I personally know how a decades-old incident can stay with you the rest of your life.

[RandySF]

And how you'll wish hope some motherfucker burns in Hell. I'll just leave it at that.

[Stuart G]

1. Thank You for sharing this.. Sounds horrific. k and r

[rurallib]

2. you ain't the only one

there is a grave I want to piss on, but I know not where it is.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

4. Me too, but they aren't dead yet.

I keep checking the obit page, though...

[Runningdawg]

7. I found the one I needed and did it

[uppityperson]

3. Yup.

[Cousin Dupree]

5. I spent a lot of time ruminating how to get some serious revenge without ending up in jail. I hope

that bastard is miserable with the life he has remaining. I hate him with the white hot passion of a thousand suns.

[Jarqui]

6. I did not wind up with a feeling of wanting revenge from my incidents

Mine were different - they were fights.
The experiences lay dormant for decades. After a while, I didn't think about them whatsoever.

Many years later, something - I don't know what - happened. Now, I think about them every day - very preoccupying.

I've seen a number of doctors. No insight or solution.

[PatSeg]

11. I find it tends to hit you later in life

The things that we were able to move past when we were younger, often come back when we are older, like it was yesterday.

[Amaryllis]

8. TRauma freezes time.

[sagetea]

9. My tormentor

and kidnapper died in '15. That day, was the first time I felt that I could breathe. it took 30+ years.

I personally think that your heaven and hell are how people think about you after you pass. He's in hell.


Ho,
sage

[Ms. Toad]

10. Yes -it has been about a decade since the last

"surprise, remember me?" incident. My rapist was put on a trespass list immediately after the attack. My daughter, 3 decades later, attended the same school. Their perception was that the trespass list was being used to quickly remove any black "townies" who dared set foot on campus. When an article referenced the origins of the list, I recognized that my rapist was one of the first (if not the first) on the list.

When an incident in law school brought it up 20 years after the fact, I was mildly surprised to take a rapid romp through the entire cycle of recovery, again. Incidents of PTSD are relatively mild recently - but it popped into my mind, again, the other day when the only seat left at our table in the restaurant was with my back to the crowd.

I hope anything milder than discomfort in a restaurant is behind me, but I know enough (4 decades after the fact) to recognize that any day could bring a fresh reminder.

[Cha]

12. ...

[Separation]

13. My family

Is dealing with this as we speak.