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https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a19158567/what-is-rape/Perfect Victim is the model against which all other (normal, flawed, human) victims are judged, and trust me, we all come up short. Perfect Victim says no clearly and often, fights off her attacker like a honey badger, and if she cant get away, she continues to profess her non-consent throughout the encounter, ideally by shouting no and continuing to fight as best she can. Perfect Victim has the courage of a hundred armchair quarterbacks. Perfect Victim bites and scratches. Perfect Victim spits and sobs. What she doesnt do is give in.
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Think of it as a harm reduction tactic. Fighting and screaming and kicking and yelling at a man? Unknown outcomes. Would he hit me back? Would he let me go? Would I fight and lose? If I lost, would he have sex with me anyway, only more violently?
PJMcK
(22,037 posts)lunatica
(53,410 posts)all a man has to do is back off and stop the pressure and hell find out.
Men who arent rapists know this.
MineralMan
(146,314 posts)Bettie
(16,109 posts)as a woman who was sexually abused as a child, by an adult man, I can also say that...jeez, it's hard to even get this out.
But, it puts you in a place where you mentally both who you are and that little kid, getting abused all over again. At least for, me, it put me in this place where I couldn't fight back, because in my head I was still that kid.
It probably doesn't make sense, but it is a horrible feeling.
I was preteen...and I was innnocent and naive.
I was in college the 2nd time and you regress.
This thread touches on repeat victims.
https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=11797877
Bettie
(16,109 posts)it just is always there, lurking, waiting to jump out.
Thanks for the other thread, I had not read that one.
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LexVegas
(6,067 posts)Fresh_Start
(11,330 posts)article said fight or flight is a response based on male hormones
women's hormones produce freeze, appease, befriend.