I move out on Nov1.

[flamin lib]

A marriage of 50 years has ended.

[Solly Mack]

1. I'm sorry, flamin lib

What matters is your well being. I want you to be happy and well.

[Wintryjade]

2. You have a lot of adjusting ahead of you.

Is this a good thing? Bad thing? As it should be, kinda thing?

Take care of yourself, be gentle with yourself and the best of luck.

[flamin lib]

3. It is as benign as possible.

No fighting, no recriminations but enough pain to make up for it.

[Wintryjade]

5. I am sorry you are having to go thru this now, at this time in life.

Highest divorce rate is not int he late 40's, 50's.

[WeekiWater]

4. May your future be full of smiles.....

And may the memories of your past be of the good times.

I'm sorry for any pain you are feeling.

[jberryhill]

6. So, will you be residing in your local electoral district as of the time of the election?

Or will you need to re-register to vote, and can you do it in time?

[flamin lib]

7. At least that is not an issue.nt

[TreasonousBastard]

8. Not entirely proper, but there is no way for the poll workers to know...

where she lives in two weeks.

:hint: :hint:

[flamin lib]

10. No, I won't be completely out of the house and my mailing address will remain

Here past the 6th.

[TreasonousBastard]

14. That works. Good to hear it's not one of the nasty divorces you hear about.

[jberryhill]

11. You'd be surprised

...says a voice of experience. I had an overeager poll watcher attempt that on me during similar circumstances, but I had already entered the booth and voted.

[TreasonousBastard]

13. Fascinating, and unusual. It's debatable whether poll workers are least likely to challenge...

you during the busiest periods of the day, when things are hectic, or in the evening when they are dead tired from being there since 5AM.

[LeftInTX]

38. In Texas it really isn't an issue at least this close to an election

We have early voting until Nov 2nd.

As long she stays in her county, no big deal.

Even if you leave the county, you can vote on a "limited ballot"....Statewide candidates.

[leftynyc]

9. I'm so sorry

That's going to be quite an adjustment for you.

[fierywoman]

12. I wish you peace, calm, ease in transition.

[mnhtnbb]

15. I did that last November 10th

ending 32 years of marriage. Second time around for both of us.

It's been a roller coaster year but without regrets. Wish I'd done it 10 years ago. Still haven't sold our house. Can't file for divorce in this state until we've been separated for a year, which has really prolonged a difficult process.

If you'd like to chat, send me a DU mail. I'm recovering from a hip replacement so I have lots of time on my hands.

[flamin lib]

26. I may do that. Want to let some scar tissue form.n

[mnhtnbb]

33. Some time alone is good.

I went to a furnished rental at my favorite beach for several months over the winter. He stayed in the house. I loved living alone, but decided I wanted to try out downtown living. I'm now in a high rise apartment where I can walk to everything (once I'm recovered from the hip replacement) and I love it. Not ready for the retirement community myself. Also not looking for another relationship.

Taking some time to figure out your choices and grieve the loss is a good idea.

[renate]

16. You must feel so discombobulated

Even without recriminations etc, this is such a huge adjustment. I hope that you feel steady on your feet soon and that you take good care of yourself in the meantime.

[a kennedy]

17. First off, good for you for making a life changing decision......I know it's

been a terrible process, but you will be so much better for it. Please, please take up mnhtnbb’s offer of taking.....you are going to need others that are NO part of, oh my a 50 year marriage. Wow, that’s gonna be tough, your family and NEW friends and acquaintances are going to help if possible. Good luck, so sorry and you will be so much better for it. Come here for help and support.....

[flamin lib]

18. No, I won't.

[Blue_true]

19. Do you mind if I ask why you ended the marriage?

50 years typically are lifers.

[flamin lib]

21. I did not end it. She did. She's looking for happy. Nt

[Blue_true]

22. Ok. nt

[uponit7771]

35. Sorry to hear this

[irisblue]

20. Wow.

I wish you the best and many good days ahead.

[TexasBlueDog]

23. Ah dude

Try to stay even, make no decisions for six months and decide how you feel if she decides she was wrong. Truly wish you the best.

[malaise]

24. One of my closet friends from childhood did the same after 45 years three years ago

She has never been happier. I wish you her peace joy and luck.
When we speak, she laughingly says free at last over and over.
When you feel down remember that there is a reason why you left.

[sarah FAILIN]

25. Good luck to you

It's tough being the one "left behind". I hope it will get easier with time.

[DashOneBravo]

28. I don't know the circumstances

But I can say that I wish the best for you.

[SWBTATTReg]

29. I'm sorry to hear this and of course, wish you the best in your future. Perhaps it's too ...

soon, but perhaps look at this as a new opening in your life going forward. Think of all of the things that you can do, or explore, that perhaps have been in the corners of your mind, but were afraid to do, or your ex didn't want to do. This happens in long term relationships sometimes. Not everybody has the same exact likes as you.

Pick up a piece of paper and list out perhaps 5 things to do, e.g., a bucket list, and do over the next year. Keep them short term for the purpose of this is to keep you occupied. This will keep you busy too, and open you up to other possible friendships, relationships, who knows what else?

A whole new world has opened up for you and in most cases, most of your friends and family will still be there for you. They will support you no matter what.

My best for you always.

[handmade34]

30. no words

[Caliman73]

31. 50 years is a long time.

Sorry for your loss. Hopefully the next chapter of your life will bring you peace and happiness.

[virgogal]

32. Hang in there---mine lasted 28 years.

There IS life after divorce.

[a kennedy]

39. How long did it take for you to finally make the change.......

was it mutual?? Or did he start proceedings?. I’m a Virgo as well.

[lunasun]

34. Some blank pages have been opened up in your book of life

Whether it was your choice or not what goes down on the pages in your next chapter is up to you now. Relax meditate grieve reflect breathe first then on to a new part of your life
I hope it includes peace and well being.

[Kaleva]

36. I don't know the details but I wish you the best.

[yardwork]

37. I'm very sorry. I wish you well.