution!!!
 

StarfishSaver

(18,486 posts)
119. You really think if she had said something, she'd have won Wisconsin, Pennsylvania and Michigan?
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 08:12 PM
Jun 2019

Interesting.

 

ehrnst

(32,640 posts)
125. Russia would TOTALLY have backed off, and the GOP got rid of the data
Mon Jun 17, 2019, 10:37 AM
Jun 2019

from Cambridge Analytica, and WI, NC and Michigan would TOTALLY have lifted those voter suppression laws... if only she had just turned around and said that.

It's always her fault, isn't it?

JHB

(37,163 posts)
37. I still think, if we're gonna play the "shoulda" game...
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 11:31 AM
Jun 2019

...the thing to do would have been a slyer putdown that knocked his cheap intimidation ploy right on its ass.

"Donald, if you're going to stand behind me huffing and puffing, could you at least do it closer? I think my jacket has a wrinkle that needs steaming out."



But she was the one there at the time and had to decide on the spot how to handle it. In the end, "shoulda"s are Monday morning quarterbacking. Useful for other people to consider how they might handle a similar situation, but what was done was done.

SMC22307

(8,090 posts)
41. I expect this thread to go as well a the recent Anita Hill/Joe Biden thread.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 11:47 AM
Jun 2019

Your plumbers' union friend should be more upset that Dirty Don stalked her and that the moderators let it go on.

Hav

(5,969 posts)
47. As others have already pointed out
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 12:21 PM
Jun 2019

this is annoying victim blaming and trying to be smart after the fact.
Norms and expectations still dictate our perceptions of how somebody should act. For similar reasons, it was said that Obama couldn't appear angry or that Biden couldn't be as hard on Palin.
To read these fantasies of how others would have pretended to act "tough" is just ridiculous and laughable.

"WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? SIT DOWN!"
Seriously? Are we talking as grown ups here? Yeah, that would have surely helped her a lot.

fallrey

(36 posts)
61. Agreed
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 01:16 PM
Jun 2019

I think people still like to blame Clinton for an amazing number of things. The premise of this idea, that she should have handled this differently, is silly at best, and I agree, that it is easily all you say.

Baltimike

(4,148 posts)
48. *ALLOW*? WTeverlovin'F????
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 12:29 PM
Jun 2019

He is blaming the victim, and it's quite frankly insulting. the onus should be on MF45 to quit being a creepy stalker, not on HRC to have eyes in the back of her head.

Paladin

(28,276 posts)
51. I'm still pissed about it, myself.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 12:46 PM
Jun 2019

That sort of rude, arrogant, stalking behavior should have been grounds for the immediate shut-down of that debate, coupled with trump being banned from all subsequent debates. If that evil motherfucker tries that sort of maneuver again, I hope to hell he pays for it, big-time.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
91. Well, since he voted for her I am assuming he feels she is qualified to be president.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 04:36 PM
Jun 2019

It's voting that counts, right?

 

StarfishSaver

(18,486 posts)
94. Voting's important but not everything
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 04:44 PM
Jun 2019

If your friend is going around criticizing Hillary for making what he thinks was the "wrong" choice here, that can have an influence on how people view other women's approaches and, eventually, have an effect on how other women deal with these issues.

Voting for Hillary's not enough if he's helping to perpetuate the very attitude that helped to keep her from the White House.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
95. well, we were just indulging in a conversational bash of Trump, something I often do with several
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 04:48 PM
Jun 2019

of our friends. Hubby refuses to talk about him, tho.

He and our friends are all BIG supporters of our women candidates.

 

StarfishSaver

(18,486 posts)
97. It's great they're supporters of our women candidates
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 04:56 PM
Jun 2019

I hope you will urge them also to be supportive of the difficult choices women candidates (and most other women) have to make and not be so critical of them when, thanks to the bias and misogyny that women still face, they must choose between a rock and a hard place.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
99. If any of them falter, I will be there to remind them of what you say.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 05:05 PM
Jun 2019

This year the outrage against Trump is so strong, I don't think I'll have to remind anybody to do what they can to stop this mad man. But we are all of an age where mobility is an issue so not a lot of them can canvass neighborhoods and ring doorbells. Phone banking is better for us.

Don't worry, I would get on anybody's case who didn't fully appreciate women's struggle against misogyny...

cally

(21,597 posts)
57. Watching some clips of Republican debates, Trump uses male dominance as a tool
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 01:02 PM
Jun 2019

He did similar to Republican candidates by standing in front of their entrance path, looking big, and dominant. Anyone who interacts with him, has to not let his physical gestures take away their power. I don’t think Clinton was bad or wrong, just next time we have to act physically dominant. Just like Macron with his handshakes with Trump. Candidates have to practice this and how to handle it.

I don’t think it’s natural for most of us to act like such jerks but we have to this time.

Niagara

(7,683 posts)
59. I remember that 2016 Town Hall Debate
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 01:12 PM
Jun 2019

I'm still upset that the very next day he bragged about checking out Hillary's backside and saying he wasn't impressed to his third-rate deplorable cult.


He should never made it to any of the debates as his campaign should have ended by any and all the following:

1. insulting a POW (John McCain)
2. insulting a Gold Star family
3. insinuating that his opponent (HRC) should be shot by a 2nd amendment supporter
4. mocking a disabled journalist

I'm sure there's more that could be added to my small but significant list. The surreal insanity of his actions should be automatic disqualifying, as should anyone else that follows suit.

greymattermom

(5,754 posts)
60. How about this?
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 01:12 PM
Jun 2019

You're doing well for someone your age, but your podium is on the other side of the stage.

MustLoveBeagles

(11,641 posts)
65. Tell your friend she did fine
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 01:40 PM
Jun 2019

As much as we would've been satisfied to see her turn around and chew him out, she would've been criticised for it. People would've said she's shrill, angry, thin skinned, she's exaggerating, making a big deal over nothing, she wants preferential treatment because she's a woman and so on. There was no way she could've won on that point. The moderators should've told him to sit his fat ass down and not crowd her.

stillcool

(32,626 posts)
71. Why would anyone
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 02:28 PM
Jun 2019

think of such a thing, let alone be upset about it? He must really have issues with women. Especially one woman. God, why do I read this stuff?

llmart

(15,556 posts)
75. I can guarantee you he has issues with women and I'll bet there's a lot about his mother...
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 02:52 PM
Jun 2019

and how she treated him that would shed some light. However, we know very little about her. Why is that?

 

Drunken Irishman

(34,857 posts)
77. In the 2000 debate, Gore invaded Bush's personal space.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 03:00 PM
Jun 2019

Bush gave him a dismissive nod and everyone laughed. Gore looked weak. It was a power move by Gore, tho, as he attempted to not appear weak. It backfired. Trump is all about showing dominance in that area and that's what that move. Hillary sought to ignore it. Clearly it didn't work.

Hekate

(90,848 posts)
79. Damned if she did and damned if she didn't, but I blame the moderators for not telling him...
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 03:03 PM
Jun 2019

...to return to his assigned seat.

That whole stalking episode triggered the hell out of me and an uncounted number of other women with its implied violence against a women.

Runningdawg

(4,526 posts)
102. Same here - I was up screaming at the mods to do something!!
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 05:21 PM
Jun 2019

I don't think he will debate the Dem candidate this time - AT ALL, no matter who it is.

Totally Tunsie

(10,885 posts)
113. I agree, Runningdawg.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 06:47 PM
Jun 2019

Frump will refuse to debate no matter who the Dem is. He'll claim he's standing on his excellent and unsurpassed record as president; not to mention, he'll by "way too busy...". There's no advantage to him taking the debate stage, and plenty of downside.

If so, let's hope the Dem nominee uses the time effectively to showcase and highlight her/his winning stance.

sprinkleeninow

(20,267 posts)
115. I know, the moderators. Do they have ear devices during something like this?
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 06:56 PM
Jun 2019

Mb got msgs. to let it all unfold and do nothing. Ratings you know.

marlakay

(11,500 posts)
93. I don't blame Hillary
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 04:40 PM
Jun 2019

When attacked like that its hard in the moment to respond. I had 80 yr old guy in senior dance class put his hand on my butt and his wife was right next to him!

I was in shock that this sweet old man did that so i said nothing. Made sure I didn’t stand next to him after that, creeped me out. I didn’t know what to say so i said nothing.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
103. I think you friend might need to spend some time thinking about what women face everyday.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 05:22 PM
Jun 2019

Much less in that circumstance.

Kinda odd that he’s “still upset” about it. That’s bizarre.

NBachers

(17,149 posts)
110. She should've had an MP3 of The Police singing Don't Stand So Close To Me, & played it into the mic
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 05:52 PM
Jun 2019

sprinkleeninow

(20,267 posts)
114. We were sponsors for babies baptized in the Orthodox Church.
Sun Jun 16, 2019, 06:51 PM
Jun 2019

At one point in the beginning of the sacrament when all are still in the narthex, the priest reads, "Do you renounce Satan?" And the godparent[s] responds on the baby's behalf, "I do renounce Satan!" And then makes a gesture of spitting in the direction of the west, minus saliva of course. I could see this being appropriate in this instance.

NewJeffCT

(56,829 posts)
126. If she had done that, the media would have KILLED her over it
Mon Jun 17, 2019, 10:49 AM
Jun 2019

"Hysterical Hillary loses it in debate versus Trump, proves she isn't mentally fit for office"

"UNFIT"

"Angry Clinton shows she is unstable"

The media spin right after the debate often decides the winner.

Hillary won all three debates going away, and after debate 3, she was pulling away in the polls - then, the Comey letter was illegally leaked to the NY Times and her numbers tanked and last minute deciders broke heavily to Donny Dollhands.

Maru Kitteh

(28,343 posts)
127. I'd have loved that - but honestly - she was damned if she did and DAMNED if she didn't.
Mon Jun 17, 2019, 01:13 PM
Jun 2019

If she had put him in his place and told him to back off she'd have been eviscerated for "scolding" him, for being too "angry," for being "scared" of him, for thinking she was too important, better than him, "elite."

There was NOTHING Hillary Clinton could do right for the media.

Nothing.


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