anyone here decided to NOT have biological children?
Question assumes you are otherwise capable of having children but have made a conscious decision to not have them.
Said decision can include any permanent birth control measures you have taken because of this decision.
Disclosure: My 2 sons have., since an early age, decided to not have kids, and in the intervening 20 years, nothing is changing their mind. I respect their decision, just wondering how common the feeling is.
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Adoption is by far the most wonderful experience of my life. People often ask me "why" I would adopt when I physically am able to have a child. This question always gives me a little chuckle inside. I think that a lot, or most, women have that "I must carry a child" feeling bred into them. I did not. When Steaven and I were only dating we agreed that we didn't want anymore children, and that if we ever changed our minds, adoption was what we wanted to do. We have both always been very aware of the number of children without loving homes. For several years before I even wanted a child, I searched for an adoption agency that I could work with to photograph children for adoption. For what ever reason, I always hit a brick wall. But, through all of that searching, I guess I saw one too many little faces needing a mommy and daddy. So, one morning I woke up and could not stop thinking about it. I had to do this. And with a little persuasion, Steaven felt the same way.
and she doesn't want any kids and I don't want any kids.
That's one of the many reasons why I fell in love with her.
Funny story - I pretty much have a lifetime free membership to Match.com because I was probably one of the first people to join it when it was a free site. So I've essentially been on it for 15 years, and I'm still trying to see if I can get its software to realize that I don't want matches sent to me if they want kids.
At one point, I programmed a database-driven Childfree dating website, partly to learn a new programming language, partly to see if I could find anyone. I got too busy and couldn't keep up with maintain it and the rest of life.
My last girlfriend was like yours. She broke up with me because even though she said she didn't want kids, she apparently did.
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I am capable of having children in the biological sense, but my physical disability makes sex less than appealing to me. Too much pain involved. 
That aside, I just don't want kids. I don't even want a spouse. People think it's strange, but I enjoy being alone and having my own life, as much as I'm able to. What's more, I wouldn't want to burden others with my problems, and I surely couldn't provide a good life for a kid.
Because in the 70's ( 1974) I had to fight like hell to get a tubal.
Seems they had formula...your age times the number of your kids had to be 140 or something..
I remember, on hearing the formula, thinking how the docs were forcing women to breed.
Also you had to have TWO dr. approvals AND a shrink eval.
If you were a woman.
My husband, as it turns out, had NO problem walking in and getting a vasectomy.
I am and have always been a firm believer in correcting the course of one's life without shame or concern for rocking the boat. I too raised my 2 kids without child support because my ex thought it was amusing to hide his inheritance and lawyer up. I did my homework, represented myself in court, and the year my youngest graduated from HS the hammer came down on him and there was a reckoning.
a kindred spirit.
I am a big believer in TIME...no matter how long it takes, the scales WILL balance out.
It's a Scorpio thing.
They told me that the biological clock would go into overdrive, but I am in my 40s now and have never regretted it - or changed my mind. My x-DH was of the same mind. I am not a depopulate person by any stretch - just never wanted to be a parent.
before we got married that we would not have children. I could not take birth control pills so my husband had a vasectomy.
It was a decision that we make together about our lives and quite frankly it annoys me to no end when people ask us why. ( not this thread, just in general )
Collectively we wanted to focus on our careers and my husband had elderly parents that we knew we would have to take care of and we did until their deaths in our home. We also have younger siblings and now nieces and nephews that have children so we get our "kid" boost frequently.
We have never regretted our decision. It's been great for us and I wish that people would respect our choices, we are not kid haters or anti-parent people. We just decided that this would be better for us.
After 12 years of marriage my husband is clinically ill. I can only thank my lucky stars that I do not have a child that would have to deal with an ill parent.
I haven't regretted it either. I've been told I'm selfish. I told them "fuck you". 
Never felt the "biological clock" tick a single tock. mr beac had the same lack of desire to parent from a young age.
Neither of my parents were ever the "When are you giving me grandbabies?" type and are 100% fine w/my decision. mr beac's mother is disappointed that neither of her kids want their own. Not having to deal w/her as a high-strung, busy-body, bad-advice-dispensing grandma is one added bonus to the childfree lifestyle. 
We are not child-haters my any means. We are both "great with kids" and enjoy their company, play and interact with them enthusiastically... and are glad that we can pick and chose the times to do so.
The "Who will take look after you when you are old?" question pisses me off b/c I've worked with the elderly and know that having one kid or many is no guarantee of care in ones golden years. Not having children allows us to put away enough money to provide for our end-of-life care, thank you very much!
I graduated in the early '70's.
I have NEVER regretted not having kids. 
I figured the best gift I could give the future generations and this space ship Earth, would be to NOT BREED.
As our society has continued, and unfortunately gone down the fundy whack job path, I am very glad I never provided more canon fodder for their wars, nor working poor stuck in low wage dead end jobs.
And...human kind needs to learn to share this planet fairly with the other beings, both animal and plant, who live here with us. 
Unfortunately, the body parts that do the breeding have no brain. 
....... then returning them to their owners at the end of the day.
I suppose if someone dropped a baby on my doorstep and I had to be a parent, I could. But I don't want to be. My brother and his wife are doing a fine job providing grand children for our parents.
I have a host of potential medical proclivities in my family like several types of cancer, Parkinson's, Alzheimer's, and male pattern baldness (okay that one's a little less serious). Also my dad is an emotionally and verbally abusive jackass and I worry that I have the potential to do that to a kid. It's bad enough that I have to worry I might do something similar to a potential partner who could at least tell me I'm being an ass and could tell me to take a hike.
But it helps that the women of the world also seem to agree that I shouldn't produce children.
My cousins collected dolls. I collected trolls & stuffed animals. When we all played house together, they 'stayed home' while I went to my vet clinic & worked with my animals.
All my life, even into my late 20s when I was still single, I heard that someday I would meet a nice man & then I would want children. I met the nice man, but the kid thing didn't change. It would have been a deal breaker, too. There was no way I was going to have kids. I was not at all interested in having that level of commitment in my life. Now, 25 years later, no regrets. It just wasn't me.
My grandmother told me I was selfish. I see how badly so many people are at parenting & I think, they are the selfish ones - bringing a child into the world & not taking the time required to raise a decent human being. Then the rest of us have to deal with the little shit. That's selfish.
